When is the right time to kiss a girl? How do you know if she's interested?
The most obvious moment when a girl wants to kiss you is when you and her are hugging each other and then pull back to look at each other eye-to-eye. If she stays there just looking you in the eyes and not moving away, then she is open to kissing you. If she wasn't open to kissing you in that moment, she would look away or quickly pull away after you'd had a brief hug. In most cases, a girl won't kiss you first, but will simply give you an opportunity to confidently and calmly begin kissing her.
Most girls dream of having one of those "movie moments" where the moment is right and the guy has the confidence to make a move. However, many guys are afraid of making a move and getting rejected, so let's talk about how to kiss a girl without experiencing an embarrassing rejection if she doesn't want to kiss you. We'll start with some of the common problems that you may encounter when it comes time to French kiss a girl for the first time.
You might be:
- Chatting to a girl that you've gotten alone with in a bar, but you're unsure of the right time to kiss her, or what moves you can make to ensure she doesn't reject you.
- Afraid of being rejected and ruining a great friendship that you have with a girl, if you move in for a kiss and she isn't interested.
- On a date and unsure if and when you should kiss the girl. Note: In most cases, not kissing a girl on a first date often leads to awkward moments for you both at the end of the date.
Confidence is Your #1 Weapon With Girls: It Beats Everything Else
Most girls are turned off by men who don't have the confidence to kiss a girl on a first date. In the past, a woman would accept a lack of confidence because most marriages were arranged and there weren't many women to choose from. She wasn't able to get out there and date and have sex with many men, until she found the most confident of them all. However, times have changed and most girls don't settle for anything less than a truly confident guy.
Some guys think that success with women comes down to looks, money, height or even penis size. However, the most important thing is your confidence - that is what matters the most to women. Why? Read through these posts where I answer the questions of guys who think it is all about muscles, looks and height.
- Do Women Like Short Men?
- Do Women Judge Men on Looks?
- Do Women Like Fat Men?
- Why Do Women Like Men With Muscles?
When I lacked confidence in myself, most girls would reject me and tell me that they just weren't interested. I thought that I wasn't good looking enough, tall enough or lacked the all important "big muscles" that women were looking for. However, it all came back to my confidence. I doubted myself around girls and they hated that. I had no idea how to kiss a girl who didn't make it completely obvious that she wanted me to do so. I remember having many 2-hour dates with girls, only to experience that 'awkward moment' at the end where I just couldn't work up the courage to move in for a kiss. Even though I wanted to, I just couldn't bring myself to do it because I didn't want to stuff things up. When I did give it a try, the vibe just wasn't there because I wasn't confident enough, so the girl wasn't even that attracted.
As you may have experienced in your dating life, this type of early dating rejection often results in the girl not wanting to see you again. I can remember 3 different girls saying to me, "Umm, yeah...well you're a nice guy, but I think we should just be friends..." when I called them up to get a second date. Why did they see me as "just a friend" and not feel sexually attracted to me? Watch the video below (I was making the same type of mistake that most guys make).
How to Kiss a Girl: Change the Vibe
Before kissing a girl, you need to change the vibe from just "friendly conversation" to the point where there is plenty of sexual tension between you and her. To build sexual tension between you and a girl, you need to use certain attraction techniques, which I can teach you about here at The Modern Man. In addition to building plenty of sexual tension before you kiss, you need to work out whether it's the right time or place to be kissing. Some girls don't mind kissing in public places or in front of their friends. However most girls (especially modern, independent ones) like to kiss away from prying eyes.
Some places you might want to kiss a girl are: In a car, lounge room or bedroom, by the beach, in a quiet street or when you're parting ways at the end of the date. When a girl is interested in kissing you, you will see distinct changes in her behavior and body language. For example: She will make more eye contact with you, laugh at all your jokes, tilt her head down and look up at you in a shy way, etc. As mentioned at the beginning of the post, she will also stay in an embrace/hug and hold eye contact with you, without trying to get away from you. When those sorts of things happen, you have to be confident enough to give her one of those "movie moments" and kiss her confidently and calmly. I promise you, that sort of approach will make her melt and she'll be excitedly telling all of her girlfriends about how sexy you are (because of your confident moves).
Here is a free video from our Dating Power video program that includes a great first kiss technique in addition to what I've already taught you in this post. If you like what you've been learning here at The Modern Man, then don't go learning from articles written by people who aren't even successful with women. I've personally had sex with more than 250 women before settling down with my girlfriend. If you're going to learn from someone, learn from me. I actually know what I'm talking about and what I say all comes from years of successful experience with girls.