Here are 3 examples of how you can get your ex girlfriend to talk to you again:
1. Call her and if she doesn’t answer, text her this…
In terms of re-attracting your ex girlfriend, talking to her on a phone call will get you much quicker results than if you just texted her.
So, try to call her and if she doesn’t answer, text her this…
“Hey…I accept that we’ve broken up, but I want to ask you something quick over the phone. Don’t worry, it’s nothing serious of course. I’ll call you in 10 minutes.”
Then, try to call her 10 minutes later.
If she doesn’t answer, don’t keep calling again and again.
She will probably text you that day or the next, but if she doesn’t, just wait for a day or two and then try calling her again.
If she doesn’t answer and then texts you something like, “What do you want?” or, “I don’t have time for this! Just ask what you want via text and be done with it,” don’t panic or worry.
Just call her.
If she still won’t answer, text her this:
“Look, I know you’re really busy, but what I need to ask you is best done over the phone. I’ll call you in 5 minutes. After that, if you decide that you don’t want anything more to do with me, I promise I won’t bother you again.”
Then, just pick up the phone and call her.
If she has been reluctant to get on a call, but notices that you’re not backing down, she will naturally be curious to find out what you want to ask her, so she will want to answer the phone.
BTW: What you want to ask her is to meet up with you in person, but you can’t ask her that right away.
Instead, when she answers your call, start off by using some humor to break the ice and bring down her defenses a bit.
For example: You might say something along the lines of, “Wow! Getting a phone call with you is harder than getting through to the president!” or, “Finally! Okay, I wanted to order a pepperoni pizza. This is Pizza Hut, right?” or, “Oh, you finally answered! I was about to give up and sent a stripogram (a service where you can send a stripper to someone’s house to do a bit of striptease at their door and deliver a message) to your house instead” or, “Well, someone is difficult to get on the phone isn’t she?” and have a laugh with her about that.
From there, continue to focus on making her laugh and smile so she starts feeling good to be talking to you again.
She might pretend to be annoyed at you initially just to maintain her self image of not wanting to talk on the phone, but don’t be put off by that.
Just relax and open up a conversation that feels light-hearted, easy-going, but also mature and sensible at the same time.
It’s okay to add in some humor, but don’t go overboard to the point where you’re just being silly the whole time.
Just add in humor like you’d add in pepper to a dish you’re cooking, or sugar in a coffee if you add sugar (I personally don’t. I drink black coffee with nothing added, or Americano style with added water).
Anyway, just make sure that you aren’t afraid to talk a little, rather than panicking and feeling like you’re under a lot of pressure to say everything in 5 seconds.
Kind of like I did there when I mentioned how I take my coffee.
I don’t normally do that in articles, but I thought I would here to let you know that it’s okay at times.
However, if a person feels like you are wasting their time by continually talking about things that aren’t relevant, they will then get annoyed.
So, when you talk to her on the phone, be confident enough to withstand her potential frustration of having to talk to you.
Don’t let her disinterested attitude make you panic and rush through everything you want to say in 10 seconds.
Instead, break the ice by making her laugh and then try to keep the conversation light-hearted and easy-going and then get to what you wanted to ask her (i.e. to meet up with you).
If she initially says, “No” it will often be a test to see if you will lose confidence, or it will be her trying to pretend that she wouldn’t meet up with you, so she doesn’t look too easy initially.
Just remain confident, easy-going and light-hearted and get her to meet up with you no matter what.
Another way to get your ex girlfriend to be interested in or open to talking to you again, is to…
2. Post photos on social media of you having fun with other people, so she can see that you’re not desperate without her
Many men make the mistake of trying to appear lonely, sad or lost after a break up, in the hopes that it makes his ex woman feel sorry for him and realize that, unlike other guys, he is completely dedicated to her no matter what.
It sounds like he is doing the right thing, but he isn’t.
Women are attracted to men who are confident, happy and forward moving in life with or without their woman.
When a woman sees that her ex man is happy and getting on with his life without her, it actually makes her feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for him.
Some guys worry that it will annoy her or make her angry and yes, in some cases it does (i.e. she is angry that she no longer has control over him and annoyed that she no longer has as much power over him as she once thought she did), but what those guys don’t realize is that she will ALSO feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for him at the same time.
Being able to handle a woman’s initial anger, tantrum, frustration or complaints is one of the keys to maintaining the position of power in a relationship.
If a man is afraid of his woman’s potential reaction, then she won’t be able to feel proper attraction for him.
She will always secretly resent him for fearing her reaction and placing her above him in terms of dominance.
As a result, she will feel attracted to other men who aren’t afraid of her reactions and who seem to have the ability to be able to maintain the position of power in a relationship with a woman.
So, if you want to make your ex girlfriend feel open to talking to you again, don’t be afraid to make her jealous via social media.
If she isn’t your friend on social media or isn’t following you, just make sure that the photos are public so she can see them from the outside.
BTW: This approach also works if your ex has blocked your phone number.
Pretty much every woman will check on her ex from time to time by looking at his social media profiles.
If she stops by and sees that nothing is going on in your life, she will feel happy and confident about herself as she moves on without you.
On the other hand, if she sees that you’re happy, confident and enjoying life by hanging out with new people and doing new things, she will naturally feel drawn to you and want to talk to you again.
So, make sure that you update all of your social media profiles and avoid posting sad, lonely photo’s of yourself or loads of memes about random things that show that you’ve got nothing to do and are simply wasting time at home alone.
Another example of how to get your ex girlfriend to want to talk to you again is…
3. Use humor to get her laughing via text, then call her
One of the biggest mistakes that guys make is being too serious (i.e. discussing the relationship, being too polite, trying to work things out) or desperate (i.e. asking for another chance, pleading with her to change her mind, pouring his heart out) with their ex woman via text.
Texts are so damn easy to send that it almost seems like it’s the right way to communicate about everything these days.
Texts are great when someone likes you (i.e. a girlfriend, a friend or a family member), but when someone doesn’t like you (i.e. an ex girlfriend, an enemy), texts are not a good idea.
Texts can easily be misinterpreted in a negative light and if someone has negative feelings towards you, they will almost always look at your texts as being annoying, as causing them stress and as being unwanted.
Unfortunately, a lot of guys don’t realize that when texting their ex girlfriend.
For example: A guy might try to have a serious conversation with her via text as a way of showing her that he’s committed to fixing things between them and getting her back.
Alternatively, he might send her desperate messages like, “Please just talk to me. I need to explain to you what went wrong,” or “I can’t fix things between us if you won’t talk to me. Please give me a chance to make things right. Stop being like this! Just talk to me! After all we’ve been through, don’t’ turn your back on me like this. I love you. Please just talk to me!”
Texts like that make a woman not want to talk to her ex.
She thinks something like, “Why won’t he leave me alone? Can’t he see that I don’t want to talk to him? He’s being so whiny and desperate that it only highlights to me even more that he’s not the guy I want to be with.”
So, if you want your ex girlfriend to talk to you, focus on making her smile, laugh and feel good when she is texting with you.
She can then begin to think something like, “This is interesting. I’m actually laughing and enjoying texting with him. I like hearing from him now. Maybe I should talk to him again on the phone or in person to see if he has really changed, or if it’s just an act via text.”
She then becomes more open to the idea of talking to you on the phone.
On a phone call and in person, you then properly re-attract her by allowing her to experience the new and improved man that you’ve become.
Where Guys Go Wrong When Trying to Get an Ex to Talk Girlfriend to Them Again
Getting an ex girlfriend to talk to you again and getting her back is possible (and often easy), but if you make one or more of the following mistakes, then the process becomes more difficult.
Here’s where other guys mess up when in your situation…
1. Cutting off communication and waiting for months or years for her to hopefully contact him
Sometimes, when a guy is trying to get his ex girlfriend to talk to him and she’s ignoring him (i.e. by not answering his calls, or responding to his texts, e-mails or social media messages), he might make the mistake of thinking that if he ignores her back for 30 to 60 days, she will eventually start to miss him and make her reach out to him.
Yet, in most cases, that tactic just doesn’t work.
When a woman breaks up with a guy, it’s usually because she has lost respect and attraction for him over time.
So, unless she’s secretly still in love with him and is hoping that they’ll get back together, or if she’s having a difficult time finding a replacement guy, him ignoring her for weeks or months isn’t going to make her lose any sleep.
If she cares a little bit, she might think to herself, “I wonder what’s happened to my ex? He was so desperate to talk to me and now he’s suddenly gone quiet. That’s weird.”
However, if she believes that he can’t or won’t change and become a better man (i.e. the kind of guy she can look up to, respect and feel proud of) she’s just going to focus on moving on quickly and finding herself a replacement guy who can make her feel like that.
Here’s the thing…
If your ex girlfriend doesn’t have romantic feelings for you, then cutting all contact with her for a long period of time isn’t a good idea.
In most cases, it’s just going to make it easier for her to fully get over you, move on, hook up with another guy and even fall in love again.
If you don’t want that to happen, doing make the mistake of ignoring her and hoping that she comes back.
Get in touch with her, re-attract her and make her want you back.
No matter what she does to put you off, just maintain your confidence around her and focus on using every interaction you have with her to quickly reawaken her feelings of respect, attraction and love for you.
As a result, her guard will come down and she will feel drawn you to again, which will make her want to talk to you.
That approach works better than ignoring her, because ignoring her means that you run the risk of her moving on to make herself feel better.
Then, if she meets a new man that she finds more attractive and interesting, she will simply continue moving on with him.
Another mistake to avoid making is…
2. Annoying her via text
Texts can be annoying when the person who is sending you texts isn’t someone that you like.
You might have good intentions and be a good guy, but it just doesn’t matter to a woman when she’s no longer feeling respect, attraction and love for you.
Unfortunately, a lot of guys don’t realize that, so they end up annoying their ex girlfriend via text and then either getting blocked, or causing her to say something like, “Leave me alone. I don’t want to be with you anymore.”
For example: Here are some of the ways a guy might annoy his ex girl via text…
- Texting her too much.
- Talking about the relationship.
- Being too nice and sweet to her.
- Appearing insecure and doubtful.
- Asking her too many questions.
- Trying to have an in-depth conversation via text.
She ends up thinking something like, “This is so annoying. Why is he bothering me like this? Can’t he see that I don’t want to talk to him anymore? He just can’t get it through his head that I’m not interested in anything he has to say. If I wasn’t convinced about the break up before, I am now. His behavior has proven to me that I made the right decision to break up with him. He doesn’t know how to make me want him. He has just become so annoying and off-putting. Maybe I should block him and just get on with my life.”
So, if you don’t want to end up annoying your ex girlfriend, don’t waste time trying to work things out with her via text.
The main reason you should be texting her is to get her on a phone call with you, so you can then re-attract her and get her to meet up with you in person.
On a phone call, it’s so much easier for her to see that you’ve changed and improved since the break up.
As she listens to you talk and is smiling and laughing at times, she realizes that things are good between you and her and you’re not pressuring her into giving you another chance.
Instead, you and her are just enjoying talking to each other like you back when things were good between you and her.
As a result, she becomes more open to seeing you in person and exploring her new, fascinating feelings for you.
Another mistake that guys often make in your situation is…
3. Asking her why she won’t reply to him anymore
When a guy doesn’t get an answer from his ex, he might text her to ask, “Why won’t you respond to me anymore? What did I do wrong? Please talk to me.”
If she doesn’t reply, he might then say, “Why are you being like this? I love you. I want to work things out. Why aren’t you replying to me?”
She then feels more turned off by him because he is essentially saying, “Hey, I don’t know how to make you feel enough respect and attraction for me to want to communicate with me via text. Please tell me what I need to do to change that.”
Yet, rather than make her think, “I owe him an explanation. I’m going to call him so that we can talk. I have to explain what has been turning me off, so he can then fix that and get me back” it usually only makes her close herself off even more.
If a woman breaks up with a guy because he lost her respect, attraction and love, she usually won’t feel motivated to want to help him get her back.
If he can’t figure out how to get her respect, attraction and love back, she will just get over him by moving on with someone else.
Another mistake that guys make in your situation is…
4. Not talking to her on the phone or in person, so she can experience the changes in him for herself
No matter how much easier it might seem to text your ex girlfriend, if you don’t get her on a phone call and then meet up with her in person, getting her back will be very difficult.
Until she can hear the tone of your voice, see your body language and experience your confidence in relation to how she behaves and responds towards you during a conversation (e.g. when she’s being bitchy, cold, telling you that she hates you), she won’t believe that you have changed.
In most cases, a woman will continue ignoring you until you can convince her (based on the changes you’ve made and how that makes her feel when she interacts with you) that seeing you again is going to be worth her while.
You can’t make her feel all that via text.
You’ve got to do it on a phone call and in person.
When you’re in person with her, you can quickly re-attract her, build up sexual tension between you and her and then at least get to a hug and possibly a kiss.
Once that happens, she naturally starts to feel drawn to you and wants to explore her new, fascinating feelings for you.
Before you know it, you and her are back together, in love and happier than ever.
Every day, all over the world, men get their ex woman back by approaching it in that way.
Do you think you can do it?