If both you and your cat are missing your ex, the most important thing for you to do is take action to get her back.

Don’t make the following mistakes that other guys make, when in a situation like yours, which then results in losing her for good.

1. Wanting your ex back, but not really doing anything about it 

If you want your ex back, sitting around and focusing on how your cat feels isn’t going to make that happen.

Instead, it’s likely just going to make you feel hopeless and stuck.

At the same time, it’s going to give your ex the time she needs to fully get over you and find herself a replacement man to move on with.

This is why, you have to take action now and get her back.

So, what should you do?

Start by calling her on the phone or meeting up with her in person and re-sparking some of her feelings of respect and attraction for you.

For example: Some of the ways you can do that are by…

  • Using humor to make her laugh, smile and feel happy to be around you again, rather than being too serious and only talking about the relationship and what went wrong.
  • Remaining calm, confident and relaxed when talking to her, rather than getting upset when she acts cold or aloof towards you, or says things like, “I don’t have feelings for you anymore,” or, “I’m not interested and nothing you say or do is going to make me change my mind.”
  • Taking control of the interactions with her in an emotionally masculine manner and leading the way, rather than letting her call all the shots or allowing her to dominate you with her confident personality. 
  • Being confident and believing in your value to her, rather than being unsure of yourself and worrying about whether you will ever be able to get her back. 
  • Flirting with her and creating as much sexual tension between you and her so that she wants to release it with hugging, kissing and sex, rather than being nice or neutral around her and pretending that you only want to be her friend. 
  • Being a challenge to her, so she doesn’t know where she stands with you and then feels as though she needs to impress you to maintain your interest, rather than being too predictable, thereby making her feel that she can treat you any way she wants and you will still want her.

The more she notices that you’re making her feel attracted in the ways that she always secretly hoped you would, the more her feelings of respect and sexual attraction for you begin coming back. 

As a result, her defenses come down and she opens up to interacting with you on the phone and in person more often to experience it and see what happens.

It’s then pretty easy for you to fully reactivate her sexual and romantic feelings for you and get her back.

However, if you don’t do anything and wait for her to come back on her own (e.g. because she misses your cat), you may be shocked when sooner rather than later she tells you something along the lines of, “Hey, guess what? I’m seeing someone else now. I’m really happy. I hope you find a new woman soon too.”

The next mistake to avoid making if you don’t want to reduce your chances of getting your ex back is…

2. Sending her a serious text or emailing her to say that the cat misses her and that you are concerned 

For example: A guy might text or email something along the lines of, “Hey, I know we’re broken up, but I really need your help. Smudge seems to really be missing you and I don’t know what to do. He won’t eat and he’s just sitting around all day on your spot on the sofa and looking out the window as though he’s waiting for you to come home. It’s really stressing me out. Please do something. Maybe you can come by sometime to just say hi to him. Maybe that will cheer him up a bit. I really wouldn’t be bothering you with this if I wasn’t so worried.”

Of course, he’s likely being really honest about his concern for his cat.

However, a woman won’t always see it that way.

So, rather than think something like, “Oh, that’s so sweet that Smudge is missing me. Maybe I will go see him sometime this week. If I think about it, I miss him too and it will be nice to see him again,” she will likely see it as a ploy for her ex to try and get her back, or at least to see her again so that he can talk to her about the relationship.

As a result, she will think something along the lines of, “I can’t believe he thinks I’m going to fall for such a desperate attempt to get me to his house again and what’s worse, he’s using the poor cat as bait. He’s such a jerk!”

Alternatively, she may end up feeling turned off by how overly emotional he’s being about the cat.

She may then begin thinking about all the other times he was too sensitive and emotional while they were together and she concludes that she made the right decision and that he’s too emotionally weak as a man for her.

Here’s what you need to remember…

It’s a man’s emotional strength that attracts a woman and allows her to relax and be the girly, feminine woman that she really wants to be in a relationship (even though most women don’t openly admit that).

So, if her guy is unable to cope with difficult situations in his life, including dealing with a depressed cat after a break up, she won’t be able to look up to him and respect him as her man.

If she can’t respect him, she also won’t be able to feel attracted to him and without those two emotions, reconnecting with her feelings of love for him becomes difficult for her to do.

She will then feel as though she made the right decision by breaking up with him.

She then either doesn’t respond to his text or email message, or she responds with something along the lines of, “I’m sorry that Smudge is missing me, but you’ll have to deal with it on your own. He’s your cat and even though I do love him too, I’m not going to come to your house and rescue you. We’re broken up and the sooner you accept that, the better for you and for Smudge. Please don’t contact me about this again. Bye.”

So, if you want your ex back, don’t bother letting her know that the cat is missing her, regardless of how worried or desperate you are.

Instead, when you contact your ex, make sure it’s to re-attract her and spark some of her sexual and romantic feelings for you.

Then, when she’s feeling drawn to you again in a good way and you happen to mention in conversation with her that the cat misses her, she will almost certainly care.

She may then say something like, “That’s so sad. I miss him too. How about I come over this weekend to say hi? Do you think that will cheer him up a bit?”

You then not only get help for your cat, you also get another, face to face chance to reactivate her feelings for you and get her back.

The next mistake to avoid making if you don’t want to reduce your chances of getting your ex back is…

3. Watching on via her social media as she moves on and enjoys life without you, rather than actively getting her back 

Sometimes a guy might start checking all of his ex’s media posts, partly to keep track of what she’s doing and partly in the hope that he will pick up some hint that she misses him (e.g. because she mentions his name somewhere, or she still has photos of him and her posted on her profile).

Initially, he might feel hopeful if nothing much seems to be happening in her life.

However, gradually he may begin to notice posts about her going out and having fun times with friends and then also how she’s met a new man, followed by photos of her and him together smiling and looking happy.

He will then likely start feeling angry, resentful or sad and dejected that she’s moving on, while he’s still thinking about her and wanting her back.

Yet, here’s the thing…

That is exactly what happens when a guy doesn’t actively do anything to get his ex back.

So, if you want your girl back, don’t waste time checking up on her on social media.

Instead, interact with her over the phone and preferably in person and reactivate her feelings for you so she wants you back.

That is what works when getting a woman back.

The next mistake to avoid making if you don’t want to reduce your chances of getting your ex back is…

4. Not realizing that in most cases, re-attracting an ex woman is a fairly quick and easy thing to do

Some guys believe that just because their ex said something along the lines of, “It’s over between us and nothing you say or do is going to make me change my mind. So, please accept that and don’t do anything to try and get me back, because I will cut you off if I have to,” their chances are getting back with her are non existent. 

Yet, what a guy like that doesn’t realize is that when a woman says something like that, it’s in the heat of the moment where she’s breaking up with him.

Naturally, in that instant, she will be feeling that way, because she’s experiencing negative emotions such as anger, disappointment, regret and so on.

However, that doesn’t mean she’s going to continue feeling that way forever; especially if her ex is bold enough to interact with her over the phone pretty quickly after the break up and begins sparking some of her feelings for him again.

Of course, if a guy calls his ex on the phone immediately after the break up and is too serious, or attempts to discuss the relationship and what went wrong, he’s almost certainly going to get a negative response from her.

She’s likely going to snap at him and say something like, “I told you that it’s over. You need to accept that or I will block your number on my phone. Am I making myself clear?”

On the other hand, if he gives her a few days of space (3 to 7) to allow for things to calm down between them and then calls her and rather than making her feel tense and on guard around him, he instead makes her laugh and smile, her response will be very different.

She will feel good to be talking to him again.

Then, when he suggests they meet up to say “Hi” as friends, rather than reject him outright, she will want to say “Yes.”

She might initially play a bit hard to get so as not to appear to be too easy, but deep down, she wants to see him again.

Then, at the meet up, he can easily reactivate her feelings for him again (i.e. by showing her via his attitude, actions, behavior and the way he interacts with her that he’s at a different level now than when she broke up with him).

That actually happens pretty quickly and easily.

All it takes it the right approach.

So, if you want your ex back, don’t waste time trying to get her attention by telling her that your cat misses her and risk her closing herself off because she thinks it’s a trick.

Instead, call her on the phone, reactivate some of her feelings with you (e.g. by using humor, flirting with her to create some sexual tension, being confident regardless of how she tries to make you feel unsure of yourself) and then, when she’s feeling open and drawn to you again, get her to go with you to your house to say “Hi,” to your cat.

At your house, if she seems open, proceed to kissing and then hook up with her sexually and blow her mind, so she wants to be your girl again, rather than let you go and risk regretting it later on.

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