Here are 3 ways you can use the fact that she misses your dog, to help you get her back into a relationship:
1. Re-attract her on a phone call and then suggest that she catch up to say hi to your dog
Your dog missing your ex is a great reason to call her, because you can use that fact to make her laugh and smile and bring out the sentimental, feel-good feelings she associates with the dog and by association, with you (e.g. she remembers all the fun times the three of you had together, she laughs about all the cute things your dog used to do).
She then naturally drops her guard and becomes a lot more open to meeting up with you (even if it’s under the pretense that she’s only coming to see your dog), giving you the opportunity to fully reactivate her feelings for you and get her back.
Remember: Don’t suggest meeting up before re-attracting her.
Attraction first, everything else after that.
So, focus on maintaining your confidence with her, even if she’s initially a bit cool towards you and then use humor to break down her defenses and spark her feelings of respect and attraction for you again.
The more you make her smile, laugh and feel happy to be talking to you again, the more she will be thinking things like, “What’s going on here? He’s making me laugh and smile and it really feels good talking to him again. He really sounds so different… more confident, self-assured and in control than before. I like it. Maybe seeing him in person won’t be that bad after all. It could be fun and besides, I miss the dog too.”
So, here’s an example of how you can use your dog missing your ex to re-attract her and make her want to see you again.
Imagine that you’ve just called your ex and she asks, “So, what have you been up to lately?”
Rather than reply with something mundane like, “Oh, I’ve been busy with work/studies mostly. How about you?” which will only make the conversation between you and her seem strained and awkward, you can instead say something along the lines of, “Oh you won’t believe it! I’ve had my hands full with Max. He just hasn’t been his old self.”
She will likely respond with something like, “Oh no! What’s wrong with him? Is he sick?” and you can then say in a joking way something like, “Yeah, it’s terrible! He’s been heartbroken since you left. He won’t eat. He won’t sleep. He doesn’t want to go to the park anymore. All he does all day long is sit and stare with sad eyes at your old chair listening to sad songs on the TV. I’ve tried everything to cheer him up like cooking him a steak and playing with his favorite toy, but he just won’t snap out of it,” and then have a laugh with her about it.
She will laugh, her guard will come down and rather than feeling tense about talking to you again, she will feel like you and her are picking up from where you left off when things were good between you.
You can then say, “Okay it’s not all that bad, he did devour the steak in 3 seconds flat and then napped for about 3 hours after that, but he really does miss you,” and then change the conversation and talk about something else for a while.
Then, after a few minutes more of casual conversation, you can say something like, “Anyway, I think it would be nice if we got together sometime this week for you to say hi to Max. I know he would appreciate it and it would make him feel so much better. However, he has appointments on Monday and Friday, but will be available on Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday. So, which of those days suit you best?”
If you’ve been making her laugh and relax, she’s almost certainly going to agree because she will sense that catching up with you (and the dog) would feel good, rather than awkward or weird.
Then, when you meet up with her make sure that you’re ready to say and do the things that will spark her feelings for you (e.g. being confident and self-assured rather than doubtful and insecure, flirting with her and making her feel attracted rather than being neutral or friendly, using humor to create a relaxed vibe rather than being too serious) and open her back up to flirting with you and seeing where it goes.
Another way to use your dog missing your ex to get her back is…
2. Text her in a joking way to let her know that your dog misses her
Texting is a good way to break the ice if you haven’t been in contact with your ex since you and her split up.
For example: You might send her something along the lines of, “Hey, Max misses you.”
Then, add a photo of your dog looking sadly up to the camera.
Add in, “Lol…look how sad he looks. He misses you Anne! :)”
Then, when she replies, text back and forth a little bit and then get on a phone call with her so that you can begin reactivating her sexual and romantic feelings for you (e.g. by making her laugh and smile, showing her via the tonality of your voice and the way you respond to her that you’re more confident and emotionally strong now, flirting with her to create some sexual tension between you).
Important: It’s very difficult to reawaken a woman’s feelings of respect, attraction and love without actually talking to her (preferably face-to-face), where she can hear the sincerity in your voice and see your confidence and composure coming through via your body language.
So, if your goal is to get your ex back, don’t lose your chance with her by getting caught up texting for too long and not getting her on a call with you, so that you can arrange to meet up with her in person.
You’ve got to make a move.
If you don’t strike while the iron is hot (i.e. while she’s still smiling and experiencing warm feelings towards your dog and possibly even you) and some other guy comes along and sparks her feelings for him, she will hook up with him, while you’re obliviously texting back and forth with her.
Then, when you pluck up the courage to make the call, usually after a few weeks, or even months of texting back and forth, she’s likely going to be unavailable to you.
She will then probably say something along the lines of, “I hope Max feels better soon. Maybe my new boyfriend and I can take him to the park sometime to cheer him up,” leaving you feeling like she punched you in the gut.
Don’t let that happen to you.
Spark some of her feelings via text and then get her on a call with you and then to a meet up as quickly as possible, so that you can fully reawaken her feelings of respect, attraction and love for you so that you can get her back for real.
Another way to use your dog missing your ex to get her back is…
3. Post up photos on social media of you having fun with friends in a park with your dog
Now is the time to use social media to your advantage to help re-attract your ex.
So, go ahead and post up some really fun, interesting, humorous photos of you, your dog and some friends having fun playing in a park together.
Important: Make sure though that you don’t post up photos of you alone with your dog, because it will not have the same effect as photos of you enjoying yourself with others. Why?
When she sees you and your dog having fun with others, she will feel attracted to you because you’re not sitting around feeling lonely and lost without her.
She will then feel like she is missing out on having fun times with the dog (especially if she really liked him and misses him too).
She may then like the photo or even send you a message saying something like, “Max looks like he’s having fun.”
You can then use that as an opening to engage her in conversation, get her on a call and then get her to meet up with you.
For example: If she sends you a message like, “Max looks like he’s having fun,” you can respond with something along the lines of, “Yeah. It was a nice day out for him, because he’s been moping since you left. He really misses you, so it’s nice to see him happy and enjoying life again,” and add a smiley face with the tongue sticking out.
She will likely respond with a smiley face of her own and you can then just call her to have a quick chat (and obviously spark some of her feelings for you so that she agrees to see you in person).
By the way…
If your ex has unfriended you on social media, just set your photos to public so she can see them from the outside, because it’s almost certain that she will stop by from time to time to check on you.
Then, she won’t be able to resist at least pressing like when she sees how cute your dog looks in the photos and you can then initiate a chat with her and take if from there.
Where Guys Go Wrong When Using the “My Dog Misses You” Excuse to Get an Ex Back
If your dog misses your ex, chances are high that your ex misses your dog too.
That gives you a ready-made excuse to contact her, re-attract her and get her back.
However, if you don’t approach the ex back process correctly, you might actually turn her off even more.
She will then likely close herself off, making it very difficult for you to get her back.
So, if you don’t want that to happen, make sure you avoid making the following mistakes:
1. Writing a serious e-mail, letter or text to say that you think the dog is missing her and asking if she could visit you
For example: A guy might write something along the lines of, “Hi, Anne. I just wanted to let you know that Max is really missing you. He just looks so sad all the time and I don’t know what to do to help him feel better. Anyway, I was wondering if you would be able to come over sometime this weekend to visit him and cheer him up a little bit. I would really appreciate it. Thanks.”
Yet, rather than make a woman think, “Oh, it’s so sweet that the dog is missing me. I should definitely go see him this weekend,” she will likely just see right through his plan to get her to his house again so that he can try and convince her to give him another chance and she will think something along the lines of, “I can’t believe he tried to trick me into seeing him again by using the dog. He’s such a jerk!”
Alternatively, she feels turned off by how overly emotional he is being about the dog.
She may then begin to think about all the other times he was too sensitive and emotional while they were together and she concludes that she made the right decision by breaking up with him, because he’s too emotionally weak as a man for her.
She then either doesn’t respond to his e-mail, text or social media message, or she sends him a cold reply like, “I’m sorry that Max is missing me, but you’ll have to deal with it on your own, because I’m not going to come to your house ever again. We are through as a couple and the sooner you accept that, the better for you and for Max. Please don’t contact me about this again. Bye.”
Another mistake to avoid is…
2. Not preparing to re-attract her when you next interact with her
If your ex decides to come visit your dog, will you be ready to re-attract her?
Most guys are not and they end up using the same old approach to attraction that their ex fell out of love with.
As a result, the woman ends up rejecting her ex, because she feels that since nothing about him has really changed or improved, if she gave him another chance, it would just end up in a break up once again.
So, if you don’t want that to happen to you, make sure that you’re ready to re-attract your ex when you next interact with her (i.e. if she comes to visit your dog).
For example: Some of the ways you can do that are by…
Making her laugh, smile and feel good to be hanging out with you (and the dog) again, so that at the back of her mind she begins thinking things like, “I’ve really missed this. I can’t believe I’m even thinking it, but we’re like a little family together.”
She then wants to see you again and experience more of those positive feelings with you.
Showing her that you’re confident in yourself and in your value to her (especially if she’s pretending not to be interested in you anymore and is trying to make you feel nervous or insecure about yourself).
Flirting with her to create a sexual vibe between you and her, rather than just talking to her like a neutral friend.
Not giving her too much power over you (e.g. by being too nice, agreeing with everything she says) and instead, letting her see that you are now even more emotionally masculine in the way you think, talk, behave and react when interacting with her.
When you re-attract your ex in new and exciting ways, she can’t stop herself from feeling respect for you again.
When she respects you, she also feels attracted to you and then she becomes curious and intrigued about her new feelings for you and wants to explore them.
However, if you’re not prepared, she won’t feel motivated to give you another chance and she will likely just walk away and never look back.
Another mistake to avoid is…
3. Trying to use the dog’s feelings as a way of guilting her into giving him another chance
Sometimes, a guy will use the dog missing his ex as a ploy to make her feel bad and guilt her into spending more time with him again, in the hope that this will eventually lead to them getting back together again.
Yet, that plan almost always backfires.
A woman doesn’t want to be manipulated into spending more time with her ex, or giving her ex another chance, simply because he can’t deal with the idea of being losing her.
As a result, she loses even more respect and attraction for him and even begins to feel angry and annoyed with him to boot, making her want to move on from him as quickly as possible.
Additionally, when a woman has disconnected from her feelings of respect, attraction and love for her ex, she stops caring about how he feels or what he wants.
What he wants just doesn’t matter to her so much anymore.
So, don’t bother trying to make your ex feel guilty over how much your dog misses her and focus instead on re-sparking her feelings of respect and attraction for you.
That will get her back a lot faster and easier than trying to guilt her back into your life.
Another mistake to avoid is…
4. Not focusing on her feelings
You and your dog may both truly be missing your ex right now, but as terrible as it may sound to you, your feelings don’t really matter.
What matters is whether your ex is missing you (and your dog) or not.
So, if you want to get your ex back, you have to stop focusing on what you want and start giving her what she wants (i.e. to feel respect, attraction and love for you based on the changes and improvements you’ve made yourself).
It can’t be all about how much you love her and miss her and it can’t even be about your dog missing her either.
It has to be about her feeling attracted and drawn to you for her reasons (i.e. she likes how confident you are now and how you make her laugh and smile and that it feels good to be around you again, she likes how you still want her back but don’t need her back to feel good about yourself and have a good life, she likes how you are able to make her feel butterflies in her stomach again when she’s around you, rather than feeling like a neutral friend).
Focus on that and you will naturally get her back without her even realizing that she’s forgiven you for your past mistakes and has fallen in love with you all over again.