4 things you should do next:
1. Get ready to re-attract her if she replies
Start by replacing any negative thoughts running through your head with positive ones.
For example: If you’re saying to yourself, “She’s probably laughing at me right now for still missing her,” replace that thought with something like, “Telling her that I miss her is not a sign of weakness, but rather of strength. I am confident and emotionally strong enough to say that to her, so she will respect me for that.”
Likewise, it you’re worried that she’s going to ignore you, change that thought and start imagining her texting you back and saying things like, “I miss you too,” or “How about we meet up sometime to say hello as friends?” or, “Hey, how are you? Long time no hear…how’s things?” instead.
If you’re afraid that she’s going to be cold, bitchy and maybe even respond with something along the lines of, “Good! I’m glad you’re missing me. I hope you’re miserable. Just for the record I don’t miss you!” then imagine yourself using humor to break down her defenses and make her open back up to you.
Whatever negative thoughts might be going through your mind, focus on replacing them with positive thoughts.
To be attractive to a woman, you have to be confident.
Women aren’t attracted to self-doubt, insecure and fear in men.
So, just imagine that she is now feeling very happy about getting the text from you.
Imagine her getting your text, smiling and thinking to herself, “Cool! I’m glad he reached out to me. I’ve been missing him too. Maybe we can meet up and see how things go from there. I’ll text him back!”
By thinking in a confident way, you will then be much more likely to respond to her texts in a more confident way, which will be more attractive to her.
However, something to bear in mind is this…
2. Don’t get stuck in a texting conversation that leads to nowhere
When a man sends his ex woman a text saying that he misses her and she then responds, it’s only normal for him to feel relieved and happy about it.
As a result, he might then think to himself, “This is great! As long as she’s responding to me, there’s no need to rush things and maybe end up scaring her away. So, I’ll take it one day at a time and then call her when the time is right.”
Yet, even though she initially seems keen to text back and forth, her interest fades away until she begins to not reply to some texts or not reply to any at all anymore.
Women hate it when men hide behind text.
If a man doesn’t have the courage to call her, she will feel turned off by it and begin to lose interest.
Likewise, if a man doesn’t have the motivation to call her, she will feel as though he’s only just using her to feel good about himself again.
As a result, she will stop giving him that gift by ignoring his texts, or even getting to the point where she blocks him to teach him a lesson.
So, make sure that when your ex texts you back, you don’t get stuck talking about random things via text in the hope that it will someone lead to getting her back.
Instead, focus on getting to talk to her over the phone or meet up with her in person, where you can fully re-attract her and get her back.
If you don’t have the courage or motivation to get to that level with her and just want to remain behind the safety of text messages, you will almost certainly be disappointed.
I say that based on my many years helping men to get women back.
Men who hide behind text almost always get left behind by their ex woman and end up disappointed when they find out that she’s seeing someone else and is happy without him.
Men who get to a phone call and in person meet up almost always get their ex back, or at least get to a kiss and sex with her again.
So, with that in mind, something else that you can do after texting your ex to say that you miss her is…
3. Get her to meet up with you
The quickest way to get an ex back is by meeting up with her and re-sparking her feelings of respect and attraction for you.
So, regardless of how she responds to your text, just focus on steering her towards a meet up.
For example: If your ex replies to your text with something along the lines of, “Hey, I miss you too,” you can then call her, use some humor to put her at ease and then invite her to meet up with you for a quick cup of coffee.
If she resists when you suggest catching up for coffee and says something like, “I’m not sure if that’s a good idea,” you can respond by saying, “Hey, it’s not about us getting back together again of course. It’s just about catching up as friends. We can do that, right? We can be friends and have coffee without it being a big deal. So, let’s catch up tomorrow or the next day to say hi.”
In most cases, an ex woman will agree and you can then arrange a meet up.
On the other hand, if your ex responds with something more negative like, “Good for you. I don’t miss you at all,” don’t let it ruin your confidence and cause you to doubt yourself.
Instead, remain confident, have a laugh at her pretending to not miss you at all and say, “Is that really true? 😛 I bet there’s something about me you still miss.”
She might then say, “No. I don’t miss anything about you,” and you can reply with something like, “Not even my awesome foot rubs/my famous lasagna/the way I used to pull the back of your hair during sex/the way I used to make you laugh?”
By mentioning something that she really liked about you, it causes her to have to think about it.
When she genuinely thinks about it, it will most likely make her smile, which then breaks down her walls a little bit.
If she is going to make it a bit easier for you now, she might then say, “Okay, maybe I do miss that, but nothing else.”
You can then build on that and get her to meet up with you by saying something along the lines of, “Haha…okay, well, at least you can admit that” and then attempt to get her to catch up with you, if you’re too afraid to call her and ask.
Important: It’s so much easier to get an ex to agree to catch up with you if you talk to her on a phone call.
Women are 10x more likely to say, “No” to a date request if it’s asked via text, compared to on a phone call.
On a phone call, she can hear the confidence in your voice and feel attracted to that and you can hear her laughing in response to any humor you use, which then makes you feel even more confident.
Yet, via text, she can play hard to get and pretend not to be interested to test your confidence.
If you fail her confidence test by doubting yourself, you then turn her off.
So, once again, don’t hide behind text.
Always get to a phone call and in person meet up as soon as you can.
Just click call and deal with it.
You can do it.
When you meet up with her, you can then…
4. Re-attract her and get her back for real
- Show her that you’re much more confident than you used to be.
- Use humor to bring down her guard and make her feel good to be seeing you again (especially if she is initially being closed off or cold towards you).
- Flirt with her to create a sexual vibe.
- Turn her negative feelings about the break up into something you can both laugh about together.
The more she can see that you’re being a confident, emotionally mature guy around her, the less she will be able to hold on to her negative opinion about you.
She won’t be able to stop herself from dropping her guard a little bit and allowing herself to imagine what it would feel like if you and her got back together again.
From there, she will begin to realize that falling back in love with each other will be one of the most amazing experiences of her life.
As a result, she will open up to it and you can then confidently guide her back into a relationship with you.
By the way…
If You Just Texted Your Ex to Say That You Miss Her, Try to Avoid Making These 3 Mistakes
There’s nothing wrong with texting an ex to say that you miss her.
In fact, it can often be the opening she has been waiting for to get back with you.
However, what you do after that initial text can make or break your chances of getting her back.
So, to make sure that you do get her back, try to avoid making any of these mistakes…
1. Losing confidence and hope about getting her back, if she doesn’t reply
It’s only natural that a guy is going to feel a bit rejected if he sends his ex girl a text to say that he misses her and she doesn’t reply at all.
He may begin to think, “Damn it! I really stuffed up this time. She’s probably laughing at me right now and thinking that I’m such a loser! Maybe she has even moved on with a new guy and now know that I’m still missing her. I guess I tried, but it’s over now. She’s not interested and I need to accept that I won’t be getting her back, ever. I’ve ruined it. I’ve shown her how I feel and she isn’t interested.”
Yet, thinking like that only causes him to lose confidence in himself and in his value to her.
He stops believing in his ability to re-attract her and gives up on the idea of getting her back.
What he doesn’t realize is that he’s the one giving up, not her.
Yes, she might have ignored his text, but that doesn’t mean she’s not interested in getting back together.
There are many reasons why a woman might not reply to an “I miss you” text from her ex.
For example: She might be testing him to see if he has the confidence to pursue her even when she’s being cold and unresponsive.
Alternatively, she might not want to make it obvious to him that she’s happy to hear that he’s missing her (i.e. because she misses him too) in case he then says, “Oh, you misunderstood me. I miss you, but I don’t want you back. Sorry if I gave you the wrong idea.”
Another reason for her not responding could be because she’s waiting to see if he has the balls to follow through on his text (i.e. call her on the phone, meet up with her and re-attract her).
Alternatively, she might not know what to reply to a “miss you” text and will have to think about it for a few days or a week before she is ready to reply.
By that time, she might feel insecure and think, “It’s too late to reply. What if I reply and he then ignores me? I’ll just wait until he texts me again.”
As you can see, there are many reasons why a woman might not respond to your text and doesn’t always mean that she isn’t interested.
So, if you lose confidence and hope when she doesn’t reply (or does reply, but doesn’t seem very interested), you’ll never find out the truth.
You might miss your chance of getting her back all because you didn’t believe in yourself enough to keep going.
Don’t make that mistake.
Believe in yourself and get her back, even if she doesn’t initially make it obvious that she is open to getting back with you.
Another mistake to avoid making is…
2. Being afraid to get on a phone call
As the man, it’s up to you to initiate the ex back process.
Don’t be afraid to call your ex on the phone, so you can then begin to re-attract her and make her want you back.
Yes, she may be a bit resistant or reluctant initially, but once you spark some of her feelings of respect and sexual attraction for you over the phone (e.g. by making her laugh and smile and feel good to be talking to you again), her guard will come down and she will naturally being to open back up to you.
On the other hand, if you wait too long to make a real move (i.e. talk to her on the phone or in person), you might eventually discover that she’s moved on and is now madly in love with a new guy.
Don’t let that happen to you.
If you want her back, you have to be bold and take the actions required to get her back for real.
Don’t be afraid to contact her.
Do whatever needs to be done to get her back.
Get her on a phone call with you, start re-attracting her and get her to meet up with you.
At the meet up, build on her feelings of attraction and then get to a hug, kiss, sex and back into a relationship.
That’s how a real man gets his woman back.
He doesn’t sit around waiting in the background hoping that she makes all the moves, or hoping that she never moves on.
He does what it takes to get her back now and then enjoys an even better relationship with her than before.
Another mistake to avoid making is…
3. Only feeling confident if she replies and says she wants to get back together
Every woman is different.
Some women want to test a guy to see if he remains confident when she isn’t very open about her feelings, or when she doesn’t show much interest.
Some women will say, “I miss you too” and then expect you to follow through and get her back.
Some women won’t reply at all, because you haven’t re-sparked her feelings for you first, so the feelings aren’t mutual yet.
Some women will reply and just be friendly because they will be afraid to show too much interest in case you reject them.
Whatever happens, just make sure that you don’t base your confidence level on how she responds (i.e. only feel confident if she replies and says that she wants you back).
If you want her back, you have to be confident enough to make it happen.
In almost all ex back cases where a woman has broken up with a guy, she won’t be the one who tries to get him back.
She will wait to see if he has what it takes to re-attract her and get her back and if he doesn’t, she will move on.