If you’ve been wondering, “How to make my ex-girlfriend miss me” the first thing that you need to know is that it possible.
She may not be missing you now, but if you can actively create a spark (of respect, attraction and love again) and then give her space for a few days, she will naturally begin to miss how good she feels whenever she interacts with you these days.
A classic mistake that guys make these days is to ignore their ex (e.g. using the No Contact Rule) and hope that she will miss him.
Yet, if a woman doesn’t have much or any feelings for a guy and he then ignores her, she’s not going to miss having him in her life because he didn’t give her good feelings.
If your ex girlfriend currently doesn’t have much or any feelings for you, it’s essential that you actively create a spark between you and her again.
A Mix of Painful and Positive Emotions
To make an ex girlfriend miss you and want you back, you can also focus on making her feel a combination of positive and painful emotions whenever you interact with her or even when she checks you out on social media.
Here’s a great video by Dan Bacon (founder of The Modern Man), which explains how to make her feel one of the painful emotions; jealousy.
As long as you are prepared to do what it takes to make your ex girlfriend miss you, it’s very possible that she will be back in your arms very soon.
Mistakes to Avoid When Trying to Make Her Miss You
Thinking that improving your appearance will do the trick
How many times have you seen the heartbroken guy in a Hollywood movie decide to get himself a “makeover” to rekindle the interest of his ex-girlfriend, and how many times has the new, improved look made his ex fall madly in love with him again and instantly want him back? Yes, plenty of times, but here’s the thing; real life is not like the movies.
The harsh reality is that your ex became your ex for a reason and unless you’ve taken action to fix the things about yourself that led to her breaking up with you, she’s not going to miss having you in her life.
For example, let’s say she broke up with you because your attitude in the relationship led to her feeling that she was being taken for granted.
Getting yourself down to the gym to build up your muscles or down to the shopping mall to kit yourself out with some new designer outfits will do nothing to change the way she was feeling about you at the time of ending the relationship – and the way she still feels now.
It’s not an improvement in your outer appearance she needs to see, but an improvement in the person you are on the inside.
Thinking that you just have to text her the right thing and she’ll come running back
A change in your outer appearance is not going to change the way your ex feels about you and until she sees something in you that makes her feel differently about you, she’s not going to miss you.
In the same way that real life is not like the movies, it’s not like soppy love-song lyrics either. Time and again, we get asked for advice on what to text an ex-girlfriend to get her change her mind or what to write in a letter to an ex girlfriend to get her to give the guy a second chance, but the bottom line is that there’s nothing a guy can say that will change the way a woman feels.
To get a woman to miss you, you need to generate all of the emotions in her that will lead to her missing you, and words alone can’t stir those emotions.
Sure, the guys in the romantic “missing you” love songs seem to find just the right words to melt a woman’s heart and have her take them back with open arms but words alone won’t get you the results you want in the real world, and they might even make things worse.
Let’s say your ex became your ex because she felt suffocated by your needy, insecure, and overly possessive behavior in the relationship.
If you then say things along the lines of, “There’s no other woman that could compare to you; my life is meaningless without you; I can’t go on without you; my world is empty without you…” she’s not going to think, “Wow! This guy really loves me and I really miss him,”
Instead, she may think, “Gross…He is weak, wimpy, and desperate…I don’t miss his needy, insecure behavior at all…I’m so glad to be distancing myself from it.”
Your words will only remind her of her reasons for breaking up with you in the first place.
Are You Giving Her Any Decent Reasons to Miss You or Want You Back?
Showing her through your attitude and behavior that you have not changed at all since she broke up with you will not make her miss you. Getting her to miss you means showing her that you’ve learned from the experience and have made changes for the better, which have led to you becoming the guy she fell in love with – and more.
To get an ex girlfriend back for real, you’ve got to stop saying and doing the types of things that will turn her off and start saying and doing the types of things that will attract her to you.
For example: Were you needy, clingy or insecure in the relationship? If so, you need to focus on becoming more confident and emotionally secure.
If you took her for granted and stopped making her feel loved and appreciated, you need to apologize for that, explain that you know what you did wrong and then switch gears to focus on making her feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for you.
Always Look at Any Sign You Get From Her in a Positive Way
When getting an ex woman back, it’s extremely important that you remain confident in your ability to re-attract her.
If you doubt your ability to re-attract her and cause her to have feelings for you again, you will most-likely turn her off when she interacts with you because you will come across as self-doubting and insecure.
Women are naturally attracted to confidence in men and turned off by emotional weakness, so if you want your ex to miss you and want you back, you must get yourself to feel as confident as possible and then actively start interacting with her again via text, on phone calls and in person.
Watch this video for examples of signs that your ex might miss you and want you back…
As you will discover from the video above, it’s just as possible to think in an insecure way about her signs as it is to think in a confident way.
When getting a woman back, it’s always better to focus on the positives and use that to feel confident, rather than focussing on the negatives and using that to feel insecure.