4 possible reasons why your ex might text you randomly to say hi are:
1. She’s sending out a ‘feeler text’ to see if you’re still interested, before she hints that she is missing you
In most cases, a woman won’t just come out and tell her ex that she misses him before she knows that he has some feelings for her too.
This can be because she’s shy, doesn’t want to make it easy for him to get her back, is afraid of being rejected by him or just wants to see how he reacts if she doesn’t show obvious interest (e.g. Will he be confident and get her back? Will he feel insecure? Will he get annoyed at her?).
So, to find out where she stands with him now, she will send him a feeler text.
For example: She might randomly text something like, “Hey, I just wanted to say hi. What have you been up to lately?”
If she misses him and wants him back, she will hoping that he texts back with something like, “Hey, I’m glad to hear from you. I’ve been well. Life has been good, but I have been missing you as well” and she can then open up and say, “I’ve been missing you too.”
She hopes that he will then take the initiative, call her, arrange a meet up, re-attract her at the meet up and get her back.
Unfortunately, a guy is still so hurt from the break up that he is scared to act on her subtle hints, so he just keeps texting back and forth with her.
In most cases, the woman will continue to show interest via text, but will gradually lose interest if she notices that he doesn’t have the balls to call her and is waiting for her to say something obvious like, “I want you back. Call me. Get me to meet up with you. Let’s do this!”
This is why confidence is so important when getting a woman back.
You have to look at any contact from her as being a sign that she is still interested in you and is hoping that you make the ex back process happen.
If you lack confidence, you will doubt yourself, waste too much time texting her and potentially lose her if she meets another guy who she feels much more attraction for.
So many guys suffer that fate because they lack confidence during the ex back process.
For example: A guy will over-analyze her reasons for texting him and think things like, “Why is she texting me randomly to say hi? What is she up to? I bet she’s just trying to test me to see if I’m going to get all needy and desperate. Well…even though I really want her back, I’m not going to fail her test. I’m just going to ignore her.”
He might then ignore her text for days or a week or more to not seem needy and when he eventually replies she doesn’t reply back (i.e. because she may now be thinking that he’s playing games with her, or simply isn’t interested in getting back together with her again).
So, if you want to get your ex back, don’t waste time playing games with her (e.g. ignoring her texts for long periods of time, acting disinterested when you reply, telling her that you’re over her and don’t want her back).
If she is keeping the lines of communication open between you and her, then I recommend that you assume it is because she misses you and wants to get back together again.
As a result, you should focus on making her feel more attracted to you and then guide her through the ex back process (i.e. get her to meet up with you, re-attract her at the meet up, get the relationship back together).
Another reason why your ex might still be randomly texting you to say hi is…
2. She’s hoping that you will reply, create a spark and then call her to arrange a time to meet up
Sometimes, a woman is simply hoping that by randomly getting in touch with her ex guy, he will understand her expression of interest and then make a move to get her back.
A lot of guys think that making a move means texting back and forth.
It’s literally the biggest mistake that I see guys making these days when trying to get an ex girl back.
In many cases, a guy will convince himself that texting is the right thing to do, but in reality, he’s only doing it because he’s scared to call her and get her to meet up with him.
For example: A guy will say to himself, “Maybe she just wants to stay in touch with me until she feels ready to take things to the next level. So, until then, I’m not going to get pushy and scare her off by calling her. Besides, if she wanted me to call her she would say so. If I play my cards right, she’ll eventually get tired of texting and she’ll suggest that I give her a call, or even better, suggest that we meet up. Until then, I will just stick to text and hope for the best.”
Yet, rather than make a woman think that she should be the one to grow a pair of balls and call her ex (i.e. be the man in the situation), she loses interest in him for being such a wimp and hiding behind texts.
She may also think something like, “Clearly he’s not as interested in getting back together as I thought. Oh well, I gave it a shot. I guess I just need to get over him now and move on.”
Here’s the thing…
The longer a guy takes to call his ex on the phone and actively re-spark her feelings of respect and attraction for him, the more he risks losing her.
All it takes for her to move on is to meet a new guy that she feels more attracted to.
She doesn’t have to remain loyal to her ex because they’ve broken up, so if she feels like hooking up with a new guy, she can and usually will.
Then, when her ex finally builds up the courage to give her a call, she will say something like, “I’m sorry. I tried texting you to say hi before, but you didn’t do anything about it. I’ve met someone else now and I’m happy. You should have called me when you had the chance. I wish you all the best now. Goodbye.”
He is then left feeling crushed that he missed his opportunity to get her back.
Of course, he can still get her back if she has moved on, but it just makes it harder for him because another guy in now in the picture.
So, if you want to avoid something like that to happening to you, I recommend that you stop wondering things like, “What does it mean if your ex texts you randomly to say hi,” and just get her on a phone call with you.
When you’re talking to her on the phone, focus on making her smile, laugh and feel happy to be talking to you again.
When she’s smiling and laughing while talking to you, the idea of seeing you again in person starts to feel like something she really wants to do.
So, make sure that you get her on a phone call with you right away.
By the way…
I absolutely do not recommend that you ask her to meet up with you via text messages.
Most guys try to do that (because they’re too afraid to call, or think she prefers text) and it doesn’t work.
If you want the highest chance of getting her back, you have to be confident enough to get her on a phone call.
On a phone call, she can hear the tonality of your voice to get a sense of your confidence and emotional strength.
If she senses confidence and emotionally strength, she will automatically feel some respect and attraction for you.
However, if she senses insecurity and self-doubt, her guard will go up and she will find it difficult to feel much or any respect or attraction for you.
So, make sure that you are feeling confident and then just call her.
When you re-attract her on the phone, her guard comes down and she becomes open to meeting up with you to see what happens.
You can say something like, “Anyway, so it’s been fun talking to you again. How about we grab a cup of coffee together sometime this week as friends? I’m busy tomorrow and Tuesday, but I’m available on Wednesday and Thursday. Which day suits you the best?”
If she sounds a bit uncertain, you can then add in a relaxed, easy-going voice, “Don’t worry. It’s just a coffee as friends. I’m not asking you to get back with me. It’s just a quick cup of coffee and a catch up between friends. We’re mature enough to be able to do that, right? So, how about it? What’s it going to be, Wednesday or Thursday?”
When you get her to agree, just go ahead and arrange a time, date and place to meet up.
Then, re-attract her and get her back at the meet up.
Another reason why your ex might still be randomly texting you to say hi is…
3. She misses you or thinks of you from time to time, so she decided to text you to say hi
Sometimes a woman will miss her ex and send him a text to say hi because she was randomly thinking about him, or had been missing him sometimes and decided to act on that feeling.
In some cases, a woman might have come across some old photos of her ex on her phone, laptop or social media pages and it stirred up some good memories.
Alternatively, she may have passed an old hangout (e.g. a restaurant, bar, beach) that reminds her of him, so she just decided to text him to say hi.
Here’s the thing though…
If a woman misses you and is secretly hoping that you and her might be able to get back, she usually won’t come right out and admit it.
Some of her reasons might be because…
- Although she does miss him, she fears that he might not have changed since the break up (e.g. he’s still insecure) and worries that it might be a mistake to get back with him.
- She knows that he still doesn’t understand her real, secret reasons for breaking up with him (e.g. she might have said something like, “I need some space” or, “I don’t have feelings for you anymore” when breaking up with him, but her real, secret reason was that he was too emotionally sensitive and it turned her off).
- She’s not sure if he feels the same way about her and doesn’t want to make a fool of herself by saying she wants to get back together, only to then be rejected by him.
- She wants him to take the lead in the ex back process without her help or reassurance.
So, if your ex randomly texts you to say hi, there’s a good chance that it’s because she misses you and is thinking about you.
The question is though…
What are you going to do about it?
Are you going to continue wondering things like, “What does it mean if your ex texts you randomly to say hi?” or are you going to call her, spark her feelings for you again and get her back?
Another reason why your ex might still be texting you is…
4. She’s checking to see if you’re still missing her, or if you’ve moved on
There are many reasons why a woman will check to see if her ex is still missing her, or if he has already moved on.
- She doesn’t like the idea of her ex moving on before she’s had a chance to get over him and find a new guy.
- She’s mad at him for hurting her and wants to give him false hope to punish him further.
- She still has feelings for him and she’s afraid of losing him for real.
- She is curious to see if he has been able to recover from the break up and move on.
- She is curious to find out if he’s still committed to her and the relationship and is hoping she will come back.
To find out what she wants to know, a woman might text her ex to say hi and maybe even ask him things like, “So, what have you been up to?” or even “Are you seeing anyone else yet?”
Here’s the thing though…
I don’t recommend that you spend too much time thinking about what her motives could be.
If you want her back, you just have to take the lead and make the ex back process happen.
Don’t wait for her to give you a crystal clear signal (e.g. a text saying, “I want you back. Call me!” because chances are high that she won’t be that direct and open.
So, simply pick up the phone and start triggering her sexual and romantic feelings for you by making her smile, laugh and feel good to be talking to you.
Then, confidently guide her back into a relationship with you.
You have all the power to make her feel attracted again, but she’s not going to wait for you forever.
If you think you have a chance with her, act on that now.