Here are 5 ways to make your ex like you again over text:

1. Make her smile

Make her smile

One of the best ways to make a woman reconnect with her feelings of love, respect and attraction for you is by making her smile when you interact with her via text.

When she is smiling, it becomes a lot more difficult for her to hold on to her negative feelings about you (e.g. anger, annoyance, frustration, disappointment).

As a result, she then drops her guard and opens up to looking at you in a more positive light.

She can then start to think things like, “He sounds so confident and fun in his texts all of a sudden. Maybe he really has changed. Maybe it would be nice to talk to him over the phone again, or even in person.”

So, if you want to make your ex like you over text, make sure that your messages are making her smile, rather than roll her eyes in annoyance.

If you’re too boring or serious, she’ll most-likely remain closed off towards you and she may even begin wondering, “Why is he texting me? Doesn’t he get it that we’re broken up? What does he want? What is he up to?”

For example: A guy might text his ex with something like, “Hey, how are you? I just wanted to say hello. Having a good day so far?”

She might then reply with something along the line of, “I’m fine thanks. Busy as usual. What are you up to?”

He might then reply with, “Same old, same old. You know how it goes.”

That type of message isn’t going to spark any sexual or romantic feelings inside of her.

Instead, she will likely be rolling her eyes and wondering why on earth he is wasting her time with pointless text messages.

So, using the example above, if your ex says, “I’m fine thanks, just busy as usual. What are you up to?” you can then reply with something like, “I’ve just found something that I think is perfect for you.”

She might then reply with, “Oh really? What?” or, “Tell me” and you can then say, “I was reading through the paper and found an ad looking for models and instantly thought of you.”

She will likely feel flattered that you still think she’s beautiful enough to be a model and she might then reply with something along the lines of, “Haha! Thanks,” or if she’s quite shy and modest she might say, “That’s nice of you, but I don’t think I’m pretty enough to be a model.”

You can then reply with, “Yeah, they’re looking for hand models to advertise gloves and I thought, why not you? Your hands look great in gloves! Lol! :P”

At that point, she’s probably going to smile and laugh because she initially thought you were suggesting a fashion modeling job, or a beauty model.

As she smiles and has a little laugh, she will then begin to think of you in a more positive way.

Her guard will come down and she will become open to interacting with you again, talking to you on the phone and even meeting up with you in person.

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2. Don’t show insecurity or self-doubt

Don't show insecurity or self-doubt

Chances are, your ex isn’t going to be very warm and friendly towards you right after a break up, or if it has been a while and you haven’t re-attracted her yet.

So, you might find that is a bit cold, distant or even unfriendly towards you initially.


Firstly, you haven’t started reactivating her sexual feelings for you yet, so she’s still going to be closed off towards you as a boyfriend option.

Additionally, it’s a woman’s natural instinct to test a guy to see if he is able to remain confident and secure even if she doesn’t make things easy for him as she talks to him.

So, if you maintain your confidence no matter what she says or does and have the courage to turn her coldness into smiles and laughter, she will automatically drop her guard and begin feeling surges of respect and sexual attraction for you again.

On the other hand, if you become nervous, insecure and start doubting your ability to attract her again, she will pick up on that (e.g. because your texts will be too polite, formal or friendly, because you start apologizing to her if she says that she’s busy or because you seem to take a long time to reply because you’re over-thinking things) and feel even more turned off.

This is why it’s very important that you take control of your confidence by always imagining things going well every time you text (call, or meet up with) your ex.

For example: Imagine that you’ve sent your ex a text and she responds in a cold, unfriendly way.

Instead of thinking, “She hates me. There’s no way I can make my ex like me again over text,” realize that she’s only testing you to see if you can remain confident, so she can then feel respect and attraction for you.

Rather than feeling insecure and beginning to doubt your ability to attract her, just use her coldness as an opportunity to re-spark her feelings for you.

Respond to her in a way that turns her coldness into something to smile and laugh about together.

She will then naturally warm up to you and begin to feel happy to be interacting with you again.

Then when you call her on the phone and suggest catching up to say hi, she will be much more likely to agree.

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3. Write brief, witty texts

Texts can break the ice between you and your ex and pique her interest enough to want to talk to you on the phone or meet up with you, but you shouldn’t rely on only texting her to get her back.

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If you are going to text her initially, make sure that your texts are short and witty, so she doesn’t get bored or annoyed to be texting with you.

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4. Don’t try to discuss the relationship

Sometimes a guy will assume that to make his ex like him again, he first needs to show her how sincere he is about fixing what went wrong in their relationship.

So, as soon as he establishes contact with her via text, he starts bringing up their relationship, what went wrong and how he plans on fixing things between them.

For example: He might text her things like, “I know I stuffed up and I’m really sorry about it. I was (runs through a list of his faults, e.g. insecure, unmotivated, immature, unstable) and I made your life miserable. I know that I can’t say it enough times, but once again, I really am sorry for hurting you. I want to work things out between us. Please, can we just talk about this? I have changed and all I’m asking for is a change to work this out.”

Yet, here’s the thing…

The more a guy keeps bringing up the relationship and all his mistakes, the more it makes her relive all the negative emotions she experienced at the time (e.g. anger, mistrust, disillusionment, heartache, disappointment).

So, even though your intentions are in the right place by wanting to fix things with her, if you want to make your ex like you again, I highly recommend that you avoid discussing the relationship in detail with her over text.

Instead, just leave what happened between you and her in the past (both the good times and the bad times) and focus on re-attracting her in a whole new and exciting way.

Another way to make your ex like you again over text is to…

5. Be a challenge

Be a challenge

When a guy wants to get his ex back, he usually makes the mistake of being on his best behavior around her, or at the very least, just being friendly and nice towards her.

For example: A guy might be extra sweet and nice to her, puts up with her coldness or rudeness and essentially allows her to call the shots.

He may think, “I can’t be to demanding with her, because if I stand up to her she’ll get annoyed and cut me off completely. Then I won’t be able to get her back.”

Yet, what a guy like that doesn’t realize is that a woman doesn’t want to feel as though she is more valuable or powerful than him.

She wants him to make her feel as though she needs to be on her best behavior around him and try to please him, rather than him being no challenge to her at all.

She doesn’t want to feel as though she can push him around and treat him like dirt without him doing anything about it.

So, if you want to make your ex like you again, be a bit more of a challenge to her via text, rather than being a good little boy who never says anything to upset her.

You’d be surprised to see how effective a bit of cheekiness can be in making a woman feel surges of respect and attraction for you again.

5 Mistakes Guys Make When Trying to Make an Ex Woman to Like Them Again Over Text

Texting can help you get your ex back, but it can also cause you problems if you make one or more of the following mistakes…

1. Trying too hard to appear happy without her

Don’t make the mistake of pretending to be happy without your ex (e.g. texting her things like, “I’m having so much fun now that I’m single!” or “Life is so great. Ahh, relaxing at the beach!” or “I’ve been out every night this week. Good times!”), if you are secretly feeling miserable without her.


All it takes for her to catch you in a lie, is to show some interest in you again and then quickly pull back the interest back to see how happy you really are without her.

For example: She might text and say that she misses you and that she’s been wondering if you and her can work things out.

She may then ask you, “Do you miss me too? Would you consider giving our relationship another chance, or do you think it’s too late for us? You seem so happy without me now, so I’m not sure” to see how you are really feeling.

If you then quickly text back with something like, “No, it’s not too late! Of course I want you back. I miss you every day. I was hoping that you would say something like this” she will then know that you’ve been lying about being happy without her, which will make her close off and play much harder to get.

The next mistake is…

2. Trying to have a discussion via text, rather than hitting ‘call’ and talking to her

Sometimes a guy decides to stick to texting, because he believes that his ex will let him know when she’s ready to talk over the phone.

For example: He hopes that he can just text back and forth with her for a few days, weeks or even months and she will eventually text him something like, “Okay, enough with this talking to each other via text. Give me a call. I miss you and I want to hear your voice.”

Yet, that’s just not how the majority of women react.

Rather than making the ex back process easy for him, a woman will usually be passive and wait for her ex man to have the balls to make something happen.

If he doesn’t make a move, she will eventually get tired of having pointless discussions with him via text and may then say something like, “Look, I’ve met someone else and he doesn’t like me texting you like this. I’m sorry, but we need to stop our texts. I wish you all the best. Goodbye,” so she can get rid of him.

As a man, you need to take responsibility for guiding both you and your ex back into a relationship, rather than being passive like her.

You need to have the courage to call her on the phone, where you can spark some of her feelings for you again and make her want to see you in person.

So, don’t make the mistake of hiding behind texts and hoping that she will tell you that she’s ready to talk on the phone, because most women don’t make it that easy for their ex guy.

You need to have the courage to make a move.

Another mistake that other guys make in your situation is…

3. Believing that she wouldn’t like it if he called

Many guys come up with the excuse that their ex woman prefers to text.

It doesn’t matter what she prefers.

You have to do what works and what works is attracting her on a phone call and in person and then getting to a kiss, sex and opening the door back up to a relationship once again.

Sticking to only texts is a surefire way to lose your ex girl and be disappointed and hurt when she eventually breaks the news to you that she’s been seeing a new guy, is in love and no longer wants you to text her.

Additionally, you have to understand that for a lot of women, texting back and forth with an ex takes up a lot of their time and mental energy and it can quickly become a stressful, annoying thing to be involved in.

So, if you want her back, don’t hide behind the safety of text messages.

It might feel easy and nice for you, but it’s not the best way to get an ex woman back and in many cases, it’s not fun for the ex woman.

Get to a phone call and in person catch up and then get to a kiss and sex.

Get her back.

The next mistake that other guys make in your situation is…

4. Worrying that she might not answer if he calls

It’s only natural that a guy might feel nervous about calling his ex woman for the first time after a break up.

He might even catch himself thinking things like, “What if she doesn’t answer? What will I do then? If I call her again, will it make me look desperate? Will she see it as annoying or stalkerish that I keep calling? What if she is with friends or family and they tell her not to answer? What will I do then?”

So, rather than calling her on the phone, he remains stuck in limbo where he wants to call, but is too afraid of what might happen if he does.

As a result, she has more time to get over him and begin properly moving on, while he is left looking over their text messages and wondering how she could be feeling.

Don’t worry about how she ‘could’ be feeling.

Instead, make her feel sexually and romantically attracted to you again on a phone call and in person.

That’s how a man handles the ex back process and gets his woman back.

By the way…

A question you need to ask yourself is this: What will happen to you if she doesn’t answer your call the first time?

The answer is… nothing.

Sure you might feel a bit disappointed, but that doesn’t have to mean the end of the road for you and her just because she didn’t answer a call.

Heck, she may have been in the shower, felt nervous about answering and then regretted not answering, or she might have been hanging out with friends and didn’t want them interfering.

So, if you decide to call your ex and she doesn’t answer, don’t worry about.

Just call her later that day or another day.

Get the job done.

Get her back.

Another mistake to avoid is…

5. Asking if it’s okay to talk to her on the phone

After a bit of texting back and forth, a guy might decide that it’s time to get his ex on a phone call with him.

He will then make the mistake of asking her if it’s okay to call her.

He might say to her, “We seem to be getting along well over text. Is it okay to call you and have a talk?” or, “Can I call you?”

He hopes that she will feel flattered that he’s being so gentlemanly and considerate of her wants and needs, but the reality is that most women feel turned off by that type of hesitant, wimpy behavior.


Essentially he’s giving his power over to her, asking her to take on the position of the boss and expecting her to be attracted to it.

Most women don’t want to feel like they can dominate a guy emotionally, so when asks for her permission to call her on the phone, she’s going to feel turned off by his lack of balls.

Then, rather than starting to like him again, she feels justified in breaking up with him and feels even more determined to move on with a new guy instead.

So, if you want to call your ex, just do it.

If you don’t feel ready to call her yet, then keep learning from me right now and I will give you the confidence to do it.

You can get her back.

You can do this.

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