Here are 3 things that you can do right now to attract your ex girlfriend via text…
1. Use Humor
One of the easiest ways to break the ice with an ex and make her feel some attraction is to make her laugh.
When a woman is smiling and laughing, it is very difficult for her to hold on to her negative thoughts and feelings about you.
So, rather than being too serious (or even boring) when you’re texting your ex girlfriend and possibly annoying her, make sure that you’re making her smile and laugh.
For example: A guy might try to reconnect with his ex via text after a break up, so he might send her a text saying something like, “Hey. I just wanted to say hi and see how you’re doing. Are you okay?”
However, texting an ex girlfriend like that isn’t going to attract her and make her think, “Oh, it’s so nice to hear from my ex again. I missed him so much! I want him soooo bad.”
Instead, she’s probably just going to reply by saying something like, “I’m fine, thanks,” which effectively closes off the interaction with her.
She will then forget about her ex and go back to whatever she was doing before her phone buzzed to notify her of a new message.
So, if you’re going to text your ex girlfriend, make sure that your text messages are mostly light and humorous.
The key is to get her smiling, laughing and thinking, “What’s gotten into him? He sounds so different now. He sounds so relaxed and happy. I wonder what he’s up to?”
She will drop her guard and when you call her on the phone to arrange a meet up, she will be more open to the idea because you’ve already made her feel good to be hearing from you.
What’s an example of how to do that?
If she texts you and you remember that it was her birthday recently, you can text her this, “By the way – happy birthday for last month. I bought you a really cool present…a box of chocolates…but, I ended up eating them myself.”
At this point she is probably going to be smiling and possibly even laughing and will most likely reply with a thanks and an “lol.”
Another example is if she texts you and asks something like, “Hey, how are you?” and you then reply with, “Really bad!”
She will then text something like, “Why? What’s up?” and you can then jokingly say, “Just kidding. I’m having a great day, lol 😛 How about you?”
Another example is if she texts you and says, “Hey, I just thought I’d say hi” and you can reply with, “Who’s this?” as a joke.
She will then smile and laugh and reply with something like, “It’s me, Rebecca!” and you can reply with, “Oh, Rebecca…my hot ex girlfriend. I remember you now. How are you?”
Making her laugh and feel a little shocked in that way will cause her to feel respect and attraction for you because you have the confidence, balls and emotional strength to text her like that even though you want her back.
She will then begin to think about you in a positive way and want to see you.
By using humor in a text to attract your ex girlfriend, you’re making sure that when she sees your Caller I.D. on her phone, she is actually looking forward to hearing from you, rather than thinking, “Ohhhh, no….what does my ex want now? Why won’t he just go away and leave me alone?”
2. Keep the Text Length Brief
Many guys send walls of text, ranting on about their feelings and apologizing over and over again.
Women hate that.
Rather than making a woman think, “My ex must really be sorry about what happened between us for him to be so emotional about it. I must also mean that he is the one for me. He is so sure of it, so it must be true. Yeah, this is like a romantic love story. I was wrong to break up with him because I stopped feeling respect, attraction and love for him! He loves me, so that is why we need to be together. I get it now! It’s all about him and his feelings. Who cares about how bad he makes me feel? I’ve got to be with him because he wants to be with me,” she will likely be thinking, “He just doesn’t get it.”
Here’s the thing…
Women get bored and turned off by a guy who uses text messages as a way of communicating his “feelings” to her, because it shows that he can’t gain control of his emotions and handle the situation like a man (i.e. apologize once, change, reactivate her feelings of respect, attraction and love and guide her back into a relationship).
Instead, he just wants to hide behind safe text messages and tell her all about his feelings, his regret and his promises for the future.
Unfortunately, that just doesn’t cut it.
Text messages are a new thing, even though we’ve had them for decades now.
Humans feel most respect and attraction when they talk in person and if that can’t happen, the next best thing is a phone call.
Text messages can have an impact when used to make her laugh and feel good, but when it comes to discussing the relationship, text messages are the absolute worst way of communicating.
So, if you want to attract your ex girlfriend via text, make sure that you keep your messages short and to the point.
Your ultimate goal needs to be to get her on a phone call with you as soon as possible so that you can spark her feelings of respect and attraction, get her to meet up with you and have her back in your arms where she belongs.
3. Let Her See That You Have Changed
It might be tempting to text your ex girlfriend and say something like, “I know I messed up, but I really can change. Just give me a chance to show you and I will,” but I highly recommend that you do not send a message like that.
Don’t tell her that you will change.
Instead, just let her see that you’ve changed based on how you communicate about things via text, on phone calls and in person.
For example: If an ex sends her guy a text along the lines of, “I don’t have the same feelings for you anymore,” a good way for him to reply would be to say something like, “I know. I was immature in the relationship and made a bunch of silly mistakes. I don’t blame you for not feeling the same way.”
This shows her that he is being mature, accepts her decision and isn’t being a needy, emotionally sensitive guy, so she then feels some respect and attraction for him.
Another example is where a guy has been dumped for being insecure, needy or clingy and she asks, “Are you okay?” he can then say, “Yes, I’m fine. I miss you sometimes, but I accept that we’re broken up.”
She can then feel respect for the fact that he has become emotionally stronger and is being mature.
As a result, she will automatically start feeling some attraction for him as well and will feel the desire to see him in person and assess how she feels.
That’s what you want.
When you trigger your ex girlfriend’s feelings of respect and attraction for the new you, her guard comes down and she starts to reconnect with her original feelings of love for you and she becomes open to meeting up with you in person.
Some Mistakes That Will Turn Her Off Rather Than Attract Her
In this current age where billions of online and phone messages are sent back and forth each day, it’s only natural that a guy might want to try to get his ex back by texting her.
So, if you’re looking to attract your ex girlfriend via text, here are some mistakes you should avoid making.
- Only sticking to text rather than getting on a phone call with her.
Texting an ex when she refuses to talk to you over the phone or see you in person, is a good way to break the ice and get her to open up to you a little bit.
However, sometimes a guy will get to the point where he’s just too afraid to pick up the phone and call his ex girlfriend, in case she doesn’t want to talk to him or if she gets angry and blocks him completely.
He might think, “What if I call her up and she hangs up on me? What if she blocks my number? What if she tells me she’s not interested in getting back together again? Maybe if I just take things slowly with her and just stick to texting for a few weeks, she will eventually relax and open up to the idea of seeing me in person again.”
He might then spend weeks or even months texting back and forth with his ex, in the hopes that one day she will say, “Hey, enough with all this texting. Let’s meet up! :)”
Yet, that rarely, if ever, happens.
In most cases, a woman will just get bored of receiving endless messages from her ex boyfriend and will then stop responding to him altogether.
Alternatively, she might carry on texting, but while he’s busy thinking that it’s because she’s interested in getting back together again, she’s trying to move on by meeting new guys, having sex and falling in love with someone new.
So, if you want to attract your ex girlfriend back and get her back for real, make sure that don’t waste a lot of time texting back and forth.
You’ve got to get her on a phone call with you as quickly as possible, so that you can re-spark her feelings of respect and attraction for you, by making her smile, laugh and feel good to be talking to you again and then arrange a time to meet up in person.
When she meets up with you and realizes that you’re no longer at the same level you were at when she broke up with you (e.g. you’re more confident and emotionally strong now, you have a clear purpose and direction in life, you’re more ballsy and can stand up to her) she will instinctively feel attracted to you again.
- Sending texts every day to stay on her mind.
When a guy is unable to see his ex woman every day, he will often worry that she will forget about him if he doesn’t stay on her mind with daily texts, e-mails or social media messages.
He may think, “If I can’t talk to her and I can’t see her, what will stop her from meeting another guy and forgetting all about me? I can’t let that happen! I have to do something to stay on her mind.”
He might then begin to text her every day with things like, “Hey, hope you’re having a great day” or “Have fun at the concert tonight,” as a way to staying on her mind and hopefully stopping her from moving on.
Yet, here’s the thing…
His ex is most likely turned off by him (e.g. because he was clingy, needy and insecure in the relationship with her), so when she gets text message after text message, day after day, how do you think she will feel?
Will she be thinking, “How sweet of my ex to stay in touch like this. He obviously loves me so much to hang in there, even though I’ve been so hard on him. Maybe I should just give him another chance. After all, he texts me every day. Other guys won’t love me or care about me as much as he does. I just have to get back with him!” or might she be thinking, “Why is he bothering me with all these pointless texts? What does he want? Why doesn’t he just call me and meet up with me? Why is he hiding behind texts like a girl would with a guy? He’s clearly not man enough to handle our break up and get me back. Doesn’t he realize that even though I’ve said that I don’t want to talk to him on the phone, that’s just the woman in me talking? We women say things like that, but it doesn’t mean that it’s an absolute order and the guy can’t break the rule. He just doesn’t get it that he can make me feel happy and attracted on a phone call in person. Oh well, I guess I’ll just have to find a real man who understands women and will make me feel the way that I really want to feel in a relationship.”
- Seeking pity via text.
When a guy is texting his ex and she says something like, “So, how are you?” it might be tempting for him to say something like, “Bad. I just can’t eat or sleep since we broke up. I haven’t been able to concentrate at work. All I think about is you. Do you miss me? Can you give me another chance? My life is a mess without you.”
Secretly, he might be hoping that if she sees how terrible he’s feeling, she will take pity on him and then agree to talk to him on the phone, or see him in person.
Yet, making a woman feel pity or guilt for the emotional pain that you are going through, usually only turns her off even more. Why?
A woman doesn’t like to feel like she’s being manipulated for feeling the way that she feels (i.e. turned off, unhappy), simply because the guy can’t cope without her.
In most cases, she just won’t care about what he’s going through and might even say to herself, “Good. He deserves what’s happening to him. He didn’t appreciate me when I was there, but now he wants me to feel sorry for him. Well that’s not going to happen. I don’t care anymore. He can suffer. He deserves it.”
Seeking pity just doesn’t work with women.
It may work temporarily on women who have little or no experience with relationships, but most women know that if a guy is seeking her pity, he hasn’t yet worked out what it means to be a man.
So, if you want to attract your ex girlfriend via text, be sure to avoid sending “pity me” texts and instead, just focus on re-sparking her feelings of respect and attraction for you.
- Discussing the relationship in detail via text.
Another common mistake that guys make is to bring up the relationship when texting an ex.
For example: A guy who was insecure in his relationship might text his ex girlfriend and say something along the lines of, “I know I stuffed up. I’m really sorry for being so insecure and self-doubting when we were together. It’s just that I loved you so much that I was afraid of losing you. Yet, that’s what happened anyway. I’m sorry. Can we just talk about this? I have a lot that I want to explain to you. Will you read it if I send it to you?”
Here’s the thing…
When a guy keeps bringing up the relationship and all his mistakes, it usually only makes his ex girlfriend re-live all the negative emotions she experienced at the time (e.g. anger, annoyance, disillusionment).
Regardless of whether you want to apologize to your ex girlfriend for what happened between you and her, or ask her to tell you what you did wrong, if you want to attract her via text, make sure that you avoid discussing the relationship in detail over text.
Instead, leave the past in the past (both the good times and the bad times) and focus on re-attracting her in a whole new different way.
Show her by the way you think, talk and behave that you’ve moved beyond the level you were at when you were together and make her feel respect, attraction and love for the new you.
What Are You Waiting For? Just Pick Up the Phone and Call Her
Although it is possible to create some attraction in a text message, the most important thing is to get your ex girlfriend on a phone call, where she can hear the tone of your voice and experience your confidence and emotional strength.
When you text her, she will usually just assume you’re the same guy that she broke up with and continue thinking of you in a negative way.
Since she can’t see your body language or hear the tonality of your voice, she will usually just think the worst of you, rather than give you the benefit of the doubt.
So, don’t waste any more time trying to attract your ex girlfriend via text message than you need to.
Text her to get her attention, but then pick up the phone and give her a call.
When she hears the maturity and confidence in your voice and gets a sense of the guy you have become since the break up, her guard will come down and she won’t be able to stop herself from feeling attracted to you once again.
What are you waiting for?