You can create a spark of attraction via text, but you won’t completely get your ex back just by using text messages.
To get her back for real, you will also need to attract her on a phone call and in person.
Text should only be used as a way to create a bit of a spark of her feelings for you again, so you can then get her on a phone call and arrange to meet up with her in person.
If your ex is currently answering your phone calls, I recommend that you call her and arrange an in person meet up.
However, if your ex is currently refusing to take your calls or see you in person, or if you’re unsure how she’ll respond when you call her, you can start the ex back process by sending her a text message that will reactivate some of her feelings for you.
Then, once you have re-sparked some of her feelings for you, her guard will come down and she will likely be more open to talking to you over the phone and meeting up with you in person.
2 Example Texts to Attract Her With Humor
Warning: The following text examples might not apply to your situation. They might even seem a little cheesy if that’s not how you and your ex interact.
You just need to read the examples below to get some ideas of what actually works to create some attraction with an ex via text. I’ve helped 100s of guys get their woman back via my program, Get Your Ex Back Super System, which includes text messages that use other attraction and persuasion techniques (rather than humor) so that they apply to all situations.
When it comes to attracting your ex back via text, make sure you are making her smile and laugh, rather than annoying her with boring, pointless text messages that don’t inspire strong emotion in her.
For example: A guy might send a boring text to his ex girlfriend (fiancé or wife) and say something like, “Hey, how are you doing? I just wanted to say hello. How is your day going so far?”
She might then reply by saying something like, “Oh, I’m fine. My day is busy as usual. How about you?”
He might then say, “Oh, I’m okay. Nothing much is happening with me.”
Yet, that type of message is not going to attract her back.
Having a boring conversation via text like that is not going to make her smile and laugh and feel happy to be interacting with him again, and it’s probably not going to make her want to talk to him on the phone, or see him in person.
So, rather than wasting your time texting your ex back and forth without getting the results that you want (i.e. meet up with her and get her back in your arms again), here are some examples of what you can text that will get her smiling, laughing and enjoying the text interaction with you.
Using the example above, if your ex says, “Oh, I’m fine. My day is busy as usual. How about you?”
You can then say something like, “I’m having a great day, but I don’t know if I should tell you why. Lol…!”
She might then reply with, “What? Why?” or, “Tell me” and you can then say, “I’m eating pizza at the moment and I know how much you love pizza, so I didn’t want to distract you from your work day. Hawaiian with extra pineapple. Mmmm…delicious.”
She might then reply with, “Damn, now I’m feeling hungry. You bastard! Lol…”
You can then reply with, “Mmm…tastes so good. Anyway, I’m finishing up eating this now with a coworker and heading back to the office in a few mins. Have a great day. Don’t work too hard!”
At this point she is probably going to be smiling and thinking about you in a positive way because you’re not trying to get her back and are just being a bit playful via text.
Another example of how to attract her with humor is as follows…
You can start by saying, “Hey, how are you doing? I have some big news!”
She might reply with, “What?” or “What’s the big news?” and you can say, “I just found out that I’ve won a million dollars in the Lotto. So, how would you like to meet up and have some coffee with a millionaire? I’ll pay for the coffees of course…lol. I think I can afford $10 out of a million now.”
She will likely respond with something like, “Lol…what? You won a million dollars?” or “That’s awesome. Congratulations!” or “Yeah right…as if you won the lottery…lol.”
You can then say, “Okay, so I was only joking about the million dollars! Haha….but at least now you can’t say that you won’t have a coffee with me, because everyone will think you were just after me for the money.”
This type of interaction will at least spark her interest, get her smiling and she might even have a bit of a laugh.
She then starts to experience some positive feelings when she sees your Caller I.D. on her phone, rather than feeling dread, resentment or annoyance whenever she sees that you’re calling.
By the way…
I give another text example in this free video…
Of course, sending your ex a funny text message isn’t the magic solution to completely get her back.
To properly get a woman back, you’ve got to use every interaction that you have with her from now (whether that’s via text, on a phone call or in person), to create a spark of attraction in her.
When you spark her feelings of attraction for you again, it pushes the negatives of your relationship into the background, because she naturally feels drawn to you in a way that feels good to her.
Even though she might have previously been saying, “I just don’t have feelings for you anymore,” or “There’s nothing that’s going to convince me to get back together again,” she now can’t stop herself from wanting to interact with you because she feels drawn to you.
When she continues to smile and laugh after getting one or two texts from you, a woman will then usually get to the point where she is hoping to hear from you and see you in person.
She might start thinking to herself, “He’s not that bad anymore. I’ve really been too hard on him. It wouldn’t hurt to talk to him over the phone sometime, or even just meet up for a quick coffee to catch up. I’ll tell him that we’re just meeting up as a friends…but, really, I don’t know that I just want to be friends…maybe I want more…I will have to wait and see how I feel when we catch up.”
Meeting up with her as a “friend” is totally fine, as long as you actively make her feel a renewed sense of respect and sexual and romantic attraction for you at the meet up.
Here are some examples of how to attract her in person…
For more examples of how to attract your ex and the full, step by step process to get her back, watch Get Your Ex Back Super System.
Some Texting Rules to Remember
Your main reason for texting your ex should be to open up the line of communication between you and her, and get her laughing and smiling so that she begins to at least feel something for you again.
From there, you need to get her on a phone call and arrange a meet up where you can fully reactivate her feelings of respect and attraction for you and then guide her back into a relationship.
What you should not use texting for is to…
- Beg and plead for a second chance with her.
- Constantly apologize to her.
- Try and make her feel guilty by telling her how unhappy you are without her.
- Stay on her mind (by constantly texting her) in the hopes that she won’t move on.
- Ask her to tell you what you need to change about yourself.
Firstly, if a woman doesn’t feel much respect or attraction for her ex, she’s likely going to look at any text she gets from him in a negative light.
She might think to herself, “Why is my ex texting me so often? What does he want? I can’t believe that after everything he’s done, he’s apologizing to me in a text message and doesn’t have the balls to say it to me over the phone or in person,” or “I don’t understand how he still doesn’t have a clue what he did wrong. He still doesn’t get why I ended the relationship. How can he expect me to explain it to him via text?” and she will feel even more turned off by him.
Also, something else to bear in mind is that a woman can easily misinterpret what her ex is saying via text because she can’t see his body language, or hear the tone of his voice, so she has to guess at his state of mind and interpret his message based on her current feelings for him.
If she is currently feeling angry, resentful, hurt or annoyed, she will usually just assume the worst of him when he texts her.
Another reason why texting an ex and not getting her on a phone call is a bad idea, is that she can string the guy along for months by texting back and forth, giving him false hope that she might be interested in getting back together again, just to make herself feel good.
In the meantime, she might be thinking, “He is very naïve if he thinks that just because we’re texting each other, I’m going to forget what happened between us. It’s over and he has no idea what he needs to do to get me back. I’m just going to keep moving on because he obviously can’t grow up and become the man I need him to be.”
Just texting your ex won’t make her feel enough respect and attraction to feel like she should forgive you and meet up with you in person.
So, make sure that you transition to a phone call and re-attract her in person when you meet up with her.
Getting Her on a Phone Call is the Quickest Way to Attract Your Ex Back
A common mistake that guys make when trying to attract an ex back via text is getting stuck with texting back and forth with the woman for weeks.
Even though she might be open to it initially, if he doesn’t make an effort to arrange a meet up to reactivate her feelings and then hug and potentially kiss her in person, she’s going to get bored of the texting very quickly.
When getting an ex back, texts should only be used as a way to get her on a phone call, or to spark a little attraction before you call, rather than the main method of getting her back.
If you leave it too long to re-attract her in person, she will experience stronger in-person feelings with other guys that she meets and your texts will quickly become boring, annoying or out of place.
You might eventually get a text from her say, “I have something to tell you. I’ve met someone else and we’re in love. My new boyfriend doesn’t like all these texts coming from you. Please respect that by giving me space and not texting me any more.”
Don’t let that happen to you.
Don’t get stuck in texting limbo where you hope that if you can just text her long enough, she will eventually say something like, “I’ve been thinking. Why don’t we get together sometime and catch up?”
Unless a woman is secretly still in love with her ex and hoping to get back together with him, it’s unlikely that she will initiate a meeting with him first.
You need to be the one to confidently guide her back into a relationship with you, rather than waiting for her to make all the moves and lead the way.
So, from now on, I recommend that you only text your ex with the purpose of getting her on the phone to talk to you.
On a phone call, you can continue sparking her feelings of attraction for you, and then get her to agree to a meet up where she can experience the new and improved version of you face-to-face.
Remember: On a phone call, a woman can sense whether you’ve changed based on your tonality and how you are now talking to her and reacting to her.
For example: If a guy was insecure in his relationship with a woman and would get clingy, needy and jealous, then his woman would have felt turned off by his behavior.
Over time, she likely lost respect and attraction for him as a man, which eventually led to her breaking up with him.
So, when he now talks to her, he needs to let her see that no matter what she says or does, he is emotionally strong now and doesn’t become insecure or self-doubting.
Displaying confidence and emotional strength is not something a guy can properly show a woman via a text message.
He can’t just text her and say, “Hey, I’m not that needy, clingy insecure guy from before. I’ve really changed now,” because she doesn’t have any in-person or on-call evidence to believe him.
Instead, he needs to get his ex on the phone and say something like, “Look, I just wanted to tell you that I’m sorry for what happened between us. I know that I messed up badly. I became a needy, clingy guy and that’s just not cool. If I were you, I would have also broken up with me, so I don’t blame you for that. The truth is, the break up has been a huge wake up call for me, and I’m no longer the same guy that you broke up with. I’m past all that insecure stuff and I’m a confident, emotionally strong man now. Of course, I don’t expect you to believe me right now…and that’s okay. I just wanted to let you know that I’m sorry and also that I have changed, but I don’t expect my changes to make you want to get back with me.”
By saying something like that to her, he’s making her feel heard and understood.
She then begins to feel some respect for him again for being man enough to face his issues and make some adjustments to his way of thinking and to his behavior.
At the same time, if he is also making her feel good on the phone (e.g. by making her smile and laugh at times), she will be able to drop her guard and open herself up to the idea of meeting up with him in person.
Then, when he meets up with her, he needs to continue saying and doing the types of things that will reactivate her feelings of respect and attraction for him.
So, remember: Texting your ex after breaking up should only be a stepping stone to getting her on the phone, so that you can arrange a meet up with her.
Don’t hide behind texts and hope that something that you text her will magically get her to forget about why she broke up with you.
You’ve got to make sure that you are prepared to re-attract her in person by understanding where you went wrong and quickly making some changes, so she can feel attracted to the new and improved you.
When she sees you in person and experiences the new and improved version of you, her guard will come down and she will then allow herself to feel attracted to you again.
From there, she will naturally begin to reconnect with the love that she once felt for you and will look at you in a more positive light.
You then need to complete the ex back process by getting her to give the relationship another chance.
Don’t worry, it’s easy and each day, countless guys from all over the world get their woman back.
You can be one of those guys who successfully re-attract your ex and get her back, so don’t waste another moment.
Start the process of getting her back now.