Step by step instructions on how to get your ex back
Get Your Ex Back Super System guides you and your ex girlfriend, wife or fiancé back into a loving, committed relationship as soon as possible.
The techniques from Get Your Ex Back Super System make you more attractive and appealing to her than you were before.
When you interact with her on the phone and in person, she experiences a renewed sense of respect and attraction for you. She then becomes open to meeting up with you in person.
When you meet up with her, my powerful attraction techniques ensure that you trigger new and exciting feelings of attraction inside of her.
Her perception of you changes and she becomes open to giving the relationship another shot, or at least having sex with you again to see how she feels.
Get Your Ex Back Super System is a 7 step system and by the 7th step, you and your ex will be back together in a new, improved and more loving and sexually passionate relationship.
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- A quick reference guide that ensures you have all the Facebook, phone and text messages examples from the Get Your Ex Back Super System available when you are communicating with your ex.
- Provides additional tips and reminders surrounding each example, so you can quickly scan it while communicating with her.
- Explains how to get her eagerly WANTING to meet up with you, even if she starts out being challenging or uninterested on the phone.
- Provides examples of what to say to make her HAPPY to be talking to you on the phone.
- Reminds you of key points from the Get Your Ex Back Super System by providing a quick reference “DO’s and DON’Ts” list regarding communication via Facebook, phone, text and e-mail.
- Includes bonus examples of communicating with her via Facebook, phone, text and e-mail.
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- Explains how to give her the type of sex that will completely change her mind about the break up.
- Teaches you my best, simple ways to make a woman orgasm (my women orgasm about 95% of the time we have sex).
- Gives you alpha male insights on how to touch a woman during sex in a way that makes her feel incredible, deep attraction and lust for you.
- Shows you how to tap into a part of her sexual mind that she has likely hidden from you all along. Once you access this part of her, she will love you deeper than she ever has before and other guys will simply pale in comparison to you when it comes to the sexual experience.
- Includes my personal favorite techniques and “moves” in the bedroom that have left some of my girlfriends crying in absolute joy and pleading with me to never leave them.
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Get StartedDo You Need Help to Get Her Back?
Since your situation is unique, you may probably wondering whether or not you actually have a chance of getting her back.
It might seem impossible now because she seems different to other women and also seems like she no longer wants anything to do with you.
Yet, when you begin to use my approach (i.e. make her feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for you and then confidently guide her back into a relationship), you will see that she opens back up to you and changes how she feels.
You really can make her change how she feels and change her mind about the break up.
Of course, don’t expect people around you (e.g. friends, family, coworkers) to tell you that.
Most people don’t know that it’s possible to get an ex back, so they simply tell you to move on.
They say things like, “There are plenty of fish in the sea. You will find another girl” or “Ignore her and she will miss you and come back,” or “Find a new hobby to distract yourself and you will eventually forget about her.”
It’s so damn annoying for a guy who wants his woman back because most people have no idea how to help him.
It’s like no one truly cares and they just expect you to get over her.
That’s where I come in…
I care about you and your situation and I sincerely want to help you get her back.
I know how important she is to you and I understand the horrible pain you are feeling right now, while you miss her and want her back.
The first thing I want you to know is that you CAN get another chance with your ex.
You really can.
For real.
I know this for sure because I’ve already helped 100s of guys to get a woman back.
Here are just a few of the messages that guys have sent me after following the steps of Get Your Ex Back Super System to get their woman back…
“It was a lot easier than I thought it would be. She immediately changed her attitude towards me by the time I got to step 3 of the program. We then met up and got back together. Thanks so much for your help! I couldn’t have done it without you! Peter”
“Getting my ex back was a bit more complicated than other guys because of her abused past, but your system definitely worked for me.
We were spending 1 day and evening a weekend together recently having deep love making. She then rang tonight saying we were falling into our old pattern and maybe we should break up again, but I changed her mind based on my newfound confidence and understanding of how to really connect with a woman’s mind.
Anyway she ended up saying she loved me multiple times and wants to be with me & address our niggles was the outcome.
In conclusion I wanted to thank you Dan as all your advice including the mistakes that guys make etc. has really helped me a lot. Thank you Dan, you’re making a lot of couples very happy with your programmes.
Kind regards
M.Y”
“I got my girlfriend back and I could not be happier right now. I really feel like a lot has changed in me since watching your program. I have grown up a lot after grasping what it really means to be a man for a woman. She is back in love me now so my thanks to you and your program. I bought 3 or 4 other programs before finding you but they were all rubbish and merely told me to use the no contact approach and if she didn’t come back I was to move on. Thank you for your guidance Dan. I could not have done this without you. Jacob”
“Hi Dan
I got your ex back program last week, secured a meet up with her and then did that last night.
She was very hesitant at first but I persisted as you mentioned in the program and she agreed.
We met up for what was supposed to be a quick coffee and that turned into her having feelings for me again and getting worried about it, so I suggested we got for a walk and while walking I suggested we go hang out at my place and she said yes.
We ended up having sex and she said that she didnt know why but she felt differently and wanted to give us another chance!!!!
Her and I are taking things slow now but it looks good because she came over to my place yesterday and stayed the night so I am confident that I can continue to spark her feelings more. We even talked about going away for a weekend soon so it is looking very positive.
I can’t thank you enough Dan. You are saving a lot of men from a lot of messed up pain and problems.
I will certainly recommend you to friends if they go through a break up!
Regards,
Paul”
“Hi dan 5 months after me and my wife broke up we are now back together and so happy.
I’ll be honest with you I thought after I went through your programmes that they would be of no use to me I couldn’t have been more wrong , certain parts of the programme i couldn’t reeally use but the majority was so helpful because it got me in the right mindset and helped me through the toughest part of the break up and showed me how to be a man that my wife would want.
In all fairness it just felt natural to be this way so many many thanks to you and the team at modern man because without you it would have been impossible for me to get my wife back in my arms so if any of you guys are in Liverpool England any time don’t hesitate to contact me because I would like to take you guys out for a drink again.
Thank you thank you thank you you don’t realise how much you have helped me, Matty”
“I was skeptical before trying your program because my ex girlfriend hated me and wanted nothing to do with me. Well I was surprised at how quickly things changed when I started making her feel jealous like you suggest in the program. I was worried to do it because I thought she would get angry and hate me even more but it drew her to me. I guess she realized that she was losing a great guy and it struck a chord with her.
We met up for a coffee and I used your methods to get her smiling again and laughing like she used to. She said that I had changed and she liked it and I knew at the moment that I could get her back, so I told her to stand up and for us to give each other a hug. We then kissed and it was magical like it was in the beginning when we first dated.
The relationship has been back together for a week now and everything seems to be going well. Thanks for your advice Dan, it really worked and I am glad to have found your site when I went searching online after she dumped me for the third time! You have a loyal fan for life now. Victor”
“Hiya Dan
I got my ex back! It was actually a lot easier than I was thinking it would be. Your methods are brilliant!
I was lead to believe by friends that once a girl broke up with you that that was it but now that I’ve done it I can see what you see about attraction and relationships and love.
Me and my girlfriend are now planning on moving in together and things are really good, so my thanks to you for the brilliant program and advice.
Gary”
“Hi Dan
I want to take this opportunity to thank you for saving my marriage. It was dead in the water and my wife had already began going on dates with a new guy that she knows from work. But I put your advice into action from the Get Your Ex Back system and boy did it work.
My wife came crawling back to me, crying and apologizing. I am now in the position of power in the relationship and we are more in love than ever before. Your tips on sex where a huge eye opener for me as well. I would rarely get her to orgasm before but now it is happening almost every time we have sex.
You are doing great things for the men of this world Dan and you deserve a lot of credit. Had I known what your program would do for me I would have happily paid double the price.
Byron”
“Dan I got my girlfriend back. Thank you!
Nate”
“Hi Dan,
I have nearly everyone of your products except the Alpha Male Power and they have utterly changed my life.
My GF broke up with me on December 14th, and lets just say I cried and begged for about 2 weeks then realized it wasn’t going to do anything to get her back.
So I found your series and worked on me and forced myself to interact with women. It wasn’t long before I got numbers, built rapport, and moved forward to kissing and heavy petting, however no sex.
I cut off communication for 3 weeks with the EX, and then I was on a job interview in NYC about 3 weeks ago and posted on my Facebook I was at a Bar, my ex whom also lives in NYC was coincidentally 2 blocks away and we meet up…
Long story short, we’re back together, at one point she asked me if use getting back together was a good idea and if it was a good thing….I just laughed at her and said it was the best thing for us, cause the things you told me I lack (confidence, emotional understanding of women and body language) I’ve fixed and women now love me (showed her pictures from my phone) ….man…Dan….she flipped so quickly it wasn’t even funny…I told her she needs to behave and do things I like or I’ll just walk away and go to one of the other girls…I told her if she does things I like I’ll give her a reward, She was like really….I tease her with a reward and then giving her rewards, keeping her on her toes. When she does things I don’t like she goes to time-out, but only for 5 seconds, then I tell her to give me a hug and say she’s sorry….
I’ve turned the tides in the relationship, and now she always messaging me, chasing me….I tell her every time I talk to her, ” Ok talk to you in a week, I’m busy the next few days” 12 to 18 hours later she messages me wondering what I’m up too…
She says I’m different and understanding….
Right now I tell her I’m Version 2.0 with firmware 3.0 coning out soon, you better figure me out quick or you’ll be learning how to figure me out all over again…she’s like are you for real…I’m like stop being so serious, she’s like your mean…I’m like ya so??? O.o …she is pushed in the feminine every time….
Your material is spot on, I keep her in the feminine , but sometimes show my feminine then go right back to be a dominant male and she loves it…
Again thanks for your content, I’ll keep listening to it over and over again. Maybe sometime when I’m in Melbourne or your in the States, we can meet up!!!
-Trevor.”
“Hey Dan,
I have been working on everything you have taught me and I think its finally starting to come together.
I have visited my ex a couple times now and she seems so in love again. She now compliments me about how much more masculine I am and treats me so much better. I am so happy ,thank you. We are better than ever and I feel like (with your help) I’m learning to keep the dominant role and stay in control of my emotions.
Now that I am more aware my role in the relationship we have a deeper connection and are on the way to an Amazing relationship. Alex”
“I just wanted to email you Dan to say thank you for making this program. Without your guidance and examples of would have had to give up and move on without her because she was being so stubborn and wouldn’t open up to me. I used your approach and her walls came down and we met up. There was a spark there like in the beginning and we have been back together since that day. If you are ever in New York please get in touch so I can buy you a beer and say thanks! Will”
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My proven to work system for getting an ex-woman back has been developed by helping men from all over the world to get their woman back.
It wasn’t easy to work this stuff out (if it was, everyone would know how to get an ex back), but I have created the perfect solution that even works on the most stubborn of women.
When you use my attraction and persuasion techniques, she will say “Yes” to meeting up with you and she will feel attracted to the new you.
You are not on your own with this anymore.
I am going to help you.
All of the questions that you need answers to are in my program, Get Your Ex Back: Super System
Get Your Ex Back Super System is a 7-step system and by the 7th step you and her will be back in a loving relationship once again.
Simply follow the steps of my system and she will reach out to YOU and want to see you. If she doesn’t reach out to you, don’t worry – I provide all the Facebook, text message and phone call examples to get her interested in chatting to you and seeing you again in person.
As long as you follow the step-by-step process, she will feel a strong, renewed sense of respect and attraction for you, forgive you and want to give the relationship another chance.
100s of other guys have done it and so can you.
Get Your Ex Back Super System is 10 hours of professional video training.
When you watch Get Your Ex Back Super System, you will be getting 10 hours of non-stop advice for a fraction of the price of learning from me over the phone.
If you were to purchase 10 hours of phone coaching with me ($497 per hour), it would cost a total of $4,970.
Yet, you can have Get Your Ex Back Super System for only $297. (Limited time price. May change at any moment).
In addition to Get Your Ex Back Super System, you will also get 2 hours and 47 minutes of video in the bonus program Ultimate Make Up Sex, plus a 77 page ebook that contains all of the social media, phone and text message examples from the Get Your Ex Back Super System.
I am trying to keep the price of the system as cheap as possible because I truly want to help you.
I know the pain that you’re going through without her in your life and I’m here to help you get her back ASAP.
So, if you are serious about getting her back, then get started now.
The faster you get started, the quicker you will have her back in your arms.
Enjoy your rekindled relationship with her and the great times ahead!
Cheers
Dan Bacon
P.S. My system will get you a second chance with your ex.
She will suddenly realize that she wants to get back with you one more time, or at least meet up with you in person again to see how she feels when she interacts with the new and improved you.
When you meet up with her in person, you will use my powerful, easy-to-use attraction and persuasion techniques to get the relationship back together and keep it together.
As long as you follow the steps provided in my system, she will be unable to say no to meeting up with you again because she will start to feel like she wants it just as much as you do.
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- Guides you through my proven process for getting an ex back into a loving, committed relationship.
- Provides you with examples of what to text her and what to say on the phone to ensure that she agrees to meet up with you in person.
- Explains exactly what to say and do to make her feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for you on the phone and at the meet up.
- Gives her many reasons to forgive you and want to start over again.
- Brings out the very best in you and makes you even more attractive to her than you were when you first met her.
- Makes the idea of getting back together become her idea, or at least feel like a fun thing to do for her to see how she feels.
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Can this program also be used for a an F. buddy that decided to call it quits? What about a girl that liked me but rejected me and we never got into a relationship?
Hey Walter
Thanks for your question.
Yes, it can be used for a f*** buddy who decided to call it quits.
My phone coaching clients have used the system to get back women in all sorts of situations: Ex-wife, ex-fiance, ex-girlfriend.
Here’s the link to buy Get Your Ex Back Super System: http://store.themodernman.com/cart.php?action=add&itemid=28&type=prod
BTW: The other girl you mentioned in your comment sounds like a different story and is not an ex back situation.
For her, you should use the techniques from Better Than a Bad Boy http://www.themodernman.com/videos/better-than-a-bad-boy.html on her because Get Your Ex Back Super System is for guys who have been in a relationship with a woman and want to get her back.
There is a lot of discussion in Get Your Ex Back Super System about why women break up with men, the mistakes guys make that turn a woman off in a relationship, how to get the woman to give him another chance, what to say and do at the meet up, how to reconcile the relationship and so on.
So, the second girl you mentioned isn’t going to see you as an ex. You are simply a guy who was interested in her, used the wrong approach and got rejected. To get her to feel attracted to you from now on, use the Better Than a Bad Boy approach.
Here is a link to buy Better Than a Bad Boy: http://store.themodernman.com/cart.php?action=add&itemid=21&type=prod
Cheers
Dan
Okay so I’d like to know how this program can help me get this girl back. Here’s the summary of the situation:
I’ve actually already stuffed it up with this girl two times already. The first time, I didn’t know about the modern man yet and so you know the usual mistakes that guys made, I probably did all of that and was stuck in the friend zone for quite some time. We became really close friends but nothing more than that. And so I decided I’ve had enough and blocked her from my facebook and deleted her number from my phone.
The second time,I unblocked her from my facebook and re-added her then started talking to her again. This time around I have already stumbled upon your site and I’ve had a bit of education from your articles, newsletters, and have already read the flow which helped me tons. She admitted that she was attracted to me and we started dating although things were still unofficial. But I haven’t really fixed my issues yet by this time. I was still insecure and my confidence was an act. As you may know I have your program, better than a bad boy. Unfortunately, I didn’t have that program to help me during that time and so I was still very weak as a man, and she felt that she was stronger. We had a bit of a fight, then blocked her again and deleted her number. Again.
And so time passed and I now have your program, better than a bad boy. And thanks to the techniques in that program, I’ve become a bit stronger as a man and we’ve been talking again via facebook. Found out that she was still single and had just recently resigned from her previous company that she worked in for a year. But I can sense that she’s become emotionally guarded in our conversations. Her messages and replies are always by-the-fact and rational and so unlike before where she would flirt around and mess with my head. Almost like, she’s afraid to test me? I’m not really sure.
Anyway, like I said, I’m interested to know how this program can help my situation. And I hope that other guys with a similar situation with me will be able to read your reply and have your insight.
Cheers.
Hey Walter
Thanks for your question.
It’s actually going to be quite easy for you. What you’re really lacking is knowing what to say to her to get her to want to see you again and give the relationship another chance. To add to that, without my guidance you will most-likely say a lot of the wrong things when you meet up with her. My program explains exactly what you need to say to her in person, on the phone or via Facebook (or e-mail) to turn the situation around. It’s great that you’ve improved so much already and she’s been more interested in talking to you, but what you need is a step-by-step process to go through to get the relationship back together. That’s what this program provides.
You will see that when you use my tested approach, things go smoothly from one stage to the next until you’re back in a relationship and falling back in love. Just make sure that you follow the system properly and you will see that it will suddenly “make sense” to her that you and her should be together. She will develop new feelings for you that she didn’t have before.
I’m looking forward to reading your success story!
Cheers
Dan
Hey Dan. I have been watching all the videos on your new ex product. It looks pretty cool, I’ll probably pick it up when I get the cash. I have an ex who I consider to be my second real girlfriend. I don’t know if I would like to date her again or not but I wouldnt mind having sex with her again. The problem is that she is an ex of 6 YEARS AGO and she lives 1050 miles away! Haha it would be a challenge. Not to mention back before I was a modern man customer I called her like two years after we had broken up and I don’t remember how the conversation went but It wasn’t good. Do you think I could do it?
Philip
Hi Philip
Thanks for your question.
Yes, as you will see when you watch the program, the system is all about getting her attention, making her feel certain feelings (I won’t reveal those in the comments) and the woman will usually then contact the guy. If she doesn’t, I provide all the Facebook, phone and text message examples you will ever need to get her back. I also provide the solution for getting an ex to unblock you or to “re-friend” you on Facebook, so you can send her specific messages that I provide. When you do that, she will naturally and very quickly open back up to the situation.
Additionally, it doesn’t matter how long ago it was. As you might have seen from my videos, I’ve been developing this program in secret for 3+ years with my phone coaching clients. I’ve helped guys get women back when the break up has happened days prior, weeks, months, years and even also a handful of guys who got back together with their highschool sweetheart or first love after more than a decade apart. Due to this, I have designed the system to work for all time periods. In fact, a better way to say it is that with my system, the time delay becomes irrelevant. Why? Her feelings are reactivated. That’s what counts.
Cheers
Dan
I dated a girl this past spring for a short period of time. (About a month), and she was never my girl friend. I feel I went wrong by rushing things too fast and perhaps becoming too needy. Will this program help someone like me? Even though we ended things a couple months ago, she still contacts me from time to time which does confuse me. I’m confused as to why she does this when we are no longer seeing each other or hooking up.
Hey Pat
Thanks for your question.
Definitely. Those type of women are easy to get back. Do what I recommend in the program and she will actually contact you.
Cheers
Dan
This program is exactly what I need. I’ve recently lost my fiance. Everything seemed perfect and then she suddenly said she wasn’t feeling it anymore.
I’ve been reading some of your articles Dan and I can see that you really know you’re stuff. Do you think I could get her back if she said she’s no longer feeling the same way about me?
Hi Steve
Thanks for your question.
Definitely mate. That’s exactly what my system is proven to do. I’ve been getting women to change their mind’s about my clients for 3+ years now. When you use the techniques in the program and say what I recommend you say to her, she will open back up to the situation.
Enjoy the reconciled relationship with your fiancé. I hope to see some wedding photos someday!
Cheers
Dan
My girlftiend and i were together for 10 years, when she broke up with me, she started dating someone from her work 3 months later…Can this program work in she just recently started dating another guy?
Hey Cody
Thanks for your question.
Definitely. Get Your Ex Back: Super System is a 7-step system and by the 7th step, you are back in a relationship with her. In your case, she will begin changing her mind about the new guy by step 3 and she will leave him by step 6. There are specific instructions in the program that will get her to change how she feels about the new guy and suddenly begin wanting to talk to you and see you. If she doesn’t call you or contact you, there are additional techniques to prompt her, which (from my experience coaching guys through this for the last 3 years), every woman responds to. When you are back in communication with her, that is when you move to the next steps of the system until you are having sex and back together for good.
Cheers
Dan
Hi, Regarding the exback program. Is this strictly effective only for men trying to restore a long term relationship or do the principles extend to shorter term relationships which have been burnt with bad ‘nice guy type’ behavior?
Hey Ethan
Thanks for your question.
Yes, it’s definitely for that too. I’ve been helping guys in secret via phone coaching for the past 3 years to develop this. About 30% of the guys I’ve helped to get their ex back fall into your category. Your situation is very common and easily fixable. When you use the techniques, she will reach out to you and at least just want to chat to you again. However, if she doesn’t, I include loads of tested examples of things to say, to text her and to send her via Facebook (or e-mail) to get her to want to see you again. Then, you get on with the more important parts of the system (which I can’t reveal here in the comments section) and get the relationship back together.
Cheers
Dan
Will this work even if I never was in a committed relationship with the girl I like? We used to flirt a lot and I even had sex with her once in my car, but it was quickly interrupted by a police officer rolling up and flashing his lights. Luckily We were let go with a warning. Then the next day I damaged her trust in me and did things that caused her to lose respect for me.
Hey Josh
Thanks for your question.
Of course! Getting her back will be easy for you. Why? I’ve helped guys get women back when the women absolutely HATED the guy. So, in your case, it will be pretty simple and straightforward to get another chance with her.
Cheers
Dan
I still live with my ex for financial reasons though we move closer to resolving that daily. We have kids together also. I’m not going to lie, I betrayed her profoundly. She says she doesn’t love me anymore. She clearly doesn’t respect me. Her emotions are still on the negative trend/spiral. Can this work on her?
Also you say there are 7 steps. How long do they take? I assume that is always going to be different. Is it also safe to assume that there is no certainty you CAN progress through the steps?
Hey Jay
Thanks for your question.
An important part of Step 5 of the system is to get her forgiveness and for both of you to be able to leave behind the negative things that have happened in the past and instead begin focussing on your new, rekindled feelings for each other. As for whether you can progress through each of the 7 steps: I have back up plan upon back up plan (in terms that you can say and do) to keep both of you moving through the steps. After coaching clients via phone coaching with these problems for 3+ years, I know that not every case is as straightforward as the next. That is what I include additional techniques and back up plans at each of the points where it typically gets a bit challenging.
As you will see when you watch the program and begin going through the system, this is actually going to make both of you feel so much better. In the section where I explain how to rekindle the relationship, you are going to see that you and her feel closer together than ever before because of the deep level of understanding and love between you. It’s a different approach to communication and love than most guys are used to having with their woman, but you will see that it makes both of you feel how you’ve wanted to feel for a long time.
Cheers
Dan
Hi Dan, will this work for me if my ex girlfriend of 4 months dumped me and i made a lot of mistakes. Then she told me to leave her alone totally ignored me for 2 1/2 years. I thought i had done more than enough damage and had no idea at all of what to do to try and put things right so i thought it was best to leave her alone. After 2 1/2 years she got my attention i text her and we started to text this went on for about 1 1/2 years as she would not talk on the phone or meet up. Now she has gone silent again, we broke up about 4 1/2 years ago now? A mutual friend has told me their has been no one else.
Hey Colin
Thanks for your question.
Of course! 🙂 That’s what it’s designed for. Every guy who is looking to get his ex back has made a bunch of mistakes. What I teach you to say and do will get her to forgive those mistakes and develop new loving and sexual feelings for you. I then teach you how to guide her back into the relationship and deepen the love and connection between you.
Cheers
Dan
Hey Dan, do you think your program will work for getting a girl back for the third time? Obviously it will be more difficult but I hope it’s still possible! Let me know
Hey Gary
Thanks for your question.
I’ve dealt with many cases over the years and most of them have involve serious break ups where it seems impossible to get back together. Yet, the fact is, relationships break up and get back together all time all over the world. Getting back together after a few break ups is actually more common than you think. It’s not the number of break ups that matters, it’s how you make her feel. When she feels certain emotions (that I will teach you how to make her feel and provide you with the techniques to do so), she will naturally reach out and want to see you again. Then, you will use a number of my techniques (don’t worry, it’s easy) to make her want to get back with you and give it another chance. I provide you with exactly what you need to say and do to make it happen. The dialogue and techniques have been tested by 100s of my phone coaching clients before you, so as long as you stick to the basic things I instruct you to say, she will begin to feel like SHE wants to get back together even more than you do. You’ll see what I mean when you watch the program.
Enjoy the rekindled relationship with her and the great times ahead!
Cheers
Dan
Hi Dan,
Will this work for me if I’m on a break from a 4 month relationship? I am currently seeing an old friend and I practically begged her to consider a taking break instead of a break up.
I have done damage by becoming clingy and demanding later in the relationship as well as a fight showing my insecurity. Is it possible to help her see me in an attractive, long-term partner again?
Hey Tom
Thanks for your question.
When you use the techniques in my system, she will actually reach out and want to meet up with you, regardless of the fact that you’re currently taking a break from the relationship at the moment. Then, you simply need to say what I recommend you say and behave in the ways I instruct and demonstrate (e.g. I demonstrate the right body language to use, etc) and she will feel compelled to give the relationship another chance. From there, I provide you with many techniques, insights and lessons about love, relationships, attraction and making the woman want to be with you more than you want to be with her. The way the steps of the system are designed is that oth you and her will experience new feelings for each other and it will feel wrong to not be together, or at least start seeing each other again and giving it a try.
Cheers
Dan
Hi Dan,
I’ll be buying this program in the next couple of days. My girl and I broke up after an arguement. Her reason was she didn’t think she loved me enough to be with me. 11 days later she met a new guy and they have been dating about 4 months now. I haven’t talked to her I’m 2 months and I miss her like crazy. Will your program help me get her back from that other guy and help get that love she once had for me? We were together 4 years.
Hey Yovani
Thanks for your question.
Your situation is also very common. It’s actually pretty simple really. This is the reason she felt she didn’t love you enough: http://www.themodernman.com/videos/the-3-stages-she-went-through-before-breaking-up-with-you.html In your case, you will need to really put the techniques in Steps 2 and 3 of the system into action to make her change her mind. Essentially, I will show you how to get her to think less of the other guy compared to you and to start to feel worried that she’s made a big mistake. From there, you will use my powerful persuasion techniques (don’t worry, it’s simple to do and I explain exactly what to say and do) to get her to want to meet up with you and give things another go. From there, what I teach you will ensure that she develops new, strong feelings for you that she didn’t know she could have.
Enjoy the rekindled relationship with her and the great times ahead!
Cheers
Dan
Hi dan.i dated this girl for 5years and she broke up with me after she slept with her ex.i tried everything to bring her back and made all the mistakes you talk about..I really feel this is meant for me and I am ready to make it work.do u advise the programme for this situation.we hav nt meet for 1year now and we are in different countries.i really lov this girl.
Hey Deli
Thanks for your question.
Of course! That is what the program is about; it’s about getting an ex back. Every guy is going to feel as though his situation is different and it is in certain ways. However, after coaching 100s of guys through this situation and helping them get back with their ex, I have discovered the commonalities between them all.
The truth is, the topic of getting an ex back is very complicated. Hence why my video program is 9 hours, 57 minutes long. However, the solution is simple and universal. That’s the beauty of it. When I first started helping guys get their ex back I thought, “Man, this is going to be difficult because each situation is different,” but I eventually discovered what made his ex start contacting him or at least become open to the meet up. This took a LOT of experimenting with different things to say, ways to make her feel certain emotions, ways to get her forgiveness and so on. Eventually, I knew what would work and began advising every client to do that and THAT is when the success stories started to flood in.
Although the topic is very complex, I have designed the program in a very simple, straightforward, step-by-step way. All you need to do it sit back and watch the program. Most of what I teach you will automatically clear up your issues (e.g. insecurities, worries, bad behavior towards her, etc) and from there, all you need to do is contact her (I explain exactly what to say) and then go through the rest of the system (which I won’t reveal in the comments) until you are back in a loving, sexual relationship with her. It’s a 7 step system and by the 7th step you are back in a relationship with her.
Cheers
Dan
I guess this could be related to the get your ex back system but unfortunately I have no way of purchasing it online at the moment and I need urgent help. There is this women iv been with for quite a while. She is so sweet and I love her so much. Yesterday she broke up with me over a text. At first I was kind of pissed that she would do that to me especially after I ran 15 miles the day before just to be with her for a little bit. She is seeing someone else but doesn’t seem like anything serious yet. We were on some kind of break during the county fair at the time they got together but we still saw each other and were sexual and we were going to get back together after fair. But early in the morning yesterday she texted me saying we were over and a bunch of other stuff that I didnt pay much attention to. Then I made the mistake you said about sort of begging about changing. Later that day I was still pissed and confused, I talked to my brother about it and he just kept telling me all she was doing was using me, then I tried to call her and he wouldnt let me so we got into a fist fight. After that I went to my other house because of the fight so I went on a walk to clear my head. As I was walking I pulled out my phone and read over the messages and got on facebook and saw she posted something saying “Im tired of being strong for everyone… wish you understood how I fell..”, And the text said “DO YOU EVER THINK ABOUT HOW I FEEL? NOT YOU!!!!!!!! Were over Jonah just OVER.” And it all came to me. The last couple of months whenever something had her upset and she needed to talk to someone and would try to talk to me, if it affected me in any way I would either get mad or upset and would look to her to comfort me, like one time she told me her parents were getting divorced and they would probably have to move 1000 miles away I just got upset at her when she was really upset and just needed to talk to someone about how she felt, I just wanted her to try to comfort me. I was wrong, and Ive done this with about just everything thats happend like this in the past few months. I understand why she left me. I tried so hard to make her happy but really all she wanted was someone who would just listen to her, plus she was mad because she thinks I talk about her buisness with other people. I can honestly say that realization opened up my eyes and changed me into the man I was, the man she fell in love with. So this is the urgent part, im riding up to the fair in two days to talk to her about this. I dont know what to say, I want her to know that I actually understand why she did this and that im not that person anymore, I actually changed. I want her back so bad, she used to tell me she wanted to marry me and we went out looking for engagement rings alot, then I change d and messed things up, all I want is another chance but I dont know how to get it. She told me she loved me after that and still wanted to be friends but I want to have the women I love back in my arms and be the man that she loves.
Hey Jonah
Thanks for sharing your story.
Your girlfriend said it all when she said that she was tired of being STRONG for everyone else. In other words, she needs a guy who behaves like a man is stronger than her (mentally and emotionally). If you have insecurities, if you lack confidence or if you’re just not that much of a man yet (mentally and emotionally), she will be turned off by that weakness in you. Women are attracted to the strength in men, not the weakness. Regardless if a woman is 16 or 50, she still wants the guy to be stronger than her. If there are other guys showing her interest who behave like more of a man than you, she will naturally feel attraction for them and be drawn to them.
Another part of your comment that stood for me was this, “…especially after I ran 15 miles the day before just to be with her for a little bit.” Mate, you’re doing it wrong. A woman wants to feel lucky to spend time with YOU. I don’t know where you got the idea that running 15 miles to go and see her would impress her (maybe from a “romantic comedy” movie or a pop song lyric?), but that’s not how to make a woman excited to have you as her boyfriend. Women want to be in the position where they go out of their way to see you; where they do a lot to impress YOU, while you also give her the gift of being a strong, good guy…not an insecure, needy, desperate guy who doesn’t know to be a man.
Cheers
Dan
Thanks Dan, im actually considering this product cause I need some kind of guidance.
Dan!
I finished watching your video program two days ago and boy was it an eye opener! I used your examples of what to say when I called my ex girlfriend (of 6 years) and she said yes to meeting up with me!!!!!! All I was getting from her for the past 6 months was no, no, no, no! And now she said yes! LOL
It’s absolutely brilliant what you are doing here Dan. When I said what you recommend to say she said why haven’t you said that to me before? Why did I have to wait all this time for you to say that to me? And then she said yes of course we can meet up and we’ve set the time for Thursday night.
Thanks a truckload Dan. You are a true gentleman and the care that you show in the videos is very evident of someone who really does understand what we guys are going through.
I am going to push forward and kiss her and have sex with her on Thursday. Wish me luck!
Mack
Hey Mack
Woo hoo! Congratulations on your success so far and thank you for sharing it a comment.
Yes, the examples of what to say to her on the phone took a LOT of testing and tweaking for me to get just right. As you have now experienced, saying what I recommend to say to her actually makes her WANT to forgive you and give you another chance. If she doesn’t forgive you and become open it makes her feel BAD. When you meet up with her Mack, just make sure that you continue using my techniques and saying the things I recommend you say to her. Don’t think you’ve sealed the deal already. Stay focussed, continue using my techniques properly and you will be having sex with her that night or shortly after the meet up.
Enjoy the rekindled relationship with her and the great times ahead!
Cheers
Dan
Whats up Dan
I have a question Me and my ex girlfriend our on good terms enough that she wants to spend some time with me and talk on the phone some times but she does not trust me from the past in our relationship. Idk What Im Doing Now That She Wants To Talk & Hangout sometimes but she is a little flirty at sometime but Now to get her back with her wanting me and to X out any other guy she might be dating Do I Buy Better Then A Bad Boy or Getting Your Ex Back Super System? I Want Both Of Them But I Have The Money to Buy One Right Now So Which One Should I Buy?
Hey Brandon J
Thanks for your question.
If she hasn’t yet broken up with you, I definitely recommend that you watch Better Than a Bad Boy. You will stop the break up before it happens and you’ll get her sexual attraction and respect back. Here’s the link: http://store.themodernman.com/in/2cf8a89
Cheers
Dan
Dan, a short summary of my relationship. fiancee left me on April 16th this year. The after math of the break has been far worse than our 8 years together. We are finally able to talk and be around each other. I am almost always the one to start the conversation or the text. We are both different people now to some degree. Will this work to get her to desire to be with me again, to see me as something more than a friend or ex? I have not been passive in waiting for something to come along to help me out.
Hey Jeremy
Thanks for your question.
You won’t get her back if you’re the one always texting or calling first. What I provide is a 7 step system and by the 7th step you are back with her. During the steps of the system, I give you the techniques and things to say that make her start contacting you and wanting to see you. Getting back together becomes her idea. That is a critical part of the system. If getting back together is a favor to you, then it’s not going to work. You have to make her feel like she wants to and needs to get back with you and that is what I teach you how to do.
So, to answer your question: Yes. If was talking to you in person I would laugh and say, “Of course!” because that is what the program is for. I’ve spent years testing it and developing it with phone coaching clients. Literally more than 100 guys tested the system before I decided to put it into a video program and make it available on The Modern Man. We did the same with our program Dating Power, which is about picking up new women. We coached guys in bars and clubs for more than 3 years and held many seminars (teaching the Dating Power techniques) before we decided to put it into a video program.
Some photos of our early seminars: http://www.themodernman.com/category/galleries/seminars
The journey to create Dating Power: http://www.themodernman.com/the_truth_about_dating_power.html
That’s just how we do things around here. Test, test, test and then when we have been continually getting success stories, we make it into a program for the site. So, when you use the Get Your Ex Back: Super System you will find that it makes total sense and each step of the way just seems to work.
Cheers
Dan
Hey Dan!
I was just wondering if this program would work if you happened to be the rebound guy? The relationship was short term. Thanks, and great work my friend!
Hey John
Thanks for your question.
Yes, rebound guys are a common situation I’ve dealt with. Most guys asking “Will it work for me?” on this page are making the mistake of thinking that their situation is different to everyone else. Believe me, the only thing unique about your situation is you and her. The mistakes you’ve made and what you need to do to get her back is the pretty much the same as everyone else. My system focusses on getting HER to feel certain ways. No matter what the situation or story a guy gives me, it’s always the same approach – he needs to make her feel the required emotions for HER to WANT to get back with him. I will teach you how to make her feel the required emotions, I will teach you what to say to get her to forgive you and I will teach you what to say to get her to meet up with you and have sex with you.
Cheers
Dan
Hey Dan,
My girlfriend broke up with me after five months. Everything was great and then her best friends left town to start med school. She also did not get into med school and the remainder of her friends here did. She has always had a problem getting freaked out when a relationship gets too serious. She told me this several times when she began to act different. We started dating the week after she broke up with a guy she openly did not like and when we broke up she said she should have taken a few months to be single, but she was scared she would lose me. After her friends left and she became distant, she went home for a month. She said that she thought it would help out situation, but the more time she had to think about it, she told me that she wasn’t in a position to treat me the way I deserved. We hangout with the same people and there is no avoiding each other. Can your video help me?
Hi JJ
Thanks for your question.
Yes, the program will help you. You’re making the classic mistake of letting the woman run the relationship. Putting her in that position makes her feel masculine, when she really wants to feel feminine. That is why she is not feeling right about the relationship.
Cheers
Dan
Hey Dan
My ex of 7 years dumped me and we are going into our 5th month of the breakup. I stuffed it up good the 1st month, then we got to a semi communacation level. Then we got to a basic friend level. Tonight however, I stuffed it up really good.I sent a bad text, not cussing her or anything just letting off some steam about not respecting her. To this text she replies ” you haven’t respected my feeling for a long time about being friends, I have tried to tell you many times. That I wasn’t ready to be friends at the level you wanted and it really hurts me because you don’t deserve the lashing out i give you in any way.” then she also says that she has “someone she is interested in” and that would be the last text she would send. It was like breaking up all over again! to come such a long way and to ruin it. I have bought so many other ebooks. None of them have helped. Please Dan can your program help me get back the woman I want to marry? I really want a second chance, your my last shot.
Hi Jay
Thanks for your question.
Yes, my program can help you. You’ve got to focus on making her feel the type of emotions I describe in my program. At the moment, you’re trying to make her feel guilty and take some pity on you. That doesn’t work.
I usually get guys coming to me after they’ve bought the many cheap ebooks out there online. Most of the advice is absolute rubbish written by amateurs who are making up their advice as they go along. I spent years developing, testing and perfecting my system before I made it available in a program on The Modern Man (that’s the way we always do it. All of our programs take years of development), which is why it works and why it is more expensive. Watch this: http://www.themodernman.com/videos/8-reasons-why-you-should-try-my-system.html
To learn more about our programs, watch this: http://www.themodernman.com/success/which-product-is-for-you.html
Cheers
Dan
Hi Dan,
I had this girl and we nearly went out twice. Every time when things are going on well I stuff up. I come up to her as though I am possessive and lacks confidence. Now she is not returning my calls and only calls when she wants to and she sound angry and say we will never be together.
Will your program help me to get her interested in me again.
I am sure she has feelings for me
Hi Joe
Thanks for your question.
You “nearly went out twice” with her? So, you haven’t actually even been on a date with her and she has never been your girlfriend? If that is the case, she is not your ex. This is the program for you: http://www.themodernman.com/videos/the-flow-new-edition.html
Also, watch this video: http://www.themodernman.com/videos/turn-your-female-friend-or-co-worker-into-your-girlfriend.html
Cheers
Dan
Hey dan,
Will this work if me and my ex are basically enemies? I know from my friends that she finds me annoying now and has no respect from me. So i pretend that i don’t care about her and i hate her for the way she treats me now. But before the breakup she was completely in love with me. Its been almost 3 months since we broke up and its been getting worse since. I haven’t talked to her or seen her in 3 weeks.
Hey Cyrilo
Thanks for your question.
Yes, my system is designed to make her feel the emotions that she used to feel AND make her feel stronger, more powerful emotions that literally “shock” her into wanting to see again you quickly. Your situation is pretty common – many women temporarily “hate” their ex while going through a messy break up. However, emotions can be changed and if you approach it right, she will quickly begin feeling all the right emotions that will make her want to see you as quickly as she can. Then, you simply need to use my sex techniques to blow her mind when you next have sex and that will open up the floodgates and the original, loving emotions will begin flowing from her.
Cheers
Dan
I dated a woman for little over a year. She was not happy because I would not change my ways. I’m a loner type and wanted to be with her when I wanted to. She finally had enough and threaten to go back on a dating site during a short break up. We got back together but she went ahead and met someone new and they are together now. She keeps telling me she loves me and misses me but don’t believe I can change. She says that she wants to give this new relationship a chance, and if it doesn’t work out she would give me another chance. I would like her back and would change for myself and her. She tells that no man has been able sexually please her with my hands the way I do and Because of my prostrate cancer well its just not the same for me and her I’m sure in that aspect. Is your system on DVD or only VHS
Hey Paul
Thanks for your question.
I’m just getting around to replying to the backlog of comments now and can see that you’ve already purchased the program. As you would have discovered, it’s neither DVD or VHS, it’s MP4. We don’t send anything via postal mail. It’s all online.
As for your situation: I look forward to hearing about your success!
Cheers
Dan
Ok so here’s my situation and I’m wondering if this would work for me. This is the second time me and my ex have broken up. First time was really harsh but we ended up getting back together just to break up about the same exact time we did the first time. She says all the time she was falling in love with me and I went through her phone and broke her trust and killed that. Though we had tons of great times after that. I had a serious jealousy problem and we kept fighting because of it and the fact she had way more guy friends than girl friends. And well we just kept fighting more and more and officially completely split about two weeks ago and haven’t talked since? What can this do for me?
Hey Ben
Thanks for your question.
In your case, when you follow the advice from my system, she will almost definitely call you (or at least text you) to get things started again. You’ll see why when you watch the program.
BTW: If she doesn’t, just use the Facebook, Phone and Text Message Examples I provide with the program and contact her. She’ll then become open and interested again.
Cheers
Dan
Dan,
You’re products have been a real eye opener man…I realize how much I have been doing wrong! Anyway, here’s my situation, I am a married man of 8 years with two kids to a wondreful women. We have been having problems the past year or so both physical and mental. The sex has dried up and we don’t have meaningful conversatons anymore…they feel forced. Statments have been made on both ends of feeling more like “roomates” and “friends” rather then a healthy married couple. I’ve come close to having an affair and I’m certain she has as well. I do not want to go down the divorce path, but do not want to stay together just for the kids either. I do want us to work out as I still lover her, but things are to the point where I cannot see a way forward. She says she does not feel the same way about me anymore. We are seperated but still living in the house due to financial reasons. I have already purchased Better then a Bad Boy and Modern Relationship and am using the techniques I have watched so far with some success, but will this program help in getting her to realize what our life could be like if we recommit to each other?
Hey Brian
Thanks for your positive feedback and question.
Since you’re still living together and have two children, I’m not sure if you should use this system. You’ll definitely learn a lot about your relationship, what is tearing it apart and what you need to change (in Step 1 & 2 of the system), but since you have children and are all still living together, you might not be able to use the rest of the system (which involves you doing a lot of things without her).
Before getting to that: Have you tried working on improving the intimacy between you? I know, it’s not that easy when you’re deep into a marriage that has problems, but believe me, it makes a world of difference. Do things like:
1. Take some time to stop and relax with each other before going to bed one night. Sit up in the bed, face each other and just look into each others eyes for a minute. When she asks why, tell her, “I want us to have a chance to connect with each other in a relaxed way, without saying anything for a minute.”
2. Give each other a long massage (with oils that you pick out together) for an hour before going to bed.
3. Have a conversation about how you’re feeling about life, the commitment you made to each other and how you could do a better job at it. Then, if she doesn’t say what she could be doing better, ask her if she thinks there is anything she could improve about her approach to the relationship.
Cheers
Dan
Thanks for the advice Dan – just an update to this and I actually posted this under another article. Anyway, I found out my wife had an affair and I did as well to get back at her. Strange thing is that we actually talk more to each other now that some of the walls have come down, communication wise, but she is really messed up over the affair…feeling if guilt, abandonment, ruining our lives, depression, etc. We are currently in counseling so we shall see how that goes, but my concern with your above advice is that I will come off as being overly sensitive and needy (which was a problem previously, but not anymore). I would like to keep us together as she is the women I want to spend the rest of my life with, but I’m having a hard time trying to guide her back not knowing if she wants to or not. Following your advice, I know that it’s my responsibility to do so but I’m just not sure the right way to approach it since the affair complicates everything tremendously and her feelings are still all over the map. Dan, words can’t express how happy I am that I came across your products…they really have helped me during a difficult time in getting my thinking right – not that I’m interested in picking up new women right now, but I purchased and read the Flow which has many other benefits in addition to learning how to approach women – confidence is the key to everything!
Hey Brian
Thanks for your positive feedback and question.
Always remember this: Nothing you do is needy unless you are actually needy.
The techniques suggested in the previous comment will help on a deep level IF you are coming from an emotionally secure place yourself. If you’re not in an emotionally secure place, go through the Get Your Ex Back system and I will guide you through various exercises that will help you let go of any neediness and emotional weakness related to her. You will then be able to be present with her in the moment without needing anything from her (i.e. you won’ the needy). When she feels you coming from an emotionally full place (instead of a secretly or blatantly obvious needy place), anything you do together will feel completely different.
Cheers
Dan
Hey dan, here’s my sittuation :
I met this girl in first night, she just had 2 boyfriends in her whole life and never been with any guy at 1 night stand, she felt something for me! we were 1 month together and it was all good but i used to have some angry atacks, and i couldnt stand one day, then she started ignoring and i said bad things to her. after this she said she wont have anymore interest on me and we would just be friends . i need help !
Hey Dol
Thanks for your comment.
If that’s all there is to your story and problem, then all it will take for you is a simple conversation and she will give you another chance. I provide the exact words to say, body language to use, etc in my Get Your Ex Back Super System. If there is more to your story, then you will need to do a bit of groundwork before that conversation – all of which is explained in the program.
Cheers
Dan
Hi Dan. Do you have a system for women? If not, can you recommend a program that has had great success and can work on unique relationships?
Thanks,
Jen
Hey Jen
Thanks for your question.
Sorry, this is for men only. A number of lesbians have used the system and gotten great results, but it is designed for men who want to get a woman back.
Cheers
Dan
Dan, I read an article about your “Get your EX back”. My questions are; When she stated” I can’t give you want you want’ (after five(5) years together and now being apart for four (4) years. What are my chance of getting her back?? The truth please!!!!!
Hey Mike
Lol @ ” The truth please!!!!!” but I also understand because there is so much BS online about getting an ex back.
Yes, you do have a chance to get her back, but NOT by telling her you want her back, asking her to consider it, etc. You have to make her FEEL very specific emotions that cause her to WANT to be with you again. That is what my system does, step by step. You will NOT be able to get her back if you don’t use my system properly. However, if you follow the steps properly, she WILL meet up with you and you will have a chance to reignite the flame between you. It won’t be the old you going to the meet up – it will be a new and improved version of you, armed with the knowledge of EXACTLY what to say to her to get her to want to kiss you and have sex with you again at least for just one last time.
Cheers
Dan
Hi Dan, I stumbled across you from likely a referral from another one of the many “get your ex back” internet sites. Yes… I have them all. I’ve tried the no contact for so long I’m tired of the no contact. I’ve even done the get over your ex thing… Didn’t work. So here is where I am at: She dumped me in Oct. She entered into a relationship with another guy within days (yep he was likely there before) I didn’t beg or cry or plead or any of that crap. I just let her go. It hurt. Like hell.. Still does. I had shortness of breath this morning just thinking of her. The last thing she sent me was that she was engaged now and selling her house (yes after only like 90 days) Yes, I’ve apparently fell in love with an idiot. I bought a house close to her so i could get out and be with her. I never told her directly that was what it was for. She said that she assumed that I knew about her from FB to which I informed her that I don’t do facebook any more… (after she posted she was in a relationship – but I left that info out.) So… Yes she is in lala land with the rebound relationship and isn’t really talking to me… AT ALL No contact means NO contact. I’m pretty confident.. almost cocky. I just love her and want her in my life. My questions. 1. should I just say screw it and go hang out with the 35 (15 years my younger) girl that “distracts” me and look for a lasting relationship with her or someone else? and 2. does your exback system offer me something different than the other 6 that I own now?
Come on Dan, what do you have for me?
He Dennis
Thanks for your question.
Man, you sound pretty messed up! 🙂 To be honest, you sound a little twisted in how you’re approaching things (e.g. moving closer to her and then lying (if I read your comment correctly) about your reasons for doing so). The fact that you had shortness of breath over her this morning says to me that the 6 stupid programs that you’ve purchased online haven’t helped you ONE bit. The first part of my program is about helping you get rid of that pain, so you can move onto an emotionally attractive state. Obviously, the scam sites that you’ve purchased from (likely cheap ebooks from random idiots) haven’t addressed those issues for you.
Anyway, to cut a long story short: I don’t offer the crap that other sites offer in terms of getting an ex back. Everything that you have done so far to get her back is what I advised AGAINST. Here’s my rants about the BS that other sites offer:
http://www.themodernman.com/videos/why-you-cant-text-your-ex-back.html
http://www.themodernman.com/videos/why-the-no-contact-rule-doesnt-work.html
Also, if this video doesn’t explain why you should get my system instead of the junk from other sites (who aren’t even experts and haven’t even really helped any REAL guys), then don’t worry about it – I can’t help you: http://www.themodernman.com/videos/8-reasons-why-you-should-try-my-system.html
Cheers
Dan
Hey Dan I’ve seen some of your videos and i really need your advice and help. I would really like to talk to you as soon as possible and tell you my story its a very unique situation. time is something i don’t have. I was in a relationship nearly for 2 years with the girl that changed my life and i just lost her for many mistakes I’ve don and i understand her but it kills me just to think in how stupid and ignorant i was in how happy she made. we finished 4 weeks ago and i have less than a month to do things right. i well really appreciate if you contact me as soon as possible.
Hi Kevin
Thanks for your comment.
If you need specific help with your situation, I offer phone coaching here: http://www.themodernman.com/phone_coaching.html
For a step by step system that works for all ex back situations, here is my program: http://store.themodernman.com/products/get_your_ex_back_super_system.html
I can’t contact 100s of guys per day and have e-mail conversations – it’s impossible. That’s why I have phone coaching and a ready-to-use system that has been developed after helping 100s of phone coaching clients to get their ex back.
Cheers
Dan
Hey Dan. I have a confusing situation. My ex and I broke up 8 months ago. We were together 4 years. I left after a stupid fight. I waited a few weeks and tried to get her back. We went on a date, we talked for a few months. She then wanted space and I kept pushing it and always texting and calling. Then I gave up and after two weeks of no contact she started texting me. We were friendly for awhile then just a few months ago it got to where we were talking multiple times a day and she sent me nude pics and talked of possibly hooking up. Now all of a sudden she just doesn’t contact me anymore. It’s been a week. I decided not to contact her because I usually act more happy to talk to her than she does to me. She’s really independent and hasn’t dated since we broke up. This whole break up we have pretty much been in contact. She was never like this with her other exes, and no she has to still feel something or she wouldn’t do this. Please help. I have to have her. Thanks.
Hey Josh
Thanks for your question.
In your case, you just need to get her to meet up with you (explained in my system) and then escalate to sex (all the techniques are provided in the bonus program Ultimate Make Up Sex). When you have sex with her, you must do it really well and blow her mind and that’s what the bonus program will teach you how to do. Additionally, when you are around her, you have to not make all the mistakes that you were making in the past that has been turning her off you. All the instruction, guidance and techniques that you will need to get her back are provided in my system.
Cheers
Dan
I was seeing this girl for a little over a month, and she decided she didn’t want to be more then friends. She said she likes hanging out with me and she “obviously likes me” but she wasn’t sure if she liked me enough to be with me (I’d like to think she was between the point of just being friends and being something more). Its seems like the initial attraction was there, but it died off at some point. I straight up told her that I was attracted to her and didn’t want to be friends because of that fact. I told her I wouldn’t contact her and I wouldn’t try to hangout with her because being friends wasn’t what I wanted (although if she wanted to hangout I would, just wouldn’t go out of my way). She understood, but was disappointed as well.
Will this program help me reverse the effect and get another shot?
You do a great job my friend, keep up the good work! I’d buy this program just for the knowledge!
Hi Ryan
Thanks for your question.
Explaining your attraction and feelings to a woman doesn’t get her back. You have to make her FEEL like she wants you back, by making her feel respect and attraction for you.
For example: As I explain in this video http://www.themodernman.com/sex-advice/how-to-be-sexually-attractive-to-women.html one of the keys to making a woman feel sexually attracted to you is by making her feel girly in response to your masculinity. In she sees you as a friend, then you haven’t been doing that.
About getting her respect back, read this: http://www.themodernman.com/dating/relationships/why-women-lose-respect-for-men.html
About getting my program: Yes, I will show you how to shock her back into feeling respect and attraction for you. My approach to getting an ex back ensures that the woman feels the need to act quickly to get back in contact with you and then, if you follow my advice for what to say on the phone, she will want to meet up with you in person. When you meet up with her in person, simply follow the instructions provided and she will want to give it another shot.
Cheers
Dan
Dan,
I had a relationship with a woman very recently that seemed to be going great. We went on a few dates over a couple weeks and got intimate pretty quickly. Then, almost out of nowhere (I’m sure I did something wrong along the way), she wasn’t interested in seeing me again. She said she doesn’t have time for anything right now but it wasn’t me. I know that’s code for I’m not interested in you.
I am interested in trying to at least get another shot with this woman. Do you think your system would work for me?
Thanks,
Hey Tom
Thanks for your question.
Yes, in your case, there are so many things you could have done wrong to cause that. There are also many things about her that could cause that reaction. I notice that you’ve since purchased the program after leaving this comment. You will have noticed that in Step 1 of the system, all of those reasons and problems will be discussed.
In your case, you need to get to Step 4 and 5 of the system ASAP. If she rejects your attempts to get back together, you need to do a lot of Step 3 and then go through Step 4 & 5 again. I look forward to hearing about your progress or success!
Cheers
Dan
Dan
By Step 3, my ex has started a FB chat little conversation for the first time in almost a year. She’s been showing to me the tattoo she is going to make on herself and… She has asked to meet up with me on Skype! “So, we have to talk, when you can. Tell me when you want to talk in Skype. Kisses”. It is so unexpected that I want to make sure it is genuine and not a ploy from her, I mean, I was about to go to Plan B. And because many times she has ignored me after seemingly being interested. So, I plan to just call her to set up a day using your most basic guideline and will drop and apology once we see eqch other on the screen, due that is been her the one asking for the meet up. I still insecure as if this is for real and will get my phone call ignored, point from which I don’t really know what to do, because I don’t know how would I call her on that, like, if she has told that just for me call her and then getting ignored? How would you take it in case of happening? On Skype, I think I a, going to put focus on your Ultimate Guide to Conversation Product to develop a connection. Do you think that is a good choice? Because as it is LDR, conversation is my primary channel to spark attraction and a closer vibe between us, like starting going into deep rapport. I am also getting the Dating Power, as a set up for Plan B and more of Step 3. As you see I want to prevent any pain and try to put myself into the worst case scenario, in case even if she has brought that up, ahe ends up not confirming or showing interest to meet up. I will call her this week, and if she doesn’t pick it up I’ll go with the basic procedure of Step 4, althought in my case I should go through a more casual variation? Like just texting her? I told her. Okay. When are you back from travel? We meet up when you are back (she didn’t respond but I’ve wanted to think it is nothing wrong and it is assumed that I’ll have to reach out to tell her when I want to talk).
Thanks. Lets see if something can finally start happening.
José
Hey José
Thanks for your message.
Great to hear that you’re making progress and are beginning to reach a more emotionally attractive state.
About her message to you on Skype: The fact that you are wondering what it means and wasting time worrying over it, means that you’re not thinking about her in a way where you are happy with or without her. It doesn’t matter what she means, is trying to do or wants to do. Nothing about what she is doing makes a difference; it’s all about you and what you do. You are the man and have to lead her back into a relationship, regardless of the BS tests she puts you through or the sweet messages she sends to pull at your heart strings.
About when you talk to her on Skype: Yes, use the techniques from UGTC and DP, but make sure you use the most important technique from The Flow about assuming rapport and attraction. Don’t try to get her attracted, just talk to her with the knowledge that she is attracted to you as a result of your confidence, masculinity and improved social intelligence. Make sure you flirt with her and make her feel girly by being very masculine and confident.
BTW: I just checked out your Facebook profile. Nice work! You’ve been hanging around some hotties lately, which will definitely spark up her interest. Looking goooood José! 😀 Keep up the great work!
Cheers
Dan
Hey Dan, this is Michael here. This may or may not be a little different to you, as I see most of the guys that ask you for help seem to be mostly adults and what not. But first off I’m 18 years of age and my ex is 18 and the thing is she just went off to Texas Woman’s University about a week ago. But that’s not the real problem for me. At least not the MAIN problem. Here’s the real issue: this girl and I have been through a lot with one another, we went to the same high school and started our relationship there our junior year. We broke up at the end of junior year but because we loved each other so much we agreed to start over as friends that summer and we would eventually build back up to a relationship whenever we were ready. We talked to each other literally every single day and got back together after the new year came during our final year of high school. It was all good until mid summer we broke up again because we had rushed into the relationship our senior year. And that being said we had agreed to do it the right way this time no matter what (this was all happening in mid-late July of this summer). Well a week after that I try to build up like we said we would, and she put her work and everything else in front of me, making it seem like she never had time for me. I got tired of it and I blocked her on Instagram and said we could only be friends. I even started talking to another girl and had sex with her, but deep down I knew I was wrong and ever since then, til this day I wish I hadn’t done it. I wish that I had just toughed it out and went forward with my ex. Now, she’s in college at TWU as of last Wednesday. And I miss her so much and even though we agreed to be friends I still want to be more than that with her. So out of your honesty, do I have a chance and what program do you recommend because I am at a loss and with all the things you see online about dating and relationship advice I REALLY can’t tell them apart and I NEED the real thing that will tell me what is needed! Can you please help me? PLEASE?
Hey Michael
Thanks for your question.
Unless she has the mindset where she wants to settle down and get married now, she will most-likely feel trapped by your relationship and want to be free to do what she wants for now. This is a big problem for modern guys because in the past, a man and a woman would wait until marriage to lose their virginity. It was usually a case of marrying the first person you had a relationship with.
Now that she’s at TWU, she would be surrounded by other girls who are talking about all the different guys they’ve been having sex with. If she is trying to get over the break up, there would be girls telling her to move on and that there are “plenty of other fish in the sea.” 100 years ago, that would not have happened.
In your case, you can get another chance with her, but if you go about it in the wrong way (most of the advice online is wrong) you will definitely push her away further. My system comes with a Plan A and Plan B attack. You should be able to get another chance with her by using Plan A, but if not, you will need to go to Plan B. I can’t reveal what that is here, but it works.
Get this program if you want to get her back: http://store.themodernman.com/get_your_ex_back_super_system.html
Read my book if you want to start hooking up with many new women instead: http://store.themodernman.com/the_flow.html
Cheers
Dan
Hey Dan, firstly thanks for the confidence you gave me when I bought and read your super system since last week. It helps a lot since I broke up with my ex a month ago and I still got this “panic attack” every moment I think about her. I read your materials again and again and I would like to share my story and ask you some questions:
(1) My 1 year 3 months relationship with my ex girlfriend hit a rough road after our 1st year anniversary. She got a bit cold on me and we had been going on lesser and lesser dates until the breakup. She said she just don’t feel like going out with me anymore and we just lost the “spark” (I admit that our dates have been boring lately only after reading your materials). I am preparing to do the 3rd step of your system but I was wondering how to go about it if my ex block me on facebook? We are still facebook friends but I suspect she block me so as to prevent seeing my posted pictures instead.
(2) Is it possible to “seal the deal” at the 1st meet up? If not how long will it takes? I was hoping that it will be as short as possible as I am still having “panic attacks” even though I moved on and correct my mistakes and it is driving me insane!!! I am also starting to worry as I saw other guys hanging out with her on facebook as well.
(3) Is there anyway to “seal the deal” without having involved sex? Both me and her stayed with our parents and she is VERY determine to have sex only after marriage. I don’t mind her idea towards it but is there any other ways to make up our relationship without any sex involved?
(4) Lastly my relationship with my ex has been smooth and sweet until our 1st anniversary. We rarely argue and love each other very much before. The whole relationship was then broken off by a single text message. Is it a good sign that we can still be together by just using your system? Will it also provide me a even longer relationship than the last?
Thanks again for the help and hope to hear from you soon 🙂
Cheers!
Hi Kevin
Thanks for your questions.
Just catching up on the huge backlog of comments across the site (I have 300+ to answer in the next few days). Sorry for the delay in replying, but I just can’t keep up with all the comments across the site these days.
I just went and had a look at your Facebook and you have been doing the OPPOSITE of what I explain to do in the program!! 😀 What the? :/
Having a look through your Facebook profile, I can see that you’re a young guy who hasn’t yet embraced the idea of being a masculine guy. To be candid, you look a bit too soft and gentle. Remember: There is nothing wrong with being a good, nice guy (I am one), but you also have to have some balls. Being a soft, gentle guy isn’t what makes a woman feel attracted to you.
A big part of a feminine woman’s attraction to a guy is his masculinity. Based on what you’ve explained in the comment, it appears that you and her were more like nice friends the entire time, rather than you being the man (or the mentally and emotionally strong guy) and her being your woman.
You don’t need to have sex with a woman to make her feel that way. Most of a woman’s attraction to a guy’s masculinity is in how he thinks, behaves and takes action in life, around her and around others (especially around confident guys).
What you need to do is focus on learning how to make her feel attracted to you by becoming a stronger man, mentally and emotionally. You also need to flirt with her and make her feel girly in your presence, rather than being neutral around her or too nice.
Buying her flowers is NOT the way to get her back and I never, ever suggest that sort of thing in my program. You have to focus on making her feel the emotions I describe in the program. It might be useful for you to watch the entire program again because you will likely understand it a lot more now that you’ve had the time to think about it and grow as a guy.
Cheers
Dan
Hi dan me and my wife had a bad break up she said she has no feelings for me and wants to have a new relationship without any bad memories she seems dead certain on having a divorce I made all the big mistakes after the break up I just need to know is there any way back for me
Hey Matthew
Thanks for your comment.
I’m just catching up on old comments now. Your one has been sitting there for 2.5 months and I noticed that your email address looked familiar, so I looked you up and found that you’ve already emailed me recently with this success story:
“Hi dan 5 months after me and my wife broke up we are now back together and so happy , I’ll be honest with you I thought after I went through your programmes that they would be of no use to me I couldn’t have been more wrong , certain parts of the programme i couldn’t reeally use but the majority was so helpful , it got me in the right mindset and helped me through the toughest part of the break up and showed me how to be a man that my wife would want and in all fairness it just felt natural to be this way so many many thanks to you and the team at modern man because without you it would have been impossible for me to get my wife back in my arms so if any of you guys are in liverpool England any time don’t hesitate to contact me because I would like to take you guys out for a drink again thank you thank you thank you you don’t realise how much you have helped me I am eternally greatful thanks again from the happiest man in Liverpool Matty PS thank you again”
Congrats on getting your wife back. It is men like you that make me want to work even harder to get the message out there. Love doesn’t die! You can rekindle the love. It really is possible and quite easy when approached properly.
I am honored to have been able to help to you.
Cheers
Dan
Hi dan I didn’t give much detail in that last post so I’ll give a brief of her here. She was very jealous of other girls getting my attention as iv seen in some posts it mentions pimping your face book page with u and other women I think this would push her further away are there other methods without in your program without using women in any way
Hey Matthew
Thanks for your question.
To be clear: My program is NOT about hooking up with other women. It is about getting your ex back, not hooking up with new women. Let me make that clear.
The majority of guys who get my program get their ex back without having to involve other women at all. In cases like yours, I advise against involving any other women, so don’t worry – I know where you are coming from. I’ve dealt with 100s of cases like yours. I get it.
Cheers
Dan
Hi dan, i just recently break up with my girlfriend. After a week i learn that she been cheating with one of my best friend. Even though i still love her but will it possible for me to get my ex back ? Or sould i just let her go ?
Hey Tom
That’s a decision that you need to make. If you want her back after she has cheated on you, then make sure that you avoid these mistakes:
http://www.themodernman.com/blog/how-to-get-your-ex-girlfriend-back-when-she-has-moved-on.html
Cheers
Dan
Hi Dan, i have a question
My ex dosent want to talk to me anymore, and she lives really far away from me… Like in another country, we used to have a long distance relation for 4 years, and now is done. I really love her and i want to get her back, but after begging and crying and send her alot fo hate messages i don’t know what to do. its been 5 months since we broke up. She told me many times that she loves me, but she dosent feel right to have a relation with me… I’m still have hope? i don’t know what to do.
Hey Ron
Here’s what you can do about the begging and pleading:
http://www.themodernman.com/blog/how-to-get-your-ex-back-after-begging-and-pleading.html
About the long distance part of your problem:
http://www.themodernman.com/relationship/is-my-long-distance-relationship-working.html
To get her back, you would need to go and visit her and show her the new, improved version of you:
http://www.themodernman.com/blog/how-to-impress-your-ex.html
Cheers
Dan
Hi Dan,
My girlfriend has recently said that she “wants to move on,” “just needs some space,” wants me to leave her alone, and wants to be separated and not be exclusive anymore, all at different times within the past two or three weeks, so essentially it seems we’re broken up, although I think we could definitely be more “broken up” so to speak. She just seems to express doubt to me that we’ll ever fix the problems that we have in our relationship, or that maybe we will and just need time, and she has said that she “just wants to try something different,” but we really haven’t been talking much in the past few weeks at all.
So in searching the internet, I found this website, but I have a problem. We’re both college students and since it’s only the last day of May and I won’t be able to see her again until September, besides if I traveled the 4 or 5 hours to visit her, I’m wondering if this program would really even work for me. I’ve seen that you say that in texting her you have to get her on the phone to feel your confidence coming through your voice and then arrange a meet up, but because we live so far and to actually see her I would have to stay at her parents’ house with her, this isn’t something that’s actually very feasible.
Since we’re so far apart it definitely makes it easier for her to just say that she needs time, or doesn’t want to be involved with me because she just doesn’t really have to see me or think about me much until September (three months from now). She had said that “this is her summer,” too. I’ve expressed doubt in our relationship before and I guess I was having a bit of an internal crisis as to what I really want these past couple months and thinking about some old flame all the way back in high school that I’ve since basically moved on completely from, so I kind of understand where she’s coming from here and I kind of messed up (and so I’m taking this time to try reevaluate and think about a lot of things in my life) I think she’s probably just sick of my wavering and we’ve had some problems in the past, which I’m really starting to see are a lot of dumb things I did, and maybe even how our relationship started or just how young and inexperienced we were may have been contributing to the problems also. But, in thinking about all of this, I think that if we really started fresh we could be really good together again.
She was always very loving and really understood me, but we had problems sometimes, and sometimes I didn’t care about her as much as I really should have. She’s not one to immediately run off with another guy, or to cheat or anything like that, but the fact that I really probably won’t be able to see her for another 3 months is a little worrying. I’d rather not get back to college and find out she’s been dating some guy for a month or something. So essentially I’m asking, will this program work to her back given my circumstances?
Thanks,
George
Hey George
Thanks for your question.
If she is going away for 3 months, you won’t be able to see her and she is saying that this will be “her summer,” then she is going to have sex with other guys. No doubt about it.
In your case, it sounds like you need to get to work on understanding more about how to deepen a girl’s love, respect and attraction for you in a relationship. See: http://store.themodernman.com/the_modern_relationship.html
She is going to be sleeping with other guys over the summer, so you will need to get some action with some new women too, otherwise you will feel like crap when she gets back to college.
Alternatively, if you think you could go and stay at her parent’s place over the summer, then yes – get my program Get Your Ex Back: Super System http://store.themodernman.com/get_your_ex_back_super_system.html and begin implementing the steps immediately.
Cheers
Dan
Hi dan..my wife and I have been separated almost four months abd she thinks we should move on but say she still thinks of the good times we had and said there may be hope for us in the future. But we have a son together and we are 25 and have been together for seven years…I got depressed for a long time and was the one who screwed it up.
Im in therapy and have been wo rking out and reading to become physically and intellectually better and she still says she doesn’t feel like we can make it. But I love her deeply and want her back. She has been chatting with some one else now but still excepts dinner out with me some times. So naturaly I feel like something is there still….what can I do..and will your system work for me?
Hey Joshua
Thanks for your question.
In your case, what you really need to focus on is improving your ability to make her feel respect and attraction for you as a man. She obviously cares about you and it’s great that she is still willing to meet up, but no real progress will be made unless you are triggering her feelings of respect and sexual attraction for you. My program will teach you how to do that.
BTW: I’ve dealt with much worse sounding cases that your one and the couples have gotten back together. It’s not always possible to get an ex back, but what I can absolutely guarantee is that you will be able to make her feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for you. When that happens, a woman will then become open to getting back together and I include techniques, examples of what to say and do that help ensure it happens.
If you are ready to get started, here is the link to the program for you: http://store.themodernman.com/get_your_ex_back_super_system.html
Cheers
Dan
Hi Dan, I would like to know if this can help me? My ex girlfriend and I have a huge fight and 6 days after I haven’t heard from her, later I know she’s seeing another guy. I tried to approach for the first time august 3 but she rejected me and said she needed some space. I said that I will respect her but gave her letter and present as a peace offering. August 11, I’ve waited to there house and bought some flowers, followed some of your articles on how to properly apologize & forgiveness(not begging/cry, show respect, & etc.) but she is so angry to death I even have a chance to finish of what I have prepared to say. After I leave at there house she called me and asked for forgiveness for her actions. She said that give her 1 day for her to think but until now she’s not contacting me. I tried to text her last night about she said and also text her that I have learned and improved myself. Now, I have looked at her facebook account and they are so sweet with her new guy. By the way, she blocked me from my personal facebook account and I only access my second account to view her profile. This is the 3rd time we broke up and this time I don’t know what to do. Please help and guide me? I am an asian guy. I am planning to buy this one after I got the paypal account online.
Hey Harbix
Thanks for your question.
Now that she has blocked you from Facebook, it’s a clear sign that she’s going to try to move on without you. You can get her to unblock you (I provide text message examples in my program that you can send to get an ex to unblock you, as well as some other techniques that I can’t reveal here).
If she already has a new guy, then you will need to go through the full, 7 steps of my program to get another chance with her. You’re not going to get another chance or get her to break up with the guy just by apologizing for your mistakes – that’s not how it works.
Here’s the link to my program: http://store.themodernman.com/get_your_ex_back_super_system.html
I look forward to helping you get another chance with her!
Cheers
Dan
hi Dan
i just wont to tell you in a short way about my situation with my wife.
have been married over 10 years have 6 year old daughter.
my wife and i went through good and bed together , but last year she got very suddenly depressed changed towards me and told me that she wonted to move out and live without me. had arguments and i decided to move to my mothers for few weeks , started learning what went wrong and how i could change it , have to be honest that i did heart her feeling few times over the years (no cheating). so about few weeks later we agreed to go to marriage counselling . and after that we agreed that we cold try live together but she was keep saying that she does not have feeling towards me and will try her best . so we went like this for 3 month . in July she was going on holidays with my daughter which was planed last year . so about 1 week before departure she giving me more and more cold emotions when i was trying to comfort her and said that why don’t i understand that does not love me that nothing are not changing and when she will come back in the end of September we need to separate.
since then i do not contact her much only when i need to talk to my daughter. it’s been around 4 weeks.
have not given up
trying to change situation here before she comes beck from holidays. working on my self , and trying to be positive and planing different approach.
your advice would be appropriated greatly
thank you
George
Hey George
Sorry to hear about your situation. It definitely sounds like she’s no longer feeling enough respect, attraction and love for you to justify keeping the marriage alive.
The program for you is Better Than a Bad Boy: http://store.themodernman.com/better_than_a_bad_boy.html It will provide you with examples of how to think, feel, behave and take action in a way that gets her to feel respect and attraction for you again. When she sees the changes in you, she will naturally begin to feel differently about giving the marriage another chance.
These two article should also help you:
http://www.themodernman.com/relationship/how-to-fix-a-relationship.html
http://www.themodernman.com/dating/relationships/why-women-lose-respect-for-men.html
Cheers
Dan
Hello, I was in almost four year relationship with this girl, it has been a month that she dumped me. I want her back in my life and marry her. We contacted often on during those contacts she is checked up on me. We contacted off and on during that time. I will be honest, I have begged and pleaded to her and it made it bad. I also have even taken her food at our apt. she did appreciate it but has told me to stop buying her things. I am currently using a different program but won’t say which on. Can you please help me.
Hey Daniel
Yes, I can help you.
My approach to getting an ex back is about actively making her have feelings for you again (e.g. respect, attraction and love).
If you want to learn how to do that, get started now: http://store.themodernman.com/get_your_ex_back_super_system.html
Cheers
Dan
Ok so there is this woman. She is smart, beautiful, funny, and extremely educated. We meet exchange numbers and she ends up leaving the next week to the east coast for four months. This doesn’t bother me because I am also going out of the country to study for the semester. We talk nearly every day and laugh and joke. There is a definite attraction there. Upon arriving stateside we end up meeting up. I was going to school in the southern part of the state however we made plans to see each other as much as possible. This didn’t bother her because she had a huge certification exam coming up that she needed to study for. Summer rolls around and everything is great, the sex is amazing, we enjoy each other’s corks and she is really into me. We exchange new firsts all of the time. She starts working at a non-profit during the summer and she is finally ready to site in where she wants to live and start her career. She knows I am leaving for the east coast for about half a year.
About a week before I leave I start to receive numerous texts that seems as if she is being evasive and sending texts like I am just really confused right now and I cannot talk to you about it because it is about you. When I drive up to see her about a week later she sends me the dreaded words, “We have to talk”. She breaks down in terms and says that she has been waiting a year for me to take the next step. I know I hurt her, we would go out and people would ask how long we have been married/dating and I would quickly correct them. This was not meant but was instinctive. I told her I did not want kids while I was in the military and she wants a family now. She also told her a very detailed story about her personal life and was so infuriated and felt so hopeless and so pissed that I couldn’t help her. My blood boiled and I had to turn on the TV to collect myself. I tell her I would never want her to sacrifice her career for me. I couldn’t live with that.
There were clear signs I missed such as when we were in LA and were just talking in the car because we didn’t want to wake her friends. She looked at me and told me she had not believed in love in a really long time and that she had been single for four years waiting for a chance. I just kiss her and bring her in tight. I never told her I loved her.
When she stopped by my house and essentially gave me the break up spiel she is in tears. I drive cross-country for work and I see via social media that she has been sent flowers, lovely red roses with baby’s breath. I end up finding out from her friend that she is seeing someone and end calling her about a week later and pour my heart out to her. Needless to say it did not work. I know this was the worst thing I could have done but I felt for my own psyche that I had to do it. I tell her I want kids, and what my vision of that is. I tell her I know she is breaking it off and I at this point I am just trying to keep her on the phone. I sound desperate as hell and am in tears. I texted her once and end up sending her favorite super hero’s coffee mug. And state that I am not trying to make her feeling uncomfortable and that I don’t want to lose a friend (Shouldn’t have said that either, I know). I end up finding out that not only does this guy have the same name as me, (same spelling too) but also he is also in the military and he has already introduced her to his parents and they have all friended each other on Facebook.
After much reflection she broke down the wall that I had been constructing for years. Both of us were in love with each other and both of us fearing rejection never said it to each. We both admitted to feeling it during my emotional pour out session but once again it didn’t help I was doing this from 3000 miles away and on a cell phone. I realize now that I do in fact want children and I want to be married. More importantly I want this woman. She has her flaws yes, but then again we all do. The flaws do not bother me. I actually enjoy them. I would be lying if I said that I was thrilled that she is seeing someone else, but then again I did not give her the affection that she needed. I am more mad at myself because I not only felt this way but never told her. I know there were moments like the intimate story and in LA that were opportunities I never took and that are what I am most mad at. I know this now. I wanted to give the affection that she deserves, I was just fearful of being rejected from her.
-When I was in my desperation feelings pour-out session, she said she doesn’t ever think she could be as invested as she was before.
-She has great character and asked to respect the fact she is seeing someone and that she didn’t disrespect me so she won’t disrespect him and if I expect anything more than a friend she can’t and honestly won’t give me that
-I just found out that she has a boyfriend now. He has the same name as I do. Same profession, and is about my height/weight.
Can I still win this?
Hey Trying
Of course you can get her back. Love that deep does not die. It simply gets pushed into the background. There’s no doubt in my mind that you could rekindle with her.
Now that she has a boyfriend, you need to ensure that you follow a plan and get her back. Start here: http://www.themodernman.com/blog/how-to-get-your-ex-girlfriend-back-when-she-has-moved-on.html
Hey Dan, my ex thinks I stalked her one day. I ran into her twice that day, in combination with texting her too much that night to find out what she was doing – just cause I wanted to know cause I was sad and wanted to see what she was up to. I recently found out though that she put all that together to think I was following her all day and wanted to follow her at night too. Apparently her friends stopped liking me cause of that too.
Everyone tells me I am screwed and will never convince her different, meaning she’ll never talk me back cause of that. Will this help fix that? We went out for 3 months before and have been broken up one month.
Hey Luis
If you weren’t stalking her, you need to laugh that off as her being silly and over-reacting. If you were stalking her, you need to say that you simply tried to meet up with her to see if you and her could talk, but stopped doing that after one day.
Can my system help you get her back? Of course. I developed the system by helping phone coaching clients to get women back. I’ve dealt with much worse cases than yours and the guy got her back.
I look forward to helping you get her back. Get started here: http://store.themodernman.com/get_your_ex_back_super_system.html
Cheers
Dan
Hi Dan, i have been married to my wife for a little over 10 years. We have adopted 3 wonderful children and in May her sister was killed in a auto accident and we got custudy of her nephew. She recently told me she wanted space and she was un happy. Then a week later said divorce. She said over the years i was not comitted enough, didnt help enough, and said i was verbaly abbusive. By that she was meaning she thought she wasnt good enough for me because i asked her to wear sexy clothes etc. but that is ge farthest from the truth. I love her more than anything. She says i did not give her the space she asked for. And yes i am guilty i kept texting her because i thought she needed to know how i felt. She will not respond to anything i say. She will only give me direct awnsers about the kids or ask about them when i have them. I have tried to go to counseling with our preacher and she refuses and recently he told me to talk to someone else so that she can talk to hom when she is ready. I am pretty sure their is another guy in the picture. This is killing me and here is nothing i can do or say to change her mind. I keep driving her further away. Is there hope for me? I cant sleep and i dont live around any family or friends so i have no one to go to because over the years i just focused on my family. Please help me! I spend my days praying to God! I know he can work miracles and thru him all things are possible!
thanks,
Darrell
Hey Darrell
Sorry to hear about the pending divorce. I can only imagine how bad it would feel to be losing the wife that you’ve dedicated the last 10 years to.
You said that you’ve been praying for a miracle. Well, you’ve found it. If you are willing to follow the steps in my program, I can guarantee that she will meet up with you and you will be able to get her to forgive you and feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for you.
To get her back may take a few weeks or more (depending on how quickly you begin to use my techniques), but I’ve heard back from many men who’ve gotten a wife back in much worse situations that yours.
I look forward to helping you get her back. Here are some articles to help you:
http://www.themodernman.com/blog/my-wife-wants-a-divorce-and-i-dont.html
http://www.themodernman.com/blog/get-your-ex-wife-back-after-a-divorce.html
http://www.themodernman.com/blog/how-to-get-my-wife-back-after-separation.html
If you are ready to watch my program and begin following the steps to get her back, get started here: http://store.themodernman.com/get_your_ex_back_super_system.html
Cheers
Dan
Hey Dan ive been watching your videos on how to get my ex back, im 19 shes 20, we have been best friends since we were young, we have always liked each other an never said anything, until recently we were going out an i just fell inlove with her so fast, i just lost who i was, an became very over protective an jealous I became very clingy and needy and I barely noticed it until we broke up I thought by telling her all these things and how much I loved her and by texting her all these long messages I could make her fall in love with me even more but it seems that she just started to push me away more and more now when she broke broke up with me she said she didn’t love me anymore and she said she didn’t want to talk to me anymore the thing that crushes me the most is that she was a virgin and that’s what I’m looking for she is model status if you know what I’m talking about very hot and sexy and so am I I am very good with women but I seem to have lost my way I have already spoken to her and I have already arranged a meet up she told me she would let me know when she was ready to meet up but the way she told me doesn’t really convince me that she is going to let me know I need help on what to say to her to actually get her to meet me and what to say when I am finally there and we’re talking now how do I get her to feel attracted to me again. she used to tell me how much you love me and how much you care for me and how much you wanted to be with me I just want things to go back to how they were
Hey Marc
Okay, here’s what you need to do:
1. You need to follow the steps of the program. I just checked your profile on Facebook and there is a profile photo of a dog with a sad face and your cover photo is a blurry photo of a light (both photos are from last year – most-likely when she broke up with you).
2. Improve your understanding of how to make a woman feel respect and attraction for you:
http://www.themodernman.com/blog/how-to-stop-my-girlfriend-from-breaking-up-with-me.html
http://www.themodernman.com/blog/why-did-my-girlfriend-leave-me.html
http://www.themodernman.com/blog/what-to-do-when-your-girlfriend-stops-loving-you.html
http://www.themodernman.com/blog/what-do-women-find-sexually-appealing.html
http://www.themodernman.com/blog/what-do-happy-couples-do.html
Until you start to change, you can’t expect her to change how she feels about you. If you apologize and ask her to forgive you, how is she going to take you seriously if you’re still the same old you? You’ve got to start putting in the effort to change and improve.
Cheers
Dan
Hi Dan! where do I begin? Like many of you guys I have been watching all your “how to get your ex back” videos and these things should work and have been working till a certain point, but now I feel I should move on and give up on her because Im running out of cards. I will try to keep the story short: She is my co-worker and 19years old (Im 22 btw) we hooked up at our companys little christmas party and it was instant attraction/love. We had sex on the first date whatsoever and after 4-5 dates we decided to go for an relationship, it held for 1,5months.
Under this time she gave me hints on commitment fear/issues etc. One week before the actual breakup I went out with my friends and she got mad about it… her comment was “you should not drink that much, I have seen what it can lead to”. It was pretty intresting to hear because I dont drink so much… Well next day she went to a houseparty with her sister even though we had decided to spend the weekend together. At that night she calls me and wants me to come over, at this point she had leaved the party. I went to her mothersplace where she is sleeping and everything went good until the evening. she started to get cold and anxious and did not want say whats wrong. One week did go and she even spent one night at my place until she just wanted to leave and later sent a message where she wanted to breakup. Reasons were: too much pressure when people know about us, I have commitment issues and its not because of you… She did mention every classic reason for the breakup haha.
Now to were I tried to get her back: So I did the “no contact rule” for one week (which you dont prefer) and she sent messages to me under this time and I ignored them. I was out with my friends and had a couple of girls with us and of course my “ex” were at the same club and hooked up with an other dude… That destroyed me… but I didnt do anything because I wanted to follow the no contact rule. So next day I sent her a message where I did mention about that club incident and say well yeah lets be friends etc. she was sorry about it that she did that to me and said she cant remember it… Texting back and forth for a week with these classic reminders of how fun we had and then we decided to meet up and have a couple of beers. At the “date” I kissed her and she didnt reject me however she sent me and angry message later that eve (friends does not kiss etc). I asked her out for dinner later that week and it went very well. I did say that I have been thinking of her and we kissed a lot… we could even had sex… but for some reason it did go all the way… We decided to date others and have a open relationship. It worked for 2weeks and got a message once again (I dont want to hurt you, this anxiousy is too much and I cant have a relationship now). So Dan now I need your help. I know the things I did wrong and I have changed but she does not see it for some reason or she is not even trying to. So maybe Im still a little bit needy and the attraction is not strong enough ? Please help me 😀
Cheers,
Jay
Hey Jay
Thanks for your comment.
This is one of 100s of examples that have been e-mailed me to me or commented somewhere on my site or Youtube channel where guys use the No Contact Rule and think that it is working (i.e. she contacts), but it doesn’t get the relationship back together.
Why?
Simple.
When getting a woman back, you shouldn’t be playing games with her and ignoring her messages or passing up on opportunities to attract her in person.
Why?
If you met up with her when she contacted you (the most amount of space I recommend is 3-7 days, which is what worked for you. Unfortunately, you ignored her further and wanted to follow that random number of “ignore her for 30-60 days” you were told by other people online. Believe me, it makes me just as sad as it makes you that people are telling guys to ignore women for a 30-60 days like it is the ultimate solution to getting an ex back), you would have then been able to hook up with her, get her respect and attraction back and start a new relationship.
If you want my help Jay, I recommend that you watch my program, Get Your Ex Back: Super System. I explain how to create a NEW relationship dynamic that has no games or BS and where she respects you and looks up to you as her man.
I honestly feel sorry for you mate. Hearing from guys like you only makes me more determined to publish loads more videos to Youtube, to hopefully save guys from using the dumbass No Contact Rule that random Youtubers (who are NOT successful with women in their own life) push in their videos.
I don’t know if you are aware of my story, but I’ve had sex with more than 250 women and experienced years of women asking ME to marry them. I then accepted a proposal from my now wife (she was 20 when we met and I was 35) and I’m in a happy, successful marriage with her.
In other words, I know how to make women want me and then fall madly in love with me and believe me, it has nothing to do with ignoring them. It’s all about ATTRACTION.
If you don’t know how to re-attract your ex, don’t even bother trying to get her back.
The Youtubers who post up videos about No Contact are only giving that as a solution because they don’t know how to re-attract a woman.
Cheers
Dan
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P.S. I am closing the comments now! 😀 If you need help to get her back, please watch the Get Your Ex Back: Super System program, watch my free videos on Youtube or click around my blog for free tips and tricks on how to get her back.