When a woman loses respect for you as her man, she will then begin to feel less attraction for you and when that happens, she will gradually begin to fall out of love with you.
Maintaining a woman’s respect is essentially about being a strong, honest man that she can look up to, rather than a wimpy, unreliable man that she looks down on.
Things like cooperation, kindness, communication, respect of her feelings, compromise, truly loving and accepting her for who she is and giving her your full trust are also elements that ensure she will continue to feel respect for you as a man.
The Start of a Relationship is the Easy Part
When a relationship begins, most men are on their best behavior because they want to have sex with the woman and then get into a relationship with her.
Yet, after a while, some men slip into taking the woman for granted.
They assume that because things felt great at the start, the woman will be willing to stick around even when things turn bad. However, today’s women don’t need men like they once did and will happily break up with a guy if the relationship doesn’t feel right.
In the past, a woman had to stick by her man for life because it was shameful to break up or divorce.
Keeping a relationship together in today’s world requires a man to actually know how to deepen the love, respect and attraction that a woman feels for him over time. If he can’t do that, the relationship will almost always fall apart eventually (or very quickly).
Starting a relationship with a modern woman is the easy part because they are much more open to having sex and seeing where it goes.
The more challenging part for most guys is being able to keep the relationship together by deepening the woman’s love, respect and attraction over time.
Here are 7 common mistakes that cause a woman to lose respect for her man and begin to question whether or not she wants to be in a relationship with him anymore…
1. Being Bossy Around Her, But Submissive Around Other Men
Most (not all) women are naturally more submissive than men and when in a relationship with a man, most women want the man to “wear the pants” and be the leader of the relationship.
Being the “leader” doesn’t mean bossing her around like she is some sort of servant or employee. Instead, it means that you are the one who takes on the responsibility of being the leader, especially when times get tough or when you face a challenging situation.
Being the leader in a relationship doesn’t meant that you have to lead everything or do all the work. Most women are intelligent and perfectly capable of taking the lead and you should allow your woman to lead sometimes, but in most cases, women simply prefer the man to take charge and lead the way.
Why do women prefer that? It allows them to relax into being a woman, instead of being forced to act like the man in the relationship.
A lot of guys lose the respect of their woman by being very bossy at home, but then being shy and submissive around other men in public. When a woman sees that her man is bossy around her, but submits around other people in social situations, she will begin to question whether or not she should be following his lead.
Whether he’s talking to other men at a party or to a shop attendant in a store, the woman is watching to see if he acts submissively and places other men above him in terms of dominance. If he bosses her around at home, but then lets most (if not all) guys boss him around outside of the home, she will lose respect for him and won’t want to “follow his orders at home.
2. Being Too Suspicious and Protective
It’s fine to be a bit protective of your woman to show that you care. However, if you are overly suspicious or protective due to insecurity (i.e. you’re worried that she will cheat on you), it will cause her to lose respect for you.
A woman wants to know that you care about her, love her and want her in your life, but that you would also be absolutely fine without her. She doesn’t want to feel as though you need her for your emotional stability and that she has to be stick with you because you’re afraid of losing her.
Whether she is legitimately working with a male co-worker on a project, going to the movies with friends or doing some shopping, some guys find it almost impossible to trust their woman unless they are with her. In an effort to control his woman, a man stay in constant contact with her to find out where she is and what she is doing at all times.
Women are attracted to the strength in men and turned off by the weakness, so when a woman senses a man’s insecurity like that, she begins to lose attraction and respect for him on a fundamental level.
A woman doesn’t want to lose respect and attraction for you when in a relationship.
She wants you to remain confident and not ruin her feelings. If you do ruin her feelings, she wants you to fix it so you and her can go back to being in love.
3. Hiding From Your True Potential as a Man
What are your biggest ambitions in life? Are you following through on them fearlessly and with unrelenting determination?
The most respected men in the world are through who know what they want from life and go after it will unrelenting determination. When a man gets into a relationship with a woman, he will often make the mistake of hiding from his true potential as a man behind the relationship.
Instead of rising through the levels of his true potential as a man, he will waste time on unnecessary thing to fill up his free time so he doesn’t have to face his fears.
If a woman can see that a man is hiding from his potential due to fear, then she will gradually begin to lose respect for him. If this goes on for a long time, she will lose attraction for him and then begin to fall out of love with him.
A big part of being what women refer to as a real man is having purpose in life and following through on it until you are successful. You don’t have to be successful right now, but you do have to be on your way to success.
If you want to be the sort of man that is not only respected by your woman, but by almost everyone around you, start pushing forward towards your biggest ambitions and goals in life…and don’t give up until you achieve them, or at least achieve something very similar within the same industry, field or area.
4. Whining About Life Like a Victim
For a variety of reasons, a man might find that his life plans are suddenly in jeopardy (e.g. he loses his job, his investments lose a lot of value, he gets caught up in heated disagreements with family or friends, etc.).
It’s completely fine for a man to talk about his problems if life gets too tough or challenging for him to face on his own. However, if he whines and complains about life like a victim when talking to her, without looking for solutions to the problems that he is facing, a woman’s respect for him will begin to fade.
A woman wants to be able to see that no matter what life throws as your way, you remain strong like a man and push for a solution to any problem you face. She doesn’t want to hear you complaining and saying that life is too hard; she wants you to deal with the problem and move towards a solution.
We men are expected to be strong (mentally and emotionally), so when you display weakness to a woman, she will find it difficult to see you as a real man. She might love you, care about you and even like you as a person, but when your woman loses enough respect for you, her attraction for you will also begin to fade.
If a problem needs fixing in your life, you need be a man about it by making a firm decision on what you’re going to do and then acting on that decision.
As a friend said to me the other night when talking about this subject, “It’s not what happens to you in life; it’s how you deal with it…that’s what determines how your life plays out.
If you behave like a victim and hide away in fear or drown yourself in excuses, your life will become a mess of problems, sadness and missed opportunities.”
This same friend lost 85% of his life savings when the stock markets crashed a few years ago, but he’s managed to get back on his feet and push forward to success once again.
That’s one of the things I like about him; he talks the talk and walks the walk. He makes things happen and achieves big things without having to cry, bitch or moan about it. Guys who sit around complaining, whining and feeling like a victim will only experience more pain, frustration and disappointment throughout life.
Women know that this world is a challenging place to live, survive and prosper. As a result, women naturally look for strong men who won’t crumble under pressure and will remain strong no matter what.
The stronger you are as a man (mentally and emotionally), the more naturally attractive you will be to women. If you are emotionally weak (i.e. insecure), it’s only natural that women will find it hard to respect you and feel attracted to who you are.
5. Belittling Her or Continually Criticizing Her
Belittle (verb): To make someone feel unimportant.
Criticize (verb): To find faults. Judge unfavorably.
Playfully teasing your woman in private is fun, especially if it’s just a light-hearted thing between you and her. However, if you are actually belittling or criticising her on a regular basis, she will quickly lose respect for you as a man.
In an effort to show off in front of his friends, some guys will say hurtful things about their woman in front of her and behind her back.
When a woman knows that her man doesn’t respect her and doesn’t “have her back,” she may also begin trying to undermine him or disrespect him in front of others. When that happens, the flow of love will slow down between them and all sorts of other relationship problems will begin to arise.
6. Always Letting Her Win
Some guys make the mistake of putting up with unreasonable behavior or demands from a woman in a relationship because they are afraid of losing her. Yet, women don’t respect guys who let themselves be walked all over and treated badly.
In a relationship, a woman will always test you to see how much she can get away with. If you do let her boss you around, she may stay with you in a relationship because it’s convenient, but she will lose respect for you as a man on a fundamental level and when that happens, your sex life with her will come to a screeching halt.
7. Taking Her Love, Respect and Attraction For Granted
To keep a relationship together for life, you have to deepen a woman’s feelings of love, respect and attraction for you.
For us modern men, it’s no longer possible to take a woman’s love, respect and attraction for granted and expect that she will stick around because the relationship was good at the start.
If you get into a habit of turning her off, doing things that make her lose respect for you and ruining the love over time, you can’t expect her to want to stick around for life.