1. Belittling Her in Public
Playful teasing each other in private can be a fun aspect to your relationship, especially if it’s kept light and you both have understand each other's sense of humor. Too often though, some men will belittle their woman in front of their friends or family in a way that she feels is cruel and sincerely harmful to her confidence and sense of pride and comfort in front of others.
In an effort to “show off” to his friends or because he believes that some “habit” his girl has is stupid, some guys will say hurtful things about their girlfriend/wife. Even if it’s done when she’s not there, what the man says about his woman is probably going to get back to her eventually and she will feel betrayed and lose respect for him when it does. When a woman knows that her man doesn't respect her and that he doesn't “have her back,” so to speak, she will usually begin trying to undermine him or disrespect him in front of others.
2. Being Too Bossy
Women like to have their man be the head of the relationship, but when he starts getting too bossy and treating her like a slave, that’s when she will begin to lose respect for him.
According to decades of research and recent studies into divorce (see: Should Men Do Housework?), if you want your relationship to last, you should let your girl do much of the housework, while you spontaneously help out with the housework, but focus mainly on doing the “manly” jobs around the house, making the big decisions and basically leading the relationship. However, when the man decides that he’s the “boss” and his woman has to do whatever he demands of her as if he “owns” her, she will lose respect for him and want out; especially if their sex life isn't that fulfilling for her either. These days, there's only so much that women will put up with before they think, “Screw this, I'm out!” because break ups are no longer frowned upon as much as they used to be.
3. Always Letting Her “Win”
On the opposite side of being too bossy, some guys will give in to whatever a woman wants because he is too fearful of losing her if he doesn’t yield to her every whim and desire. While it’s true that a woman will usually “test” you to see how much she can “get away with,” what she really wants is reassurance that you are charge of their relationship by seeing that you don’t agree to her every request.
If it gets to the point where her man agrees with her every request or “demand,” especially out of fear of her leaving him, she will walk all over him until she eventually loses all respect for him. She'll then fall into the arms of another man who will show her who is truly “in charge” of their relationship. Girls may act like they want to be the boss in this new age of independent women who can do whatever they want, but deep down they all want a man who is a man and who can and will continually take the lead in a relationship.
4. Being Weak or Submissive Around Other Men
A woman is always watching to see how much of a man a guy really is. One of the best ways a woman can see how strong (mentally and emotionally) a guy is, is to watch him interact with other men. Whether he's chatting to men at a party or talking to a male shop attendant in a store, the woman is watching to see if he acts submissively and places the other man/men above him in terms of dominance. If he bosses her around at home, but let's most (if not all) other guys boss him around outside of the home, she will lose respect for him and won't want to “follow his orders” at home.
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5. Being Suspicious of Her Every Move
Trust is essential for the health of a relationship. Without it, all sorts of problems begin to emerge. One of the fastest ways to erode and eventually destroy the trust in a relationship is to become suspicious and overly protective of your woman. Regularly accusing her of wanting to cheat or of doing things behind your back will only lead to a breakdown of trust and a halt to the flow of love in the relationship.
Whether she’s legitimately working with a male co-worker on a project, going out with her friends to the movies or to do some shopping or running errands, some guys will find it difficult, if not impossible, to trust their woman unless they are with her. In an effort to control and keep tabs on her, some guys will stay in constant contact with their woman to find out where she is and what she is doing, snoop on her e-mails and phone messages to see if any guys are saying anything that could mean she wants to be more than “just friends” with them and so on. Women find this to be a major turn-off because they aren't attracted to men who desperately need them for their emotional security and feelings of self-worth. If you want to learn how to stop yourself from becoming needy, protective, jealous and so forth in a relationship, I recommend you watch Better Than a Bad Boy.
6. Whining Like a Victim
For a variety of reasons, a man might find that his life plans are suddenly in jeopardy (e.g. he loses a job, his shares/stocks/investments plummet and lose tremendous value, he gets caught up in heated disagreements with family or friends, etc.). It’s understandable that when things go wrong like that, a man might want to talk about his problems with his woman, but when he whines and complains like a victim without looking for solutions, a woman’s respect for him will quickly dwindle. Everyone has disappointments and problems that have to be dealt with, but some men will let it destroy them by dwelling on it and acting like a “victim of life.”
When a man is in a relationship, he should sometimes seek his woman’s advice to see how she feels and what she thinks might be a good way of tackling a problem. Even if he doesn’t follow her suggestions, but instead weighs them up as a possible solution against his ideas, a woman will greatly appreciate that her opinion matters to him and that he is actively trying to find a way to resolve his problems instead of moping, whining and complaining, but not actively seeking a solution.
Boys complain and whine, while men decide and act. If you need to fix a problem in your life, you should be a man about it by making a firm decision and then acting on that decision. As a friend said to me the other night when talking about this subject, “It's not what happens to you in life; it's how you deal with it. That's what determines your life. If you play the victim card and hide away in fear or drown yourself in excuses, your life will be a mess of problems, sadness and missed opportunities.” This same friend lost 85% of his life savings when the stock markets crashed a few years ago, but he's managed to get back on his feet and push forward to success once again. That's one of the things I like about him; he talks the talk and walks the walk. He makes things happen and that's what counts in this life. Those who sit around complaining, whining and feeling like a victim are in for more pain, frustration and disappointment.
Being able to rely on you to be truthful and live with integrity is one of the most important things to a woman when in a relationship with you. It doesn’t matter if it’s a “little white lie” to “keep out of trouble with her” or a major fib that, if discovered, will have life-altering ramifications, most women won’t tolerate their man routinely being dishonest. In fact, once your woman has caught you lying, she will never be able to fully rely on you again. She will not be able to see you as her “rock” or her man of stone and her respect for you will diminish.
As we always say at The Modern Man, “You never need to lie to a woman,” and now I will also add to that, “If you do lie and she catches you, she'll never look at you the same way again.” Personally speaking, I've been able to consistently win arguments with my girlfriends and consistently stop women from putting heat on me about something, simply by saying, “Hey, have I ever lied to you? I always tell you the truth, right?” and the woman then has to give in and smile. From there, she can rely on you to lead her with the integrity and strength of a true alpha male. So, as a general rule, I recommend you just tell it how it is with women. Don't lie, don't cheat and don't pretend to be something you're not. Be the straight up, cool guy that you are and everything will be fine.
If you want to learn more about maintaining a perfect relationship, I recommend you watch The Modern Relationship. Then, for a more advanced education on the topic, I recommend you watch Better Than a Bad Boy. If you don't yet HAVE a girlfriend and want to learn how to approach women, have them like you immediately and then escalate to a phone number, kiss, sex or date, I recommend you read The Flow. Then, for a more advanced education on the topic, I recommend you watch Dating Power.Next Page >>