• RK

  Hi Dan

  That was simply awesome! I was so energized after our chat that I went out and put your advice into practice. I visited a bar I like with a friend of mine and as soon as we walked in I approached two girls. It was a good interaction with plenty of flirting and I was confident and everything but I left after about 20 minutes and then spoke to 3 new girls in a group. They loved me and I got the phone number of the prettiest one.

  What a night! I am glad I did that. You got me feeling confident again and thats just what I needed.

  RK

  • Dan Bacon

    Hey RK

    Great to hear mate. When you call her up and meet up with her, make sure you also do what we spoke about. You will see that it’s just as easy as the approach and pick up was.

    Enjoy the great times ahead!

    Cheers
    Dan

    • EP

      Hey Dan,

      I’ve been really looking into your videos on how to get your ex back. I’m really attracted to my ex, but she’s told me I need to move on yet I can’t and don’t want to. I honestly love this girl and your reply would grant me happiness. I need to know how to get my true love back. She said she doesn’t want to be chased. On the positive side, she still thinks I am a great guy and cute, yet she isn’t attracted to me anymore. I need to know how to get her to want to hang out with me so I can get her to like me again. If you could suggest me videos to watch that would be great and even direct advice would be the best.

      Thanks, EP

    • Dan Bacon

      Hi EP

      The first thing that you need to understand is that she’s not going to care about how you feel, until you make her feel what she wants to feel. It sounds like you’re giving her way too much power and being too sweet, so she needs you to become more confident in your attractiveness to her, as well as be a bit more ballsy and masculine towards her.

      These posts will help you:
      http://www.themodernman.com/blog/why-do-women-like-a-guy-who-is-a-challenge.html
      http://www.themodernman.com/blog/the-biggest-mistake-to-avoid-when-trying-to-get-your-ex-back.html
      http://www.themodernman.com/blog/how-to-impress-your-ex.html
      http://www.themodernman.com/blog/guiding-your-ex-back-into-a-relationship.html
      http://www.themodernman.com/blog/how-to-be-the-man-in-a-relationship.html
      http://www.themodernman.com/blog/how-to-dominate-a-woman.html

      Cheers
      Dan

• Peter

  Dan is it possible that me and my friend get on the phone call together with you? We have enough to pay half each although neither of us can afford a full session on our own.

  • Dan Bacon

    Hey Peter

    Thanks for your question.

    That’s fine mate. Chat to you both soon.

    Cheers
    Dan

• Curtis

  Hey bro…I just wanted to say thanks for the sesh last week. It was good talking to you and I finally got the answers that I needed.

  The chick I told you about just called me. I sent the text you recommended and it started from there. You know your stuff bro!

  I also helped a friend of mine and taught him some of your stuff. I hope you don’t mind! He was strugglin with the ladies too and I told him a few of your mindsets and he is right into it now…he wants to get his game on too. I told him to get your Mastery mindsets program.

  Okay bro thanks again and I promise to post up a success story soon about this chick cos I should be seeing her this weekend.

  Curtis

  • Dan Bacon

    Hey Curtis

    Great to hear of your success so far.

    No, I don’t mind you helping your friend become confident like you are. You will find that as you help your friends, it helps you understand what you’ve learnt from me even more. Thanks for recommending Mastery Methods & Mindsets to your friend. That’s one of our greatest programs – it’s full of mind-blowing stuff that will change his life with women forever.

    Enjoy the great times ahead!

    Cheers
    Dan

    • Tommy from Texas

      Hey Dan, it’s Tommy from Texas! This is the second time I write you. Thanks for replying so promptly the last time. How’s the weather down there in Australia? I hear Melbourne is one of the best places in the world to live. I’m jealous. Hopefully, one day I will be able to visit you guys down there, until then I am wondering if you have any “modernman-certified” coaches in the U.S. I could go out with to do some live one-on-one coaching in person like I’ve seen you do in those videos. I think you call them Lifestyle Courses or maybe Bootcamps. I don’t know. Anyway, if you could get back to me, I would appreciate it. P.S. I’m in the San Antonio-Austin area.

    • Dan Bacon

      Hey Tommy

      Good to hear from you.

      We may look at getting some American coaches to run bootcamps in the USA in future, but at this point, we’re much too busy working on everything else that goes into running The Modern Man. Be sure to get in touch if you ever come to Australia because I will be running some seminar workshops in the next 1-2 years.

      For now, I am focussed on making new programs, helping phone coaching clients and trying to answer all the comments across this massive site! 😀

      Cheers
      Dan

• Rick

  hiya Dan

  just wondering how i know what your schedule is for this? i want to book in sometime next week. are you available??

  Rick

  • Dan Bacon

    Hey Rick

    Thanks for your question.

    Instead posting a schedule 1-2 months in advance and having to live by that, I prefer to leave my days open so I can take care of other things going on in my life too. So, the way I do it is allow a client to book and then I give my availability for that week. It’s much easier for me to maintain a balanced lifestyle that way.

    So, please proceed with booking in and I will then contact you with my availabilities.

    Cheers
    Dan

• Dave P

  Hi Dan

  I like the idea of getting some personal coaching from you, but I really can’t afford these price. Is there any discount for existing customers? I have already purchased The Flow and I LOVE it. It’s just that I need help with a particular situation I’m in with a woman right now.

  Fingers crossed!

  Dave P

  • Dan Bacon

    Hey Dave

    Thanks for your question.

    We provide discounts on our pre-recorded programs for existing customers, but for our live time. To be honest, I think I’ve still got the prices for phone coaching way too low. I understand that not everyone can afford it, but what many people don’t realize is that if I coached all day long every day at cheap rates, I wouldn’t have any time to write new articles, make new programs (most programs take about 8 months of development, plus up to 3 years of testing and research) and have a life outside of The Modern Man! I prefer just a few phone coaching clients a week and that’s suits me fine.

    I would be glad to talk you Dave. I hope to coach you soon.

    Cheers
    Dan

• Phil

  Hey dan! Hey you wanted a success story? Well guess what IVE GOT IT (them)!! The first one was in class. Remember how i was saying that I was not good with comebacks and not in the Alpha mindset during class? Well I was late to class one day because of court, we had a test that day so I was the last one to take the test because I was late, when I walked in the class everyone was in the class going over some lecture and someone asked me what I got. I said an 81%. Then some guy yelled out LOSER! in front of the whole class. I know he was really just kidding and there was not harm meant by it but I still wanted to have something good to comeback with. I guess I was in the Alpha mindset because I thought to myself that I know for sure my GPA is higher than his because I have heard some of his test scores and mine have always been higher. So I said “yeah that isn’t what I would have liked to sore, I wanted a little higher, but me and you can compare GPAs of you want…..” and the whole class went oooohhhhh and looked at him, then he said “no thats ok” because he knew he was going to lose! haha it was pretty awesome!
  Now on to women, I have approach one 18 year old girl and got a number, i felt like i created some good sexual tension between us, I will see when we hang out and ill let you know. I also ran into a girl I used to date like 2 years ago, I broke it off with her because I never really liked the way she acted, have talked to you about her before. So i approached her and she seems to be a lot nicer and more pleasant to talk to so me and her are going to catch up.
  Now best for last.

  I went to a concert tonight. I was supposed to bring a friend, she said that she really wanted to go but at the last minute she couldn’t so i just went by myself. I approached some girls and the interaction went pretty good but i didn’t create as much sexual tension as I wanted. So i saw a different group of 2 girls and one guy, I was talking to one girl and she said that she doesn’t look her best because her makeup was smeared because of the concert then I said “lets see how good you really look” and turned her around to look at her ass. She knew what I was doing so she gave me a little dance then I gave her a nice slap on the ass. Her friend was getting jealous i could tell because She was getting closer to me and kept looking at us talking. So I created a little more sexual tension with those two girls.
  Then finally at the end of the concert I saw a girl who fit my type of girl exactly. She was really the kind of girl that I am looking for as far as looks go. And she ended up being really cool as well. So I had to give her a go. I asked her how the concert was for her. She looked at me with a huge smile and we talked about past concerts, and bands that we like, the security guard was trying to get us out of the building so he directed us to the exit. I remembered how you said that touching a girl is a good way to create sexual tension so I was commenting on how short she was and said “you know, you would make a really good arm rest” and put my arm on her shoulder, she giggled, then I said “and even better a chin rest” then I moved her to the front of me and put her ass in my croch and rested my chin on her head, she grabbed my arms and put them around her waist. After that I started tickling her and was calling her a trouble maker. We finally left and she saw her friends but you could tell she didn’t really want to talk to them so we made very sort conversation then kept walking. I set her on top of this small rock because I said that I wanted to make her taller, when she was standing on the rock we made out a little. Finally I said, “hey why don’t we go for a little cruz” she said ok. So then we cruzed up the street I said that I had to get something to drink so I stopped at a gas station to buy something to drink and condoms. Later we drove and I parked somewhere. I grabbed her and set her on my lap, we started making out and i was taking off her shirt when she said, “wait, maybe we shouldn’t be doing this, I’m on my period” I said ok we will leave your pants on, then kept going taking her shirt off, we were making out and I had her shirt off and was having plenty of fun with that, later I put her hand on my dick with my pants still up then I pulled them down and she started giving me a hand job and i laid her head on my stomach and she started going down on me. I remembered what you said about how am i going to be the type of guy who grabs her head really makes her go for it or not, so I grabbed her hair pretty tight and then had a lot of fun!! haha eventually i finished in her mouth and she swallowed. thats always a good thing! I guess i really created a lot of sexual tension with this girl, because our conversation was not really that long before she put my hands around her waist, maybe like 5 mins or less. I guess you were right about my age really not being a problem this girl was 18! I didn’t know if you wanted all these details but here they are haha!! I understand if you can’t post this because of the details but here is your success story dude!! thanks again man I owe you!!
  Phil

  • Dan Bacon

    Hey Phil

    Haha! Cool – nice success story!

    No, the details are great – it helps other guys get the picture of what actually goes on. You pulled off some pretty advanced moves that night. Nice work!

    Make sure you maintain that frame of mind now by reminding yourself, “I’m already there. I’ve made it. It’s easy for me now.”

    Enjoy the great times ahead mate!

    Cheers
    Dan

    P.S. I’m going to post this up on the main success stories page too.

• peter sven

  i dont have problems with woman. i used to when i was young. i always wished to be the kind of man woman would like. I’ve gained that as an adult but the insecurities i had as a teen, seeing all my friends get the woman they wanted, and not just one but pulling different nice looking woman every night and me trying to be like that when deep inside i knew i wasn’t like that is the primary reason i just lost the love of my life. i dated a girl for 10 years when i met her i was this insecure chubby kid suffering from acne. i have lost all the wait gained a little popularity and woman are the least of my problems, like i said to many woman was. i met the love of my life shot after i broke up with my girlfriend of 10 years. to be hones i met her like 2 weeks before. i knew she was special, but i didn’t want to accept it because i was single and “good looking” for the first time in my life. she did everything in her power to get me. she stood up with a lot of shit. my flirting , meeting other woman etc when we were just dating. I finally gave in she was to important for me. but i was already in this whole and our relationship was already based in me being able to get away with dum shit. I never cheated although I’m sure she thinks i did . but i did flit and i did stupid stuff like that when i was drunk and the bad thing about it is that a genuinely didn’t remember it the day after. she broke up with me after a big fight, said she love me but can’t be with me and that i shouldn’t fight for her. i begged and i also left her alone for a few days i then begged again. i stopped drinking although not for her, mainly for me and because i never want to be in this situation again, put her or my next lover through that. i want to be the type of man that can’t stand up for his actions. we have been hanging out for the passt two weeks every day. but she is different very cold. docent say i love you, avoids sex, and if i dont call her she won’t call me.
  i know i can make it through this and i know ill be happy and so will she. the thing is i was trying to get out of a whole i begged for strength to get me out of there and this helped me. it wasn’t. the way i wanted to get out of it , but it helped me. that was always the problem, me being in that whole. and i know its not fare to her, but now that I’m out of it i want to give us a shot at a real relationship. i shot my insecuritys as a child didn’t let me give and kept burring me. besides me genuinely loving her i feel as if we never got a good shot at it and I’m aware things can go wrong now to, but at least I’m not driving this relationship blind anymore. she sometimes includes me in her future saying stuff like, “but you said that you could consider a relationship even if we dont live together” she responded that when i said that I’m stalling moving back to my apartment from my moms couch because it feels that when i do get my apartment back its finally over. but then she says other stuff that lets me know i have no shot.
  if you can give me some advice or think you can help me with this I’m willing to give your site, vide and call a try although its way over my budget.

  • Dan Bacon

    Hey Peter

    Thanks for your message.

    Mate, there’s no guarantee when getting an ex back because we are dealing with very complex situations. However, I have now helped 1,000s of guys to successfully get their ex back, so you will have a great shot at getting her back by using my advice and strategy. At the very least, you will be able to get her to begin having sex again for a while. After that, things should begin to open back up between you.

    Someone in your situation needs to learn more about what it really means to be a man for a woman in a relationship. You’ve got to show her that you’ve changed, rather than talking about changing. My program will help you do that.

    Cheers
    Dan

• Jesse

  Hey Dan I am interested in LIVE coaching with you. I’m NOT interested in phone coaching… too much talk. I would rather do it for real and get realtime feedback. How do we set this up?

  • Dan Bacon

    Hi Jesse

    Thanks for your question.

    I would love to coach you in person, but I am no longer doing live courses because I am now in a committed relationship. Sorry to say, but there is only so long that a guy like me can keep rejecting perfectly good women who want to settle down with me. I slept with more than 250 women before settling down and I am now devoting my time to helping guys via my programs, articles and free videos on Youtube: http://www.youtube.com/user/DanBaconTheModernMan

    If you want to learn the techniques that I would teach you on a live course, the program is: http://store.themodernman.com/products/dating_power.html

    Cheers
    Dan

• Stephen

  Hi Dan,

  I know you’re no longer doing live courses as you’re in a committed relationship. Just wondering if Ben and Stu are still doing Lifestyle Courses?

  Thanks,

  Stephen

  • Dan Bacon

    Hey Stephen

    Thanks for your question.

    Sorry to say that the other guys aren’t available either. Stu is currently in a relationship and Ben is seeing multiple women at once. Going out to approach women every weekend isn’t something that a guy can do forever if he wants to also have a serious relationship! 🙂 All of the advice that we would teach on a live course is taught in our programs, especially Dating Power: http://store.themodernman.com/dating_power.html

    If you want some 1-on-1 coaching, I am here for you via phone coaching and we can usually get started within 48 hours. If you sign up for 3 sessions over the next 3-6 months, you will pay less than a third of the price of doing a live course (prices ranged from $3,495-$4,295 in Melbourne and more expensive out of our home state) and you will have a lot of time to put the advice into action before speaking to me again.

    My phone coaching clients have been enjoying a lot of amazing, high level success with women (e.g. no approach anxiety at all, approaching and picking up beautiful women, dating models) and other lifestyle benefits (e.g. getting promoted at work, making a lot of new friends, being invited to parties, etc). Some of my clients can also now do things with women that only guys at my level can. It’s quite beneficial when a guy has a coaching session, waits a month or so and then gets on another call, because he has had plenty of time to process the information, really understand it and begin to use it.

    Many clients tell me about transformations that have been happening for them with weeks that took YEARS for me to accomplish. That’s what happens when you get the right advice and information; you skip past all the years of trying to figure it out on your own.

    BTW: I may be running some workshop/seminars in the coming years, but no solid plans yet. At this point, I’m flat out busy with making new posts and videos for the site, replying to the 100s of comments that come in every week, coaching my phone coaching clients…and then having time for a life with my girlfriend, family and other friends outside of The Modern Man! 😀

    I hope to chat to you soon mate. I look forward to helping you.

    Cheers
    Dan

• taahir

  how does this stuff work for cause im 16 and was wondering if it would work on people my ages or is is disigned for older chicks . like im pretty good with girls but im looking to get better what would u recommend

  thanks for your videos btw top stuff

  • Dan Bacon

    Hey Taahir

    Thanks for your question.

    I’ve had parents come along and buy The Flow http://store.themodernman.com/the_flow.html for their son at age 13 (that was the youngest I’ve heard of) to give him a head start with the girls.

    I’ve also heard success stories from guys who are under 18, but about 90% of the guys who buy my programs are 18 and over. If you are starting out and want to learn, I would recommend The Flow and if you want to become a confident, masculine man before your friends even know what that means, I recommend Better Than a Bad Boy: http://store.themodernman.com/better_than_a_bad_boy.html

    Before you get started, I would recommend that you watch this free video. It contains some very important fundamental lessons about attraction that will apply when you’re picking up girls at school or women later in life if you go to bars and nightclubs: http://www.themodernman.com/blog/how-to-make-a-woman-feel-intense-attraction-for-you.html

    Cheers
    Dan

• Michael

  Dan!

  Thanks for the chat last week! If you remember from our chat…she had moved to her mom’s house. We’re back together now and it feels better than it ever was before. It’s like now we are in love on a different level. It’s hard to describe but it is what me and her wanted to experience all along. I guess it was a maturity thing.

  I can’t thank you enough Dan. Talking to you was the best decision I’ve made in my life in years and it has really helped me rapidly grow and mature as a man. You have a loyal fan and customer for life now.

  Michael

  • Dan Bacon

    Hi Michael

    Awesome. Congratulations on getting her back.

    Thanks for coming back to post up your success! Most guys just send me a private e-mail, so I thank you for posting this up on the site for others to see.

    It was great talking to you.

    Cheers
    Dan

• Mike

  Hey Dan,
  My gf of one year said “I need time” about a week ago. I think we’re broken up but it’s unclear. She wouldn’t give specifics, but I know that I stopped being the guy she fell in love with. I doubted my love for her and if we were compatible, so I took her for granted. No doubt she sensed this, even though I kept it to myself. I was calm on the phone call that I initiated when it happened. Next day when we exchanged our stuff she was crying and emotional and she said I’m gonna miss you. we kissed and held each other for a long time. I realize now that I fully love her and I fully accept her. I asked her to call me the day after that, said I needed to tell her something so I could get it off my chest. She did immediately. I told her that I took her for granted and I wasn’t fully there. And that I know now that i love her fully. She was crying. Then she said I need time. And I said okay. I never cried in front of her or broke down or actually begged. But she knows I want her back and I even said I’d wait for her. but she keeps saying “I need time” and “I cant see you or talk to you right now”. I know I want her. I don’t need her to live. But I love her. Now I think I’ll do NC, is that right? I don’t want to push her any more. I also made the mistake of asking a mutual friend if there was a chance…yeah. I don’t know if it’s salvageable. What do you think?

  • Dan Bacon

    Hi Mike

    Thanks for your question.

    She is asking for space, so you should to give her that, but you should not just wait around and do nothing while you are giving her space. You have to get her to feel a combination of painful and positive emotions that will get her to change her mind and want to be with you again. How? All the techniques are provided in my program: http://store.themodernman.com/get_your_ex_back_super_system.html

    Whatever you do, don’t waste time using the No Contact Rule and doing nothing while you are giving her space. See: http://www.themodernman.com/relationship/4-reasons-why-the-no-contact-rule-is-a-bad-idea.html

    Her saying, “I can’t see you or talk to you right now” means that she’s going to try to get over you by being away from you, which will most-likely involve her sleeping with other guys. If you want to get her back, you have to take action that will make her feel what she needs to feel to want you back. Waiting around and hoping that it changes by magic is not a good strategy.

    If you want me to teach you what to say and do to get her to feel the combination of painful and positive emotions that will draw her to you, I recommend that you watch my program asap: http://store.themodernman.com/get_your_ex_back_super_system.html

    Cheers
    Dan

• phil klein

  Hi Dan, got “The Flow” and really liked it. Do you still offer live coaching in Australia? I’d be interested in doing that. Hit me back if you would. Thanks, Phil

  • Dan Bacon

    Hey Phil

    Thanks for your question.

    I now only offer phone coaching services because I’m a married man, so going out clubbing all weekend is no longer an option! 🙂 However, I do plan on holding some seminars and possibly a couple of workshops where I accompany some guys out to approach. I will be making announcements about a seminar later in the year.

    BTW: I have a number of phone coaching clients who get 2 phone coaching sessions per month, which means that they are able to get 4 months of coaching for the price of a weekend course. Those guys are doing tremendously well (e.g. getting laid, now have a girlfriend, getting promoted at work, improved social life, etc). So, if you’d like to have 1-2 phone coaching sessions per month or every other month to keep you on track, feel free to sign up that way.

    Note: After purchasing one phone coaching session, you will get a discount on all future sessions (i.e. purchase 30 minutes and I will give you an hour).

    Cheers
    Dan

    • jeremy

      My ex left me cuz she said she ain’t have any feelings or was inlove wif me anymore…..Idk wat to do…plz help

    • Dan Bacon

      Hey Jeremy

      This will help you: http://www.themodernman.com/blog/she-doesnt-have-feelings-for-me.html

      Cheers
      Dan

• Amrish NZ

  Hey Dan

  I really wish I could have a coaching call via Skype with you but the asking price you’ve set costs more than what I can afford, even for 30 mins.

  I really do need your help, since despite getting numbers from women that I find attractive. It never results in a date even though. I feel like a hamster in a wheel, I don’t get anywhere no matter how much energy I put into it.

  • Dan Bacon

    Hey Amrish

    Thanks for your comment.

    It sounds like you’re missing some of the basic fundamentals of following up and getting a date. The perfect program for you would be Dating Power: http://store.themodernman.com/dating_power.html

    I’d be happy to help you out on a coaching call when you’re ready.

    All the best in the meantime.

    Cheers
    Dan

    P.S. I’ll keep your problem in mind as I write new articles for the site. Stay tuned for some advice on the blog.

    • Amrish NZ

      Hey Dan

      I did recently get a number from a hot Chinese woman from a bar this past Saturday. I did flirt with her & told her about myself & learnt about her too plus got her number. She was in a giddy mood when I suggested that we should catch up sometime & told her to put her number in my phone & said goodbye to her & her friends.
      Although I saw other guys who were with me at the same table did the same(only because I had the balls to do it) & she gave it to them, even though she didn’t seem that happy to do so. I did called her 2 days later & she said she was still at work at around 6pm NZ time on Monday night, since she did tell me at the bar that she works at an insurance company. i did make her laugh & called her Smart girl on the phone just like I did at the bar & teased her about it especially about her watching Chinese drama soap operas. The phone call ended in a minute since she couldn’t talk more & she said she’ll talk to me later.

      After the call ended, I took it too personally & beat myself up for thinking that she wasn’t interested in meeting up with me & that I stuffed up.

      What should I do Dan?

    • Dan Bacon

      Hey Amrish

      Congrats on getting a number.

      What do from there: Call her, make her feel attracted on the phone and attempt to arrange a date. What to say is included in The Flow, which I can see that you’ve already purchased.

      You have to believe in your attractiveness to her. Don’t expect her to make it easy for you. Women are attracted to the emotional strength in men and turned off by the weakness. They don’t want to have to gently guide a guy through the dating process. You have to have the balls to call and push forward to get a date.

      Cheers
      Dan

    • Amrish NZ

      Hey Dan

      About what you said,”Hey Amrish

      Congrats on getting a number.

      What do from there: Call her, make her feel attracted on the phone and attempt to arrange a date. What to say is included in The Flow, which I can see that you’ve already purchased.

      You have to believe in your attractiveness to her. Don’t expect her to make it easy for you. Women are attracted to the emotional strength in men and turned off by the weakness. They don’t want to have to gently guide a guy through the dating process. You have to have the balls to call and push forward to get a date.

      Cheers
      Dan”

      I’ve already made an attempt a while back, for the second time with calling her before you replied to my comment, but unfortunately she didn’t answer her phone & I didn’t bother leaving a message on her voicemail. Instead I moved on & chose to talk to other women, instead of chasing one that doesn’t make an effort to call back.

      I’ve made my decision & I’ll give Dating Power a try which I’ll get, once I get my next pay from work 🙂

      For now, I’ll just read The Flow in the meantime 🙂

    • Dan Bacon

      Hi Amrish

      You don’t need to move on if a girl doesn’t answer your second call to her. Does she have your number? If not, she is probably just screening her calls.

      If a girl doesn’t answer, simply send a message like, “Hey Jenny – Amrish here. Was trying to get in touch to say hi. I guess you’re busy, so I might call you another time then. Have a great day.”

      You can’t expect girls to call you back if you haven’t even kissed them yet. You only got her number, so at this point, you’re just another guy with her number. If you had kissed her and exchanged numbers, she would have been more likely to answer right away or at least text you after missing your call.

      Don’t give up on women so easily. Some of them screen calls and some live a busy lifestyle. Remain confident in your attractiveness to her and follow through until she is bed with you.

      Cheers
      Dan

• Charles

  Hi Dan. I’ve been enjoying the Flow and it really works. However I have one question. I’m a DJ and after DJing im exhausted and cannot focus 100% on the techniques, however I meet a lot of girls then – but I also make a lot of mistakes because my mind isn’t focused :(.What to do? Any of the audio books to recommend perhaps?

  Thanks,
  Charles

  • Dan Bacon

    Hey Charles

    Thanks for your question.

    It’s fine to make some mistakes as you are learning and growing. According to psychologists (and I agree too), here are the 4 stages of learning:

    1. Unconscious incompetence: You don’t even know that you’re doing it wrong.
    2. Conscious incompetence: You know what you’re doing wrong.
    3. Conscious competence: You can do it correctly, but you have to think about it while doing it.
    4. Unconscious competence: You can do it correctly without thinking about it.

    You’re going to be at the 3rd stage of conscious competence with a lot of things, which means that you will need to think about it when you do it. With a bit of practice, you will reach the 4th stage and it will become natural and automatic for you.

    The best programs for someone in your situation are:
    http://store.themodernman.com/alpha_male_power.html
    http://store.themodernman.com/better_than_a_bad_boy.html

    Be sure to log into your account to purchase, so you can get them at 50% off: http://store.themodernman.com/login.html

    Cheers
    Dan

• Bill

  Dan,

  I need help. I am thinking about purchasing your program but I want to know if you think my relationship with he ex can be salvaged. I’m 32. She’s 26. I met her October 4 years ago and didn’t commit to each other til the summer the following year after we met.

  When we were good we had a great chemistry. But I was often insecure and needy. Something that happened at the end of the first year that forced me start over. Instead of taking it like a man I let depression consume me and stayed stagnant. We ended up breaking up in September last year and were apart for 4 months. And got back together in December.

  I had convinced myself and her that I changed. But in the end I was all talk. I resorted back to my needy behavior and she pushed me away. As she pushed she clung harder eventually ending it again last week. It really opened my eyes to what I have been doing all this time. Had I focused my time into myself and career I would still have her.

  Instead I lost myself in her and became a total beta male. I found out today she is sleeping with someone else. I successfully pushed her into the arms of another man. I know she still loves me but clearly doesn’t think we can work or that I can change. Is there any hope?

  • Dan Bacon

    Hi Bill

    If you’ve already promised her that you would changed and she’s given you a chance and then broken up with you, she’s going to need to see that you really have changed. Yet, based on the fact that she is now sleeping with another man, she’s probably not going to be in a rush to get back with you anytime soon.

    Yes, my system will help you. It’s a 7 step system that guides you through the process of understanding where you went wrong (you will find out additional relationship mistakes that you currently aren’t aware of) and then understanding the quick and easy way to get past those mistakes, so you are able to proceed from a position of wisdom and strength from now on.

    After that, I help you to become more emotionally strong and ready to talk to your ex, but in your case (because she is sleeping with someone now) you will need to complete a couple of additional steps before you are ready to contact her and get her to agree to meet up with you.

    I look forward to helping you get another chance with her!

    Cheers
    Dan

• Mark

  Hi Dan. I purchased your Get Ex Back Super System a couple of days ago, and think it’s fantastic, including having a fellow aussie coaching me on the screen …you really have got the complete insight!! Just a couple of questions though because my situation is a little different …I broke up with her after being a complete baby / wuss after a weekend away with her and her kids, she was devastated and crying etc. I then made matters worse the next day by going around again and then trying to apologise and retract everything when I still saw her so upset!! The thing is, I do love her, I didn’t want to hurt her or lose her. I just really f**ked everything up. But now she has said she needs space to breathe for a few weeks because of how I hurt her, and says that there is a possibility she might NOT want to come back. With your system, would you still consider a ‘wanting space’ situation as a break-up, and would your system stages (including the first phone call and meet-up etc) still apply? Is there more HOPE in this situation? I was on the verge of the first phone call, but thought I’d better ask before I did it!! Please let me know ASAP mate!!!! Cheers 🙂

  • Dan Bacon

    Hi Mark

    Thanks for your question.

    Yes, Get Your Ex Back: Super System applies because it is a break up.

    Her saying that she needs space for a few weeks means that she is planning to move on if she can. You need to make sure that you follow the system through until the end because she sounds like she will try to confuse you by showing interest > asking for space > showing interest > saying she needs time, etc. That is a typical strategy by a woman to keep a guy waiting around so she has time to move on before he does.

    The steps of my system will get her to regret breaking up with you and want to see you in person again. However, you have to make sure that you do not fall for her crying trick once again. Women often start crying to get a guy to feel sorry for them and then try to apologize for hurting her (i.e. exactly what you did).

    You need to let her experience the hurt and then make sure that you are triggering her feelings of respect and attraction for you, as well as maintaining the power in the dynamic between you. All of that is explained in my program: http://store.themodernman.com/get_your_ex_back_super_system.html

    Cheers
    Dan

• Jeff W

  Hi Dan,

  My ex-girlfriend broke up with me about 7 weeks ago and I am devastated. We dated for a year and a half. Some background information: she went back to colorado for the summer where she is originally from (she is a college student in Missouri where I live currently live as well) and when she left to go back home everything was great. But then she came back to Missouri in August and after a week of her being back in town with me she told me she “no longer loved me as much as she thought she was supposed to”. I went to visit her once over the summer and we were in constant communication throughout although I know nothing replaces face to face interaction. She said I didn’t do anything wrong and was “perfect”, but I know those are just cliches women use to avoid saying the real truth. I made a few of the classic mistakes by asking her why are you doing this and then texting her later in total confusion. A month later I texted her asking if we could meet up in person and she said she thought it would be easier for us to move on if we didn’t see each other. How do I get her to meet up with me after she already didn’t want to? I’ve read a lot of your articles and everything you’ve been saying is on point. I wish I would’ve read them sooner. Thank you!

  • Dan Bacon

    Hi Jeff

    Thanks for your question.

    Although she likes you as a person, it sounds like she doesn’t fully respect you (e.g. she can’t look up to you as her man, she feels emotionally stronger than you a lot of the time, she feels like you need her for your emotional security and stability, etc) and doesn’t feel enough attraction for you as a result. See: http://www.themodernman.com/blog/she-doesnt-have-feelings-for-me.html

    About her saying that you are perfect, it usually means that you’re a good guy (that’s a good thing!), but you don’t turn her on because you’re too neutral or nice around her. See: http://www.themodernman.com/blog/my-girlfriend-said-im-too-nice.html

    The techniques to get an ex to want to meet up are provided in my program: http://store.themodernman.com/get_your_ex_back_super_system.html

    BTW: If she does move on before you decide to try my system, see: http://www.themodernman.com/blog/how-to-get-your-ex-girlfriend-back-when-she-has-moved-on.html

    Cheers
    Dan

• Charles

  Hi Dan,

  Any new products coming up? Not blog posts or free videos. I’m curious.

  Charles

  • Dan Bacon

    Hey Charles

    Thanks for your question.

    Yes, I will definitely be making more products.

    I am currently finishing off a list of article topics that I want to complete for the blog. I’ve been doing that for the last 6 months and it will be finished in about 2 months. I will then be making a few more videos for Youtube, which will take about another 2 months.

    After that, I plan to start working through the list of more than 25 programs that I want to create for The Modern Man, which will probably take me about 10-15 years.

    Stay tuned!

    Cheers
    Dan

• James

  Hi Dan,
  I am planning on buying your getting your ex back book, but I really wanted to give my current situation and see if i am out of luck, although i know you said everyone acts like their situation is very unique when it isnt. We dated for 3 years, she broke it off with me. She did not feel like the relationship was progressing, she didn’t feel like i cared about her and that I never reciprocated the feelings she wanted from me. She said she was done trying to make it work and was tired of putting the effort in, essentially felt neglected. I told her how i felt the day after but it didn’t do much. I went no contact for a couple of weeks and then reached out but she acted like she didn’t want to talk to me and told me she does not have intentions of getting back together. A week after that I reached out and she removed me off of facebook (not blocked) and snapchat, maybe phone too but not sure. I talked to the mom (bad mistake I know) and she said there was no one else and she needed some space. It has been two weeks since then. 5 weeks total since break up. She wont reach out to me either. I do know that she had loved me and wanted a future with me but I would never be clear about the future with her. Just curious what I should do but I know I want her back. I just cant get her to talk to me lol.

  • Dan Bacon

    Hey James

    You’re not out of luck mate; you’re simply using the wrong approach.

    Waiting around in a No Contact phase isn’t going to solve anything in a case like this.

    I can’t reveal the steps you need to take, because that is taught in my program. However, I can say that you would have already met up with her and made her feel a strong, renewed sense of respect and attraction if you had been following the process provided in Get Your Ex Back: Super System: http://store.themodernman.com/get_your_ex_back_super_system.html

    About taking her for granted, here’s what you could have done had you used my advice prior to her breaking up with you: http://www.themodernman.com/blog/my-girlfriend-says-i-take-her-for-granted.html

    Now that she has broken up with you, nothing will change unless you get her to forgive you (this is easy when you say it in the right way to her) and then make her feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for you on the phone and in person.

    Cheers
    Dan

• John O’ Keeffe

  Hey Dan,

  Just wanted to let you know I really enjoyed out chat earlier and feel more motivated than ever to sort out the things we were speaking about. Listened to the chat again afterwards and I had missed a lot of great advice that I will be implementing immediately. Meeting my ex tomorrow will be fun but whatever happens I will own it and not take things so seriously. I really am happy with or without her. It took a while but I got there!

  I think I will get a call again in a while if and when I find I need more help. I actually have a mentor booked for January onwards who is going to help me with finding more of my passions and Life Purpose, setting goals and action plans for me to achieve over the next few months. He’s known to be relentless so I am in for it! Don’t know how I forgot to mention that during our chat! I actually met him at one of the meetup.com groups that I started going to after you recommended it to me, so it’s funny how these things come together. He text me tonight about starting this weekend. A productive start to the New Year already.

  If things don’t work out with my ex, it’s no big deal. I’m going to keep focusing on my own life and especially learning to attract better and better women, like how you mentioned the bell curve example, and just keep growing and succeeding at my own pace. As you said, I need to celebrate what I am doing and appreciate the progress I am making and own my masculinity. It’s not as if I am sitting around doing nothing to help myself.

  To anyone who is thinking of getting coaching from Dan, all I can say is I highly recommend it.

  Chat soon man!

  John

  • Dan Bacon

    Hey John

    Mate, it was awesome to chat to you and I’m glad you got a lot from the call. You are definitely on the right path and I believe that you will experience amazing success this year.

    I’m sure that you would’ve been able to get your ex to feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for you at the meet up. No doubt that she would have been impressed with the changes you’ve made since.

    Okay, all the very best in the meantime mate! I look forward to hearing about your progress if we do chat again in future!

    Cheers
    Dan

• Charles

  Hi Dan,

  I’ve got 2 girls coming over this week (they desperately wanted to, with a funny excuse 😉 ), and I arranged they are also cooking for me. I maybe want to view a movie with them on the couch. What kind of movie, or what specific movies would you recommend. A romantic comedy? Wouldnt it look wimpy if I suggest it?

  I usually find the answers I have in your programs and blogs but this time I could not haha.

  Hope to hear your advice!

  Best,

  Charles

  • Dan Bacon

    Hey Charles

    Awesome! Nice work man.

    I wouldn’t recommend watching a movie. If you have two girls coming over, just have a few drinks, have some music (or music videos) on in the background and then warm them up for sex by saying, “Hey, let’s give each other a massage” and start by you and one girl giving the less confident girl a massage to begin with.

    Once she relaxes, tell her to help you massage the other girl and then get them to massage you. Start getting huggy (hugging the girls, getting close to them body-to-body) and then escalate to kissing and sex.

    Enjoy!

    Cheers
    Dan

    • Jayson Taylor

      Hi Dan, my ex girlfriend and I haven’t communicated since last October and I recently attended a show where we saw each other for the first time since then. I made sure that I looked sharp that night and when I saw her, she was with another guy. Now at first I felt kind of disrespected and then I laughed inside. I took a look at the guy and I said, “Really, your mind is not in the right place” in my head. She had her head down the whole night, she couldn’t even look at me, when she sat down the guy was off standing somewhere by himself, and she never let the guy touch her in front of me. What’s your take on that? P.S. I do want to get her back and it’s a lot more to the story.

    • Dan Bacon

      Hey Jayson

      It sounds like she still has the door open slightly for you. If she didn’t want anything to do with you, she probably would have been letting him openly touch her/show signs of affection in front of you.

      I say probably because you can’t always know what a woman is thinking, which is why you shouldn’t ever waste any time worrying about it.

      Instead, you’ve just got to be confident and move things from one step to the next until you’re back into a relationship with her.

      Watch this:
      http://www.themodernman.com/blog/guiding-your-ex-back-into-a-relationship.html

      Cheers
      Dan

• John

  Hi what programe would help me to improve my sexual confidence? As I’m only confidence at talking to girls but when it time to show my sexual insterest in them, I tend to get nervous and feel guilty… Thanks for reading and answering back if you can.

  • Dan Bacon

    Hey John

    The best program for that is Better Than a Bad Boy. I explain how to be sexually confident when interacting with women and in bed and why women actually want you to be that way: http://store.themodernman.com/better_than_a_bad_boy.html

    Cheers
    Dan

• Amrish NZ

  Hey Dan

  Thanks for taking the time do the coaching call via video on Skype. I’m making a effort to go through the levels of getting laid,girlfriend etc. I treat life as a video games, so I rise through those levels.

  I’ll update you, when I have a success story.

  P.S Not very fond of loud music in some bars, when trying to talk to a woman that I’m attracted to

  • Dan Bacon

    Hey Amrish

    You’re welcome. It was good to talk to you and I’m glad to help.

    About not wanting to approach when there is loud music: Try a speed dating event: http://www.themodernman.com/blog/where-can-i-find-single-women.html or during the day at a park http://www.themodernman.com/dating/how-to-pick-up-women-at-a-park.html or even at a swimming pool http://www.themodernman.com/blog/how-to-pick-up-women-at-a-swimming-pool.html

    Cheers
    Dan

    • Amrish NZ

      Hey Dan

      Thanks for the suggestions, I admit I didn’t know you could pick up women at the swimming pool 🙂
      In fact, I gonna try picking up women at the park when I’m out & about in the Central city of Auckland NZ 🙂

      I’ll keep you posted on the updates 🙂

• Trevor

  Hi Dan,

  I have nearly everyone of your products except the Alpha Male Power and they have utterly changed my life.

  My GF broke up with me on December 14th, and lets just say I cried and begged for about 2 weeks then realized it wasn’t going to do anything to get her back.

  So I found your series and worked on me and forced myself to interact with women. It wasn’t long before I got numbers, built rapport, and moved forward to kissing and heavy petting, however no sex.

  I cut off communication for 3 weeks with the EX, and then I was on a job interview in NYC about 3 weeks ago and posted on my Facebook I was at a Bar, my ex whom also lives in NYC was coincidentally 2 blocks away and we meet up…

  Long story short, were back together, at one point she asked me if use getting back together was a good idea and if it was a good thing….I just laughed at her and said it was the best thing for us, cause the things you told me I lack (confidence, emotional understanding of women and body language) I’ve fixed and women now love me (showed her pictures from my phone) ….man…Dan….she flipped so quickly it wasn’t even funny…I told her she needs to behave and do things I like or I’ll just walk away and go to one of the other girls…I told her if she does things I like I’ll give her a reward, She was like really….I tease her with a reward and then giving her rewards, keeping her on her toes. When she does things I don’t like she goes to time-out, but only for 5 seconds, then I tell her to give me a hug and say she’s sorry….

  I’ve turned the tides in the relationship, and now she always messaging me, chasing me….I tell her every time I talk to her, ” Ok talk to you in a week, I’m busy the next few days” 12 to 18 hours later she messages me wondering what I’m up too…

  She says I’m different and understanding….

  Right now I tell her I’m Version 2.0 with firmware 3.0 coning out soon, you better figure me out quick or you’ll be learning how to figure me out all over again…she’s like are you for real…I’m like stop being so serious, she’s like your mean…I’m like ya so??? O.o …she is pushed in the feminine every time….

  Your material is spot on, I keep her in the feminine , but sometimes show my feminine then go right back to be a dominant male and she loves it…

  Again thanks for your content, I’ll keep listening to it over and over again. Maybe sometime when I’m in Melbourne or your in the States, we can meet up!!!

  -Trevor.

  • Dan Bacon

    Hey Trevor

    Hahaha! 😀

    This is what makes all the hard work worth it. Guys like you are simply the best and I cannot thank YOU enough for coming back to the site to post that up. Helping you and guys like you (i.e. guys who actually use the advice, rather than just watching it) are what this is all about.

    Well done!

    If you and I were talking in person now, I’d be high fiving you now and buying a drink. You’re a legend. Well done and enjoy the great times ahead! It has been my pleasure to help you.

    Cheers
    Dan

• Morten

  Hi Dan, i dont know if this is the right place to post, but what the hell. WALL OF TEXT INC

  I cant really decide if i need phone coaching or the ex back super system, me (m27) and my ex (f23) broke up 2 months ago, after nearly 5 years of relationship (2.5 living together).. The last 4 month or so we did nothing but argue almost, when we broke up i was fine for 2 weeks (when we still had sex) and then it hit me, I still want to be with her. and to the desperation mode i went (crying a lot, no begging or pleading tho)

  – we broke up once before 11 months ago, or she did, due to not having any feelings for me, but she was suggesting moving away from eachother and seeing how things would go between us.. The feelings came back when i started texting a lot with some other girl (she spied on my phone) She cried a lot over me, without ever letting me know

  She started fucking around and seeing a new guy, she met at her job (bartender) 2 weeks after our current breakup, but that only lasted a month, she wanted to be with him – he was SO different compared to me, and he made her feel good. but now shes not seeing anyone but shes pretty damn active on tinder/badoo(altho not looking for a relationship? lol),maybe shes interessted in another guy, i dont know, mind me we are still living together (she moves out sunday) She thought about having sex with me some weeks ago while she was seeing the rebound, but says that aint gonna happen now.

  She said multiple times, that we might get together in the future, (quote: never say never) but we both need to work on ourself, our own issues, and she cant see how we can get back together, due to her moving to another city (only 30km away tho) – and not anytime soon,. – She also keeps saying it is going to be really weird not living with me, she sounds kinda scared – What do i make of this?

  She said she didnt have any feelings for me now, but at the same day she asked who have been visiting me over the weekend because of 2 sets of plates in the dishwasher, she was sure that i lied to her (acting jealous momentarily) and later she reassured me that she was only a bootie call for the new guy that didnt want her anyway.

  She seems fine, but when i ask her she told me she have shitty days all the time, and the other day i didnt sleep home, she woke up and started crying for no reason (so not because of me i guess) She seems like she moved on, trying to act distant, shes been away with work for 3 days and i didnt get a single text, only to ask if i could pick her up at the station, in a boring friendly tone….. but at the same time sometimes she hugs me for a long time before going out the door, and act all girly around me.
  .
  I’ve been a dick, and she would have done ANYTHING for me sometime ago. I have been chatting a little to friendly with other girls 2 times doing our 5 years which she found out, and I totally forgot about her in my life, i was sure she would be there all my life, so i didnt value her, or what she did what se needed. – I have been battling stress and depression and didnt want to burden her with it, so i just kept my mouth shut.
  Now i told her about this, and that i changed and iam trying to show it, she says it takes more time to change but she can see some of the little things are different.

  Also im not the guy she fell in love with anymore, i dont even need her to tell me that to know (altho she did) Im nowhere the Alpha i was, and that is also a part of the reason she left me for good, she didnt think i was a real alpha male, and sadly she is right. I lost my way, but im working on getting back.

  I dont know what to do, i’ve been trying to act my old self around her, just trusting in myself and trying to make her laugh, but i have no clue if we will ever be together again, and it seems akward/hopeless when im alone. – She doesnt seem to care for any memories me and her have, is this normal?

  Some of my friend says i should just forget her, and they are sure she will be back – You cant ignore or forget 5 years of realistionship so quick.
  Other said I will never get her back, so I should just forget her and move on. And finally some said just let her go, and I might hear from her again someday, you never know. – She might start missing me when im gone? I seen it happen before, but i just dont know.

  holy **** even the short version is long. thx for reading this crap lol.

  • Dan Bacon

    Hey Morten

    Lol…yep, that was a wall of text.

    Never mind – it’s my mission in life to help you and guys like you to succeed with women.

    Based on how she reacts when she feels jealousy, you should focus more on that with her. She doesn’t care about your explanations and examples of how you’ve changed or could change.

    She needs to feel compelled to be with you and only things like emotional attraction, jealousy and the fear of loss really have an impact on women like her at this point. Other guys can get their ex back by showing the changes and getting her to agree to give another chance, but your woman sounds like she needs to feel more pain and loss.

    Of course, this doesn’t involve you hooking up with other women. It’s a lot easier and quicker than that and is explained in my program, Get Your Ex Back: Super System
    http://store.themodernman.com/get_your_ex_back_super_system.html

    BTW: I am reply to this comment about 2 weeks after you posted it. I notice that you’ve got The Flow and Alpha Male Power, so I guess you’ve decided not to try to get her back.

    If you do decide that you want to get her back, I’d recommend a 30 minute phone coaching call for you, so I can give you a custom strategy.

    Cheers
    Dan

• John

  Hey Dan it have been five months since I talk to my ex and that was during the break up we talk was together for 6 months we met off of a dating app but the reason why she felt like we didn’t need to be together anymore because she said I said mean things to her should as things that was true that she end up taking the wrong way she had low self esteem at the time we was dating so if I told her something like she look pretty with her hair down at the time her comment would be I guess sometimes things she would wear I will tell her to take it off because it didn’t look right but remind you I wasn’t being funny I just liked when she wear nice things but it is like when we broke up with each other she had more things to tell me about me that she didn’t like what I did should as if I wanted her to go to bed early for class in the morning because she attend college that was one of the things she told me she didn’t like what I did after our break up and it is like when she didn’t want to be with me no more I cried I beg I even had tried to get a dude who I call my brother to talk to her so she would want me again that didn’t work I tried to get my mom to call her to get us back together that didn’t work and this how I know I was losing my mind at the time during I break up because I message her roomate at 2 in the morning trying to get her to get us back together and that didn’t even work and make it so bad we had broke up like days before my birthday my birthday was on December the 10th so I message her a week after my birthday on Facebook and I was basically telling her god bless her and was telling her that situation brought me closer to god our break up and also put in her inbox if she needed me to get at me and every since then I haven’t message her no more after that and it is March the 7th and I am still missing her I see she is back on the dating site again so I know for a fact she have move on but I am still hurt and want her back again..

  • Dan Bacon

    Hey John

    Someone like you needs to go through my full program because you have a lot to learn about women, being a man and having a successful relationship: http://store.themodernman.com/get_your_ex_back_super_system.html

    Here is some free advice to help you:

    http://www.themodernman.com/blog/how-to-be-the-man-in-a-relationship.html
    http://www.themodernman.com/dating/relationships/why-women-lose-respect-for-men.html
    http://www.themodernman.com/blog/why-did-my-girlfriend-leave-me.html
    http://www.themodernman.com/blog/how-to-keep-your-relationship-strong.html
    http://www.themodernman.com/dating/relationships/5_stages_of_a_relationship.html

    Cheers
    Dan

    P.S. When communicating with her via message or e-mail, I’d recommend that you start using full stops, commas and proper punctuation from now on. Reading your comment was difficult because it’s just one big blob of text without any breaks. Women hate it when guys write like that (i.e. without full stops, commas), especially when a guy is being emotional.

• Shahid

  Hi Dan
  Bought ur book yesterday the flow.
  It was quite of a reading in the beginning I got very excited and I am a go getter kind of a guy and was searching google how to get this done luckily I found ur book.

  I was feeling pissed off I am
  Successful in every area of my life and love myself but doubts come in but even though I felt bad last night I put my clothes on and decided I will go out and try this in Poland where people don’t speak English;)
  Anyhow I went into a pub sat myself with a coke drink in a hand middle of everyone and was chilling saw 3 girls close to me finished my coke and started talking to them j am not a shy guy and I was injecting in her eyes what I want from her it went pretty good got her number and all 3 of us were laughing like hell.
  She had a BF she said I said only friends nothing more my confidence increased went up took another drink and then joined next group 2 girls 1 boy I liked one of them they went on somewhere else as did I
  Then saw a girl she did. Not open
  I went on saw 7 girls walked towards them and asked if they were Swedish as I am kind of too
  Yes 2 girls were studying here in Poland and I started talking to one of them she was very beautiful but playing very hard to get 🙂
  I was very confident and smiling being quite in between sentences and very determined I as telling her in the eyes I want to fuck you at first she was resisting and then i don’t know I asked out for a cup of coffee she said she has a BF and told me to go to that other girl which was single i told her u cannot tell me whom to go to or do this and that I was very determined in every things we talked about and whilst I was just smiling pausing and sending subconscious signal I want to fuck you she leaned in I could have kissed her didn’t do that don’t ask me why 😉
  And then she said do u still want to have a cup of coffee I said yes but she played and give me 112 as a number when I said and handed her the phone put ur number here she went out and left so did I
  I did not care of what she did it or said 🙂
  Best interaction of my life

  I decided I will take action everyday and get this done
  I could have kissed her I know I will bump into her and she will be running after me hahaha
  But I felt so good about this whole interaction
  I can do it and I did it awesome DAN

  Went on to next pub met 2 guy and 2 girls and got a number where the girl thanked me that I will call her and take her out
  I am already liking this and confidence is increasing I am loving it

  • Dan Bacon

    Hey Shahid

    Awesome – well done for taking action so quickly!

    You are now one of the 5% of guys who actively interacts with women that you find attractive. Your confident, forward moving action will result in you hooking up with attractive women and getting into a relationship with an attractive woman of your choosing, rather than having to accept whatever gets thrown at you.

    From now on, you will notice that pretty much every other guy just stands around trying to look good in the hope that women approach him.

    Keep up the confident, forward moving action and your success with women will keep increasing and becoming more amazing.

    Enjoy the great times ahead!

    Cheers
    Dan

• Jacob

  Hi Dan,
  Two weeks ago my girlfriend broke up with me. She said she felt overwhelmed by the idea that we were getting engaged and married. She then wrote in a letter that her feelings have changed for me and that she knew for a few weeks. After failing to get her to reconsider and even begged her for a bit, I eventually broke down in tears and said I understand and it would be good to be friends. I gave her a last kiss and hugged her and then it was over. We kept minimal text communication and I also managed to get her on the phone to just chat and I made her laugh and we enjoyed it then said goodbye.A day later she came to pick me up to go get the money I spent on the wedding dress we were paying off. I actually was beginning to feel excited but her grandmother who was angry with her for stringing me along lashed out at my ex and her mom. This pretty much ruined the day. I tried to keep calm and do the right thing but she just debuffed me and tried to get out of the situation as quick as possible. He mom went on the attack and I just told her to back off because in my opinion it was between my ex and myself. I ended up having to go into the shops alone and had to try stall as they were rushing to get home. I went to the place where I bought the ring knowing it was closed. Basically I got my ex to agree to go for a cuppa after the dress situation. Now that wasn’t happening so I went and got us a take away. Gave it to her saying “I remember you said coffee brings you comfort so I thought you might like one”. She smiled at that and then we were relatively quiet but then her mom continued the attack and so I told her to back away again and broke down about how I was still hurt by this and how I am only thinking about getting a break to clear my head. She then did back off. Afterwards I joked about it and pretty much said sorry for how I reacted. I tried no contact after send her a message that I would not message her for sometime of course it just didn’t feel right to me. She messaged me to enjoy my flight to Johannesburg and of course I read but didn’t respond. I sort of went cold turkey for a day or so and then I realised my flat was no longer available to me when I flew back so I messaged her and subtly blamed her but then apologised for it. She removed our pics off of social media except for some of the quotes and things she tagged me in. I feel as if me acting helpless further solidified her thoughts of me. I tried no contact again for two days then I got an alert that she sent me money to pay for the internet at her place as it was still under my name. I said I’ll keep it like that otherwise it would cause unnecessary expenses for her. She then of course messaged me about it. I played it cool and just said thanks will make the payments. Then nothing till much later that day. In convo she is warm but you can tell she is wary about me texting her as she would send one liners and although she would add an emojii I wouldn’t read much into it. I decided to move back to Johannesburg for sometime to heal and found out that she already knew about this. I also try to include a little exciting and funny text from time to time. I even try a little flirting and include a short nostalgic memory in the text if it has any relation to the memory. I asked if we could meet up tomorrow for a bite at this shop we usually went to. I also said give it some thought you have plenty time to decide. I then wished her a good night and sweet dreams. She said sleep well with no emojii attached. Now today I sent her a hey hope you slept well, doing anything exciting today? message and she didn’t respond. Seven hours later I sent her a pic of my mates dog passed out and said this dog knows what a Sunday should be used for. Still haven’t received anything. She has read the first message but no response. Is this a hot and cold scenario or just couldn’t be bothered?
  Also tomorrow I was thinking of playing it cool and if she brings up the relationship I am not sure what to say next to play it cool. I still care for her and am willing to fight for it but feel stressed that I say something wrong… Also if I will only have the opportunity to see her once for a long time how do I continue building interest with her and that respect she once had for me.Need help so badly.

  • Dan Bacon

    Hey Jacob

    It sounds like you’ve done a fairly good job so far. What you need to do from here though is explained in my program (i.e you will need to make her feel a mix of painful and positive emotions) and get her to catch up with you in person to say hello. You will then need to use my attraction and persuasion techniques to get her to give you another chance, but take things slow.

    Alternatively, you will need to use this approach so you can continue to interact with her, while making her miss you: http://www.themodernman.com/blog/should-you-accept-a-friendship-with-your-ex.html

    Here’s a link to my program with the exact steps to take to actually get her back: http://store.themodernman.com/get_your_ex_back_super_system.html

    Cheers
    Dan

• Daniel

  Hi Dan. Just one stupid question. The prices you have on your website, not just for the phone calls, are they in American dollars or Australian dollars?

  • Dan Bacon

    Hey Daniel

    That’s a great question. It’s in USD.

    Cheers
    Dan

• Ryan

  Dan, you seem like a guy who truly knows what to do.
  I am planning to buy Get your ex back supser system thhis weekend.

  I wanted to do No Contact to get my ex back, but I really dislike that idea from the other guru’s and prefer your approach of actively getting her back.

  I refuse to use No Contact because she is dating another guy whom she might be sexing with.

  I will explain my situation to see if purchasing Get your ex back is helpful for me.

  I met her through facebook when she liked my post in a FB group.
  We called for a month in December 2015 and instantly got attracted.
  However after our 2 dates she told me I wasnt her type and I nearly broke it off but she begged me to work this out and we would be a great couple.

  Flash forward…
  I became insecure because i couldnt fitness to maintain my musculair body and I dont have a job anymore.
  And on top of that I was often making her feel bad for differing from my strong opinions which let her to feel guilty.
  Also I said I love you pretty quick and she couldnt do that yet but she said it for me without really meaning it.
  We never had a proper relationship because she really wanted to feel strongly attracted to me before saying I love you,
  but we were having sex often.
  Because of her doubts about us being compatible… I also started to doubt about us. She didnt know what to do anymore..
  And I said lets just be Friends with benefits an idea she never liked.
  Which let her to want to break up, but I fixed that by crying and begging … or so I thought and we got fleshy. this was in mid March.
  Then I went into Limited contact mode for a few weeks till near the end of April. Giving her space to want her to have a real relationship with me.

  Now
  We are officialy broken up since the last week of April.
  And we met twice. Once to clear the air. And the second to give her a goodbye with rose and a love/forgiveness letter.
  She told me she met an old colleague that now works with her again when I was in limited contact mode.
  During this time he came to hear house to discuss plans to visit her native country.
  Now she is dating him and I suspect they had sex. ( they live near each other )

  I left her alone for a few days untill i stumbled on your tips.
  And now we are semi-talking, I make her laugh and think positive things. (forgetting our broken relationship)
  However when I tried today to get one more meet up, she felt that I was still strong attracted to her and that I would try get her back.
  But I kept myself as strong as possible with confidence, and said that I am cool with everything.
  But it seemed to me that she is still somewhat attracting but she covered it up by saying:
  ” I was serious, this is not a phase. I dont think we can become a couple again”
  Then i remained relaxed, we hung up and later I asked her if she’s okay
  Then she gave me a kiss through whatsapp telling me she’s fine and we shall talk about this but its not a good idea to meet up.

  What can I do now? Will your Get your ex back steps help me through this since I already made a loveletter,ask for forgiveness for my weak behavior and also meeting her twice after the break-up?

  Sorry for this long text!! But i truly wanna know if Get your ex back can help us out.

  • Dan Bacon

    Hey Ryan

    Yes, you can get another chance, but not in the way that you’re approaching it.

    The reason she keeps saying no is that she can see that you really haven’t changed. Watch this: http://www.themodernman.com/blog/how-to-impress-your-ex.html

    You need to give her the attraction experience that she really wants, but isn’t telling you about. For example: If you’ve been too soft, gentle, sweet and romantic and it’s not working, it means that she needs you to be more ballsy, dominant and assertive, while also being nice and loving towards her.

    Check this out:
    http://www.themodernman.com/blog/how-to-dominate-a-woman.html

    Cheers
    Dan

• CR

  Hey Dan,

  My situation is a bit unique. I went out with this girl for 4 years and we were engaged for two years. I thought this girl was the one, everything seemed perfect. Last year, she noticed that I was getting too comfortable (wasn’t really there for her when she needed me) I wasn’t putting any effort into the relationship, so I took her for granted. Then it got to the point where she started giving up and when I noticed we started the arguments and the bickering (we hardly argued before that) she broke up with me last week and I’m in a deep depression. We work together and I saw her twice already. The first time, I was begging and pleading for her to give me another chance but she wouldn’t give it to me. She needs time. I started watching your videos on how to get your ex back and I was following most steps (how to impress your ex, biggest mistake to avoid when trying to get her back, convince your ex) I saw her the second time and I applied all the strategies and she says that it’s too soon to meet up and to give her time. I feel like she’s being very distant from me and it’s hard trying to apply these strategies on her. I gave her a month but she says that’s too soon. What can I do???? I saw your programs and your phone coaching costs and I can’t afford them at the moment.

  Can you please help me with this? I REALLY love this girl and she means the world to me.

  • Dan Bacon

    Hey CR

    These posts will help you:
    http://www.themodernman.com/blog/how-to-get-your-ex-back-after-taking-her-for-granted.html
    http://www.themodernman.com/dating/relationships/always-arguing-with-girlfriend.html
    http://www.themodernman.com/blog/how-much-space-should-you-give-your-ex-before-contacting-her.html

    I hope that helps.

    About not being able to afford my program, I’d recommend that you sell some things at a pawn shop or try earn some extra money. The step by step approach to get a woman back is only provided in my program: http://store.themodernman.com/get_your_ex_back_super_system.html

    Cheers
    Dan

• Divyansh

  Hey Dan ! I’ve been reading your blogs for over a month now, I currently can’t afford any of the call sessions but I’ll surely would like you to coach me in the near future when I have the funds , cuz I’m just 17 RN. I’m quite different from other guys, I don’t want any hookup and I don’t fall for every attractive or gorgeous girl I come across. My problem is that I’m quite inconfident with my conversation with girls , that gets me wondering whether I’d ever get a girl I really like . I’m Indian and I witnessed that most of the people are racist when it comes to interracial dating , I think I’m not that great and good looking(that’s what I think, though my family says that I’m nice), but I’ve seen ugliest of the men getting super hot girls ending up marrying them. One such example was an ugly Indian guy who married a really gorgeous girl in Australia, this gets me a lil confident but then I get depressed again when I think about the way I look, I had an injury in my childhood and as a consequence my lower lip got swelled up and now my face looks perfect until I speak, and when I do I really suck, I haven’t spoken to a girl yet but I think this might be a losing factor for me, so I’m getting a cosmetic surgery of my lip and get it back in shape. What I really am doubtful about is that would white girls date a brown guy like me ? Ik when I talk to girls over the text they all get an extreme liking for me but I end up when it comes to pics, cuz I ain’t that good looking, Idk if I’ll ever suceed in my quest, I just want a tiny speck as compared to others, I just want a girl who really meets my criteria of likeability, and I wanna marry and settle down with her, that’s it. I don’t have any specific girl in mind but I’ll see what I come across in future. Currently I live in India and I’m going to the USA next year probably for studies , and I look forward to date girls there, I really have a liking for American girls and that’s what gets me worrying if I’d ever get one, I’m an average or slightly above average looking guy, ID really appreciate your help, if you could post something regarding my problem here. It’ll really be a relief for me as I’ll get a lil confident after reading your post( I’m a fan of your words). Look forward to speaking with you over the call soon. Best! Div.

  • Dan Bacon

    Hey Divyansh

    This post will help you: http://www.themodernman.com/dating/the-real-reason-why-a-lot-of-good-men-fail-with-women.html

    As long as you understand that you can attract and pick up many women, but not all, there’s no need to feel sad or hold yourself back. So many women would be more than happy with you if you are confident and believe in yourself and your value to her and the world.

    However, if you doubt yourself and your value, don’t expect women to want you out of pity.

    The first thing you’ve got to do is work on your confidence and then everything else flows on naturally from there.

    These posts will help you:
    http://www.themodernman.com/videos/what-is-your-skill-level-with-women.html
    http://www.themodernman.com/blog/nervous-around-girls.html
    http://www.themodernman.com/blog/5-conversation-mistakes-that-instantly-turn-women-off.html

    Cheers
    Dan

• Zack

  Hey Dan,

  How do you deal with an ex that feels like you didn’t appreciate her?

  • Dan Bacon

    Hey Zack

    Here is your answer: http://www.themodernman.com/blog/how-to-get-your-ex-back-after-taking-her-for-granted.html

    Cheers
    Dan

• Kovan

  Hey Dan. I’m trying to figure out where to begin. So me and my girlfriend were just about to hit the year mark. Had plans of flying to various cities to meet her family. When we met I was insecure, clingy and not confident. But overtime I grew and matured. I was sometimes not truthful because I was afraid she would be really upset and leave me in the end. I have a daughter. She has no issue with that. The issue is with my child’s mother. I’m totally different when it comes to her. My girlfriend feels that my daughter’s mom runs me and that I don’t put my foot down with her and that’s a problem and a dealbreaker with her. There was an escalation last night were my ex grabbed the phone and started unnecessary drama. I didn’t defend her in that moment she felt like. We’ve had our ups and downs really great times as well. She just said last night was the final straw and that I need to move on she’s done and she wished me luck. Now I lost my best friend forever…

  • Dan Bacon

    Hey Kovan

    You can actively re-attract her now by showing her that you’ve changed, rather than telling her that you will change or have changed. Interact with her and let her experience and it guard will come down.

    See:
    http://www.themodernman.com/blog/how-to-impress-your-ex.html
    http://www.themodernman.com/blog/how-to-re-attract-your-ex.html

    Cheers
    Dan

• Talha

  Hi Dan

  I wish I came across your work earlier. My situation would be better. I broke up with my ex over two months ago because of insecurity. We dated for two years. Did no contact for 30 days which forced her to moved on although she loves me a lot. She dated two guys but broke it off after they acted needy. I came across your work like two weeks ago. I applied your Youtube video advice and started building her attraction. I organised a meet-up it went great. She then started testing me few days later and she found out I was the same insecure guy that broke up with her nothing has changed. At the second meetup i felt she was distant and wasnt much into me. She was my first serious girlfriend I would say I got lucky. However I do want her back. She told she really cant fall for me again. I purchased your get your ex back system yesterday after frustrated at my failure. I already picked my unattractive traits in your program

  What I do? please please

  Thanks
  Talha

  • Dan Bacon

    Hey Talha

    This is just another example of how bad the No Contact Rule is for guys who want to get a woman back.

    Great to hear that you initiated re-attraction, but yes – you weren’t ready for that meet up yet. Now that you have my program, you need to go through the 7 steps. Step 3 will get you ready for re-attraction and is the most important in your case.

    Cheers
    Dan

    • Talha

      Hi, Dan

      Thanks for the guidance I got another question. While I’m working on step 2 and 3 of your system. She sent a message to test my interest in her. What should my respond to her? I havent spoke to her in a week as I am working on step 2 of the system. Picking up my previous mistakes.

      Please advice

    • Dan Bacon

      Hey Talha

      What was the message she sent?

      Cheers
      Dan

• Talha

  Hi, Dan

  Thanks for the guidance. Please advice when should I contact her, She messaged me 3 days ago saying “Really cant fall for you again”. Should I ignore this message.

  • Dan Bacon

    Hey Talha

    She can’t fall for the current version of you in her mind. You have to interact with her in person to let her experience the new and improved you. Don’t try to get her back via text messages – it doesn’t work. See rule #4 here: http://www.themodernman.com/blog/7-simple-rules-for-getting-your-ex-back.html

    She can fall for you again if you actively create a spark between you and her again. This might help you: http://www.themodernman.com/blog/how-to-make-your-ex-miss-you.html

    Cheers
    Dan

• J

  Hi Dan,
  I watched your youtube videos and I really love what youre saying. You really seems like you know what youre saying and I really need your help!
  So long story short, my gf of 2.5 years broke up with me early this month(20+ days ago). At first she said its because of my short temper/anger issues and that she cant stand it no more. And after the break up and after 1 day of me texting her and sending her email about how i would change and get me a second chance, ect. I read online that i should do the NoContact.
  And I did. But 2 days after NC, she messaged me and we have to talk because of a emergency. But I stay on topic and never mention anything about my relationship. About a week or more after that, she message me again to wish me Happy Birthday and we talk a little, but she was cold the whole time(and i ended the short conversations)
  So we didnt talk after that until I watched one of your video, and you mention how a guy should be actively making the ex has feeling again and not doing NC. So I send her a short message about: How i was being needy and not man enough…How I took her for granted and that I have accepted the break up and that I am really sorry.. I keep it as short and possible and let her know that i really know my mistake and that I am sorry. She reply the next day that she accepted my apology and that she think its great that im fixing my anger issue and be a better person. She also said she know what her flaws are and she will work on them too. But she said in the end we are “too different” and hope we can stay friends. I would be lying if I say i wasnt heartbroken again when i read this, but I reply later that day that I know how shes feeling and that i agreed we both need to grow to be a better person, and that we’ll see where the future will takes us. (because i dont really know whter i should accept her “friendship”
  So its been 5 days since that last message. she didnt reply to me after that.

  What should i do now? Please help!! Thank you!

  PS: I have been going to gym, taking anger management class, doing yoga, doing my hobby (basically keeping myself busy and improving myself, so i can be prepare when she see me in person…..but i cant help but still feeling lost )

  • Dan Bacon

    Hi J

    You’re making the classic mistake of trying to get an ex back via text. See rule #4 here: http://www.themodernman.com/blog/7-simple-rules-for-getting-your-ex-back.html

    About being her friend: Yes, you should accept that, but not be her friend. See: http://www.themodernman.com/blog/should-you-accept-a-friendship-with-your-ex.html

    Cheers
    Dan

• Jaime Rodriguez

  Hello, Dan

  I been looking at your website and the posts so I figure that I try to post my story. And see what happens.

  I am in a relationship with a girl for almost 3 years. Things were going well. We had a connection, and we talked about marriage and other future things. But she had always had a fear about relationships, and about us. Saying it was not me but her. Cause she doesn’t know what she wants and who she is. She left to Japan for school studies. For about 2 months and a half. We were having rough times, but we had cleared that up before she left. We still talked and chatted when we could, she had a tight hours for studying and working. That time diffence from Japan and United States did not help. I started to work and I told her we couldn’t talk as much because of our things. She was ok with it and sad. And then I told her that I didn’t want to video over Skype. Because I thought it be romance when she came back to see one another and have fun, she said yes. She had been wanting sex and other related things but I tried to limit it because I felt scared. I regret it now. Every thing was going well, and we snapchat here and there. And then one day she tells me that she wants to go on break. She had freak outs before and I thought it was a talk and I could handle it, but then as we talk she tells me that she slept with another guy. I got mad and she was sorry and told me it felt nasty and she had fucked up. I was able to be cool but I told her that ya she fucked up. And we talked the next day. She was sorry and told me I love you Jaime. And I told her ya I love you too, coldly. We talked some more times, but I tried to keep my space. I then started to think about us, and I saw that I had taken her for granted. That I had only been doing things that I thought was right. And I had stoped dressing up and doing “date nights” I had not seen her chick flicks and tried to make her see my movies. And I knew that I fucked up as well. I thought about our history and relationship. And I thought it was worth to try it again. I told her that we should talk when she got back. I start sending emails taking about my day and keeping it formal, no I loves you, I emailed her cause she had also wanted to do that from the beginning but I didn’t do it being short sighted. But one day I get an email that she can’t do this any more and that she is tired and needs to find herself. Still thinks I am a great guy though. She called me to say goodbye and we talked and somehow I got her to wait until she came back home to talk about us face to face. And she said yes, told me I love you and I told her I love her and we go on break until she comes back. I get a call from her a yesterday and we got 2 weeks or so before she comes back. She called me to asked me why I quit my job, I had a job with her cousin and left cause it wasn’t my thing and I got a better job. I told her that and I tired to keep it normal but we started talking about us and she told me she needed to find herself and that she still loved me, but could do it any more. I then told her everything I thought I had messed up on, and she told me it was right that it was wrong of me, but it was too late now. I told her I want to right the wrong. I want to give us another go. She had to leave and both of us told eachother I love you. And then I got this email. “i couldnt believe that conversation today. i know we both did wrong in our relationship. i regret fighting with u over little things. i wish u were understanding for what i need. i need to be alone for a while.i cant be in this relationship. i dont feel like i am being true to u if i stay in this. i want u to find someone who is not afraid of being loved. so babe regonize that i need to be on my own. if u love me let me go” I still want to see her and talk, but I don’t know if this is even possible to get back into. I want to basically say ok, but I still want to talk with you. If you love or loved me lets talk. And let’s talk about us, and see what we both think. If you still feel the same about going our own ways, fine. I will let you go, but I want to talk face to face and discuss to find peace, and I am sure you’ll get peace from this too. We started this relationship face to face and I believe it needs to ends face to face if it ends. Sorry about the long post Dan. I hope you can help me, I kinda don’t know what to do and I believe that if I put my 100% into the relationship like she was and she goes for a 2nd chance for both of us. We will improve and move forward. Thank you for your time Dan.

  • Dan Bacon

    Hey Jaime

    You can get another chance with her, but not in the way you’re approaching it. You’re essentially trying to get the relationship back together before re-attracting her in person, which rarely works.

    These posts will help you:
    http://www.themodernman.com/blog/how-much-space-should-you-give-your-ex-before-contacting-her.html
    http://www.themodernman.com/blog/should-you-accept-a-friendship-with-your-ex.html
    http://www.themodernman.com/blog/7-simple-rules-for-getting-your-ex-back.html

    How to get her to meet up with you and what to say and do at a meet up to get her back is explained in my program:
    http://store.themodernman.com/get_your_ex_back_super_system.html

    Cheers
    Dan

• Dan Bacon

  Hi all

  Thanks for your comments and questions! 😀

  I’m now closing the comments on this page.

  Need a personal reply from me? See:
  http://www.themodernman.com/my-personal-reply-to-you.html

  Cheers
  Dan

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