It depends on what advice is included in the program.
Not all programs are the same.
This is why, before choosing the right program for you, it’s important that you get clear on what will work for you and your relationship.
Here are important 4 questions to ask yourself to determine what will work for your situation:
1. Will your ex come running back if you cut off contact?
The No Contact Rule (i.e. cutting off all contact with an ex for 30 to 60 days), is a very common method that guys use to get an ex back.
However, it’s also one of those methods that rarely work.
To begin with, when a woman breaks up with a guy, it’s usually because she has disconnected from her feelings of respect, attraction and love for him over time.
So, when he then stops interacting with her after the break up and just vanishes out of her life (i.e. he stops texting, e-mailing, calling and doesn’t see her in person), rather than think, “Oh no! I can’t believe he’s truly gone. Now that the reality of not seeing him or talking to him anymore has sunk in, I realize that I made a big mistake by breaking up with him. I don’t want to lose him. I need to do something right away to get him back before it’s too late and he moves on with some other woman,” and run back to him, she instead thinks something along the lines of, “When I broke up with him I thought I would have to deal with him trying to get me back. Instead, things turned out so much better than I expected. He’s totally vanished from my life and I don’t have to deal with him trying to convince me to give him another chance. This is so cool! I can now focus on moving on and finding myself a new man, without also having to deal with a needy ex guy. I couldn’t be happier.”
She then does exactly that and moves on as quickly as possible.
Then, by the time the 30 or 60 days are up and the guy contacts her again (while secretly hoping she will be thrilled to hear from him again), he’s shocked to discover that not only doesn’t she care that he’s texting/calling her again, she’s actually also moved on and possibly even dating a new man.
He then ends up losing out on getting his ex back.
Of course there are some cases when the No Contact Rule does work.
What are those cases? (See video below for examples)
If a woman is still secretly in love with a guy and is hoping that they will get back together again, then not hearing from him might force her into going back to him.
However, what often happens in situations like this is that the woman contacts the guy, gets back with him and then realizes that he’s still stuck at the same level he was at before, so she then breaks up with him again (this time for real).
She also then tries to hook up with new men as quickly as possible, to avoid going back to her ex.
Yet, in some cases, even if a woman does still care for her ex and misses him a little, she won’t contact him when he’s ignoring her because she will fear that he’s no longer interested in her and that he’d probably reject her if she called.
So, once again, he loses out on getting her back.
This is why, if you want to use the No Contact Rule as your way of getting your ex back, you need to answer the following questions:
- Does your ex still have feelings for you, or does she no longer feel much (or any) respect, attraction and love for you?
- Will your ex miss you if you ignore her for 30 or 60 days, or will she be happy to be rid of you?
- Is she the type of woman who will come running back to you (e.g. because she’s done it before), or will she just move on (e.g. because she can easily attract a new man)?
- Is she confident enough to come back to you if she still has some feelings for you, or will she feel insecure about your interest in her and decide that she doesn’t want you to reject her?
Depending on your answers above, you should already know if No Contact is the best ex back program for you or not.
Another question to ask yourself is…
2. Will your ex want you back if you don’t change your approach to attraction and simply offer her the same experience as before?
In some cases, a guy will try to get his ex back by repeating all the things he did to attract her in the first place.
For example: He might…
- Buy her flowers and thoughtful gifts.
- Write her long love letters.
- Send her romantic cards or write her a love poem.
- Be extra nice and sweet to her regardless of how badly she treats him.
- Make himself available to her 24/7, offer to run errands for her and possibly even give her money for rent/bills.
Although this approach does work in getting some women back (usually only for a short while), most women will reject a guy if he doesn’t change and give her a new and improved attraction experience.
Even though most women like to be spoiled and romanced, as a relationship matures, it’s the deeper, more subtle, long-lasting things that matter to them.
For example: Some of the things a woman will look for in her man are…
Does he know how to confidently lead the way in the relationship by naturally taking charge and thereby allowing her to relax into feeling totally feminine around him, or is he too emotionally weak, wimpy and unsure of himself which forces her to be the boss around him?
Does he treat her like a sexy, desirable woman, or does he treat her more like a buddy or roommate?
Does he have a clear purpose and direction in life that he’s working towards achieving thus making her feel protected and safe in the relationship with him, or is he irresponsible and simply drifting through life?
Does he believe in himself and in his value to her (and other women), or does he feel insecure and believes that she’s too good for him, making him act like a needy, clingy, controlling or jealous guy with her?
Does he pull his weight in the relationship (e.g. help with the household work, clean up after himself), or does he take her for granted?
These are the types of things that attract a woman to a man, make her want to be a good, loving woman to him and keep her in a relationship with him.
This is why, when a woman breaks up with a guy and he tries to get her back by giving her superficial things like flowers, gifts or love letters all over again instead of showing her that he’s understood and changed the deeper more subtle things about himself that were turning her off, she’s not going to be impressed and she’s likely just going to say things like, “Sorry, but I’m not interested in getting back with you,” or “I just don’t have any feelings for you anymore,” or “Please accept that what we had is over and leave me alone.”
Right now you need to ask yourself: Are you willing to change and improve your ability to make your ex feel attracted in new and more interesting ways (e.g. by being more emotionally masculine so she feels feminine and girly in your presence, maintaining your confidence with her regardless of what she says or does to make you feel insecure around her, by standing up to her in a dominant yet loving way when she tries to dominate you emotionally), or do you want to remain the same while still expecting her to give you another chance?
Your answer will determine whether this approach is for you or not.
Another question to ask yourself is…
3. Will your ex be able to find a new guy easily, or will she struggle to move on?
If a woman feels confident in herself and in her attractiveness to men, chances are high that she will be able to move on and find a replacement man pretty quickly after her break up.
In a case like that, ex back programs like using the No Contact Rule, or trying to text her back will almost certainly not work, because while her ex is wasting 30 or 60 days ignoring her, or he’s texting back and forth with her, she’s usually busy going out and finding herself a new man to take his place.
Essentially she knows that finding a new guy will be easy for her, so she barely notices what her ex is doing.
Of course, if she’s the kind of woman who is going to struggle to find a new man, then these programs might work on her.
However, they might also backfire, because she feels rejected by him and like he doesn’t care enough to call her and meet up with her, so she forces herself to get over him.
Then by the time he plucks up the courage to call her (e.g. after ignoring her for a few weeks or months, after texting her for a long time), she no longer has feelings for him and it becomes a lot more difficult for him to reactivate her feelings and get her back.
On the other hand, an ex back program that will work on any woman (i.e. one that can easily find a new man or one that is struggling to move on) is the one that encourages the guy to interact with his ex as often as possible and actively re-spark her feelings of respect, attraction and love for him.
The more drawn to him she feels in a way that feels good to her, the less interested she will be in moving on.
Even if she knows that she can get another guy if she wants to, she simply doesn’t care, because her ex is making her feel the way she wants to feel.
As you can see, there are some ex back programs that do work.
You just have to make sure you use the right one to get your ex back.
Another question to ask yourself is…
4. Will your ex fall back in love with you via text?
After a particularly difficult break up, a guy might be afraid to come on too strong with his ex, so he is drawn to the type of ex back program that encourages him to get her back via text.
For example: He might think to himself, “She’s not going to want to talk to me on the phone or in person right now. So, rather than make her put up her guard with me even more by calling her, I’ll just try this and let things play out from there. She’ll probably appreciate it that I’m not being pushy and she will then open up to me again so that we can work things out.”
Yet, while texting is fine initially in most cases, a woman will rarely fall back in love with a guy if his texts don’t lead to a phone call and then a meet up.
This may sometimes work if a woman is really shy and doesn’t like to talk much, or at all, over the phone.
However, even a woman like that will eventually begin to see that as a half-assed effort to get her back, which makes her feel insulted and like he doesn’t even care enough about her to call her.
In almost all other cases, the longer a guy takes to progress from texting, to a phone call and then to a meet up, the more he’s reducing his chances of successfully re-attracting his ex, making her fall in love with him and getting her back.
So, if you’ve been considering using texting as your preferred method of getting your ex back, be aware that this may actually turn her off even more and cause her to think things like, “What does he want? Is he just going to continue texting me forever, or is there actually a point to this? I’m really getting bored and fed up with this. Maybe it’s time I stop responding to him and wasting my time.”
If you truly want to get your ex back, a few texts must lead to a phone call and then to a meet up.
So, don’t hide behind texts thinking that it’s the best way to get your ex back.
Instead, start reactivating her feelings of respect and attraction for you on a phone call and then follow through with a meet up, where she can see for herself that you really are a new and improved man now.
That’s the fastest, most effective ex back approach and it really works! You can learn how to do that in Get Your Ex Back Super System
If you’re not ready to begin learning the method to get her back, at least learn what mistakes you should avoid when choosing the right ex back program for you…
4 Mistakes to Avoid Making When Deciding on the Best Program to Help You Get Your Ex Back
Before you make a decision on how you intend to get your ex back, make sure you’re not making mistakes that will make actually turn her off even more.
1. Assuming that “No Contact” will work on any woman
Sometimes, if a woman is still in love with her ex and is secretly hoping they will eventually work things out and get back together again, him ignoring her for 30 to 60 days, may cause her to miss him and reach out to him.
However, she may also feel hurt by his treatment of her and decide that if he doesn’t want her back, she won’t waste her time waiting for him either.
She may then force herself to go out, meet new men and accept dates with them so that she can get over her ex and move on.
In a case where a woman is angry, turned off and disconnected from her feelings for her ex, him using No Contact to get her back is usually a big mistake.
Rather than make her miss him and want him back, it actually just gives her the time to move on and hook up with a new man.
The thing is, every woman is different, so you shouldn’t just use No Contact and assume that it will work on your ex.
Another mistake to avoid is…
2. Buying a whole bunch of programs and then getting confused with the conflicting advice
When a guy is desperate to get his ex back, he might end up buying a different range of ex back programs to make it happen.
However, a lot of the time, the advice in the programs is so conflicting that he ends up not knowing what to do.
For example: One program might say he must ignore her for 30 or even 60 days to make her come running back to him, while another program says call her right away and re-attract her.
Some other program might say he should text her to re-attract her, while yet another program suggests writing her a long love letter and telling her that he has changed.
As a result, he stays stuck and doesn’t do anything to get his ex back.
Alternatively, he might try using bits from every program, which is not only confusing to him, but also makes his ex wonder why he’s messing her around.
She then closes herself off from him even more, causing him to try even more ex back programs to get her back.
Eventually, this will almost always lead to the woman telling him she’s moved on with someone else, leaving him feeling angry, dejected and thinking things like, “Get your ex back programs suck! They simply don’t work.”
Don’t let that happen to you.
Just remember: What does work for pretty much every ex back case, is where a man actively re-attracts his ex woman, so she actually wants to get back with him again.
So focus on that.
Another mistake to avoid is…
3. Not trusting your gut instinct and going with the program that you think will help you the most
Some guys decide on which ex back program to buy based on the cheaper price and regret it later when they lose their ex.
Here’s the thing…
You probably already know which program will work best for you.
Hint: Usually the one that has worked for almost every other guy as well.
So, trust your instincts.
You won’t regret it.
Another mistake to avoid is…
4. Waiting too long to start and she then moves on without you
If you spend days, weeks or even months looking around for the perfect ex back program to help you get your ex back, by the time you make your decision it may already be too late.
Here’s the thing…
After a break up, if a woman’s ex doesn’t do anything right away to try and get her back, she will usually just use the time to get over him and move on with another guy.
That’s how it works in most cases, which is why if you want your ex back for real, stop wasting time asking things like, “Do get your ex back programs work?” and focus instead on interacting with your ex and actively reactivating her sexual and romantic feelings for you.
When she is feeling respect and attraction for you again, getting her back becomes easy, because it’s something she wants too.
On the other hand, if you wait longer than a week, you may end up regretting it when you find out that she has already started to move on without you and is possibly dating, or even falling in love with another man.
So, if you want her back, don’t wait too long.
Make a move and get her back with you.