That can happen if:

1. She dumps you when she is angry about something you said or did, but she still loves you

Sometimes, in the heat of an argument, a woman might say, “Forget it! I’m tired of putting up with your crap. It’s over! I don’t want anything to do with you anymore!”

She might then pack her stuff and leave, or ask you to leave.

Yet, when her anger dies down, she then realizes her mistake and begins to think things like, “What did I just do? Why did I break up with him? I know he messed up, but I still love him. It was a silly mistake to break up with him. What should I do now to fix it? Should I tell him that I made a mistake, or wait for him to contact me and fix things?”

In some cases, a woman might call her ex, apologize to him for overreacting and patch things up with him again.

In other cases, a woman will feel too embarrassed to contact her ex and admit her silly mistake, or she will worry that her ex will now reject her if she calls and tries to get the relationship back together.

This is why, if your ex broke up with you in the spur of the moment over something you said or did that annoyed her, you should contact her (preferably on a phone call, rather than text) to break the ice between you and her.

When you talk to her again, don’t make a big deal about the break up and don’t ask her to get back together.

Instead, just briefly apologize to her for what happened (i.e. for whatever it is you did to annoy her to the point of her breaking up with you) and then have a light-hearted conversation with her where you focus on making her laugh, smile and feel at ease with you once again.

When she seems relaxed and open and feeling better about what happened, get her to agree to meet up with you in person.

When you meet up in person, you just need to reawaken her feelings of respect and sexual attraction for you (e.g. by using humor to break down her defenses, being confident around her even when she’s being closed off and reserved, making her feel feminine in comparison to your masculine vibe, flirting with her to create some sexual tension between you and her).

If she sees that you’re being a confident, emotionally mature guy, she won’t be able to stop herself from saying something along the lines of, “Okay, look…I’m sorry that I overreacted in the way I did. I made a mess of things between us. Sorry.”

When she opens herself up like that, you can then take the lead and guide her back into a relationship with you.

Another possible reason why a woman might dump a guy by mistake is…

2. She likes a new man, dumps you for him, loses interest in him and then realizes her mistake

In a relationship, a man needs to be able to build on the feelings of love, respect and sexual attraction between him and his woman, rather than just expecting her to stick around because things felt good at the start.

A woman is also responsible for building on the feelings and harmony of the relationship and she will have the motivation to do that for a lifetime, if her man is able to continue a relationship dynamic that causes her to respect him, feel attracted to him and love him.

If her man creates a relationship dynamic that continually ruins her respect, attraction and feelings of love (e.g. he is insecure, treats her badly, doesn’t continually grow up and become more of a man), she will feel less motivated to work on the relationship.

If he doesn’t care to improve the relationship and make her feel happier with him, she might eventually feel as though she is being taken for granted.

As a result, she might complain about it by saying that she feels bored, is unhappy with how he treats her and doesn’t feel like the relationship is fun anymore.

She might also begin to compare him to other men (e.g. the boyfriends or husbands of her girlfriends) and suggest that he be more like those men.

If her man doesn’t listen to her initial complaints and get the relationship back on track, she will gradually begin to fall out of love with him.

When she falls out of love, she will start to feel less of a need to work on the relationship or even be faithful to him.

Then, if she happens to meet another guy (e.g. at work, university, in the neighborhood, through friends) who gives her the feelings that she is craving (i.e. love, attraction, respect), she may then decide to dump her guy for the new man.

Yet, once the initial excitement of being with someone new wears off, she might realize that she made a big mistake by dumping her ex.

For example: She may notice that her new guy has also started taking her for granted and isn’t being as nice as he was in the beginning.

Alternatively, she might realize that although she was initially attracted to her new guy because he made her feel more desirable and appreciated than her ex, now that the newness has worn off, all his faults are starting to see very obvious to her (e.g. he’s too jealous and controlling, he doesn’t have any real focus or direction in his life, he’s a loner and doesn’t get on well with other people).

As a result, she begins to lose interest in him.

At the same time, she starts to remember all the good things about her ex that she misses (e.g. he was confident and emotionally strong, he was self-motivated and ambitious, he treated her with respect and kindness, she loved what it felt like to kiss him) and she realizes that she made a mistake.

So, how can you get an ex woman back in a case like that?

You need to interact with your ex and actively make her feel a renewed sense of respect and sexual attraction for you.

The more respect and sexual attraction you make her feel, the faster she will reconnect with her original feelings of love for you and want you back.

Then, dumping her new guy (if she hasn’t done that already) and getting back with you will happen very quickly and easily.

Another possible reason why a woman might dump a guy by mistake is…

3. She’s inexperienced with relationships and doesn’t know how to handle relationship problems without threatening to break up, or actually going through with a break up

If this was your ex’s first serious relationship, it’s possible that she didn’t know how to manage her feelings and broke up with you by mistake.

For example: A mature woman who has been in a number of relationships will have learned that not every disagreement is worth getting into a big fight over, or breaking up over.

Instead, the disagreement is an opportunity for the couple to improve the relationship and become closer, because they have both learned more about each other and how to make the relationship work better.

Yet, in the case of a woman who doesn’t have relationship experience or is still a bit emotionally immature despite her age or experience, an argument about her guy being late for a date can blow up into something serious (e.g. she accuses him of not loving her, cheating on her or being like one her exes).

This may cause her man to get angry with her for not trusting him and before long, she’s saying, “That’s it! It’s over! I’m breaking up with you! I’m sick of this crap. Don’t ever contact me again. I regret the day I met you.”

Of course, breaking up isn’t what she really wants.

She wants a relationship that works and she wants to be able to feel more and more love, respect and attraction over time.

However, because she doesn’t know how else to behave when things aren’t working perfectly in a relationship, she threatens to break up with her guy and then goes through with it, even though she knows it’s a mistake.

So, for her guy to get her back, he actually needs to educate her and teach her that successful couples who stay together for life understand that no-one is perfect and that arguments and disagreements will happen, but that usually isn’t a good enough reason to break up an otherwise great relationship.

As long as a couple loves and forgives each other and can learn from their mistakes, a relationship can last a lifetime and become increasing happy and harmonious over time.

Yet, if a man or woman runs away when they are faced with challenges in a relationship, they will never get to experience the kind of love that grows and builds over time for life, which is the most special, most unforgettable love of all.

Another possible reason why a woman might dump a guy by mistake is…

4. She dumps you when she was stressed out because of work or studies and then realizes that it wasn’t your fault

Stress can sometimes cause a person to ruin relationships that they actually want to hold onto and build on.

Stress is the body’s way of responding to what it perceives as being a threat, which then causes it to instinctively kick into a ‘fight or flight’ reaction to solve the problem and get rid of the stress.

So, if a woman is going through a very stressful time in her life (e.g. she’s under a lot of pressure to meet a deadline at work, she’s studying for exams, she’s having problems with her family or friends), she may react in ways that are out of character for her.

For example: Under normal circumstances, she might be very easy-going, has a great sense of humor and like to joke around with her guy.

However, when she’s under stress, she becomes tense, agitated and serious.

If her man tries to relieve some of her tension by playfully teasing her (which would usually get a laugh out of her) or by pulling a prank on her to make her laugh, it might cause her to explode with anger and her stress level to increase even further.

Under the influence of stress, she may then start thinking things like, “Everything is a joke to him, isn’t it?! He doesn’t take my work/studies seriously. I can’t be in a relationship with a guy like that. He stresses me out! I’d be better off being single, so I think it’s best if we just go our separate ways.”

She then gets angry with him, dumps him and walks away hoping that her stress level will go down.

Then, when she meets her deadline and her boss praises her work, or she passes her exams or the family or friend problems go away, the reality of what she did to her romantic relationship starts to sink in.

She realizes her mistake and feels terrible about it.

Here’s the thing though…

Even if a woman realizes that the break up was all her fault, she won’t necessarily tell her ex that and then help him get her back.

In many cases, a woman will be too embarrassed to reach out to her ex and apologize, or will worry that she will get rejected if she tries to get him back.

So, if you want your ex back after she dumped you by mistake, you need to be the one to make the ex back process happen (i.e. by interacting with her on a phone call or in person and making her laugh, smile and feel good to be around you again).

Texts can be helpful to get an ex back, but I don’t recommend texts as your main approach to getting a woman back.

Women can easily play hard to get via text, misinterpret what you’re saying and feel turned off or reply for a while and then lose interest if you don’t call and arrange a meet up.

So, make sure that you don’t make the classic, modern mistake of hiding behind text to get an ex back.

You’ve got to get a phone call or in person meet up, so you then properly re-attract her and get her back.

Important: Don’t go to a meet up if you’re not fully prepared to re-attract her and seduce her back into a relationship.

Many guys make the mistake of meeting up with their ex woman and turning her off (e.g. by being nervous, unsure of themselves, insecure) or making her feel like they are just friends now (i.e. by using a neutral, friendly, non-flirtatious approach).

So, if you are going to meet up with her, make sure that you are prepared to re-attract her sexually and romantically and then get to a hug, kiss, sex and back into a relationship.

Another possible reason why a woman might dump a guy by mistake is…

5. She was just putting you and her through a test break up to see if your relationship would survive it, but it didn’t

Many women are insecure about themselves and their attractiveness to men.

As a result, when an insecure woman gets into a relationship with a guy, she might behave in odd ways to prove to herself that her guy really loves her and wants to be with her and only her.

One of the ways that she will behave is to prevent her man from hanging out with his friends and co-workers, to hopefully ensure that he doesn’t meet any other women and then dump her as a result.

Another way is to break up with her guy to test his love and devotion to her.

If he chases after her and begs her to give him another chance, she will feel better about herself.

Yet, one of the drawbacks of this strategy is that if she gets what she wants (i.e. a guy who begs, pleads and cries for her to take him back), she actually loses respect and attraction for him.


Women aren’t attracted to desperation.

Women are attracted to confidence, self-assuredness, emotional maturity, manliness and emotional independence.

So, if your ex dumped you by mistake as a way of testing your feelings for her, the worst thing you can do is chase after her in a desperate way.

That doesn’t mean you should ignore her either, because that may cause her to find another guy and move on to make herself feel better.

What should you do instead?

Maintain your confidence and use any interaction that you have with her to make her feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for you.

Make her feel that way, but don’t desperately push for a relationship or try to convince her to give you another chance.

Let her see that you do want her back, but aren’t being desperate or frantic about it.

For example: Imagine that you’re on a phone call with your ex and she says something like, “Why are you calling me? It’s over between us,” in the hope that you’ll respond by saying, “I’m sorry! Please just listen to me. Give me a chance to explain” or “Please don’t do this to us! I need you in my life! I want to work things out!”

Instead of playing into her hands, just turn the situation into an opportunity to reactivate her feelings for you.

Laugh and then say in a light-hearted, joking manner, something along the lines of, “Oh, you’re being such a drama queen now aren’t you? Look, we’re broken up. I accept that. However, we can be friends and still talk on the phone. I’m sure that we’re both mature enough to handle that without it having to mean that we’re getting back together. We can say hello as friends.”

Initially, she might feel a little disappointed that you’re not responding in the way she expected you to, but even if she doesn’t show it or admit it, she will suddenly be feeling a tremendous amount of respect and sexual attraction for you.

She will then realize that you’re the confident, emotionally strong man she always wanted you to be and that she was very lucky to have you as her man.

As a result, she won’t be able to stop herself from wanting to be your girl again.

When that happens, you can easily get her back.

Where Guys Go Wrong When Trying to Get a Woman Back Who Dumped Them By Mistake

Here are 3 mistakes you need to avoid if she dumped you by mistake…

1. Thinking that the only solution is to wait for her to come back

In some cases a woman will come back if you wait, but as mentioned earlier, in others she will be too embarrassed to try, or will be worried that you might reject her, so she will just move on instead.

Why take the chance of losing her (potentially forever, if she meets a guy that she wants to marry or have children with), if you can quickly get her back by re-attracting her and seducing her today, tomorrow or the next day?

If you are ready to re-attract her, go ahead and call her on the phone, or even better, meet up with her in person and reactivate her feelings of romantic and sexual attraction for you.

When you do that, she will be grateful that you took the lead in the ex back process (especially if she dumped you by mistake), so it won’t take long for her to open back up to getting back together.

Another mistake to avoid is…

2. Pouring your heart out to her in an e-mail, letter or series of text messages in the hope that it reignites her feelings for you

Sometimes a guy feels so frustrated to have been dumped (especially if he feels that his ex made a mistake), that he decides to send her a long e-mail, letter or series of text messages to declare his love for her.

He hopes that she will realize how much he still cares for her, even though she walked away from him, which will then compel her to give him another chance.

Yet, in most cases, when a woman gets a long soppy love letter/email/text from an ex, rather than feeling flattered that he still cares for her after being dumped, she perceives him as being desperate.

He then loses the coolness that attracted her to him in the first place, so she naturally begins to think that dumping him was actually the right thing to do after all.

So, make sure that you don’t mess things up by pouring your heart out to her via email, letter or text.

Another mistake to avoid is…

3. Trying to get her back with text messages and turning her off in the process

It’s so easy to mess things up via text.

A guy can easily come across as insecure, needy and desperate, even if he isn’t feeling that way when he types a text.

Even though he is feeling confident and just trying to work things out with her via text, she just doesn’t see it that way.

She ends up thinking things like, “He sounds so needy now. It’s like he doesn’t have a life without me. I know that I made a mistake by breaking up with him initially, but maybe it was the right thing to do after all. After all, what kind of guy would grovel and try to plead with me via text? I don’t want a guy like that. I want a guy who has some self-respect.”

Yet, she would think that if he talked to her on the phone or in person and was being confident, making her laugh and feel good to be talking to him again.

So, if you want your ex back for real, you have to be willing to re-attract her on a phone call or in person.

Only on a phone call or in person, can she get a clear picture of how you feel about yourself (e.g. you’re an emotionally strong, confident, self-assured guy), even though she dumped you.

When she experiences the confident, attractive version of you for herself, she will naturally start to feel some respect and attraction for you again.

When that happens, you then won’t have to ask her to get back together again, because it’s something she will begin to want (maybe even more than you do).

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