One of the greatest things about love is that it doesn’t die.
Lately, it might seem as though your wife has stopped loving you or that the love between you is dead and gone.
Yet, what I’ve found is that love always continues to exist in the background and can be brought back into the foreground when a man retriggers a woman’s feelings of respect and attraction for him again.
In other words, the love that your wife feels for you is still there in the background, but it is currently being supressed by negative feelings such as frustration, resentment, stress and disappointment.
So, what is the secret of how to make your wife fall in love with you again? How can you get the old feelings of love to come out from the background and back into the foreground between you and her?
In addition to what I teach in the video above, here are 7 ways to do bring back the love…
1. Bring her happy, loving smile back
One of the easiest ways to help make your wife fall back in love with you again is to stop taking things so seriously.
Life is serious at times, but for the most part, I’ve found that people tend to take things much more seriously than they need to.
Little disagreements turn into big arguments, minor annoyances turn into huge stressful problems and over time, it pushes the love out of the way and forces it into the background.
The man and woman want to be able to love each other like they used to, but they are so damn pissed off at everything.
Life becomes so difficult to even think about and the next thing they know, they’ve fallen out of love with each other and are starting to think that they might be happier with someone else.
Yet, what they don’t realize is that they are creating their own problems by taking everything about life so seriously, rather than looking at the funny side of things or looking at things from a more light-hearted perspective.
What I’ve found is that love flows so much more freely between a man and a woman when they are able to smile, laugh and look at life in a more positive light.
Yet, as a man, you can’t expect your woman to be the emotionally strong one for the both of you and then lead the way to a positive outlook on life.
When a man expects his woman to be strong and lead the way to better feelings for both of them, she feels turned off that she is stuck with a man who needs her to be the stronger one.
She also begins to resent him for it.
Over time, her resentment towards him builds up to the point where she finds it difficult to love him as easily as she did in the early days.
So, if the happiness has gone out of your marriage, how can you bring her smile back and begin the process of getting her to fall in love with you again?
From now on, you need to be willing to smile, laugh and look at things in a more light-hearted manner. This especially applies to things that usually make you irritated or frustrated.
Initially, this might be a bit of a struggle for some men who’ve gotten used to being so serious and easily irritated, but you have to be prepared to fight through the urge to get frustrated and force yourself to smile and be more light-hearted about it.
Find a way to turn it into something to laugh about or smile about. Use your unique sense of humor to put a funny spin on it and make you and your wife laugh like you used to in the early days.
When you are able to get her to laugh, smile and look at light in a more positive, light-hearted manner around you on a consistent basis, her love for you will begin to flow more freely, effortlessly and willingly.
2. Make her feel girly and feminine again
Another easy (and free) way to get your life to fall in love with you again is to consistently make her feel feminine and girly in response to your masculinity.
When a man and a woman become too neutral around each other (i.e. neither one of them is very masculine or very feminine around each other), the sexual spark and excitement goes away.
Think about it this way…
For a battery to work, it needs a positive and negative to create and electrical charge. For two magnets to be attracted to each other, there must be a negative and positive pole. Two positive repel each other.
The same applies to human sexual attraction in terms of masculine and feminine energy.
For sexual attraction to exist and remain charged and alive, there needs to be a clear masculine and feminine energy.
A mistake that some husbands make is to continually treat their wife as though she is a neutral friend rather than treating her like a feminine woman. Some husbands also make the mistake of expecting their wife to think, feel, behave and act like more of a man rather than being emotional, irrational and girly like a woman.
Making a woman feel neutral or have to adopt a more masculine way of being not only ruins the sexual dynamic, but it also makes it difficult for the wife to love her husband in a romantic way.
She might love him as a friend and her companion, but she won’t feel like loving him in the way that she used to when there was a better energy dynamic between them in the early days of the relationship.
When you make your wife feel feminine and girly in response to your masculinity, she will immediately begin to feel excited about being in love with you again because you will be making her feel like a “real woman.”
Making a woman feel like a real woman essentially means that she feels feminine, girly and free to be emotional like a woman around you. She doesn’t have to think, act, behave and feel like a man does when around you.
When you make a woman feel feminine and girly in response to your masculinity, she will instantly feel attracted to you in a deep, primal and fundamental way that she cannot switch off.
Making your wife feel feminine and girly is one of many different ways that you can get her to feel more attracted to you again.
You actually have a lot of direct control and influence over how much or little attraction your wife feels for you, because much of a woman’s attraction for a man is based on how he makes her feel when he interacts with her.
3. Get excited about new, mutual goals
In a long term relationship or marriage, most couples team up and combine their efforts to achieve mutually beneficial and enjoyable goals over time.
For example: In the early days, a couple might work hard towards the goal of buying a home, raising children and sharing fun experiences with extended family (e.g. birthday parties for the kids, dinner parties, etc).
However, when most of a couple’s major goals have been achieved or are almost achieved, the man or woman may begin to feel restless or as though the relationship or marriage doesn’t have much purpose or meaning anymore.
So, it’s always important to make sure that both you and your wife to have big, exciting goals that you’re aiming for that will be fulfilling for the both of you.
If it’s only you who has long-term goals and she has nothing to do (or vice versa), then problems may begin to emerge in your marriage.
For example: If a wife is pushing forward to achieve big and exciting goals and her husband is content to just sit on the couch for the rest of his life, she might end up feeling as though they are growing apart.
She might end up spending a lot of time outside the home and if she happens to meet a man who doesn’t care about seducing married women into having an affair, she might stray and possibly even leave her husband.
On the other hand, if her husband works too much and doesn’t have much time to spend with her, she might begin to seek love and attention in other ways.
If gets on an online dating site or loads up an app like Tinder, it won’t take her long to set up a profile and she will then have 100s of men in the surrounding area who are willing to meet up with her right away even though she is married.
So, it’s always important to make sure that you and your wife are working towards mutually enjoyable and beneficial goals; otherwise you may begin to drift apart over time.
4. Turn her on without expecting sex
After being in a relationship for a long time, it’s understandable that a man and a woman might fall into some routines regarding sex.
One of the routines that tends to make a woman feel unhappy, is when her man only really wants to touch her and make her feel turned on if it means that he is going to get some sex in return.
What a man needs to do is to keep things fresh, stimulating and unpredictable by not always wanting a full, sexual result in return for his foreplay efforts.
For example: Give her a neck rub, tickle her on the couch and then spank her on the butt, or hug her and then look her in the eyes for a relaxing 5-10 seconds before telling her that you love her and think she is the sexiest woman on Earth.
Then, just get back to doing what you were doing without expecting her to want to have sex as a result of your efforts to turn her on.
Rather than feeling as though you are two, robotic human beings who are going through the same old repetitive cycles, she will feel the excitement of not knowing exactly what’s going to happen around you.
She will know that you love her so much that you are willing to give her the experience of feeling turned on, without expecting anything in return.
Ironically, this will make her want to be more sexual with you more often. The more sexually interested she is in you, the more easily she will love you in a romantic, intimate way.
5. Consistently be the man she can look up to and respect
As you would know, life isn’t always easy and straightforward.
Throughout life, we often encounter challenges and obstacles along the way to success, happiness and personal fulfilment.
To cope with life’s ups and downs, it’s important to have a more patient, open-minded perspective about life, rather than being naïve and expecting that everything should go perfectly 100% of the time.
Lacking that fundamental wisdom about life, some men fall into the trap of becoming depressed and stressed out when they realize that no matter how hard they try, life just doesn’t seem to go perfectly all the time.
Confused and feeling emotionally beaten up by the ups and downs of life, these men will often make the mistake of looking to their wife for constant emotional support and guidance.
While there is absolutely nothing wrong with having an emotionally vulnerable moment as a man when you are under tremendous pressure, what a woman wants to see is that you deal with the situation like a man by focussing on a solution rather than wasting time feeling emotional.
Unlike women who are free to go around in emotional circles for life (that’s part of being feminine), we men need to be clear, direct and forward moving (that’s part of being masculine).
We can feel the emotions, but to be a masculine man that a woman can look up to and respect for life, we need to get on with it by focussing on a solution and moving forward, rather than wasting time feeling emotional.
When a man goes around in circles emotionally (e.g. feels depressed, complains, gets motivated and then loses motivation, throws his hands up in the air, gets excited, loses interest again, etc), a woman naturally loses respect for him as a man.
She might feel sorry for him and still love him in a pitiful way, but she’s not going to love him in a romantic, sexual way.
Since she can’t fully respect him as her man, she won’t be able to feel enough attraction for him and when that happens, she will begin to fall out of love with him over time.
So, if you cause your wife to lose enough respect and attraction for you over time, she may fall out of love with you and then begin to stray emotionally or physically.
What’s an example of how you can make her look up to you and respect you?
Stick to your word in terms of what you’ve promised to change about your thinking, behavior and actions.
When your wife can see that you stick by your word no matter what, she can then relax into your masculine direction and feel free to be a feminine woman.
She doesn’t have to worry about being responsible for managing the direction of your life, or the happiness in your marriage.
She knows that you’ve got things under control and if you have promised that you will do something, she can rely on you to follow through until it’s done.
Of course, approaching life in that way is beneficial for both you and her. She gets to feel like a feminine woman around you and you get a woman who loves you and looks up to you as her man.
6. Change how she feels, rather than trying to change how she thinks
In any long term relationship or marriage, it’s only natural that a woman’s thinking, behavior, attitude and actions might annoy her man at times.
However, how he approaches the annoyances will either bring him and his woman closer together or drive them further apart.
For example: If a husband hates how his wife enjoys talking on the phone with her family or friends for hours, it isn’t something that he should demand that she change.
He might want her to be interested in spending more time with him, but if talking on the phone with family and friends is what makes her happy at that point in time in her life, he should be willing to let her have that happiness.
Of course, if he gives her all the time in the world to chat on the phone and she doesn’t ever want to spend any time with him at all, then there is clearly a problem in the marriage.
Yet, the problem is not going to be fixed by demanding that she spend more time with him rather than yapping away on the phone.
The way to fix the problem and change how she feels is to begin to do some of things that I’ve already outlined in this article, which will trigger her feelings of respect and attraction.
When a man triggers a woman’s feelings of respect and attraction for him, she will immediately begin to reconnect with her loving feelings for him.
Since she will now feel so much better when around him, she will be more eager to spend time with him and won’t want to waste so much time away from him while on the phone.
7. Give her a lot of compliments without needing any compliments in return
One of the easiest ways to get love and compliments from your wife is to be the sort of man who remains emotionally strong and secure no matter what she says or does.
An example of this is to give her a lot of compliments without expecting or needing any compliments in return.
Of course, a wife who doesn’t respect her husband or feel much attraction for him isn’t going to care too much or appreciate a lot of compliments coming from him.
So, if your marriage is suffering from a lack of respect, attraction and love, make sure that you do the other things that I’ve mentioned in this article first, rather than trying to suck up to her with a bunch of compliments.
Your wife will value your compliments much more when she can look up to you and respect you as her man, so make sure that you work on that as the number one priority first.
When you see her responding positively to the changes in how you think, behave and act around her (i.e. she becomes more loving and attentive towards you), you can then reward her with an increase in free compliments (i.e. compliments where you don’t expect anything in return).
Ironically, when you give a woman compliments without needing anything in return, she will naturally want to express more love to you and give you compliments in return.
She will be feeling good around you because you are able to be so emotionally strong and loving with or without her reassurance, so it will feel natural for her to compliment you and express her love for you.
A mistake that some men mistake is to give their woman compliments, but then complain and whine if she doesn’t return the favor.
It’s fine complain to a woman in a confident, easy-going way to alert her to her unsatisfactory behavior (e.g. if she is the sort of woman who normally doesn’t express her emotions with words, or has gotten used to taking you for granted and just assuming that you know she cares), but problems occur when a man whines and complains about things in an emotionally needy way.
Why? Women are naturally attracted to the emotional strength in men and turned off by the weakness, so when a husband smothers his wife in his emotional neediness, it’s not going to have a positive effect on her.
She ends up feeling like loving him is too much work, compared to how easily it is to love an emotionally secure man. She would rather ignore him and keep out of his way, than have to deal with his emotional insecurity and neediness.
So, what should a husband do?
Essentially, you are going to get much more compliments and expressions of love from your wife when you are able to consistently be the more emotionally courageous one in the marriage.
In other words, you are able to love her and give her compliments without needing her to constantly reassure you or pump up your self-esteem. You are confident and emotionally strong with or without her assistance.
Regardless of what she says or does, you remain emotionally strong and keep bringing everything back to laughter and love.
You believe in the love that you and her share and no matter what type of challenges that you encounter throughout life together, you always remain as the one, strong, emotionally stable person that she can rely on.
When times get tough or you’re faced with a challenge, you are emotionally full and strong enough to be able to make her laugh and smile and keep her feeling special, loved and appreciated.
When you approach life with her in that way, the love that she feels for you will flow effortlessly and in abundance. You will be making her feel emotionally safe, protected and hopeful about life and her future and for that, she will love you.