To make your ex miss your presence in her life you can:
1. Attract her on a phone call and then cut off contact
Rather than sitting around waiting for your ex to miraculously start missing your presence in her life if you just wait long enough, it’s best to pick up the phone and start making her miss you right now.
Imagine that you’re on a call with your ex right now.
You can either use the phone conversation to spark some feelings of romantic and sexual attraction for you and make her long for something more, or you can leave her feeling neutral and not caring that she isn’t with you anymore.
For example: When you call her up, you could say something neutral like, “Hi Lynn, I just called to see say hi and see how you’re doing” and then have a straightforward conversation with her after that.
Yet, approaching the conversation in that way probably isn’t going to her smile, laugh and feel happy to be talking to you again.
So, what will?
After the obligatory, “Hello, how have you been?” or whatever introduction you use, you can say something along the lines of, “Yesterday I was driving past that little Chinese restaurant we used to go to and I thought of you.”
She may then start thinking things like, “Oh no, he’s going to tell me that he misses me. Lame!” or, “He’s going to ask me if I want to go there with him now.”
In the meantime, you can surprise her by saying, “Yeah… I was remembering how you struggled to learn to use chopsticks. Most of the time there was more food on the table than in your mouth. You really were a clumsy eater.”
At this point, she will probably laugh and feel a little self-conscious.
Obviously, that would only apply if she was a bit of clumsy eater, or if she is the type of woman who knows that you’re only joking.
You just need to adapt what you are saying to your situation, but the point is to be funny and get her laughing and smiling, rather than being so serious about everything and causing her to keep her guard up when talking to you.
When you make your ex laugh as you talk to her, she respects for you for being confident enough to joke around with her even though she’s your ex.
When she respects you, she also starts to feel sparks of sexual and even romantic attraction for you again.
You can then build on those feelings (i.e. by making her laugh some more, adding some flirting to create sexual tension between you and her) and then, when she seems relaxed, attracted and happy to be talking to you again, you can say something along the lines of, “Well, I’ve got to go now, but it was good talking to you again. Maybe we can do it again sometime,” and hang up the phone (obviously after you and her have both said goodbye!).
From there, cut off contact with her for a week, so she can miss your presence in her life.
During that time, or after a week, she might call you to say hi, or if she’s feeling a bit shy, she might send you a text and wait to see how you respond.
Whatever happens, you need to call her and arrange a meet up so you can fully reactivate her feelings for you in person and get her back.
By the way…
Even if she doesn’t contact you, it doesn’t mean she’s not missing you.
In some cases a woman is simply too unsure of herself to reach out to her ex in case he rejects her.
She is trying to protect herself from being the one who is being left behind if she reaches out to you and you’re not interested anymore.
So, if she doesn’t contact you, just make sure that after a few days (anywhere from 3 to 7 days) you call her again and get that meet up.
If you ignore her for longer than that, you stand the risk of making her think that you’re not interested in her anymore, so she then tries to move on emotionally and maybe even finds herself a replacement guy to move on physically.
2. Don’t just text her as a friend
Some guys make the mistake of continually just replying to their ex woman’s texts in a friendly way, when she reaches out from time to time.
For example: A guy might think, “Maybe if I’m nice to her and don’t put any pressure on her to get back together again, she’ll realize I’m a decent guy and she will then start to miss having me in her life. She will then be more willing to give me another chance.”
Yet, that rarely (if ever) happens.
Instead, when a guy is being nice, sweet and neutral with his ex, she usually just loses interest and stops replying.
Although he thinks being nice to her is what she wants, in reality, that doesn’t make her feel sexually attracted to him.
Rather than wasting more time with him, she just starts moving on with her life.
Soon enough, she hooks up with a guy who flirts with her and makes her feel sexually attracted and she begins to feel even more disconnected from her ex.
So, if you want your ex to miss your presence in her life, it’s better to spark her feelings of attraction by replying with humor and flirting and then get her on a phone call with you.
Alternatively, you can spark some of her feelings of attraction and then stop replying for a few days to make her miss your presence in her life.
If she is missing you and wanting you back, she might then contact you and you can arrange to meet up with her.
If she doesn’t contact you, don’t worry.
Just contact her after 3-7 days and get her to meet up with you, so you can fully re-attract her and get to a hug, kiss and possibly even sex the first time you catch up.
By the way…
Make sure that when you see her in person, you’re fully prepared to re-attract her and get her back.
If you meet up and turn her off by behaving in some of the ways that turned her off before (e.g. being insecure, allowing her to have control over you, treating her more like a friend than a desirable woman, being too cautious with your words around her, feeling unworthy of her), she will regret meeting up with you.
Then, getting her back becomes more difficult for you, because she closes herself off from you and starts opening herself up to being with a new guy.
On the other hand, when you are prepared and ready to attract her, she will automatically feel surges of respect and attraction for the new and improved you.
When that happens, her guard comes down and getting back together again becomes something that she’s open to.
Another way to make your ex miss your presence in her life is to…
3. Unfriend her from social media and post things as ‘public’ so she can see it from the outside
By cutting your ex out of your life as an official ‘friend’ on social media, it can spark her curiosity and make her wonder why you felt confident enough to do that, or if you are trying to hide a new girl from her to protect her from feeling hurt by seeing it.
Women love to obsess over guys and wonder what their behavior might mean.
So, when you unfriend her, she can then begin to wonder, “Why did he unfriend me? What is going on in his life? Has he met another woman that he doesn’t want me to know about? Is he moving on? Is he over me? I’m not over him yet. Why has he unfriended me? I don’t get it.”
Then, make sure that you post your photos as public from now on, so she can still see them, even though she’s not a friend of yours on social media.
She will stop by and check your social media because she will be curious about what is going on.
The more she can see that you’re having fun without her, the more she will start to miss your presence in her life.
As a result, she may feel compelled to reach out to you (e.g. by sending you a text or private message, giving you a call) to see what’s going on.
Alternatively, she might try to protect herself from feeling jealous and missing you by unfriending you on other social media accounts, or blocking you, etc.
She will stop by and look at your photos and she will feel respect and attraction for you if you look like you’re having fun, are confident and enjoying life without her.
By the way…
Some guys may wonder, “How will posting up photos of me having fun with other people make my ex miss me? Will she even care if I’m having fun without her if she no longer wants to be with me?”
Well, one of the qualities that women find attractive in a man is his ability to live a happy, fulfilling and successful life with or without her in it.
This means that when a man gets on with enjoying life, rather than sitting around feeling depressed and lost, it literally makes his ex woman feel some respect and attraction for him.
Naturally, women don’t go around admitting that (i.e. because the guy would then feel like what he is doing is working and would do more of it), but it’s true.
So, just understand for yourself that your ex will start to feel attracted to you again when she notices that you are happy and enjoying life without her, even though she probably won’t admit that, might even pretend she doesn’t care or might even pretend that she’s disappointed in you for being happy or even angry at you.
If you want to be successful with women, it’s very important that you don’t always take what they say literally.
A woman can literally SAY one thing and DO the complete opposite.
It’s just how women are.
This is why, if you want your ex to miss your presence in her life, you need to show her (from afar) that you’re coping with the break up well and are enjoying life without her.
You don’t need to rub it in her face by posting status updates saying things like, “Life is so good now” or, “I’m glad to be single. My last relationship was dragging me down.”
That doesn’t work.
Instead, just post up photos of yourself having fun with other people and keep things simple by including basic text with the status update like, “BBQ and beers with the boys” or, “Dancing salsa is fun. I think I might do this again next week.”
The more she sees for herself that you’re happy and fulfilled without her, the more she will begin to wonder if she made the right decision to break up with you.
BTW: Even if your ex doesn’t have a social media account, or doesn’t like using it or anything else like that, it doesn’t matter.
She is a woman.
She is going to check up on her ex guy to see if he is fairing better than her after the break up.
It’s what women do.
So, be ready to make her miss your presence in her life by posting photos of you having fun with other people.
When she sees the photos, she can then start thinking things like, “I thought he’d be moping around alone without me. Yet, he’s having fun. I’m the one who is thinking about him and sitting here on my own. I really thought I was over him, but all of sudden I miss him. I feel so confused. Why am I feeling like this? Maybe it’s a sign that we shouldn’t be broken up. If I am feeling this way, it means that I still want him.”
She then becomes open to talking to you on the phone and meeting up with you in person to see how she feels.
So, she might send you a text to say “Hey,” or ask how you are doing (e.g. “Hey, how have you been?” or, “I just wanted to say hi”).
From there, get her on a call (where you can build on her feelings for you again) and then get her to agree to meet up with you in person, so you can get her back for real (i.e. get to a hug, kiss and potentially even have sex if applicable).
Where Guys Go Wrong When Trying to Make an Ex Miss Them
When you use the right approach that works on women, making your ex miss your presence in her life and getting her back is pretty easy.
However, when you make any of the following mistakes, you can end up making the ex back process a lot harder than it needs to be.
1. Using the No Contact approach when she’s not even attracted
Ignoring an ex for 30 or even 60 days is a common approach that a lot of guys take to hopefully make their ex woman miss their presence in her life.
A guy like that might think something along the lines of, “It’s been said that absence makes the heart grow fonder. (He doesn’t realize that the saying mostly refers to when you love someone and are attracted to them, but have to spend time apart from them for some reason. It’s not about when a woman dumps a guy because she no longer feels enough respect, attraction and love to be with him, or doesn’t feel any). So, if I cut off all communication with my ex, she will hopefully start to wonder about where I am and begin to miss me. Then, when I contact her after a few weeks or a month, she will be so happy to hear from me again, that she will want to get back together.”
Yet, here’s the thing…
For a woman to break up with a guy, it usually means she’s disconnected from her feelings of respect, attraction and love for him.
In other words, she’s over it, over him and possibly doesn’t want anything to do with him anymore.
So, when he vanishes out of her life after the break up, rather than dwell on it and feel sad, she usually won’t care that he’s no longer contacting her.
Instead, she will focus on fully getting over him, moving on and finding herself another guy.
This is why, if you want to make your ex miss your presence in her life, the best way to go about it is by interacting with her and making her feel strong surges of respect and attraction for you again.
You can then use No Contact for up to 1 week (any longer than that is a waste of time) so she can miss you.
Then, contact her, fully re-attract her and get her back.
Get the job done.
Get her back for real.
Another mistake to avoid is…
2. Not realizing that even though she might miss your presence, she might not have the courage to contact you
Even if a woman misses her ex and hopes they might be able to work things out and get back together, she usually won’t do much or anything about it.
In most cases, a woman fears being rejected if her ex has lost interest in her since the break up, so rather than risk getting rejected, she will wait for him to make the first move.
Of course, she won’t wait forever.
If she notices that he’s not really doing anything to get her back, she might eventually decide to cut her losses and focus on getting over him by hooking up with new guys.
So, if you want your ex back for real, don’t make the mistake of waiting too long to make her miss you.
If you do, you might be shocked to discover that she’s moved on and is happy with a new guy.
Be courageous enough to take the lead in the ex back process.
Interact with her over the phone and in person, re-spark her feelings for you and get her back for real.
Another mistake to avoid is…
3. Being overly excited when she does reach out to you after missing you
One of the greatest feelings in the world, is when you’ve been hoping to hear from your ex and she suddenly contacts you to say something along the lines of, “I’ve missed you.”
Yet, here’s the thing…
If you get too excited and start saying things like, “You won’t believe how long I’ve been waiting and hoping to hear those words from you. I haven’t done anything else but think of you since we broke up! I’m so glad you contacted me. I’ve missed you so much!” rather than make her feel flattered, she might end up feeling turned off by what she perceives as your desperation.
She may then start thinking things like, “I can’t believe that the only thing he’s been doing all this time is sitting around and missing me. That makes him sound so needy and desperate. I think reaching out to him was a mistake after all. I didn’t realize that he was lost without me. I don’t want a man like that. I want a man who gets on with his life and keeps moving forward, despite me not being around. Why has he been alone all this time? Has he lost his confidence? Is he too stressed out and sad to be in social situations? Is he that needy of me? I want a man who is emotionally independent, not a needy guy who needs me to be there for him to feel okay.”
As a result, she feels a false sense of superiority over her ex.
She feels like she’s more valuable than him, even though she isn’t or might not be.
So, try to avoid giving your ex the impression that your life is essentially on hold and you are lost and lonely without her.
Instead, understand that even though she won’t admit it to you, she really wants you to make her feel as though she would be lucky to get another chance with you, rather than you being lucky to get another chance with her.
Another mistake to avoid is…
4. Texting her to tell her about all the great things happening in your life without her
If you want to let her know about what is happening in your life, post photos of yourself having fun and set those photos to ‘public’ so she can see them.
Don’t text her about it all though because that can easily come across as being manipulative, whereas posting on social media (even if you don’t normally do a lot of it) is much more easily seen as normal and understandable by an ex.
She might accuse you of trying to make her jealous, but you’re not doing anything to her.
You’re posting photos on social media and enjoying her life.
You’re not forcing her to look at them.
Unfortunately, some guys don’t realize that and either don’t post anything up, or they try to make their ex feel jealous while texting her.
For example: Sometimes a guy might text his ex something along the lines of, “Life is so great for me at the moment. I’m spending a relaxing weekend at the beach! Hope all is well for you” or, “Going out with friends tonight. Planning to party until dawn!”
Secretly, he’s hoping she will think, “That sounds like so much fun. I wish we were doing those things together. I miss him so much!”
Yet, in most cases, the opposite happens because she instantly understands that he’s texting her to hopefully make her jealous.
Here’s the thing…
When a woman can’t hear the tonality of your voice or see your body language, she can interpret anything and everything you text her based on how she remembers you when she broke up with you (e.g. insecure, self-doubting, upset, needing her, dejected, rejected, lost).
This is why texts are not the best way to try to make an ex jealous.
It’s just a bunch of words on her phone, which she can interpret however she wants.
Note: Have you noticed that I don’t just type up articles on this site? I include videos of me giving advice to you too.
Imagine if it was just a bunch of words on the screen.
You wouldn’t know how sincere I was.
You wouldn’t know that I am the real deal when it comes to helping men get their ex back.
This is why you shouldn’t just rely on text when trying to get your ex back.
You’ve got to let her see your confidence and happiness in photos, hear your confident tonality on a phone call and see your confident body language and behavior in person.
If you try to hide behind texts (especially if you’re using text to hopefully make her jealous), she may end up just blocking your number so she doesn’t have to hear from you, or text back and say something like, “Good for you! I’m having a great time too. Glad to see we’ve both moved on.”
That’s not what you want, right?
So, if you want to get her back for real, make sure that you are ready and willing to attract her properly.
Make her want you back for real.
Make her feel rushes of respect, sexual attraction and love for the new you.
When you do that, she automatically begins to miss your presence in her life and wants you back for her own reasons.