A woman will often lie about seeing someone else if she started seeing the new guy before she broke up with you (i.e. she cheated on you), or if she started seeing him shortly after the break up.
There are many reasons why a woman will do that, which I will explain this post.
I will also explain what you need to do if you want to get her back quickly and easily.
1. She started seeing him before breaking up with you
If she started seeing him before she broke up with you, she may have kept it a secret due to one of the following reasons:
A) She is the sort of woman who likes to move on before her guy does, so she always gets to be the dumper
Some women do that to ensure that they never end up getting dumped and left behind, especially by a boyfriend that they are losing interest in and want to dump anyway.
So, before she breaks up with her boyfriend, she will secretly begin looking for a replacement man while she maintains the relationship with her boyfriend.
If he happens to notice that she’s behaving a bit suspiciously (e.g. she comes home later than usual, makes secret phone calls while he’s in the shower/out for a run/watching TV, lies about where she’s going and with who, always seems to be texting and turns away from him so he can’t see her screen), he might then ask her if she’s seeing someone else.
She will then lie to him and possibly even get angry at him for accusing her of such a thing, as a way of making sure that he doesn’t dump her first.
Then, when she has secured her new man into a relationship or is at least casually hooking up with him, she will break up with her boyfriend and he will then be left behind feeling devastated.
It’s a pretty cruel move that some women use, but the reality is that guys who are able to use it (i.e. guys who know how to attract and hook up with women easily) often do that when breaking up with their girlfriend.
They get a replacement girl, start sleeping with her, make her fall in love and then go and break up with their girlfriend.
In some cases, the guy will lie about it and say that he’s not seeing someone else, whereas in other cases he will say, “Sorry, but I’ve met someone else and I really like her” to break his girlfriend’s heart as the relationship ends.
It’s a cruel world out there sometimes when it comes to dating, which is why you really need to be aware of how to handle yourself in a relationship with a woman.
It’s not your fault that your ex lied, but if you want to avoid it happening again, then make sure that never put yourself in a position where a woman wants to dump you like that again.
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Another reason why your ex may have lied to you about seeing someone else while she was still in a relationship with you is…
B) She felt bad about cheating on you and wanted to walk away giving you the impression that she broke up with you for other reasons
In some cases, a woman will find herself feeling attracted to a man who is not her boyfriend.
This will usually happen if she’s not getting the attraction experience she wants in the relationship (e.g. her boyfriend treats her more like a buddy than an attractive, desirable woman, he’s too nice, she walks all over him with her confident, dominant personality).
If her boyfriend isn’t able to improve and start making her feel the kind of attraction she wants, but the other guy seems totally capable of it, then she might allow herself to get seduced by the other guy.
She might feel guilty for feeling that way, but attraction is a powerful force and can cause both men and women to do things they normally wouldn’t (i.e. cheat).
So, even though she tries to stop herself from hooking up with the new guy, the powerful allure of attraction can then lead her to kissing him, having sex with him and developing feelings of love for him.
Yet, at the same time, she might not want to hurt her boyfriend by telling him that she cheated on him and is now breaking up with him to be with someone else.
After all, he could become really angry about that and hurt her, or he could end up crying his eyes out and guilt-tripping her into giving him another chance.
So, she lies about seeing someone else as a way of sparing his feelings and potentially avoiding a dramatic and possibly very dangerous break up scenario.
Of course, you probably wouldn’t threaten or hurt your girlfriend, but that’s not the point.
Women still follow their ancient instincts to avoid putting themselves in a situation where they could get hurt physically by a man due to breaking up with him.
If you are not the kind of man who would do something like that, she will instead want to avoid seeing you break down in tears, plead with her and make her feel guilty and horrible about what she has done to you.
Situations like that can result in exhausting, emotionally draining conversations in person that go on for hours and involve a lot of tears and emotional pain.
That’s why a woman will feel compelled to lie to her ex about seeing someone else.
She keeps it a secret so she can move on and get into a relationship with her new man, while giving her ex the impression that she broke up with him for other reasons that have nothing to do with her cheating on him.
In this way, she won’t feel so bad for her actions and her ex will hopefully feel better about being dumped.
Yet, in your case, you ended up finding out that she lied, which would have really hurt you.
If you want to get her back though, you need to get past that hurt and focus on following through on the steps required to get her back:
Another reason why your ex may have lied to you about seeing someone else while she was still in a relationship with you is…
2. She started seeing him shortly after breaking up with you
In a case where a woman started seeing a guy shortly after she broke up with you, she may have kept it a secret due to one of the following reasons:
A) She wanted to hurt you by stringing you along and then eventually telling you
Sometimes, a woman will feel bitter and angry towards her ex for stuffing up the relationship, wasting her time and causing her to have to end up breaking up with him.
As a result, when she does find a new man, rather than telling her ex about it so he can move on too, she strings him along (i.e. pretends to be interested in him, says she isn’t interested in dating anyone else right now, says she just needs a little time to heal before she opens back up to him, says she needs a little space first, etc) as a way of getting revenge on him.
Then, after weeks (and in some cases, months) of texting, she then tells him the truth and leaves him feeling upset, disappointed, angry and betrayed by her.
In the meantime, she has been happily hooking up with her new man and feeling smug about getting her revenge on her ex boyfriend.
Another possible reason why your ex lied to you about seeing someone else shortly after you and her broke up is…
B) She didn’t feel like she had to tell you
In some cases, a woman simply doesn’t feel like she owes her ex an explanation about what she’s doing in her life now that they’re broken up.
In her mind she may be thinking things like, “He’s no longer a part of my life. What we had is over. Besides, I’m not his property, so I don’t have to tell him what I’m doing or who I’m dating now.”
If her ex then happens to ask her if she’s seeing someone else, she simply lies about it because she firmly believes that it’s none of his business.
She believes that she was an individual before getting into the relationship, during it and now after it as well.
As an individual, she feels as though she can do whatever she wants and not have to tell her boyfriend about it, regardless of how it might affect him.
So, if you still want a chance of getting your ex back, don’t ask her why she lied to you about seeing someone else because she’s probably going to feel as though you are treating her like your property.
Instead, just focus on reawakening her sexual and romantic feelings for you during interactions, so she has a reason to want to be with you.
Remember: Each individual gets to decide who they want to be with.
The way to make an individual woman want to be with you, is to trigger her personal feelings of respect, attraction and love for you.
When you do that, she gets back with you and wants to stay with you because of her feelings for you.
Her feelings for you are the ticket to getting her back.
In fact, it’s only real way to get an ex woman back and it works naturally and easily.
You don’t have to waste energy trying to convince her, or waste time hoping that she might come back if you stay out of her life.
You can literally trigger her feelings of respect, attraction and love for you now or in the next few days and she will come back on her own because she will feel drawn to you for her own reasons.
Another possible reason why your ex lied to you about seeing someone else shortly after you and her broke up is…
C) She wasn’t 100% sure about the new guy yet
Sometimes a woman will get into a relationship pretty quickly after a break up to help herself move on, but because the new relationship is a rebound (i.e. a relationship someone has immediately or very quickly after breaking up a serious relationship), she may be unsure about whether it will last.
So, to keep her options open, she will lie to her ex and say that she currently isn’t seeing anyone, is only friends with a guy, or isn’t interested in dating at the moment.
She wants to give herself time get to know her new man better and see if she can establish an emotionally enjoyable enough relationship with him, before she fully cuts her ex out of her life.
She also does that to hopefully stop herself from being seduced by her ex back into a relationship, because she knows that her ex could re-attract her and get her back if he knew what he was doing.
Yet, she wants to keep her options open.
She doesn’t want to completely cut her ex off at that point, so she lies.
Essentially, she’s just buying time for herself until she’s 100% sure of her new relationship and confident that she will be able to handle the pain of the break up enough not to go back to her back.
When that happens, she then feels comfortable with her ex finding out that she lied to him about seeing someone else, because she has already moved on much further than him, which leaves him feeling the one who is being rejected.
So, if you want to get your ex back, don’t just sit around doing nothing hoping that she will comeback to you.
In almost all ex back cases, if a guy doesn’t re-attract his ex and seduce her back into a relationship (after she dumped him), then she will move on while he left behind thinking things like, “Why did she lie to me about seeing someone else? Why didn’t she give me a chance to get her back? Why hasn’t ignoring her been working? I thought that if you just cut off contact with a woman she’d come back. It didn’t work. She moved on even further without me. Why didn’t she care that I wasn’t contacting her? Why didn’t she contact me and give me another chance?”
The answer is simple.
In almost all cases where a woman has dumped a guy, she won’t chase after him and try to get him back for no reason.
If he wants her back, he has to take the lead and make it happen by interacting with her, re-attracting her and seducing her back into a relationship.
So, if you want your ex back, you need to go get her.
If you don’t, the new guy will win.
Why let him take your girl?
Why not give yourself the chance to win her back and claim that victory for yourself?
If you do, you will be proud of yourself for the rest of your life, even if you eventually decide to break up with her after getting her back and being with her for a while.
It’s your choice though.
You can walk away defeated, or become the victor in this situation.
It’s totally up to you.
Another possible reason why your ex lied to you about seeing someone else shortly after you and her broke up is…
D) She still wasn’t over you, so she wanted to keep seeing the new guy until she was. Then she would tell you
In some cases, a woman will still have feelings for her ex after a break up.
In the back of her mind, she may even be thinking things like, “I’m going to have to lie to him and day that I need space for a while and then secretly start moving on with another guy. If I don’t do that and he tries to talk me out of breaking up, I know that I probably won’t be able to resist him. Yet, our relationship just isn’t working and I don’t know if it ever will. So, I have to lie and get some space away from him so I can start moving on. Then, when I’m ready to fully break up with him, I will do it. For now though, I will just pretend that I’m not seeing anyone.”
Here’s the thing though…
Yes, it sucks that she lied to you.
It’s a horrible betrayal.
Yet, just because your ex lied to you about seeing someone else as a way of getting over you, it doesn’t mean you can’t re-spark her feelings and get her back.
You can.
When you say and do the types of things that are attractive to her, she will automatically feel drawn to you again.
She will want to talk to you on the phone and see you in person.
All it takes then is for you to kiss her, hook up with her sexually and get her back into an actual relationship with you.
Men all over the world do that every day and get ex women back; including women who’ve cheated on them or lied to them.
Ex back cases like that happen every day.
However, for you to be successful in getting your woman back like other guys have done, you need to change your approach with her because your approach so far hasn’t been working.
You have to use an approach that will reactivate her feelings for you.
For example: Some of the things that will do that are…
- Maintaining your confidence around her regardless of what she says or does to make you feel jealous, insecure, or as though you’re not good enough for her anymore.
- Using humor to make her smile and laugh and feel good when she is interacting with you, rather than making her feel tense, defensive or annoyed by accusing her of lying to you about seeing someone else, or even hinting at it.
- Flirting with her to create sexual tension, rather than talking to her in a neutral way like just a friend, or in a hostile manner due to the betrayal you feel based on her lies.
- Showing her that even though you still want her back, you’re not sitting around feeling depressed and hopeless without her. Instead, you’re confident, happy and busy getting on with your life without her (e.g. by pursuing your goals and dreams, partying and having fun with old friends and making new ones, doing things you always wanted to do but never got around to when you were with her, taking up a new hobby or interest that involves being around other people and having fun).
- Showing her via your attitude, conversation, actions and behavior that you’ve leveled up as a man (e.g. you’re more confident and self-assured than before, more ballsy, more emotionally independent, more mature and determined to succeed in your life).
The better you are at making her feel a renewed sense of respect and sexual attraction for you, the faster she will reconnect with her feelings of love for you.
She then naturally drops her guard and opens up to having real feelings for you once again.
It then becomes very difficult for her to stay with the other guy or to continue to date new guys, because deep in her heart she knows that you are a great man and she has probably made a huge mistake by leaving you.
As a result, she will naturally want to give you another chance for her own reasons.
4 Mistakes to Avoid Making if She Lied to You About Seeing Someone Else and You Want Her Back
If you want to forgive your ex for lying to you about seeing someone else and get her back, you can.
If you want to move on and find a new woman, you can do that too.
It’s your call.
However, if you do want to get her back, you need to make sure that you use the correct approach (i.e. an approach that causes her to want you back for her own reasons).
If you don’t use the correct approach with her, you will likely end up turning her off even more and possibly giving her the satisfaction of knowing that she hurt you and has probably scarred you for life.
Don’t let that happen to you.
Become the victor in this situation, not the victim.
Get her back, make her fall in love you again, enjoy the relationship and then decide whether you want to remain committed to her or break up with her.
Put yourself in the position of the chooser.
Reclaim your power, rather than being hurt for life and never being able to trust your ability to maintain a woman’s attraction in a relationship, therefore causing you to always feel insecure in relationships.
If you do want her back, be sure to avoid the following mistakes:
1. Getting very angry at her about her lies and playing into her plan to hurt you emotionally
Right now, you might be feeling betrayed that she lied to you about seeing someone else.
Betrayal can naturally cause feelings of anger, as well as deep hurt and sadness.
You might want to cry and hide yourself away from the world, or you might want to shout at her and call her all sorts of names for lying to you like that, especially after everything you and her shared together.
You probably did a lot for her.
You may have been a great boyfriend in so many ways.
Yet, she lied.
It sucks, big time.
Here’s the thing though…
If your ex wants to see you suffer as she moves on without you, then showing her your anger will simply play into her hands.
Rather than feeling guilty about lying to you, she may end up thinking something along the lines of, “Good. I’m glad he’s hurting. Hopefully it’s a wake up call for him. Maybe he will finally learn his lesson and start being the kind of man that a woman wants to stay with. Who knows. Maybe he will stay the same though. I am going to continue moving on though because I don’t any evidence that he has changed.”
That’s not what you want her thinking.
Instead, you want her to be thinking things like, “Wow, I can’t believe he’s now being so calm and emotionally mature about me lying to him. It’s really not what I was expecting at all. In fact, I thought he would lose it and instead he’s maintained his composure and seems fine. He’s different from the guy I broke up with now. I’m curious to find out more.”
She then naturally wants to interact with you more over the phone and in person to see what else about you is different.
Then, you can easily re-attract her and get her back, or at least hook up with her again to see how you both feel.
Another mistake to avoid making if you want her back is…
2. Seeming to be insecure about the new guy
Right now, your ex would be comparing you to her new guy.
If she is trying to get over you and move on, she will be aiming to convince herself that he is a better guy than you and that she made the right decision by breaking up with you.
So, if you behave like an insecure guy when you interact with her (e.g. ask her what her new guy has that you don’t, seem jealous, accuse her of dating him because he’s more good looking/rich/successful), then you will be giving her the confirmation she’s looking for that you’re not the man for her.
Here’s the thing…
Even though most women won’t admit it (because they don’t want men to act arrogant), they feel the most attraction for men who don’t see other guys as competition.
In other words, men who honestly believe that they are the best man available and a woman would be lucky to be with them.
When a man has that type of belief in himself, he exudes the type of confidence that attracts women like a magnet.
If he is also a good guy, then it’s a bonus and women love that too.
However, it’s important to point out that women still feel magnetically attracted to bad men who have that type of confidence in themselves.
As I said though, it’s not something most women are willing to admit because they don’t want it to go to guy’s heads, to the point where men start acting very arrogant.
Instead, women simply feel more attraction for men who understand it, without having to be told by a woman.
This is why, if you give your ex the impression that you’re feeling unsure about yourself in comparison to the new guy, she will instinctively feel turned off by you.
She will then perceive her new man as being better than you (even though he’s not) and feel like she has made the right decision to be with him.
When that happens, regaining her respect and attraction for you becomes a lot more difficult.
You can still regain her respect and attraction, but you have simply made it more difficult.
So, if you want to get her back, make sure that from now on, you come across as a man who believes in himself and his value to her when you interact with her.
Don’t ever display any type of insecurity or self-doubt in comparison to other men, but at the same time, don’t go saying that you’re the best man in the world and any woman would be lucky to have you.
Instead, just let that belief in yourself come through in how you talk, behave and interact with her.
Be prepared though: She might test to see if your confidence is real by saying some things to see if you become insecure.
Don’t take what she says personally.
Just know that she is testing to see if your new, magnetically attractive level of confidence is real.
If it is, she won’t able to stop herself from feeling attracted and drawn to you.
On the other hand, if you can’t handle any pressure and lose your confidence, she won’t be able to stop herself from feeling more turned off and repelled.
Another mistake to avoid making if you want her back is…
3. Calling her names
As tempting as it may be to say things like, “How can you lie to me? Doesn’t anything we shared together mean anything? You at least owe me the courtesy of being honest with me about who you’re seeing. I never realized this about you before, but you are lying, untrustworthy bitch. I can’t believe you would do that to me! You used to say that you loved me. Was that even real? You lying bitch!” to her, just don’t do it.
Rather than helping you get her back, calling her names will result her losing respect for you and losing trust in you for losing control of your emotions.
Women are attracted to men who can maintain control of their emotions under pressure and turned off by men who can’t handle the pressures of life.
It’s not something that women go around admitting (because it sounds cruel), but it’s the reality.
If you have already called her names, then don’t worry – what’s done is done.
From now on, just make sure that you are using an attractive approach that draws her back to you, rather than pushes her away further.
Another mistake to avoid making if you want her back is…
4. Not focusing on what actually works to get a woman back after a break up
What happened has happened.
She lied.
It sucks.
Yet, it you want her back for real, you need to reactivate her sexual and romantic feelings for you during interactions so she begins to doubt her choice to move on without you.
Don’t waste interactions you have with her by going on and on about how she lied to you, or even hinting at it and how it has hurt you.
That’s not going to work.
Likewise, if you just cut off contact and hope that she comes back, she will almost certainly just keep moving on with him or with a new guy.
Take control of the situation.
Do what works to get her back and get her back.
You can do it.
After you have re-attracted to her, gotten back with her again and are enjoying a sexual, loving relationship, you can then decide whether you want to stay with her or break up with her.
Many men do decide to stay with their ex woman, even though she lied because she ends up apologizing and wanting to make it up to him.
However, some men do report back to us that they got their ex woman back, made her fall in love again, enjoyed some great times and then broke up with her.
How you approach it is up to you.
Yet, one thing you need to know for sure is that you can get her back FAST.
In the next few days to a week, she can be back with you and loving you if you use the right approach.
It’s actually easy to do.
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