So, how can you get an ex back who hates you?
She can’t stand the sight of you anymore, she’s had enough, she’s telling you to go away and leave her alone and she just doesn’t want anything to do with you anymore.
How can you get her back?
In this video, I’ve got 4 tips for you to help you get your ex back even if she hates you.
1. Understand the truth about hate
Hate doesn’t last forever if the thing that you hate changes.
In the case of an ex, if you can make her smile, laugh and feel good around the new and improved version of you, it becomes impossible for her to hold onto the hate.
She can’t help but smile, laugh and feel good.
She can see that you really do make her feel differently now.
Think about something that you hate in life or someone that you hate out there in the world.
If that person or that thing continues to be the same way, then it’s likely that your hate will continue.
You might change eventually and think, “Alright, well I don’t need to hate that anymore,” and you might gradually become more indifferent towards it, but if the thing that you hate changes today or tomorrow, then you can stop hating it right away.
Likewise, with your ex, if she hates the way that you have been going about trying to get her back, then you need to change the way that you’ve been approaching the ex back process.
That leads me to tip number 2…
2. Quickly change the things about you that turn her off
When guys are trying to get an ex woman back that hates them, they’re usually making mistakes such as:
- Sending her way too many texts.
- Calling her all the time.
- Trying to discuss the relationship over and over again even though she’s not feeling attracted.
- Asking her to explain what he needs to change.
- Asking her to try to work on the relationship to give him another chance.
- Asking if the door is still open.
- Pestering her, annoying her and so on.
When a guy is doing those things, he often knows that he’s not doing the right thing, but he doesn’t know what else to do.
He feels so in love with her.
He feels so hurt by the breakup.
He wants her back.
He just wants to get the relationship back to where it was before, when things were good.
Yet, he doesn’t know how to go about it in a way that’s going to make her want the relationship as well.
A guy might then think something like, “Okay. If I show her how much I love her and I explain how sorry I am and I explain that things can be different, then she might give me another chance.”
Yet, that doesn’t work because if a woman doesn’t feel respect for her ex guy, she isn’t going to feel much attraction for him.
When a woman doesn’t feel respect and attraction for a guy, she doesn’t feel like she’s in love with him. She doesn’t feel motivated to want to be in a relationship.
She doesn’t respect him because he’s being annoying, he’s being insecure, he’s being desperate in a way and it’s turning her off.
So ,if a guy wants to get her back and he wants to stop her hating him, he has to start focusing on being a man that she can respect.
What’s an example of that?
For example: A guy got broken up with because he became insecure and emotionally sensitive in the relationship. He just lost his confidence.
He may have been confident at the start of the relationship, but somewhere along the way, he started to lose his confidence, he became insecure and he became emotionally sensitive in the relationship.
As a result, he started behaving in all sorts of ways that were out of character for him.
He might have been clingy and needy and jealous and controlling and all those sorts of things.
As a result, his woman is not going to feel respect for him.
She’s not going to be able to feel attracted to him and she’s not going to be in love with him.
So, if he wants to get her respect back, he has to show her that he has moved beyond the level that he was at when she broke up with him.
He’s no longer that insecure guy.
He doesn’t have to be perfect.
He doesn’t have to be the most confident guy in the world all of a sudden, but he needs to be confident around her no matter what and that leads me to the next tip.
3. Prepare to be tested
When getting an ex back, she is going to test you, especially she used to hate you and now is feeling some respect and attraction for you.
She’ll be interacting with you and she’ll be thinking, “Well, okay. He’s different now. I actually kind of feel good interacting with him, but is this real? Is he really that confident now? Is he really that emotionally strong?”
To find out, she will test you.
Say, for example, you’re interacting with your ex woman and you’re having a conversation, you’re getting her laughing.
What she will do to test you is suddenly stop showing interest in the conversation.
She will change her mood and start to act indifferent.
She might also not laugh at some of your jokes to see how you’re going to react.
She wants to see whether you are going to crumble under her pressure.
Is the confidence that you have in yourself now real or are you just putting on a front?
Are you acting confident when, really, on the inside, you’re panicking, you feel insecure, don’t feel worthy of her and are out of control on the inside?
Are you really confident?
Are you a man that she can respect again?
Are you a man that she can feel attracted to and be in love with?
Another example of this is where a guy got broken up with by his woman because he was taking her for granted.
He may have been a good guy at the start of the relationship, but over time, he started treating her badly.
He didn’t really put in a lot of effort into the relationship and maybe talked badly to her, didn’t appreciate her, didn’t see her enough or didn’t give her enough attention if they were living together.
He just didn’t make her feel loved and appreciated.
So, when he shows her that he has moved beyond the level that he was at when she broke up with him and he’s become a more balanced man now, she’s going to test him.
She’s going to act like whatever he is doing for her isn’t enough.
He will try to make her feel good, he’ll try to make her feel appreciated, he’ll try to make her feel loved and she will act like it’s just not good enough, it’s too late and she’s not going to believe that he has changed.
She wants to see whether he is going to crumble under the pressure that she’s putting on him.
So, when you are getting your ex back who hates you, just be prepared to be tested.
The tests are going to come.
You need to be ready for that.
Don’t look at it as, “Oh, no! I’m losing her! I’ve screwed up! I’ve messed up. I can’t get her back. She seems indifferent. She seems uninterested. I’m losing her. I can’t do this.”
You’ve got to remain strong no matter what.
By the way, one of the reasons why you need to remain strong at all times is that women are not attracted to the emotional weakness in men.
So, you need to give her what she wants by being emotionally strong.
She wants to feel attracted to you.
She wants to be able to respect you and you’re going to be able to achieve that by being emotionally strong.
4. Be a man that she can be happy with now
Leading up to the breakup, during the breakup and after the breakup, you were most likely not being the type of man that she could be happy with.
Yet, what about now? Have you changed?
Have you become the sort of man that can make her smile and laugh and feel respectful of you?
Are you able to interact with her in ways that make her feel attracted, feel like she’s in love with you again, feel like she wants to be with you?
That is what really matters.
You’ve got to make sure that you’re not continuing to do the things that were turning her off and making her hate you.
You’ve got to stop all that and start focusing on being the sort of man that she can be happy with now.
Part of being the sort of man that she can be happy with now is understanding where you went wrong in the relationship, where you were turning her off and improving those things about yourself.
For example: Sometimes a guy feels like he’s doing the right thing by giving his woman all the power in the relationship.
He’ll let her decide everything, he’ll ask her how she feels all the time, he’ll be really concerned about how she feels and what she wants and try to do everything for her to make her happy.
Yet, he doesn’t realize that that actually pisses women off.
They don’t want to be in a situation where a guy is essentially following her lead and making her the boss of the relationship, making her be the one that he is looking up to and respecting and feeling like he needs to follow her.
Women don’t want that.
Women do want to be respected. They do want to be loved. They do want to be appreciated, but they also want a man who can take on the position of power.
That doesn’t mean that a guy needs to be bossing a woman around and telling her what to do all the time and being a really aggressive type of bossy man.
Instead, it’s about being that confident, good man that she can look up to and respect, she can follow, she can listen to, she can be a good girl for.
That’s what women really want.
So, part of being the sort of man that she can be happy with now is understanding where you were going wrong in the relationship and understanding what areas you need to fix and improve and adjust to make her feel respect, attraction and love when she next interacts with you.
Let her see that you’ve gone beyond the level that you were at when she broke up with you.
You’ve become more of a complete man now.
You’ve become the sort of man that she can look up to and respect.
You’ve become the sort of man that she can actually stay in love with.
I hope you’ve enjoyed this video and if you need more help to get your ex back, I recommend that you watch my program Get Your Ex Back Super System.
It’s a step-by-step system and when you follow the steps, your ex will give you another chance even if she hates you right now.
You will be able to get her to stop thinking about you in such a negative light and start feeling good about interacting with you and being with you.
You’ll be able to make her feel respect for you again, make her feel attracted, make her start to fall back in love with you.
You’ll be able to get her to forgive the behavior that you were displaying leading up to the breakup, during the breakup and after the breakup.
You’ll be able to get her to look at who you are now and focus on how she’s feeling about you now.
She will be feeling respect for you.
She’ll be feeling attracted to you.
She’ll be feeling sparks of love again.
She will be feeling drawn to you.
She will want to give the relationship another chance.
Fact: You Can Change How She Feels About You
One final point that I want to make for you in this video is that you can change how she feels about you.
At the moment, it might feel like it’s almost impossible to get her to stop hating you.
All the things that you said and you did really annoyed, really pissed her off, made her want to get away from you and not see you anymore.
She doesn’t want anything to do with you, but you can change how she feels.
If your ex really hates you at the moment, then when you interact with her and you make her feel respect and attraction for you, what she’s going to initially feel is doubt.
She’s going to doubt whether it is real.
She’s going to doubt whether you could sustain that and you could actually continue being that sort of guy.
Yet, as the conversation and interaction continues between you and her, she’ll start to see that it is real.
You are the sort of guy that she can respect and feel attracted to now.
Then she goes from doubt to disappointment.
She starts to feel disappointment because she can see that you are the sort of guy that she can respect and feel attracted to now, so she thinks, “Well, why weren’t you like that during the relationship? Why weren’t you like that when I was breaking up with you? Why weren’t you like that after the breakup? Why are you just doing it now?”
As the conversation and interaction continues and she feels respect and attraction for you, then she’ll start feeling like there’s no point holding on to the doubt and disappointment because it’s obviously real.
She’s feeling sparks of respect for you, she’s feeling sparks of attraction, she’s starting to reconnect with some of the love that she used to feel for you.
From there, she starts to look at you as not being so bad after all and she starts to feel a bit of hope.
She starts to think, “Well, maybe I should give him another chance. Maybe I should just hug him. Maybe I should just go with what I’m feeling and see what happens.”
So, if your ex hates you at the moment, don’t worry.
Hate doesn’t last forever if the thing that you hate changes.
If you’re interacting with your ex and you’re making her feel respect and attraction for you and you’re building on those feelings, then she is going to go through a series of emotions.
She is going to look at you in a more positive light.
She’s going to let go of the hate that she used to feel for you.
She’s going to be able to forgive the way that you behaved.
She’s going to be focused on how good she feels with you now.
As a result, you and her get back together even though it started out as her hating you.
You guided her through the process, you made her feel respect and attraction for you again, you made her reconnect with the love and you got her back.