So, how can you get an ex back after a bad breakup?
In this video, I’m going to teach you how to get her to stop looking at the breakup in such a negative light and look at you as the man that she wants to be back with.
How do you do that?
The first step is to stop looking at the breakup in such a negative light yourself.
If you play the break up scenes over and over in your mind, you’re going to start to feel down about yourself.
You’re going to start to think, “Man, why did I behave like that? Why did I send her that text? Why didn’t I just end the phone call before I said all those stupid things? Why did I get angry at her? Why did I do this? Why did I do that?”
You’re going to feel down about yourself.
You’re going to think about how she reacted and how annoyed she was, how turned off she was and then you’re going to doubt that you could get her back.
Yet, that’s actually the worst thing that you can do if you want to get a woman back.
Why? To get a woman back, you have to be emotionally attractive to her.
This comes down to how you make her feel when you interact with her.
When she interacts with you, does she feel happy, attracted, respectful of you?
Does she feel sparks of love or does she feel turned off?
Does she feel resentful?
Does she feel frustrated?
Does she feel angry? Does she feel like she just wants to get away from you?
That’s what really counts.
Being Emotionally Attractive to Your Ex Again
So, how can you be emotionally attractive to your ex the next time you interact with her?
Here are a couple of examples…
1. Insecure vs. confident.
If a guy is interacting with his ex-woman and he’s being insecure, she’s not going to feel emotionally attracted to him.
Women are not attracted to the emotional weaknesses of men, such as insecurity and self-doubt.
On the other hand, if a guy is interacting with his ex-woman and he is being confident no matter what she says or does, then she is going to feel emotionally attracted to him.
She might not admit it and she might try to hide it by acting indifferent and acting like it’s not having an effect on her.
However, attraction is an automatic reaction that cannot be turned off.
She might not be happy with how the breakup went and how he behaved, but she is going to feel some emotional attraction for him if he is able to be confident no matter what she says or does.
Another example is where a guy is feeling down about himself versus a guy is feeling good about himself…
2. Feeling down vs. feeling good.
Women don’t feel attracted to the emotional weaknesses in men so if a guy is feeling down and he’s feeling unworthy of his ex-woman then she’s going to be turned off by that.
One of the reasons why emotional attraction is so important in the ex back process is that it’s what she cares about.
All I care about is you getting her back, all you care about is getting her back, but what does she care about?
How she feels.
She is an individual and for an individual to want to be in a relationship, they have to feel attracted, feel respectful and feel like they’re in love or they could be in love again.
Without those feelings, an individual doesn’t want to be in a relationship.
So, if your ex is feeling turned off by you at the moment, doesn’t feel like she’s in love with you and doesn’t feel like she can respect you, then she’s not going to feel drawn to want to be in a relationship.
This is why it’s so important to focus on being emotionally attractive to your ex again, regardless of how bad your break up was.
It’s only when you make her have some feelings for you again that she will be willing to begin looking at you in a more positive light.
To become more emotionally attractive, one of the first things that you need to do is to stop looking at how you behaved in such a negative light.
Stop playing those scenes over in your mind and instead start to laugh at how you behaved.
If you focus on how badly you behaved, you’re not going to feel very confident about your attractiveness to her and you won’t feel worthy of her.
As a result, you won’t be emotionally attractive.
Remember: Women are not attracted to emotional weakness in men. You’ve got to be emotionally strong.
So, start to look at the break up in a more light-hearted way and think, “Damn. Why did I say that? Why did I react in that way? Why did I send her that damned text? That was silly.”[Say that to yourself with a smile. Laugh about it. See it as funny or silly that you behave that way. Laugh at how you behaved and reacted during the break up].
After doing that, you then need to focus on the fact that who you were during the break up, isn’t who you are now.
You are a much wiser man now.
You are a better man as a result of going through that experience.
You have improved.
You’ve become a better man.
You’re not like other people who continue to make the same mistake over and over in their life and never learn anything about it, never improve.
You have made a mistake, you’ve learned from it and you’ve become a better man as a result.
So, focus on who you are now rather than how you were behaving back then and rather than how she was reacting to you back then.
You Are Not Alone
Another thing to do is to realize that it’s not just you who has gone through a bad break up or reacted badly to getting dumped.
When someone gets dumped, they don’t normally handle the breakup very well.
That applies to men and women all over the world.
It’s not just you.
If you think about the top 10 songs on the radio or the top 100 chart, have a look and you’ll notice that most of them are about a breakup, wanting an ex back, being hurt by an ex, missing an ex, feeling regret about an ex, wanting to reach out to an ex and so on.
It’s not just you.
Even these famous singers go through that experience themselves.
Likewise, if you ever watch those celebrity news shows, you’ll see that celebrities go through it as well.
It’s not just you.
When someone gets dumped, whether it’s a man or a woman, they often behave in a way that they look back on and regret.
They think, “Damn, that was a bad breakup. The way that I behaved was really irresponsible, really immature. I shouldn’t have done that. I shouldn’t have texted her this. I shouldn’t have said that. I shouldn’t have arrived at her door and demanded that she speak to me. I shouldn’t have been calling her all throughout the night. I shouldn’t have done those things.”
In your case, whatever you did is what you did.
It wasn’t the best thing to do, it wasn’t the most productive and effective thing to do, but that is what happened.
If you keep focusing on it and thinking of yourself as being a bad man, not good enough, just someone that should hang his head in shame, then you’re not going to be doing what is required to get an ex-woman back, which is to be emotionally attractive.
If you’re not emotionally attractive, you’re not giving her what she wants.
You’ve got to remember that it’s about her feelings.
If she is going to want to get back into a relationship with you, she needs to be able to feel emotionally attracted to you when she interacts with you.
If you are hanging your head in shame, feeling down about yourself, feeling depressed, losing confidence in yourself, feeling like you’re not good enough for her, then you’re not going to be coming across in a way that is emotionally attractive to a woman.
So, while you might feel a bit down and regretful about how you behaved leading up to the breakup, during the breakup and after the breakup, it’s best to just look at that as a learning experience.
Yes, you might feel sorry about it and yes, you might briefly apologize to your woman when you interact with her, if you haven’t done that already.
However, it’s not something to remain focused on.
Focus on What Will Work to Get Her Back
If you want your woman back, you’ve got to be focused on what is going to work, which is to interact with her and be emotionally attractive.
Let her feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for you when she interacts with you.
Let her feel sparks of love.
Let her start to look at you in a more positive light.
Let her start to look at what happened between you and her as regretful, but at the same time kind of funny.
The way that you reacted, the way that she said this and she did that and the way that you then did this, it’s kind of funny.
When you make her have feelings for you again then you are giving her what she wants.
What she wants is to be able to feel good around you.
She wants to be able to feel happy, feel attracted, feel intrigued, feel drawn to you, want to hug you and kiss you and want to be in your arms.
She wants to feel like she is in love with you.
If you interact with your ex and you’re being emotionally attractive, she’s going to feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for you.
She’s going to start to feel sparks of love.
She’s going to start to reconnect with the love that she used to feel for you.
Then, if you don’t get her back right away, she’s going to be thinking about you.
She’s going to be thinking, “Why am I feeling so drawn to him? Why do I want to call him? Why do I want to see him? Why am I worried about losing him all of a sudden? Why do I want to kiss him? Why do I want to be next to him? Why am I feeling drawn to him?”
That is how you get an ex-woman back.
Remember, what is most important to me is that you get her back.
What is most important to you is that you get her back.
That’s all you and I care about, but what does she care about?
She is an individual and unless she feels drawn to you and feels respect and attraction and sparks of love, she’s not going to feel motivated to want to get into a relationship.
A woman doesn’t want to get into a relationship with her ex where she feels turned off by him, she doesn’t respect him, she’s not feeling much or any attraction and she’s not feeling like she’s in love with him.
There’s going to be no motivation for her to want to get back into that relationship. Yet when you trigger her feelings for you then you’re giving her what she wants and you can get her back.
I hope you’ve enjoyed this video and if you need more help to get your ex back, I recommend that you watch my program Get Your Ex Back Super System
It’s a step-by-step system and when you follow the steps, you will get another chance with your ex even though it was a bad breakup.
She will feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for you.
She will feel drawn to you.
She will feel sparks of love and she will feel compelled to give you another chance.
You Can Get Her to Forgive You and Take You Back
One final point that I want to make for you in this video is that although you made some mistakes leading up to the breakup, during the breakup and after the breakup, it’s not the end of the world.
I’ve helped so many guys who have reacted badly to a break up to then get their woman back by focusing on what matters the most.
What is that?
When you focus on making her have feelings for you, then it feels unfinished to her.
The relationship doesn’t feel like it’s complete.
She is feeling drawn to you.
She’s feeling attracted to you.
She’s feeling respect.
She’s feeling love and as a result, it doesn’t feel like it’s over.
She thought that she was over you.
She thought that the breakup was the final straw and she didn’t want to be with you anymore, but she’s feeling attracted to you again.
She’s missing you, she wants you back.
This is why it’s so important to be active and focus on making her have feelings for you again.
When you do that, things change.
She feels drawn to you.
She opens back up and you can get her back even if it was a bad breakup.