Depression is something that can go away and be replaced with feelings of happiness, optimism and fulfillment if you change your approach from now on.
On the other hand, depression is something that will stick to you like glue if you make one or more of these mistakes for months or years after a breakup:
1. Seeing her as the only woman who could ever make you feel that way
There’s no denying that what you and your ex had together was special.
No woman will ever make you feel the same way she did.
That’s just the way it is.
However, that doesn’t mean you can’t find love with another woman.
In fact, there are many millions of different women who can easily be another ‘one’ for you, rather than your ex being ‘the one and only.’
To get other quality women to love you, it takes is confidence in yourself and the ability to make a woman feel attracted as you interact with her.
When you build confidence in yourself and understand how to attract women on purpose (i.e. not just getting lucky once in a lifetime. Instead, attracting women at will, on purpose, by choice), you feel optimistic about your current life and future.
As a result, not only does your depression rapidly begin to disappear, but you also naturally begin to think, talk, act and behave in ways that will attract high quality women to you.
They sense your confidence, self-esteem and the fact that you’re not a needy, desperate guy, which naturally attracts them to you.
You can then begin to enjoy your choice of quality women, rather than being the sort of guy who hopes women will give him a chance.
There’s a big difference between those guys and women instantly sense it.
Women can sense it based on your body language, vibe, reactions, conversation style, behavior and actions.
It’s obvious to them.
When you know that you can easily attract women, you become magnetically attractive to them.
As an added bonus, you will suddenly seem more attractive to your ex (i.e. if you interact with her, or post photos on social media of yourself having fun with other people) and as a result, she will want you back for herself.
You can literally begin to achieve all of this within the next week.
It doesn’t take long, as long as you are willing to learn and begin to experience what it’s like to be naturally and magnetically attractive to women.
Of course, if you’re not open to that and want to continue wallowing in self-pity and feeling depressed about losing her, then you’re most likely going to be stuck with your depression for many months or years to come.
In the meantime, quality women will not find you attractive because they will sense your desperation, neediness, sadness, awkwardness and so on.
Low quality women will be open to giving you a chance because they will hope that you don’t ever realize your worth and as a result, feel compelled to stay with her.
Yet, you’re not going to be happy if you accept a low quality woman that you’re not truly attracted to.
You will only prolong your depression and waste many years, if not decades of your life with her, or other women that you’re not truly attracted to.
Another mistake to avoid making is…
2. Wanting her back, but not really doing anything about it
Prior to reading this, you’ve probably already spent a lot of time feeling depressed, missing your ex and wishing you can get her back, right?
Yet, the reality is that almost all wishes don’t come true unless you take action and actually make them come true.
So, if you really want your ex back and feel that she’s the one for you, don’t waste another day feeling down in the dumps.
Take action right now.
Get her on a phone call or video call, or at the very least, send her a confident voice text to say hi and spark some of her attraction for you.
Be sure to add in a bit of humor or flirting into the voice text, or when on a phone or video call with her.
Why not just text her?
Texts can easily be misinterpreted.
You might feel confident while texting her, but she might assume you are still insecure, depressed, lost or lonely without her and as a result, read your text in a negative way.
Yet, when she hears your voice or sees you on a video call, she can instantly see that you are now very confident, have leveled up as a man emotionally and more importantly, are now able to make her feel very attracted as you talk to her.
Once you’ve contacted her and created a spark, get her to meet up with you in person, so you can build on her attraction and get her back.
Don’t make excuses.
You’ve got nothing to lose and everything to gain.
If you don’t push yourself to have the courage to fix this, you will almost certainly regret it for the rest of your life.
You have a chance to get her back now, so do it.
Another mistake to avoid making is…
3. Assuming that your friends, family or coworkers see you as a loser or failure because you were dumped and left behind by the woman you loved
Being dumped in a humbling experience (i.e. it suddenly makes you realize that you don’t own her and she doesn’t have to remain committed to you).
Yet, you shouldn’t allow the breakup to make you feel embarrassed or ashamed in the eyes of friends, family or coworkers.
Pretty much all of them will have gone through a breakup (or breakups) themselves and made regrettable mistakes in a relationship.
It’s not just you.
As long as you’ve learned from the experience and become a better man as a result, the breakup experience has made you more of a winner, not a loser.
You are now more experienced and prepared to make a relationship last for life, than you were before.
So, forget about what other people might think and focus on doing whatever will make you happy now and in the long run.
If that means getting your ex back, then go ahead and make that happen.
If it means moving on and finding a new woman, then do that instead.
It’s up to you because you’re the one who will have to live with your choice; not your family, friends or coworkers.
Another mistake to avoid making is…
4. Not realizing that this is the best opportunity he’s ever had to level up and become the man he has always wanted to be
If you look at your breakup as a bad thing, it will prevent you from growing and leveling up as a man.
As a result, you will struggle to re-attract your ex, or attract a new, quality woman into your life.
On the other hand, if you look at your break up as a chance to become the man you always wanted to be (e.g. more confident and self-assured, more manly, more focused on your goals), not only will it snap you out of your depression, but you will also quickly become a man who can enjoy his choice of women.
Of course, you can choose to be back with your ex if you want to, or give a new, quality woman a chance to be with you.
You just have to honestly say that you really do want to stop feeling depressed.
Then take the first step towards fixing this area of your life.
It won’t take long.
Most guys recover and become strong again within a week.
You can then get your ex back, or move on with a new woman if you want to.
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