Here are 5 common reasons why a woman will wish her ex the best for the future:

1. She is just being polite as she says goodbye

Sometimes a woman is just a nice, well-mannered person and it’s in her nature to want to end things on a good note.

As a result, rather than cause a scene or react in a negative way like some other women do (e.g. being bitchy, throwing a tantrum), she instead does the mature thing and wishes her ex the best for his future.

In her eyes, she’s just being polite and doing what she feels is the right thing to do.

Of course, it’s understandable that her ex might misinterpret her politeness as a sign that she’s not open to a reconciliation and is essentially saying, “Goodbye. All the best.”

So, a guy might start thinking things like, “It looks like she’s already cut me out of her life and mind because she’s wishing me the best for the future. By saying that to me, it must mean that she’s not going to stick around in my life anymore, even as a friend. I guess I just need to accept that it’s over and that I can never get her back. She doesn’t want to be a part of my future.”

Here’s the thing though…

Even if your ex is only being polite to you and currently isn’t interested in getting back together again, it doesn’t mean you can’t change how she feels.

You can.

When you reawaken her feelings of respect and attraction for you again (e.g. by using humor to break down her defenses when you talk with her on the phone or in person, showing her that you’ve moved past the level you were at before, making her feel attracted in new and exciting ways) she won’t be able to stop herself from feeling drawn to you again.

The love will begin to reawaken in her heart and she will feel drawn to you.

This is something that happens naturally and automatically, even if she didn’t feel that way before and even if she had planned on forgetting about you and moving on.

Another possible reason why your ex might have wished you the best for the future is…

2. She is acting like she is fine without you, when she isn’t

If a woman is having a difficult time getting over her ex (e.g. she still has romantic feelings for him, she has been secretly missing him, she is struggling to get rid of the pain of breaking up), she might say something like, “I wish you the best for the future,” as a way of covering up her true feelings.

She may think, “I don’t want to give him the satisfaction of seeing how much this break up has hurt me and have him gloat over it. So, I’m going to pretend that I’m fine with everything that happened between us. I’ll show him that I don’t care if he moves on and has a great life without me. In that way, he won’t get to feel like he won and I won’t come across as looking desperate.”

Yet, here’s the thing…

Regardless of whether your ex means it when she wishes you the best for your future or not, you can always use it as an opportunity to spark some of her feelings for you again.

For example: If your ex says that she wishes you the best for your future, you can respond with something along the lines of, “Yeah, I wish you the best for the future too. Of course, that doesn’t mean I wouldn’t still want my future to have you in it, but I accept that we’ve broken up. Life goes on and right now, I’m working hard on making some progress on my goals in life, which has been great. However, I do still miss you from time to time.”

By saying something like that to her, while maintaining your masculinity and emotional strength, you’re giving her an opening to express her true feelings for you as well (e.g. that she has been missing you and hasn’t been coping very well with the break up).

Women admire that kind of confident, non-needy honesty from a man who is continuing to move forward in life no matter what happens around him, so your ex will automatically starts to feel surges of respect and sexual attraction for you again.

When that happens, her walls start to crumble and she becomes open to getting back together again.

Another possible reason why your ex might have wished you the best for the future is…

3. You were just being neutral and friendly with her, so that’s an appropriate response

If you’re only being neutral or friendly around your ex and not even flirting with her a little bit (e.g. because you’re afraid that if you do she will get angry with you and cut you out of her life completely), it’s possible that she believes that you’re over her and don’t want her back again.

So, rather than make a fool of herself in your eyes (e.g. by showing doubts about her decision to break up) she just wishes you the best for your future to hide her true feelings.

However, secretly she may be thinking, “Well, this sucks. How sad. I guess he really is over me. Oh well, I just need to be mature about it and accept that we won’t be getting back together again and move on. I’ve wished him all the best for his future. He clearly accepted that, so I guess it’s just about both of us moving on now.”

Yet, here’s the thing…

If your goal is to get your ex back, don’t pretend you only want to be her friend, or worse, that you don’t have any sexual feelings for her (i.e. you don’t find her desirable) anymore.

Of course, it’s totally fine to be friendly with her, as long as you make sure you’re not pretending to be an innocent friend who isn’t interested in her in a sexual or romantic way.

Important: Showing her that you have interest in her doesn’t mean that you should pour your heart out to her and tell her that you still love her and want to be in a relationship.

Don’t do that!

Instead, focus on making her feel sexually attracted and turned on during interactions with you (e.g. by flirting with her and creating sexual tension), so that she will naturally begin to open up to you and start wanting a relationship again.

Another possible reason why your ex might have wished you the best for the future is…

4. She has been moving on since the break up

By the time a break up happens, a woman will sometimes have already disconnected from her feelings of respect, attraction and love for her guy and will be ready to start the process of moving on.

Although she might stay in a relationship with him for days, weeks, or in some instances even months before breaking it off, mentally she might have already started moving on.

So, when the break up happens, rather than wasting a lot of time trying to deal with the pain and disillusionment of what happened, a woman like that just focuses on getting over her ex as quickly as possible and moving on.

For example: She might…

  • Start going out more with her single friends and doing fun things together.
  • Open herself up to meeting new men (e.g. by going to bars or clubs, flirting with guys she knows have been interested in her, getting on a dating app or site).
  • Get on Tinder and start attending dates with random guys, which might sometimes lead to kissing and sex.
  • Focus more on her studies/work/hobbies.

Then, by the time her ex guy contacts her (i.e. if he’s been using the ineffective No Contact Rule, which doesn’t work well on women), she will have already moved on emotionally and in many cases, physically, because she will have opened herself up to new guys and new experiences.

As a result, she can easily say to her ex boyfriend (or husband), “I wish you the best for your future,” and mean it because she doesn’t feel the need to get back with him at that point and can see a happy future without him.

So, if you want to get another chance with your ex, the main thing you need to remember is this…

It’s much easier to change how a woman feels when you are actively interacting with her and making her feel attracted to you again, compared to giving her too much time to fully recover and move on (i.e. making the mistake of waiting 30 or 60 days to finally contact her and hope that she wants you back and hasn’t been moving on).

Another possible reason why your ex might have wished you the best for the future is…

5. She wants to end things on a good note

It’s a woman’s natural instinct to want to protect herself from being physically hurt by a man.

So, when it comes to breaking up, rather than risk her ex getting angry and possibly becoming aggressive, or even violent with her, a woman will usually decide to end things in the best possible way.

She might say, “I wish you the best for the future. I really hope you will be happy and find a woman who deserves and appreciates you. You’re a great guy, but you and I just aren’t right for each other. I wish you all the best” rather than getting into an argument with him, or blaming him for everything that happened.

Here’s the thing though…

Although you’re probably not the kind of guy who would get angry or violent in response to a break up, just to be 100% sure, your ex may simply be saying, “I wish you all the best” to make sure that she ends things on a somewhat peaceful, positive note.

By doing that, she has less reason to fear any potential consequences of being mean or cruel to you after the break up.

However, what she said, or why she said it doesn’t really matter.

The most important thing is that if you want her back, you use every interaction you have with her from now on (e.g. via text, social media, on the phone and especially in person) to re-spark her feelings of respect and sexual attraction for you.

That is what really matters.

The more you make her feel good when she’s around you (e.g. by making her laugh and smile, making her feel like a desirable woman), the more she will begin to want to be part of your future again, especially if she can see that you’re not pushing for a relationship.

When she feels attracted and sees that you’re not trying to push her into anything, she will naturally begin to think, “Hmmm…I like him again now. Should I give him another chance? I don’t want to just walk away now. I feel like I will be missing out on something great.”

When she is thinking that way about you, it’s then so much easier for you to get her back, compared to you trying to convince her or worse, killing yourself with stress while you cut off contact for months in the hope that she will miss you and come running back.

While you cut off contact, you have to deal with the worry that she might be having sex and falling in love with a new man.

Don’t put yourself though that.

Take control of the ex back process and get her back by re-attracting her, making her want you back and not pushing for a relationship.

3 Ways That Guys Go Wrong When an Ex Wishes Them the Best For the Future

Whether she meant it when she wished you the best for your future, is not something you should spend any more time thinking about.

Instead, you need to start asking yourself, “What will it take to reactivate her feelings for me and make her want a relationship again?”

The answer is actually pretty simple.

Firstly, make sure you use every interaction with her to spark her feelings for you (e.g. by making her laugh and smile and feel good to be talking to you again).

Secondly, don’t push for a relationship once you have re-attracted her.

Thirdly, avoid making the following mistakes:

1. Thinking that “I wish you all the best for the future” means, “There’s no chance of us sharing a future together.”

If a woman is saying things like, “I wish you the best for your future,” there’s it doesn’t necessarily mean that she doesn’t want anything else to do with him.

Of course, it could be her way of saying that she doesn’t want anything else to do with her ex, but even if it that is true, it still doesn’t matter.


The truth is, a woman’s feelings can be changed and brought back to life based on how the man talks, behaves and acts around her.

So, it doesn’t really matter what she said.

What matters is how you make her feel from now on.

For example: If a man talks to his ex woman and he is being confident, making her laugh and smile and making her feel feminine and girly in his presence, then she is naturally going to feel some sparks of respect and sexual attraction for him.

Yet, if he is being insecure, self-doubting and expecting her to take the lead in the ex back process (i.e. help him get her back by explaining what he needs to change, being really nice to him), then her feelings for him are going to remain dormant.

Seeing that nothing has changed, she will feel even more convinced that she made the right decision by breaking up with him.

She will then keep herself closed off and hope that her ex gets the message and leaves her alone.

Here’s the thing…

If you want your ex back, you have to believe in yourself and in your ability to change how she feels.

When you actively re-spark her feelings of respect and attraction for you, regardless of what she’s saying outwardly, her resolve to move on without you will be breaking down on the inside.

She will start to feel drawn to you again and before she knows it, her words of, “I wish you the best for your future” will start to become something that she regretted saying.

She will then want to start giving you signs that she wants you back, or is at least open to giving the relationship another chance and seeing how it goes.

The next mistake to avoid is…

2. Feeling unwelcome to re-attract her and get her back

Some guys make the mistake of thinking that because a woman is saying, “I wish you the best for your future,” if he then attempts to get her back (e.g. by flirting with her and re-attracting her), she will get angry with him and pull away even more.

Yet, that’s not how it works.

If a guy is not actively making his ex feel respect and attraction for him, his neutral approach is simply going to make her feel nothing for him.

She’s will then focus on getting over him by finding herself another guy who will make her feel sexually attracted.

Don’t let that happen to you.

If you want to get your ex back, you’ve got to actively make her have sexual and romantic feelings for you again.

So, don’t be afraid to flirt with her and make her have feelings for you again.

Remember: A romantic relationship between a man and a woman has to have a basis of sexual attraction and respect.

If that isn’t there, it’s a friendship at best and it won’t last.

On the other hand, when you create sparks of sexual attraction between you and your ex, she then naturally has the desire to want to release that sexual tension with hugs, kisses and sex.

As a result, it becomes so much easier for you to get her back.

The next mistake to avoid is…

3. Waiting for weeks or months for potential signs from her that she’s changed her mind

Some guys lose their ex woman by waiting way too long to get a sign from her that she wants to get back together.

Then, in most cases, the guy is shocked, disappointed and heartbroken when he finds out that she has moved on and already has a new boyfriend that she’s happy with.

Alternatively, when he finally contacts her after a long time (e.g. after using the 30 or 60 day No Contact Rule that doesn’t work well on women and was originally designed for women who want to get a man back because men usually come back if they are not contacted after a break up), she is completely over him and enjoying the single life.

Here’s the thing though…

Right now, it doesn’t really matter if your ex is giving you clear signs that she’s open to getting back together again or not.


You can make her change her mind now or within days, by reactivating her sexual and romantic feelings for you and making her experience new, more interesting emotions for you.

When you interact with her, either on a phone call or in person and make her laugh, smile and feel good to be interacting with you again, all of her previous decisions about not ever wanting to be with you again start to fade away.

She stops thinking about moving on without you and opens herself up to the idea of giving you another chance based on her newfound feelings of respect and attraction for you.

That is what works on women.

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