When a woman says, “I don’t feel anything for you anymore” a guy will usually believe that it’s the end of the road for the relationship and there’s nothing he can do about it.
Yet, people’s feelings change all the time and couples all over the world get back together every day after breaking up temporarily.
So, if you are now in the position where you are saying, “My girlfriend said she feels nothing for me anymore,” what you need to realize is that your situation is very common and much more easily fixable than you might think.
If she has already broken up with you, this is what you need to do…
Let her see that you really have changed and when she interacts with you now, she feels different.
She feels respectful of you, attracted to you and is beginning to love you again.
If you use that approach, you can and will turn the situation around and get her back.
However, if you try to convince her to have feelings for you and give you another chance, you will almost certainly fail.
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What she wants to experience is a renewed sense of respect and sexual attraction for you.
If you can make her feel that way, her feelings will naturally begin flooding back and she will feel sparks of love for you again.
The Pain of Losing Your Girlfriend
Getting dumped hurts.
So, if your girlfriend has already broken up with you, or is in the process of breaking up with you, I recommend that you fix the situation before it gets any worse.
Some guys take years to fully recover from being dumped by a woman they love, so if you really love her, don’t sit around doing nothing to improve your ability to attract her.
Get her back into a committed relationship with you and then decide what to do from there (e.g. if you want to break up with her when you get her back, at least you will be in the position of power and won’t hurt after the break up).
Love Doesn’t Die
Women don’t push away true love when it really is there.
So, if your girlfriend (or ex girlfriend depending on the situation) really used to love you, then it is still there in the background.
She has simply disconnected from that love and is trying to remain disconnected so she doesn’t get drawn back into a relationship with you.
If she is doing that, then you haven’t been re-attracting her and have been continuing to turn her off, so she knows that she has to move on.
Yet, don’t worry – you can get the relationship back on track and make her truly love you again.
Love is something that can be brought back to life under the right conditions.
If your girlfriend went from not loving you (when you met), to loving you (when you started dating), to not loving you again (when she told you she feels nothing for you anymore), then she can easily change how she feels again and go back to loving you if you just approach things correctly.
To get her feelings for you to change again, you have to regain her respect and attraction for you.
Once this happens, she will naturally open herself up to loving you again.
She will then feel sparks of love and you can get on with enjoying a better relationship than before, where she falls more and more in love with you over time.
Failing to Notice the Signs Before it’s Too Late
Most guys who say, “My girlfriend said she feels nothing for me anymore,” feel completely shocked by what happened.
More often than not they’ll say, “I can’t believe this has happened all of a sudden” or “I never saw this coming; it was so out of the blue.” However, this is where they’re usually wrong.
When a woman begins to consider breaking up with her man, she will wrestle with the idea for a long time before she gets to the point of breaking up with him.
Along the way she will try everything she can to get him to change before it’s too late.
She will give him numerous hints about why she’s not happy in the relationship and she may even say things like, “If you don’t change that, I’m going to break up with you.”
Of course, we don’t get taught this stuff in school or by the people around us, so we are often left to fend for ourselves once we get a woman into a relationship.
Most men simply don’t know how to behave in another way other than how they’ve already been behaving in the relationship, so they usually fail to change before it’s too late.
When a guy notices that his girlfriend (fiancé or wife) is losing interest in the relationship, he will often then make things worse by making some of these mistakes:
1. Asking her to explain what’s wrong.
It’s only natural that when a guy notices his girlfriend acting differently, being cold and aloof and generally pulling away from him, for him to want to ask her what’s wrong.
However, rather than solve the problem, this only makes her feel even more turned off and determined to get away from him.
A woman doesn’t want to teach her man how to be a man.
She doesn’t want to be his “teacher”, or even worse, his “mother”, who has to teach him how to be the sort of man that will be attractive to her.
By having to tell you what she needs from you in the relationship, the relationship dynamic goes out of balance and she ends up feeling like she’s the “man” in the relationship.
When this happens she naturally begins to lose respect and attraction for you.
A woman wants to feel like you’re in the lead in the relationship allowing her to relax and feel feminine in your presence, not have to “mother” you and guide you through the problems of life and relationships.
2. Promising to change.
Chances are that you and your girlfriend have had several fights leading up to this point and chances are high that, during those fights, you probably said something like, “I’m sorry. Just give me another chance and I’ll change.”
The truth is, you can’t say to her that you WILL change.
You have to identify the real reasons that her feelings for you have changed and then make changes, improvements and adjustments.
Anything prior to that is just mere words to her and your girlfriend is probably at a point where she’s lost in your ability to fix your issues and improve yourself.
You don’t have to fix everything and be a “perfect” man for her to be open to the idea of being with you again, but you do have to show her that you’re at least fixing some of the things that have been causing her to feel turned off by you.
For example: Here are some common reasons why a woman’s feelings can change and cause her to break up with a man…
- Taking her for granted.
- Being unable to control his feelings of jealousy.
- Putting her in the position of power.
- Failing to rise through the levels of life like a man.
- Lacking self confidence.
- Using the relationship as an excuse to hide from his true potential in life.
- Being too emotionally sensitive.
- Not being enough of a man for her.
Have you been making any of those mistakes in your relationship?
Don’t worry – you can fix it.
When your girlfriend sees that you are making an effort to truly understand what went wrong between you and then change, she will naturally drop her guard and she will feel more open and even happy to be interacting with you again.
Just make sure that you don’t panic and say, “I promise to change all these things about myself if you give me another chance.”
Women don’t want to be promised that a guy will change and they don’t want a guy to become desperate and willing to do whatever she wants to keep her.
What she wants is for you to change and just get on with being the sort of man that she can look up to, respect, feel attracted to and love.
Another mistake to avoid is…
3. Becoming needy and clingy.
What often happens when a guy who has little or no experience with women notices his girlfriend pulling away from him emotionally, is that he becomes even more needy for her affection.
The more she pulls away from him, the more desperate he becomes to make her happy and get her “approval”.
When she doesn’t show him the love he wants, he becomes even more needy and clingy.
However, his neediness, insecurity and desperation turns her off even more.
Her respect, attraction and love for him begins to diminish even more rapidly than before, eventually leading up to the dreaded “talk” where she says, “I don’t feel anything for you anymore” and “I think we should give each other some space for a while.”
Getting Her Love Back
Now, there’s no getting away from the fact that your girlfriends feelings for you have changed.
She may even be saying things like, “I’m over you” and “I don’t love you anymore.”
Pretty much every guy who has successfully gotten an ex girlfriend back was dealing with a woman who no longer felt the same way about him.
Yet, he managed to change the way she felt by changing the way he approached conversations, interactions and arguments with her.
Instead of further destroying her remaining feelings of love, respect and attraction, guys who successfully get their ex back switch to only saying and doing the types of things that will make their girlfriend feel attracted.
You can do that too.
You can make your girlfriend go from feeling nothing to feeling something and to then falling madly in love with you again.