When a guy asks me, “How can I get my girlfriend back?” he usually feels like it is going to be a long and difficult road to get another chance with her.
Yet, from all my experience, most guys get back with their ex girlfriend fairly quickly and easily. How do they do it?
1. They identify the real reasons for the break up
Most women won’t give you the real reasons why they are breaking up with you and will instead say vague things like, “I think we need time apart” or “I need space” or “I just don’t feel the same way anymore.”
Women don’t want to give you all the real, more deeper reasons why they are breaking with you because they don’t want to teach you how to be a man. A woman wants a “ready made” man that she can respect, feel attracted to and love.
She doesn’t want to have to train you to become the man she wants or have to wait for years in the hope that you change and become a better man than you are now. So, she will simply say that it’s over and try to move on.
Guys who are able to get their girlfriend back start by identifying the real reasons for the break up. When he knows the real reasons (the woman will rarely, if ever share those reasons), he is then able to make the correct changes to his behavior and how he treats her. When she notices that happening, she naturally begins to open herself up to being with him again or at least meeting up with him in person to catch up.
2. They fix their issues and improve themselves
When a guy has been insecure, needy or desperate with his girlfriend, she will be repulsed and turned off by that. Why? Women are attracted to the strength in men and turned off by the weakness.
If a woman’s ex boyfriend still hasn’t fixed his issues (e.g. neediness, insecurity, lack of purpose in life, anger issues, jealousy, etc), then it won’t feel right to get back with him. If she lacks experience with relationships or has been finding it difficult to get a new guy, she may get back with her ex temporarily, but will then dump him once again when she is ready.
If you’re wondering, “How can I get my girlfriend back?” you have to start wondering, “How can I fix my issues and improve myself so that my girlfriend actually wants me back?”
There are 5 more steps that guys take to get their girlfriend back, which I explain and provide the solutions for in my 7-step program called, Get Your Ex Back: Super System. If you’re serious about wanting to get your girlfriend back, I recommend that you watch the program.
As long as you go through my program and begin to fix your issues and emotionally improve yourself, you will feel ten times better to your girlfriend when she next interacts with you.
Her negative emotions towards you right now are not fixed into place permanently. Emotions change all the time and when she is presented with a new and improved version of you, it’s only natural that she will feel differently. From there, you need to make her feel understood by acknowledging where you went wrong in the relationship. If you want to learn exactly how to have that conversation with her, I recommend that you watch Get Your Ex: Back Super System.
For now, let’s have a look at some common reasons why relationships break up in the first place…
Common Reasons for Break Ups
There are many reasons why a woman will break up with a guy (I explain more than 70 of them in my program, Get Your Ex Back: Super System), so finding the real reasons that apply to your girlfriend is critical if you want to get her back.
Many of the reasons (not all) come down to the fact that women no longer feels attraction and respect for him and because of that, she has fallen out of love with him. Watch this video for more info:
Here are three common reasons for break ups. Do any of these apply to your break up?
1. Taking her for granted
The love, respect and attraction that you and your girlfriend feel for each other is something that needs to be taken care of, nourished and built over time.
Some guys are taught that lesson by their male role models as they grow up and become a man. Yet, most guys don’t get that type of wisdom passed onto them and are left to try to figure women out on their own. Without that knowledge, a guy may assume that once he gets a woman into a relationship, he basically owns her and she has to stay with him.
Yet, as you have experienced, your girlfriend can and will leave if she isn’t satisfied with how you’ve been treating her or behaving around her and in life. To keep a woman in a relationship with you, it is essential that you deepen the love, respect and attraction between you rather than taking it for granted and thinking that she won’t ever leave.
2. Being needy or clingy
On the opposite side of taking a woman for granted, some guys get too invested in their woman and become needy or clingy.
Examples of this can include:
- Constantly calling or texting her.
- Regularly needing her to reassure you that she loves you and wants to stay with you.
- Constantly avoiding hanging out with friends or working on your life goals just so you can spend time with her.
- Feeling as though you need her to feel good about yourself. When she isn’t around, you feel sad, lonely or lost.
Why do those behaviors turn a woman off?
Women feel respect and attraction for men who want them, but don’t need them 24/7. If you always need to be around her, it makes her feel like she has to take care of you emotionally, which is a huge turn off for women.
Additionally, she wants to be the one who is always thinking about you, calling you and wanting to be around you. Being in that position allows her to become consumed by her love and emotions for you, while you stand up strong and become a bigger and better man each and every day of your life.
3. Putting her in the position of power
Contrary to what TV sitcoms, TV drama shows, music videos and Hollywood movies would have you believe, a woman doesn’t want to “wear the pants” in a relationship. Regardless of how intelligent, strong and amazing a woman is, she still wants a man to be a man.
She doesn’t want to feel as though she has to lead you around or take on the role as “mother” or “big sister” for you. She wants you to be stronger than her (mentally and emotionally) so she can sometimes relax into being a feminine woman. If you force her to take on the masculine role, she won’t feel like a real woman and will not enjoy being around you.
Are You Serious About Getting Your Girlfriend Back?
If you’re prepared to learn why your girlfriend really ended the relationship, then you have the right type of attitude that will ensure you get another chance with her. Guys who are just looking for a quick thing to say to their ex girlfriend to get her back don’t succeed because getting her back requires that you truly understand where you’ve been going wrong.
Only when you know the real reasons why she broke up with you will you then be able to make the right changes that will make her feel understood, respect and open to being with you again.
When you meet up with her in person (don’t worry – I will teach you what to say to get her to meet up with you), you will be able to demonstrate to her that you not only understand where she was coming from when she broke up with you, but that you’ve actually fixed those issues and improved yourself.
When she sees that and hears what you say next (the conversation examples I provide in my program), she will suddenly feel like her life doesn’t feel right without your love in it. She will feel immature if she remains stuck to her idea of wanting to be broken up. Getting back together will actually make her feel GOOD about herself…and that is how you need to make her feel if you truly want to get her back.
I Welcome You to Try My Program
I’ve developed my program for getting an ex back by personally helping 100s of phone coaching clients to successfully get their ex back. Initially, when I first began helping guys to get their ex back I didn’t have all the answers, but I eventually worked it out.
You don’t have to spend years trying to figure this stuff out on your own. If you’ve been wondering, “How can I get my girlfriend back?” then you have finally found the answer and solution for you.
If you’re serious about getting her back, I welcome you to try my proven to work system for getting an ex back called, Get Your Ex Back: Super System