Yes, if you want her back, you have to contact her and start the ex back process.
However, be warned: She may react in one of the following ways when you attempt to call her.
1. She doesn’t answer the first time, but will answer the second time
When a guy has been using No Contact on his ex and hasn’t interacted with her for 30 or even 60 days, she usually won’t make it easy for him to get her back the first time he tries to call.
Instead, she will usually ignore his first call and wait to see how he reacts.
- Will he give up and walk away permanently this time around?
- Will he lose confidence and begin doubting his chances of ever getting her back?
- Will he become desperate and start calling her over and over again, or send her needy text or social media messages saying things like, “Please answer my call. I really need to talk to you,” or “Please talk to me. I’m sorry I ignored you for so long. It was a big mistake!” or “Why won’t you answer your phone?”
- Will he have the confidence to persevere until she answers the phone?
- Will he lose interest and just move on with a new woman?
So, if you call your ex girlfriend after No Contact, don’t be discouraged if she doesn’t answer the first time around.
Instead, just remain confident and try again later.
In most cases, when a woman notices that her ex isn’t crumbling at the first sign of resistance from her, she will answer his call (even if it is out of curiosity).
The important thing though, is that once you get on a call with her, make sure you don’t sound insecure or nervous.
Instead, start off by using some humor to break the ice and make her feel relaxed and happy to be talking to you again.
Then, when she seems open, get her to agree to meet up with you in person to say hi as friends, so that you fully reawaken her sexual and romantic feelings for you and get her back.
Another possible reaction you might get when calling your ex girlfriend after No Contact is…
2. She doesn’t answer no matter how many times you call
Sometimes, a woman might be stubborn and refuse to talk to you over the phone, no matter how many times you call her after No Contact.
That doesn’t mean you’ve ruined your chances of getting her back.
In a lot of cases, when a woman won’t answer the phone after No Contact, it’s usually because she’s angry with her ex for not having called her for a long time and she’s now being stubborn by playing a bit hard to get.
Alternatively, she may just be testing him to see if he’s going to become desperate and start begging and pleading with her via text, social media or email to give him another chance.
However, regardless of your ex girlfriend’s reasons for not answering your calls, the important thing is for you not to give up.
So, what should you do to make her talk to you again?
Start by texting her something along the lines of: “Hey Kendra. I’m trying to get in touch with you to ask you something quick over the phone, but I haven’t been able to reach you. I’ll give you a call tonight after work at about 6.30 pm so that we can talk.”
She might then respond with something like, “What do you want?” or “Just text what you want. I don’t want to talk to you on the phone.”
Whatever you do though, don’t make the mistake of texting her back.
You have to call her.
If she still doesn’t answer, text her this: “Hey, I know you’re busy and I promise I won’t keep you long, but I do need to talk to you on the phone. Don’t worry, it’s not serious. I’ll call you in 10 minutes.”
Then call her 10 minutes later.
By this point, she will probably be curious to find out what you want and she will almost certainly answer your call.
When she does, don’t make the mistake of being all serious when you talk to her.
Instead, use humor to break down her walls and make her feel happy that she finally answered your call.
She then becomes more open to seeing you in person, making it easy for you to fully reactivate her feelings for you and get her back.
3. She blocks your number because she’s with a new guy and doesn’t want you interfering
There are times when a woman uses the No Contact period to get over her ex and move on with another guy.
So, to avoid any uncomfortable confrontations that might arise if her ex decides to contact her, she simply blocks his number on her phone and likely even unfriends him on social media, so that she can get on with her life and her new relationship in peace.
Then, by the time her ex decides to call her after No Contact, he can’t get hold of her because she has cut off all means of communication with him.
However, if this has happened to you, don’t worry about it.
Although reconciling with your ex girlfriend might seem hopeless because she has blocked your number and is already with a new man, you actually do still have a chance of getting her back if you really want to.
How can you do that?
By showing her that you’re happy and living a good life without her.
You can easily do that by posting photos of yourself on social media having fun with other people.
The reason for doing that is because even though a woman usually won’t admit it, she almost always feels more attraction for a guy who gets on with enjoying his life, compared to a guy who sits around feeling sad, lonely and stuck at the same level he was at when she broke up with him.
So, if you haven’t already done so, make sure that you update your social media profiles.
Avoid posting any photos of you by yourself, even if you think you look really cool, or of neutral things like the scenery, a plate of food, or your dog.
The important thing is to catch your ex girlfriend’s attention, by showing her that you’re really happy and enjoying spending time with other people (especially other attractive women).
By the way…
If she has unfriended you, set your profile to public so that she can see what’s going on with you anyway.
Remember: Most women are still curious about what is happening to their ex after a breakup, even if it’s simply to gloat over the fact that she’s moving on with a new man, while he’s still stuck and possibly miserable without her.
So, chances are pretty high that your ex girlfriend will check up on you via social media (or even by asking mutual friends about what you’re up to).
Then, even if she’s in a new relationship, she will feel inquisitive enough to want to interact with you again to see for herself why you’re so happy and forward moving in your life without her.
All of a sudden, you seem more attractive to her.
She may then unblock your number and send out a feeler text to say “Hi,” and see what happens from there.
You can then call her, knowing she will most likely answer your call.
From there, re-spark some of her feelings for you so she wants to see you in person again.
Then when you meet up with her, build the sexual tension between you and hook up with her sexually (if you can) and blow her mind, so she feels confused about who she really wants.
However, even if you don’t hook up with her right away, just remember: The more you make her feel attracted to you, the more doubts she will have about her new guy.
It then becomes easy for you to fully reactivate her feelings for you and get her back.
4. She answers, is interested, but then loses interest based on how you approach the call
Sometimes a woman will be happy to hear from her ex.
She may even be thinking things like, “Wow, it’s been so long since we spoke. I’m curious to see what’s changed about him. I wonder if we’ll hit it off again.”
Yet, when she gets on the call with him, she ends up feeling disappointed when he turns her off with his approach.
Here’s the thing…
The mistake that a lot of guys make when calling an ex girlfriend after No Contact is sounding anxious or nervous while talking to her.
As a result, she feels turned off by him all over again.
She may then start thinking things like, “Oh well… I guess nothing has really changed. He’s definitely not more confident or emotionally strong. It even feels like he’s lost some of the qualities I still liked about him in the time we’ve been apart. I see now that I’m better off forgetting about him and moving on.”
She will then automatically put up her guard and continue talking to him in a cold, distant tone of voice, likely making him feel even more nervous and unsure of himself and losing even more of her respect along the way.
Then, when the call ends, he’s left feeling doubtful that he can get her back (which in that moment is true) and she ends up promising herself that she won’t answer any more calls from him.
As a result, they both lose out on the chance of getting back together and rebuilding a new, even better relationship than before.
So, when you do call your ex girlfriend after No Contact, make sure you’re prepared to make her feel respect and attraction for you again, by being confident and self-assured as you talk to her.
When she can sense that you’re being an emotionally strong man as you talk to her, her defenses will naturally start to come down.
She then becomes open to seeing you in person to see where things go from there.
Another possible reaction you might get when calling your ex girlfriend after No Contact is…
5. She answers, isn’t interested and then becomes interested based on how you approach the call
Sometimes, a woman will answer her phone after not hearing from her ex for a long time, with every intention of telling him to go to hell (e.g. because she’s angry with him for not contacting her for 30 or 60 days, she still feels resentful towards him over the break up).
Yet, even when she answers the phone with something along the lines of, “What do you want?” the guy doesn’t become nervous and unsure of himself.
Instead, he turns her coldness into something they can laugh about together.
He uses humor to break down her walls and makes her feel relaxed and happy to be talking to him again.
He then flirts with her a little bit as well, thereby creating a sexual spark between them.
As a result, she stops wanting to push him away and opens up to seeing him in person instead.
In the same way, don’t be put off if your ex girlfriend doesn’t sound happy to hear from you when you contact her the first time.
Instead, turn her cold, unfriendly greeting into something you can both laugh about together.
Bring down her defenses with laughter and smiling and make her feel sparks of sexual and romantic attraction for you again, so that she wants to explore those feelings with you in person.
Then meet up with her, make her feel attracted, hook up with her sexually and get the relationship back together again.
6. She answers, is interested, but rejects your initial attempt to get her to meet up in person to say hi as friends
Even if a woman still has feelings for her ex and wants to get back with him, she’s won’t always make it easy for him to re-attract her. Why?
Quite often it’s because she wants to make sure that he’s got the confidence to pursue her, even if she doesn’t jump straight back into his arms when he contacts her after a long absence.
Additionally, she may want to make sure that he’s serious about getting her back and isn’t just messing with her and then when she opens herself back up to him, he rejects her.
So, don’t be put off if she doesn’t seem keen to meet up with you right away.
Instead, continue sparking her feelings for you on the call and then say something along the lines of, “Hey, I accept that we’re broken up. I’m totally fine with that and I hope you’re happy. However, that doesn’t mean we can’t still be friends anymore, does it? We’re both mature adults and there’s nothing wrong with meeting up for a quick cup of coffee so that we can catch up in person after all this time. So, let’s do that sometime this week and cement our new friendship with one of those non-fat Frappuccinos with extra whipped cream and chocolate sauce that you love so much. I’m free on Wednesday or Thursday afternoon. Which day suits you best?”
She will then likely say “Yes,” and you can then arrange to meet up with her at a suitable place and time.
At the meetup, make sure that you don’t act like a friend.
Instead, you need to make her feel sexual and romantic attraction for you.
You also need to build up the sexual tension between you and her (e.g. by using ballsy humor to make her feel attracted, flirting with her to create a spark between you) and make her want to release that pressure with kissing and sex.
From there, you just need to continue building on her feelings for you every time you interact with her, whether over the phone or in person.
As you do that, she will naturally begin to reconnect with her feelings of love for you too and you can then get her back and enjoy the good times ahead.
7. She doesn’t answer because she is worried that she will feel attracted to you again
There are times when a woman decides to break up with a guy even though she still has feelings of attraction for him, because emotionally they are out of sync.
For example: She might want him to be more serious and focus on building a future with her (e.g. move in together, get married, start a family), but he’s too emotionally immature and likes to drift through life partying and having fun.
As a result, she doesn’t believe he will ever be able to change and give her what she really wants in the relationship, so she breaks up with him.
However, that doesn’t mean she stops feeling attracted to him.
So, when he calls her again after No Contact, she might decide not to answer the call because she’s worried he can easily seduce her back into a relationship again.
She’s afraid that he hasn’t changed and that she will end up getting hurt again by being in a relationship that is going nowhere.
In a case like this, the important thing is not to lose your confidence and give up.
Then use the text example in point #2 to get her on a call with you so that you can get her to agree to see you in person and re-spark some of her sexual and romantic feelings for you again.
When she senses (via your attitude, conversation style, actions and behavior) that you really have leveled up as a man and that if she gives you another chance, she won’t regret it, her defenses will naturally come down.
From there, you can then get your girl back, because she wants you too.
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