Here are the 5 signs to look out for that can reveal she is still into you and wants something to happen:

1. She contacts you

Sometimes, that is all a woman will do to show her interest in her ex.

It’s just how women are.

Some other examples of this are when a woman likes a guy at a party, likes the guy that she’s on a date with, or wants to have sex with a guy, but isn’t being open about it.

For example: A woman who likes a guy at a party might…

  • Keep looking at him.
  • Move closer to where he’s standing or dancing.
  • Use sexy body language to get his attention (e.g. walk past him and swing her hips, lick her lips when he looks at her).
  • Looks annoyed if he talks to other women.

Alternatively, a woman who likes the guy she’s on a date with, or wants to have sex with, might…

  • Hang on to his every word.
  • Laugh at all or most of his jokes, even if they’re corny or aren’t that funny.
  • Play with a necklace, her hair or stroke her neck.
  • Touch him during conversation.
  • Lick her lips.
  • Allow him to make all the decisions (e.g. what to drink or eat, where to go, what to do next).
  • Agree to go for nightcap at his place or her place.

As you can see, the signs are all there and all a guy has to do is to take action by approaching her (if they’re at a party), interacting with her, sparking her feelings for him even more (e.g. by making her laugh and smile, being emotionally masculine and making her feel like a desirable woman) and then getting a kiss and then hooking up with her sexually, or at least getting her number or another date.

In the same way, if your ex is contacting you, it’s up to you to make the next move.

You need to use the opening she is giving you and arrange to see her in person, where you can fully reactivate her sexual and romantic feelings and get her back.

On the other hand, if you just sit around doubting her feelings for you and thinking negative thoughts like, “Just because she contacted me first without me making a move, it doesn’t mean she’s not over me. She’s a nice person, so she probably just wants to do the mature thing and not act like a bitchy ex girlfriend. It’s probably better if I just play it safe and wait for her to tell me that she wants to get back together before I do anything,” then it’s possible that she will assume you don’t want her back and she may then simply focus on moving on without you.

So, the next time your ex contacts you without you contacting her, take it is a good sign that she isn’t over you.

Then, pick up the phone and call her (don’t text her), make her feel attracted, meet up with her in person and get her back.

Another interesting sign that reveals your ex girlfriend is not over you is…

2. She doesn’t hate you or never want to see you again

In other words, she’s still open to interacting with you via text, social media, over the phone and even in person.

This is a good thing for you, because you don’t have to struggle to talk to her or get her to agree to meet up with you in person.

Instead, you can use her openness towards you to re-attract her and get her back.

For example: The next time you’re on a call or at a meet up with your ex, you can begin re-sparking her sexual and romantic feelings for you by…

  • Being confident and self assured regardless of what she says or does to put you off (e.g. she pretends she’s over you, she’s being offish towards you, she talks about how she’s dating again).
  • Flirting with her to create sexual tension between you, rather than being too friendly or neutral towards her.
  • Using ballsy humor to make her smile and laugh and feel relaxed to be interacting with you again, rather than being too serious or on your best behavior with her.
  • Believing in yourself and in your value to her, rather than doubting yourself and turning her off as a result.
  • Showing her that you’re now a new and improved man that she can truly look up to, respect, feel attracted to and love, rather than continuing to make the same old attraction mistakes as before.
  • Making her feel feminine and girly by taking the lead during your interactions with her, rather than allowing her to call the shots and dominate you.

The more she experiences the new you for herself, the less convinced she will become that moving on is what she really wants.

You can then progress to giving her a hug, a kiss and then hook up with her sexually.

From there she will naturally begin to reconnect with her feelings of love for you and you can then get her back into a relationship with you that’s 100% better than it was before.

Another interesting sign that reveals your ex girlfriend is not over you is…

3. She texts you about random things

For example: She sends you a text asking, “Hey, what are you up to?” or, “I’m stuck in traffic. What a day!” or, “I got a call from (insert name of mutual friend) and he/she said to say hi to you.”

These are all just excuses to contact you.

She is hoping that you have the confidence and courage to do what it takes to get her back.

Here’s the thing…

Women want a man who has the balls to make a move, rather than needing her to make it really obvious to him that she still has feelings for him.

However, if a woman’s ex doesn’t have the courage to do that, she will try to get over him and move on.

So, if your ex is currently staying in touch with you via text, it’s up to you to take control of the ex back process, rather than waiting for her to spell things out for you before you make a move.

If you don’t act now, you might end up regretting it if she then moves on and hooks up with another guy.

Another interesting sign that reveals your ex girlfriend is not over you is…

4. Your gut instinct is telling you that she isn’t over you

In almost every case, your gut instinct is going to be right, because it comes from an overall, instinctive evaluation of the available information and data.

It’s like you are a computer and produce an answer based on the input you’ve been given.

If so many signs are leaning towards the fact that she isn’t over you, it’s almost certainly true.

Here’s the really interesting part though.

Even if your ex girlfriend is over you, it’s actually easy to change how she feels and make her feel attracted and in love with you again.

All it usually takes is to actively make her have feelings for you again by interacting with her, rather than leaving it in her hands and hoping that she misses you enough to come back.

When you spark her feelings of respect and attraction for you, everything changes.

Her guard comes down and she opens herself up to getting back together again because being around you feels good to her.

On the other hand, if you just sit around waiting for a sign from her before you feel confident enough to make a move, she will usually move on and hook up with another guy.

Alternatively, if you interact with her and continue saying and doing the same kinds of things that you used to do before she broke up with you (e.g. being insecure and needy, letting her dominate you emotionally, failing to make her feel feminine and girly in your presence), she’s just going to say something along the lines of, “Sorry, but I just don’t have feelings for you anymore. Please accept that and move on.”

So, if you want your ex girlfriend back, don’t waste a lot of time trying to decide if she’s over you or not.

Instead, just trust your gut instinct that she still has feelings for you and then interact with her and build on those feelings (e.g. by being confident rather than unsure of yourself, by making her laugh and smile rather than being too serious, by flirting with her and making her feel attracted rather than being too neutral or nice.)

When she feels a renewed sense of respect and attraction for you, based on experiencing the new and improved version of who you are right now, getting back together again will happen naturally and easily.

Another interesting sign that reveals your ex girlfriend is not over you is…

5. She can’t be friends with you because it hurts her too much

If your ex girlfriend is saying things like, “Please don’t contact me. I just can’t handle hearing from you right now. It hurts too much to get a text or hear your voice over the phone. I need some time to heal. Then, maybe we can interact again sometime in the future,” chances are that she’s not fully over you.

This is why you need to interact with her more and make her feel good to be talking and seeing you again, rather than backing off and saying something like, “Okay, sure. I’ll stop contacting you. Call me when you feel better,” and then pining for her while she gets over you and moves on.

So, if she says something like that to you, simply smile and jokingly say something like, “Hey, stop being such a drama queen. We can be friends even though we’ve broken up. It’s not like I’m holding a gun to your head and forcing you to get back together again. I’m just calling/texting to say hi and see how you are. I’m sure you can handle that. Why are you making such a big deal about it? Are you secretly still in love with me?” and then laugh to take the seriousness out of what you just said to her.

In most cases, a woman won’t want to come across as being the immature one and she also won’t want to admit that she isn’t over you, so she will likely laugh with you and say something along the lines of, “Of course I’m not still in love with you! Fine, if you want to be friends, I agree to that.”

You can then use your interactions with her to build on her feelings and then gently and easily guide her back into a new relationship with you.

Where Guys Go Wrong When Looking For Signs That Reveal an Ex Girlfriend’s Feelings For Them

If you want your ex girlfriend, it’s up to you to make it happen regardless of whether she is giving you obvious signs or not.

Where some guys go wrong and then end up losing their ex because she moves on or hooks up with another guy, is by making the following mistakes:

1. Waiting for her to say something clear and completely obvious like, “I want you back” before he feels confident about trying to get her back

Even if a woman isn’t over her ex and secretly wants to get back with him, she’s won’t always make it obvious to him.

In most cases, a woman doesn’t want to tell him about her feelings for him, because she doesn’t want to make it too easy for him to get her back.


She wants to know that he’s man enough to take responsibility of the ex back process and guide both him and her into a relationship.

If he can do that, she will automatically feel a surge of respect and attraction for him.

She will see him as being an emotionally strong man who is confident enough in himself and in his value, to go after whatever he wants in life (in this instance, her), regardless of how difficult or impossible the situation might seem.

That takes balls and women are attracted to balls (i.e. confidence, courage, fearlessness).

On the other hand, if a guy just sits around waiting for a sign from his ex girl and remains stuck at the same level he was at when she broke up with him, she will usually decide to move on and look for someone who is man enough for a girl like her.

So, if you want to get your ex girlfriend back, you just have to make it happen without waiting for her to help you.

Be emotionally courageous enough to take the lead in the ex back process and get her back.

If you don’t make the first move, chances are high that she will move on and it will then be even harder for you to get her back.

Another mistake that guys make is…

2. Overanalyzing her signs to the point where he begins to doubt that she still wants him

Sometimes a guy will think about every text, call or even gesture that his ex makes in the hope that he will get some clue about her feelings for him.

For example: If he sends her a text and she takes too long to respond to him, he might wonder things like, “What is taking her so long to get back to me? Could she be with someone else?

Alternatively, if she responds right away and adds a smiley face to her reply, he might think things like, “It’s like she was waiting for my text and she seems happy to hear from me. What does that mean?”

Yet, here’s the thing…

Overanalyzing your ex’s actions will probably end up making you feel more confused and unsure of what she really feels for you.

So, don’t bother with that.

Instead, if you want her back, then just be bold enough to make it happen by re-attracting her on a phone call and then in person and getting to a hug, kiss, sex and then a relationship.

Another mistake that guys make is…

3. Thinking that it’s all up to her and he has no control over the situation

A lot of guys make the mistake of thinking that their ex holds all the power when it comes to getting back together again or not.

Essentially, she can say, “Yes, I’m open to interacting with you and seeing where things go from there” or, “Sorry, but I’m no longer interested in you so please leave me alone,” and then the guy has to do what she says.

Yet, here’s what he doesn’t understand…

A man actually has a lot of control over the ex back process if he focuses on making his ex woman have sexual and romantic feelings for him for again.

When he reactivates her feelings and she feels attracted to him again, she naturally begins to want him back for her own reasons (i.e. she doesn’t want to risk not giving him another chance and then regretting it later on, she feels drawn to him in new and exiting ways and wants to explore that).

He can then get her back much more easily because she is open to being re-attracted and seeing where things go from there.

So, don’t make the mistake of thinking it’s all up to your ex girlfriend whether you get back together.

If you want her to give your relationship another try, you have to be courageous enough to take the lead and make it happen.

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