1. Did you block her to hopefully make her regret leaving you?
If so, then the act of blocking her can work if she is still in love with you and secretly wants you back.
Yet, if she doesn’t secretly want you back, then she probably won’t care much or at all about you blocking her.
Additionally, if she tries to contact you and sees that she is blocked, it can have a negative effect depending on the reason for the break up.
For example: If one of the main reasons she broke up with you was because she thought you needed to be more manly, then she might look at the act of blocking her as being immature and childish.
Her perception of a manly man may be a man who doesn’t need to block her and instead, can handle any contact she may have with him because he is emotionally strong and mature.
She may feel as though it’s only really women who block guys or who can’t handle communicating with an ex, but men shouldn’t be so emotional and reactive like that.
If that’s the case, she might think something like, “Whaaat? He blocked me? Why? I can’t believe how childish he’s behaving. Like a girl. This is just more proof that I made the right decision by breaking up with him. He’s definitely not the man for me. I can now put that relationship behind me and move on and find myself a real man without having any regrets.”
So, what should you do now?
You’ve blocked her.
How can you reverse the situation?
Firstly, you need to be man enough to take responsibility for your actions.
So, you have two options right now:
- Unblock her and hope that she contacts you. (That might not happen for weeks or months, during which time she may move on).
- Unblock her and send her a message saying, “Hey. I blocked you and then unblocked you. Just thought I’d let you know. Sorry for being an idiot.” That will make her feel compelled to forgive you and possibly message you back. Either way, you can message her a few days later and then get her on a phone call.
Be prepared for the phone call though.
She might not be initially receptive and open, but you can change that by warming her back up to you as you talk to her.
So, imagine that you’re on a call with your ex and she says something along the lines of, “What do you want? Why are you calling me? Aren’t you the one who blocked me? Why are you calling me now? I don’t get it.”
Rather than becoming defensive or annoyed, or losing confidence and becoming unsure of yourself, just laugh at yourself and say something along the lines of, “Yeah, that was me. I think I was suffering with a little bout of ‘idiotitis’ at the time. Fortunately, I’m all better now” and have a laugh with her about it.
Then add, “Seriously though, I’m sorry that I was being silly when I blocked you like that. It was a childish and immature thing to do. Anyway, I accept that you and I have broken up. All I want is for us to get past that and at least be friends from now on, that’s all. We can be friends, right?”
By laughing at yourself and then admitting your mistake, it shows her that you really have changed and are no longer the same guy she broke up with.
You have learned from the experience and have already taken steps to become a better, more emotionally strong and mature man.
Additionally, by getting her to agree to be friends, it then makes it okay for you and her to text each other, get on a call and if the vibe is good, even arrange to catch up in person to say hi.
That’s the smooth way to get an ex woman back.
The woman enjoys it, feels good about it and wants it and you’re just guiding her through it all.
It works and it doesn’t result in you being rejected because you’re not using an approach of asking for a relationship with her.
You’re just making her have sexual and romantic feelings for you and then guiding her towards hugging, kissing, having sex and then (and only then) being in a relationship with you again.
By the way…
Remember not to lose your confidence (or cool) is she doesn’t forgive you right away for blocking her.
Many women won’t make it easy for a guy to instantly get her back after he’s blocked her.
So, in some cases, a woman will initially pretend that she won’t forgive him, that she doesn’t care that he blocked her in the first place and that she doesn’t want to be friends with him anyway, to see if he’s going to give up right away, or if he will remain confident enough to keep guiding her back into a relationship.
Of course, that doesn’t mean you should beg and plead with her to change her mind or pressure her into wanting a relationship, because that will only turn her off even more.
Instead, just maintain your confidence and use humor to break down her defenses and make her open back up to you.
You can then use your friendship with her to fully reactivate her feelings for you, get to kissing and sex again and then get her back into an actual boyfriend-girlfriend relationship.
2. Did you block her because she was harassing you?
In a case like that, blocking your ex girlfriend can be a good thing, especially if you don’t want her back due to her harassing you or being nasty towards you.
You can simply keep her blocked, cut your losses and move on.
Additionally, it can also lead to her wanting you back in some cases too.
For example: If your ex girlfriend still has feelings for you and has been harassing you because she’s worried that you might move on without her, blocking her can cause her to finally come out and confess that she wants you back.
You are then in the position of power and can guide her back into a relationship with you.
Yet, not all women react nicely to being blocked.
Depending on the reason for the break up and how the guy behaved leading up to, during and after the break up, getting blocked can really make a woman angry for how he is now treating her.
She can feel disrespected, abandoned and used, which can result in her being nasty in certain ways (e.g. contacting his friends to reveal his secrets, causing problems for him at work, etc).
How the woman reacts really depends on what kind of person she is, how the break up went down, how much she cares about her ex, how impacted she feels by the break up, if she has a new guy and is happily moving on and so on.
3. Did you block her to prevent your new girlfriend from feeling hurt, jealous or annoyed?
If you’ve happily moved on with another woman and have no intention of getting back with your ex girlfriend, then blocking her for the benefit of your new girlfriend is a good thing to do.
However, depending on what type of woman your girlfriend is, she may actually like it and feel more attracted to you if she sees that your ex is still trying to get you back.
It really depends.
Some women have a really hard time trusting guys, just like some guys have a really hard time trusting girls.
So, if your new girlfriend has trust issues, wants a serious relationship and doesn’t want your ex girl hanging around, then it can be helpful to block your ex and keep her out of your life.
As you probably know by now, trust is one of the most important parts of a relationship between two people.
Without trust, a relationship will erode away via fights, accusations, resentment, anger and desire for revenge until the relationship feels more like two enemies than a loving, boyfriend and girlfriend.
So, if you’re worried about your new girlfriend feeling as though you can’t be faithful to her, blocking your ex will let her see that she has nothing to worry about anymore.
Your ex is gone and she is your woman.
On the other hand, if you’ve only been dating other women to make your ex jealous and hope that it causes her to come back to you, then blocking her might not be the right approach, because she may take it as a sign that you’re completely over her and she will then move on with another guy herself.
4. Did you do it because you couldn’t handle seeing her social media profile?
If so, then it points to a major thing you need to improve about yourself as a man to re-attract her and keep her in a relationship; your emotional strength.
An emotionally strong, masculine man doesn’t run or hide from challenging situations. He faces them head on, while remaining calm and in control of his emotions.
He doesn’t rely on a woman’s signs of interest, nice behavior towards him or loyalty to him to feel confident about himself.
As a result, women feel magnetically attracted to him and want to be loyal for life so they don’t lose him.
It’s a completely different way of approaching life as a man, which results in a totally different experience with women.
Part of being able to live that type of life is being emotionally independent, or having independent confidence.
This means that you don’t rely on a woman or other people around you in life to make you feel good enough about yourself so you can feel confident or worthy.
You feel that way on your own, based on your decision about yourself that you are worthy.
You are a great man and are always becoming an even greater man.
You are amazing and on your way to becoming even more amazing.
That’s how you have to think about yourself to have independent confidence, or to be emotionally independent.
It’s such a rare, powerful quality to have as a man, which is why women are so attracted to it.
It makes men and women respect you, look up to you and want to be like you.
It’s a powerful quality and very few men have it.
So, if you want to re-attract your ex girlfriend and get her back, the first thing you need to do is to get to the point where you approve of yourself and know that you are good enough for her (and for any other woman you want).
The more you believe in yourself and your ability to re-attract your ex girlfriend, the more it will become a reality.
You will see improvements immediately and every day from now on if you adopt that mindset.
Yet, don’t wait around for weeks or months to contact her and let her experience the new and improved you.
Take action like a real man and make it happen within the next few days to a week.
When your ex girlfriend experiences the changes in you (i.e. she sees that you’re now more confident, emotionally strong and emotionally masculine), her feelings about you will automatically begin to change.
Even if she tries to deny it to your face, she won’t be able to stop herself from feeling new sparks of respect and attraction based on you you being man enough to quickly learn from your mistakes and improve.
She will then begin to feel confused about her decision to break up with you.
When those kinds of thoughts enter her mind, the door to getting her back begins to open and you can then walk right through and get her back.
Where Some Guys Go Wrong When Blocking an Ex After a Break Up
In most cases, blocking your ex will simply cut off your chances of interacting with her to re-attract her and get her back.
If she is interested, tries to reach out to you and sees that she is blocked, it can cause her to quickly try to move on with new guys to make herself feel better.
She may also decide to block you during that time, so you can’t contact her and mess with her emotions.
So, apart from a few exceptions, it’s almost always better to avoid blocking her (or unblock her if you have blocked her already) and just get on with re-attracting her and getting her back.
That said, here are 2 common mistakes some guys regarding blocking an ex woman.
The first one is about social media…
1. Forgetting that she can easily check his social media profile from someone else’s phone, including a mutual friend if they have one
Women always want to check up on their ex after a break up.
It’s a natural curiosity that is very hard to ignore, especially in today’s world with access to social media.
In some cases, a woman will check her ex’s social media because she misses him and wants to see if he’s also feeling a bit sad and lonely without her.
In other cases, she checks to see if he’s struggling without her, so she can then feel good about herself, or she wants to make sure that he doesn’t move on before she does, so she doesn’t have to feel like she is the one being left behind after the break up.
Whatever her reasons, an ex woman will almost always find a way to check up on her ex guy, even if he’s blocked her.
If she then comes across a sad, lonely social media photo of him, or a post where he’s talking about how much his life sucks, she will automatically start to feel better about herself (because the break up is hurting him more than her) and turned off about him (because women are turned off by emotional weakness in men).
So, if you’ve already blocked your ex, make sure that you update your social media pages and post lots of photos of you having fun with other people since the break up.
The more she can see that you’re having fun without her (not photos of you doing things on your own. It has to be with other people), the more she will want to interact with you again.
She will feel as though she is missing out on experience a new, more confident and happy you, which will make her feel like she is being rejected in a weird kind of way.
It’s almost as though you are happier now that you’re without her.
She can’t have that happen.
She has to make you feel like you need her again.
As a result, she will most likely text you, message you on social media or call you (if you’ve unblocked her) or pass a message through a friend (if she’s still blocked) and pretend that she just wanted to say hi as a friend, or to see how you were doing.
Don’t be fooled by only wanting to say hi, or just wanting to see how you are doing.
Secretly, she will be feeling surges of respect and attraction for you again for being able to live a happy, fulfilling and successful life with or without her in it.
From there, you simply need to create some sparks of attraction inside of her as you talk to her and then arrange a meet up so you can get her back.
So, make sure that your social media profile is showing you looking happy, confident, loved and included (i.e. around other people who clearly want you to be there).
Let her feel like the one who is missing out.
That is what works on all types of women, young and old.
I know this because I’ve helped 1,000s of men to get their ex woman back.
Another mistake that guys make regarding blocking their ex is…
2. Assuming that she will care that she is blocked
Sometimes, a guy will block his ex girlfriend hoping that she will care so much that she will desperately try to contact him, but she won’t.
In other cases, he will hope that she notices and then tries to contact him to find out what’s up.
Yet, she doesn’t even care or notice that she is blocked and simply uses the time that he is out of her life, to move on.
Here’s the thing…
When a woman breaks up with a guy, she will usually have reached a point where she has disconnected from her sexual and romantic feelings for him.
In other words, she doesn’t feel much or anything for him anymore and is emotionally ready to move on.
Many women get prepared weeks or even months before a break up.
So, when she finds herself single again, a woman will often focus all of her attention on moving on, finding herself a new man and living life on her own terms without the stress that she’d been experiencing leading up to the break up.
This usually means that she’s not losing any sleep worrying about why her ex blocked her.
Instead, she may even be thinking things like, “Cool. I’m glad he blocked me rather than constantly texting, calling, messaging me to give him another chance. Now I can enjoy my life without him seducing me back into a relationship. I can focus on finding myself another guy, without the hassle of dealing with an ex. Too easy.”
So, if your ex girlfriend doesn’t have feelings for you anymore, what you need to understand is that you stand a much better chance of getting her back by interacting with her (via text, on social media and especially over the phone and in person) and using those interactions to reawaken her feelings of respect and sexual attraction for you, than you do by blocking her and hoping she will somehow come running back to you.
Of course, if you’ve already blocked her, it’s not the end of the world.
Just go ahead and unlock her, call her and begin reactivating her feelings for you.
If she doesn’t answer your call, just text her.
Yet, make sure that you get to a call though.
Attraction happens so much faster and easier on a phone call compared to text, so don’t hide away from a phone call behind way too many texts.
If you text too much, she may end up playing hard to get and going cold on you.