The key to a happy relationship is when a man can guide both himself and his woman into deeper feelings of respect, attraction and love for each other over time.
Just because things felt good at the start, it doesn’t that either you will want to stick around later on.
To keep a relationship strong, you’ve got to deepen feelings of love, respect and attraction for the both of you.
When those three things deepen over time, it not only makes a couple happy to be together, but it also helps to ensure that their relationship has the best chance of lasting a lifetime.
So, if you want to know what happy couples do, here are some of the most important things to keep in mind.
- Feel attraction and respect for each other.
- Love each other despite their differences.
- Touch, hug, kiss and have sex often.
- Don’t take each other for granted.
- Have mutual goals and ambitions that span out years or decades ahead.
- Have interests, hobbies and friends apart from each other.
- Grow together as a couple, rather than only one person growing and leaving the other behind.
- Love and accept each other for who they are deep down.
- Help and support each other to reach for their true potential in life.
- Have a relationship dynamic where she feels feminine in response to his masculinity, rather than her “wearing the pants” and being the more dominant one in the relationship.
- Communicate openly with each other.
- Trust each other.
- Can depend on each other for support during difficult times.
- Have shared interests and enjoy spending time together.
- Keep the romance alive in their relationship, (e.g. by going out to a special dinner once in a while, taking a weekend away, watching a sunset together somewhere quiet).
- Laugh together.
- Support each other even when they don’t always agree with the other person’s decisions.
- Bring out the best in each other and make the other person feel good about herself or himself.
- Have fun together.
- Don’t put other people or things above each other (e.g. he doesn’t make the mistake of disregarding her opinion and only listening to his family or friends, or she doesn’t place a greater importance on going out with her friends rather than being present in the relationship with him).
The truth is, that although the list can go on, the most important thing to remember is that for a couple to be happy, it all boils down to being able to guide both yourself and her into deeper feelings of respect, attraction and love for each other over time.
A woman will remain happy to be with you if you continue to build on her feelings of attraction, respect and love for you over time.
For example: If a relationship starts off well, but a guy then becomes insecure, controlling and clingy, the woman’s feelings for him won’t be able to deepen much at all.
If that kind of behavior continues from him, she will eventually lose respect for him, stop feeling attracted to him and then begin to fall out of love with him.
How You Make Each Other Feel is What Matters the Most
If you were to base your happiness as a couple on what the media recommends, you would be having romantic candlelit dinners every day, going off for romantic weekends every other weekend, and buying her flowers and gifts on a regular basis.
Although these things are nice and definitely help spice things up in a relationship when they happen from time to time, it’s not what makes a couple happy.
For example: A guy might buy his wife flowers and take her out to a romantic dinner every week, but if he criticizes her or belittles her the rest of the time, she’s not going to think, “Wow! I’m just so happy! I know he treats me badly most of the time but that’s okay because he buys me flowers and takes me to nice restaurants.”
In the same way, a woman might buy her man gifts often, but if the rest of the time she’s a nag who disrespects him in front of others, he’s not going to think “I’m happy because she buys me nice gifts,” he’s going to think, “This woman makes me feel miserable.”
This is why the most important thing that happy couples do, is make each other feel loved, respected, cared for and appreciated over the long-term.
Essentially, it’s not the superficial things that make a couple happy.
If you want to be happy in your relationship then you have to actively deepen the love, respect and attraction that your woman feels for you by being a man that she can look up to and respect.
As a man, you have to know how to create that type of dynamic and then you need to maintain it throughout life.
4 Relationship Hacks That Will Keep You Both Happy
Here are 4 simple ways in which you can keep growing the respect, attraction and love your woman feels for you.
1. Always remember that laughter is the best medicine
Laughter is the best medicine, so always try to smile and laugh at the things that you would normally get angry or upset about.
Some situations can be very stressful and you might feel the urge to argue or get angry, but with a smile or a laugh, a difficult situation can be made a little lighter.
If you’re in the habit of getting stressed, angry, frustrated or being irritable around her, you have to force yourself to develop a new habit of being more light-hearted, cheerful and happy.
You might make a mistake and get frustrated 5 times out of 10 for the first week, but if you stay focused for a couple of more weeks, that will eventually come down to 2 in 10 and then 1 in 10. Eventually, you and her will be laugh, smile and be happier almost all the time.
As a man, it’s up to you to lead the way to more smiling and laughter. You can’t expect a woman to be the emotionally stronger one and lead the way like that. You also can’t expect her to develop the habit first, or to lead you to develop the habit.
You have to lead the way and guide both you and her to more happiness, because a woman will usually just react and respond to the lead and direction of her man and if he tends to get stressed, argue and get angry, she will usually just follow along and do the same.
When you create a happier, more cheerful dynamic in your relationship, it will definitely bring you closer together as a couple over time, which will make both of you happier.
If you don’t take on the responsibility for doing that, the spark may die out and you may end up feeling more like enemies than lovers.
The start of a relationship is usually the easy part because you’re both feeling a lot of lust and excitement about being in love.
However, the test of a good relationship is not what happens at the beginning of the relationship, but rather what happens over time when the excitement wears off and you are faced with real life and real problems.
Every couple has to face some kind of difficulty in their relationship, (e.g. financial trouble, a difficult pregnancy, work stress, family problems) and it’s easy to take life’s problems out on each other.
To stay happy as a couple, you have to make sure that no matter how angry or stressed out you get, you never stop making each other feel loved and appreciated.
You have to be on each other’s side and work towards a better life together, rather than letting problems come between you and tear you apart.
There’s no doubt that you will encounter challenges and obstacles individually and as a couple, but if you can help promote a more lighter, cheerful approach to life, both of you will be so much happier together throughout it all.
2. Lead the relationship, but don’t be controlling
You are the man and it’s your responsibility to lead.
That’s not to say that your woman’s needs and wants don’t count, or that she doesn’t have a say, but it’s still your responsibility to take charge so that she can relax into being a real woman around you (i.e. feminine, free to be emotional, focused on being in love with you, giggly and girly around you).
No matter how confident, independent and successful your woman is, she still wants you to be her man.
It’s up to you to take on the role of being the one who is mostly responsible for guiding you and her towards a better life together.
She can help and she can contribute, but you need to lead the way. If she wants to lead on certain things, you should allow her to do that.
Leading a woman doesn’t mean taking away her power and controlling everything.
You can still have a balanced power dynamic in a relationship, where she accepts you as the leader and you respect her as your woman.
She needs to still have a say and be able to tell you if you’re making a mistake, but it’s ultimately up to you as the man to lead the way to a better life and better relationship.
3. Respect, respect, respect
Respect must be mutual.
You have to respect your woman and make sure that you support and encourage her to accomplish her own goals, but at the same time make sure that you are the sort of man that she can look up to and respect by being confident, honest, driven and someone she can rely on and trust not matter what.
Maintaining mutual respect is very important in a relationship because without respect attraction fades and then the love will die too.
However, being respectful towards her doesn’t mean that you should allow her to treat you badly.
If she steps out of line, it’s up to you to let her know that you don’t appreciate it and expect better from her next time.
If she’s a good woman who loves you, she will listen and give you the respect you deserve.
4. Be aware that if her respect and attraction for you dies, she will begin to fall out of love with you
Without mutual attraction a relationship will become a friendship at best, or break up at worst.
While being the kind of man who is rising through the levels of life and reaching for your true potential is definitely attractive to a woman, she also wants to feel that she is special in your eyes.
Women often feel a lack of confidence about their attractiveness when in a relationship, so it’s up to you as the man to make your woman feel like she is the sexiest and most beautiful woman on Earth to you.
When you make her feel the way she wants to feel, not only will she feel attracted and happy, she will know that she cannot find a better man than you and she will do everything she can to please you too.
Staying Happy Together For Life
When you know how to deepen a woman’s respect, attraction and love for you over time, a relationship naturally feels good for the both of you.
She is happy that she has a real man and you are happy that you have a beautiful woman who loves you and never wants to leave you.
You then become one of those couples that other people look at and ask, “I wonder what those two are doing in their relationship to be so happy? I wish I could have a relationship like that.”