What you can do if your ex stops texting or talking to you, is ask her to get on a quick phone call with you.
If your ex currently isn’t answering any of your phone calls, simply try to call her and if she doesn’t answer, send her a text like this:
“Hey Lisa. I really want to ask you something over the phone. I tried calling you, but you must be busy at the moment because I couldn’t get hold of you. I’ll try to call you again some other time.”
She will most likely respond by asking something like, “What do you want to ask me?”
When she does, just call her. Don’t text a reply, just call.
On the other hand, if she doesn’t respond to your message at all, just call her again at another time when you know she isn’t busy with work, studies or other things.
Once you get her on a phone call, you can then reactivate some of her feelings of respect and attraction for you.
For example: If your ex calls you up and says something like, “Hey Dan, what did you want to ask me over the phone?” you can respond by saying something along the lines of, “Oh, I’m going to meet up with a really beautiful woman on Sunday and I wanted to ask you, which shirt do you think I should wear, blue or the green?”
She will most-likely be shocked and say something like, “What? Are you really asking me what shirt you should wear on a date?”
You can then reply in a joking manner, “Yes, of course. I need to make a good impression. So, which shirt do you want me to wear when you and I catch up on Sunday?”
At this point, she will most likely laugh at having been caught out by your joke, while at the same time feeling drawn to the new and improved version of you.
Then, either get her to meet up with you in person (e.g. by continuing on with the joke), or if she says that she doesn’t want to see you in person, just tell her that you might get in contact with her later to just say hello as a friend.
Then, 3-7 days later, contact her, activate her feelings and get her to meet up with you.
Watch this video to understand how that works…
As long as you are activating her feelings for you and giving her a little bit of space to miss you, she’s going to want to start texting and talking with you again.
When she meets up with you in person, get her to experience the new and improved version of you and make her laugh, smile and feel good around you.
Always remember: When getting an ex back, the main thing that you need to focus on is reactivating her feelings of respect and attraction for you.
When you trigger her feelings of attraction for you again, it makes all the negative things that she might be thinking about you (e.g. how you hurt her, how you stopped making her feel the way she wants to feel in a relationship) seem less important to her, because she naturally feels drawn to you in a way that feels good to her now.
Yet, if you don’t focus on triggering her feelings of attraction again, she will naturally stop wanting to text you or talk to you because in her mind, you are still giving her the same old unattractive experience that turned her off and lead to the break up.
5 Common Mistakes That Guys Make When Their Ex Woman Stops Texting or Talking to Them
When a guy wants to get his ex back, it’s only natural that he’s going to feel a little bit confused and possibly even hurt if she stops talking to him or texting him.
When that happens, he might make one or more of the following mistakes that will turn her off even further…
1. He starts asking her why
He asks things like, “Why aren’t you responding anymore? Is it something I said? What did I do wrong? Please talk to me.”
Yet, rather than get the desired response from her (i.e. get her to talk to him again), it usually just makes a woman pull away even more. Why?
One of the main reasons why a woman breaks up with a guy is because she has lost respect and attraction for him.
If he then starts to behave in a needy, insecure, desperate way, rather than make her think, “Oh how sweet. My ex really cares about me. He wants to know what he’s doing wrong so that he can improve himself to please me. How sweet. What an amazing guy!” it only makes her lose more respect for him.
She wants to know that he is able figure out what he is doing wrong by himself, rather than turning to her for advice or guidance and then take action to make the necessary changes to his thinking and behavior.
Women hate it when they have to take on the role of teacher in a guy’s life.
A woman might do it and put up with it early in a relationship, but she will eventually get sick and tired of having to help him become a man.
She will realize that she wants a guy who is already a man, so she can just relax and be his woman.
So, when a guy comes to his ex woman and pleads with her to give him guidance on how he can make her feel attracted to him or love him again, she just gets more annoyed and loses more respect for him.
However, if he can fix his issues and improve himself without needing to ask her to help him, it will regain a lot of her original respect and attraction for him.
Her guard will then come down and she will open herself back up to interacting with him, having feelings for him and getting back together with hm.
So, rather than texting or calling your ex repeatedly and asking her to tell you why she’s ignoring you, just focus on using every interaction that you have with her to make her feel a new level of respect and attraction for the new and improved man you have become.
2. He tries to get her to remember the good times
Another mistake that some guys make is to try and get their ex to talk to them again by bringing up all the good times they had together.
For example: A guy might send his ex a text saying things like, “I just drove past the restaurant we ate at on our first date. Made me think of you,” or “Sitting at my desk at work listening to our song play on the radio and thinking of all the good times we had together. Do you remember that night we first danced to our song?”
Obviously, the guy really cares about her and he wants to let her know how he feels in the hopes that she will respond by saying something like, “Yes, I remember the good times too. Maybe we can make some new memories together that will make us forget about all the bad stuff that happened between us? I love you. I miss you.”
It would be nice if that was how to get an ex woman back, but it isn’t.
In most cases, a woman just rolls her eyes at messages like that because she just doesn’t feel the same way as he does anymore.
When a woman has lost touch with her feelings of respect, attraction and love for a guy, him reminding her of the good times they used to have, usually only highlights to her how badly he messed up.
She begins to think, “Yeah, we had some good times…and then you went and ruined everything. Good for you if you’re still thinking about me and listening to our song. As far as I’m concerned, the only songs I want to listen to are the ones that don’t remind me of you. I don’t have feelings for you anymore. Can’t you see that?”
When a woman isn’t feeling respect and attraction for her ex, she’s just not going to care that he cares about her, or that he’s thinking about how good their relationship used to be.
So, unless you actively make your ex have feelings of respect and attraction for you again, she’s not going to suddenly start thinking, “Awww… My ex is being so sweet and romantic via text. Maybe I’m being too hard on him. Who cares if he doesn’t understand why we broke up and how to make me feel respect and attraction for him again. At least we had some good times in the beginning, so I’ll get back together with him based on that.”
Unfortunately, that’s just not how it works.
In today’s world, a woman no longer has to stay in a relationship with a man if he’s not making her feel the way she wants to feel when she’s with him.
In the past, a woman had to stay with a man for life even if she was unhappy.
Women had to wait until marriage to lose their virginity and then stick with the chosen man, even if he treated her badly.
Yet, in today’s world, women can leave a relationship if the guy doesn’t know how to be the man she needs and can’t make her feel the type of respect, attraction and love that she wants to feel in a relationship.
So, if you want your ex back, don’t waste time trying to convince her that you’re the right guy for her based on good memories from the past.
How you make her feel right now and from now on is what really counts.
If she has lost touch with her feelings of respect and attraction for you, she’s not going to come running back to you if you remind her of how good things used to be.
She needs to feel respect and attraction for you based on who you are right now, not who you used to be.
You’ve got to start interacting with her and making her feel a strong, renewed sense of respect and attraction for you.
3. He gets angry
Sometimes, when a woman suddenly stops texting or talking to her ex guy, he will angry at her for being so cold, bitchy or uncaring towards him.
For example: He might try to get hold of her by texting things like, “Why won’t you answer me? Why are you being like this? You used to be such a nice girl. What has gotten into you? Please pick up the phone. At least tell me what I’ve done to make you stop talking to me.”
Yet, if she still doesn’t respond, he might then become angry with her and start texting her things like, “You selfish bitch! Why are you doing this to me?” or “Why won’t you text me or answer my calls? Is it because you’re with another guy? Are you already sleeping with someone new? You whore! Cheap slut!” or “Is this another one of your little games? Are you intentionally trying to push my buttons? You manipulative bitch! You’ll regret doing this to me!”
The fact is, getting angry with an ex and possibly even getting a little bit aggressive with her, is unlikely going to make her think, “Aww… my ex is so upset that I’ve stopped texting and talking to him. How could I do such a terrible thing to him when he clearly still loves me so much? I had better call him up right away and apologize for being so unfair towards him. I’m such a bad woman for not texting or talking with him. I’ve got to get back with him now because he deserves another chance now that he’s gotten angry.”
Instead, she’ll more than likely be thinking, “This guy is crazy! I no longer feel safe about the idea of meeting up with him. What if he tries to hurt me to get revenge for breaking up with him and making him angry like this? It’s a good thing that I broke up with him when I did, because who knows what would have happened if I ever did something to upset him if we were still together.”
What guys who get angry at their woman often don’t understand, is that a woman is not a man’s property.
A woman doesn’t have to stay in a relationship with a man if she doesn’t want to, and she doesn’t even have to text him or talk to him after she breaks up with him.
So, getting angry with her and demanding that his ex talks to him isn’t going to change her mind.
In fact, she will most likely lose even more respect and attraction for him as a man, and that will make getting her back even more difficult.
4. He apologizes excessively
Most guys in this world are good guys, so when their ex woman stops texting or talking to them after a break up, a guy will want to apologize for annoying her, causing her pain or doing the wrong thing.
Being the good guy that he is, he might then decide to send her an onslaught of text or social media messages, or e-mails, saying things like, “I’m so sorry. I can’t bear the thought of not hearing from you again and knowing that it’s all my fault for having hurt your so much. Can you at least give me a chance to make it up to you?”
When she doesn’t reply, he might send her another message saying, “Why aren’t you replying? I’m telling you that I’m sorry and I mean it. Please just have the decency to reply to me.”
When she still doesn’t reply, he might add, “How many times must I say I’m sorry to convince you to forgive me? Please don’t ignore me like this. We need to talk.”
A guy like that will assume that if he can convince her of how sorry he is for what happened between them, she will forgive him and then open herself up to taking him back.
Although there is nothing wrong with apologizing to a woman after a break up, it’s usually just not enough. Why?
In most cases, a woman will have broken up with a guy for deeper, more complex reasons.
For example: The guy might have lacked purpose and direction in his life and focused all of his attention, energy and time on her, which made her feel smothered.
Then, after the break up, she might have hoped that he would grow up and start being more of a man by beginning to rise up through the levels of life and reaching for his true potential as a man.
Yet, as the days, weeks and months went on, she found that nothing about her ex was really changing and he was still stuck at the same level he was at when they broke up.
When that happens, a woman will often think something like, “Well, I loved him and wanted us to be able to get back together, but nothing is changing. No matter what I’ve said to him, he just not getting the point. He’s stuck at the same place that he was when we broke up. He’s also holding me back from moving on and meeting a new guy who can give me the attraction experience I really want.”
As a result, she then stops texting and talking to him and tries to move on with another guy, or at least start hooking up with guys to forget all about her ex.
If her ex then starts bombarding her with apologies in the hopes that she will start talking to him again, it makes her feel that he still hasn’t realized there are deeper reasons to why she broke up with him.
She feels as though she’s just not being understood and then begins to think, “The more time that I waste trying to get through to my ex, the more I’m missing out on finding someone who can actually be the type of man that I really need in my life right now.”
Then, every time her ex texts her, she starts to feel resentment towards him for wasting her time and trying to get her back even though he hasn’t really changed.
So, if you want your ex back for real and you want her back quickly, don’t waste time apologizing to her over and over via texts, e-mails, social media messages or letters.
Instead, just focus on understanding the deeper reasons that caused her to break up with you and begin to make some changes, adjustments and improvements in those areas.
Then, when you get her on a phone call, you can grab her attention right away by showing her (via what you say, how you interact with her, and how you respond to what she says) that you’ve begun to understand and change the things about yourself that caused her to break up with you.
When you do that, it will make her feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for you.
From there, you just need to continue saying and doing the types of things that will allow her to experience the new and improved version of you.
She will then drop her guard and open herself up to the idea of getting back together with you again.
5. He thinks that not contacting her for a month will fix the problem
When a woman stops contacting her ex, he might decide that if he gives her some space, she’ll eventually come around and call him up again.
So, he will cut off communication and hope that she realizes that she needs him or wants him back.
He might think, “Okay, so she’s stopped texting and talking to me. Maybe she just needs some space for a while. I’ve heard that absence makes the heart grow fonder, so if I just stay away and not contact her for a month or so, she will realize that she misses me. Then, she’ll start talking to me again and will not only come back to me, but she’ll also be grateful that I was so cool about it and gave her time apart without harassing her.”
He then ignores her for 30 to 60 days and when nothing happens, he asks, “What’s wrong? Why hasn’t she called me yet? Why isn’t she texting and telling me how much she’s missing me? I’ve heard that not contacting a woman works to get her back. Why isn’t it working on her?”
The reason why is that ignoring a woman for a month or more after a break up just doesn’t work in most ex back cases.
If a woman doesn’t have feelings for a guy and has already stopped talking to him, she’s not going to feel like it’s that big of a deal when he doesn’t contact her anymore.
Instead, she will likely be thinking, “Cool! That was easier than I imagined. I thought my ex was going to make things really difficult for me when I stopped texting and talking to him all of a sudden. I’m so glad he got the message that I don’t want anything to do with him and let me go without a fight. Now I can get on with my life without having to worry about how I’m going to get rid of him. Maybe I should go out with the girls this weekend and hook up with a guy. Yes, I’m going to get laid! There’s also that cute guy at work who is interested in me. Maybe I will start flirting with him and go out on a date with him.”
She then becomes excited and happy about her life without her ex and starts to move on.
This is why it’s so important to only give your ex 3 to 7 days of space before contacting her again.
You have to stay in touch with her so you can re-spark her feelings of respect, attraction and love for you, rather than just sitting around hoping that she comes running back if you don’t contact her.
Remember: In most ex back situations, the old saying of, “Out of sight, out of mind,” applies.
When you’re not actively sparking her feelings of attraction, another guy will.
So, don’t waste time ignoring her.
Instead, get her to meet up with you as soon as possible and then get her back.