The worst thing that you can do when trying to get an ex girlfriend (fiancé or wife) back is to excessively text her for the following reasons:
- To explain where you went wrong.
- To ask her for another chance.
- To just stay in touch.
- To try to have a conversation with her.
- If she doesn’t feel much respect or attraction for you right now, she’s not going to really care about what you’re saying via text.
- She can easily misinterpret what you’re saying (i.e. since she can’t hear your tonality and how you’re expressing what you are texting, she has to GUESS at how you’d be saying it…and if she’s not happy with you, she will usually guess in a negative way).
- She can string you along for months just to make herself feel good that you still need her.
- Texting doesn’t make a woman feel enough respect and attraction to feel like she should forgive you and meet up with you in person.
The fact is, you won’t be able to have the same impact while texting your ex as you would if you just picked up the phone and called her.
I know, you’re probably thinking that she doesn’t want to talk and that she prefers texting, but I don’t care what she prefers – I care about what is going to work to get her back for you.
Texting doesn’t work.
It’s a waste of time and energy.
You’ve got to get her on an actual phone call.
If she is not answering your phone calls, then do this:
- Try to call her at a time when you know that she’ll be available to answer.
- If she doesn’t answer, send her this text, “Hey Michelle – I was just trying to call because I have something quick that I wanted to ask you on the phone. I guess you’re busy at the moment. I might try to call another time.”
- She will probably reply with something like, “Sorry I missed your call – I was busy” or “What did you want to ask me?”
- Whatever her response is, just call her.
- If she still doesn’t answer, simply try to call her in a couple of days. She will curious to answer and see what you wanted to ask her.
Then, when you get her on the phone, you’ve got to make her feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for you.
Getting her laughing and feeling good, have a chat, apologize for your mistakes and get her to agree to meet up with you in person for a quick chat.
When you meet up with her in person, you need to build on the attraction and respect and get her to forgive your past mistakes.
If you want to know exactly what to do at each step of the process when getting your ex back, I recommend that you watch my awesome, proven to work program, Get Your Ex Back: Super System
When going through the process of getting an ex back, guys have all sorts of questions and make all kinds of mistakes. So, if you’re confused about how to get your ex back and you are interested in having someone help you through the process, I’m here for you.
Trying to Text an Ex Back is Only One of the Classic Mistakes Guys Make
Texting your ex as a means to get her back is a big mistake to make, but there are other classic mistakes that guys make as well.
Watch this video to understand where guys go wrong when trying to get a woman back and what you need to do instead to succeed…
As you will discover from the video above, your ex is really only going to take you seriously when you are able to make her feel the type of respect and attraction that she feels is necessary to consider giving you another chance.
…and you cannot achieve that via text.
You’ve got to get her on the phone and then meet up with her in person. If you try to hide behind text, you will simply drive yourself crazy thinking about what her reply might mean.
It’s a waste of time and energy.
There is absolutely nothing that you can send to your ex via text that will make her feel a truckload of respect and attraction for you.
She needs to see that you understand the real reasons why she broke up with you and have already made changes to become a better man as a result.
Watch this video to understand some of the possible reasons why your ex broke up with you and what you need to do to get her back…
Texting your ex will do nothing to change the way that she perceived you and felt about you when she chose to dump you.
Women aren’t stupid.
They know that it’s very easy to say things via text, but it’s another thing to be able to do those things in person.
For example: If a woman broke up with a guy because he wasn’t enough of a man for her (e.g. he was insecure, needy, clingy, didn’t have much purpose in life), then what is a text going to achieve?
A guy like that needs to get his ex on the phone and explain that he understands why she broke up with him, apologize for putting her through that and then let her know that the break up has been a huge wake up call for him.
Throughout the call, his ex will be analyzing what he is saying and how he is responding and reacting to her to determine whether or not he really has become more of a man.
If he hasn’t, she’s not going to be interested in meeting up with him, but if he has and is also making her feel good on the phone as well (e.g. getting her laughing, etc), then she will be much more willing to meet up with him in person.
Asking Her to Tell You What She Wants You to Do Via Text
Women hate it when guys ask for instructions on how to be the man they want.
If a woman has to take on that role, it destroys the sexually attractive dynamic that exists when a woman is with a man that she can look up to and respect.
Instead, she feels like she has to take care of him like a mother would a child, or guide him like a teacher would a student.
If she has to teach him how to be a man this time, what will happen next time? Will he keep stuffing up and then expecting her to guide him?
What women want is a ready made man who is able to make her feel the type of respect, attraction and love that she wants to feel when in a relationship.
A woman doesn’t want to have to teach a confused guy how to be more of a man and then destroy her feelings of respect, attraction and love for him in the process.
She wants him to figure that stuff out on his own and then just be a ready made man that she can enjoy the rest of her life with.
A big mistake that I see guys making is when they text their ex with something like, “I promise I can change. Whatever it is you want me to change I’ll do it, just tell me what you want.”
The woman just shakes her head in disappointment and then feels regret about getting into a relationship with him in the first place.
She might not be able to explain why it turns her off so much, but she will instinctively feel repulsed by that sort of behavior from a guy.
A woman will often explain her disgust in way where she is annoyed at how emotionally uncommitted he is to the relationship to not even care about what she wants and needs.
This is because most women just expect men to “get it” and if he doesn’t, she feels turned off and annoyed by him.
A woman also wants a guy who can lead the way in a relationship, which then allows her to relax into being a feminine woman (i.e. feeling girly, emotional, etc).
The Real Way to Get Your Ex Back
The real way to get your ex back is to stop playing games with her (e.g. like the silly No Contact Rule).
Just get her on the phone and respark her feelings of respect and attraction for you, apologize for your mistakes and then get her to agree to meet up with you in person.
Nothing happens until you get the meet up because until your ex feels respect and attraction for you in person, she usually won’t be feeling enough to want to give the relationship another chance.
When you meet up with her in person and make her feel attracted to you in new and exciting ways (e.g. by being more confident and charismatic, by making her laugh, by passing her tests, etc) that is when things will really change between you and her.
I’ve lost count of the amount of phone coaching clients that I’ve helped who had been hiding behind texts for weeks or months with their ex and when I pushed them to make the phone call and use my attraction techniques at the meet up, they then got another chance with their ex.
You can’t get her back via text, so don’t waste anymore time doing that.
What really matters is whether or not you understand the real reasons why she broke up with you and have already made changes, as well as whether or not you can now make her feel a good enough level of respect and attraction to justify giving the relationship another chance.
When you use the techniques from my program, Get Your Ex Back: Super System, you will be able to make her feel a truckload of attraction and respect for you to the point where getting back together actually becomes her idea.
That may sound like a difficult thing to achieve at this point because your ex is probably being cold to you, but it is possible to change how someone feels.
Are you ready to do what it really takes to get an ex back?