Your ex is either going to make it really obvious that she wants you back, or she is going to act as though she doesn’t even though she’s secretly hoping that there still might be a chance for you and her.
An obvious sign that your ex wants you back is that she is contacting you because she wants to meet up with you in person and is regularly saying that she misses you and loves you.
However, if your ex is only contacting you via text and social media, it doesn’t necessarily mean that she wants you back.
In most cases, an ex will do that simply to keep you around and give you the impression that there is still a chance to get back together, while she actively tries to find a replacement guy at the same time.
In the 100s of cases that I’ve personally helped guys through, I’ve found that about 95% of guys get stuck texting their ex back and forth for weeks while she secretly moves on without him.
When She Wants You Back, But is Waiting to See if You Can Make it Happen
One of the reasons why you shouldn’t waste time wondering, “How do I know if my ex wants me back?” is that women don’t always make it completely obvious.
In many cases that I’ve dealt with, the woman wasn’t making any real attempt to get the relationship back together and was simply waiting to see if her ex boyfriend (fiancé or husband) had the ability to make her feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for him to give her a reason to reconsider the relationship.
If you are serious about getting your ex back, you need to get clear on how to make her feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction when you speak to her on the phone or see her in person.
You cannot achieve it via text, so do not hide behind text messages and social media comments.
You have to get her on the phone or meet her in person to make her feel a strong, renewed sense of respect and attraction for you. Once you do that, she will naturally and automatically reconnect with her old feelings of love for you.
Watch this video to understand where guys go wrong when trying to get an ex to want them back and what you should do instead if you want to be successful…
As you will discover from the video above, your ex is only going to begin feeling like she wants you back if you can make her feel enough respect and attraction for you to justify giving the relationship another chance.
Some women who lack experience with relationships or who can’t find a replacement guy, will get in contact with their ex and give him another chance even though he isn’t making her feel much respect and attraction, but the relationship won’t last.
When she realizes that he still doesn’t have the ability to make her feel the way she wants to feel in a relationship, she will simply dump him again.
Why Did She Break Up With You?
A woman falls in love with a guy who makes her feel the way that she wants to feel in a relationship.
So, you did something right in the beginning.
You got her into a relationship, things were going well and then something screwed it up.
Watch this video to understand the process that a woman goes through before breaking up with a guy to see if you made any of the mistakes mentioned…
As you will discover by watching the video above, if you’ve destroyed her feelings of respect and attraction for you and she has now fallen out of love with you, the first step is to get her respect back.
If you want to know what to say and do on the phone and when you meet her in person to make her feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for you, I recommend that you watch my advanced training program, Get Your Ex Back: Super System
Did You Make Any of the Following Mistakes in Your Relationship With Her?
The start of a relationship is usually fairly easy for most couples, because there is a lot of lust and new, exciting feelings that make everything feel good.
When a guy is skilled at deepening a woman’s love, respect and attraction for him over time, the relationship will just get better and better the longer they stay together.
However, if a guy lacks essential knowledge on how to keep a woman happy in a relationship, he might end up making one of the following mistakes, which then begins to ruin her respect and attraction for him…
1. Taking her for granted
To keep a relationship happy, both the man and the woman need to appreciate each other and really want to be with one another.
If a man slips into a pattern of behavior where he takes a woman’s interest in him for granted, she might put up with it for a while (even for a couple of years if she really loves him), but she won’t put up with it forever.
For example: He cancels plans with her often, he doesn’t reply to her texts or calls, he isn’t affectionate enough with her, he doesn’t appreciate the efforts she puts in to look good for him, he expects her to essentially be like a slave for him (e.g. run his errands, cook, clean, etc), he is too bossy and controlling and expects her to just put up with it, etc.
There’s only so much of that treatment that a woman can put up with. She is living in a time where it’s no longer shameful to break up and find a new guy and she knows that she only has to get on Tinder or online dating, or go to her local bar and she’ll be able to find a new guy quite easily.
If she doesn’t actively try to find a new guy, she might innocently meet a guy one day (e.g. at work, at university, at a party, at a bar, etc) who gives her a lot of attention and makes her feel special. She will then begin wonder why she is continuing to put up with her current man who doesn’t even care about her.
When she breaks up with her current man, he will usually accept it initially because he’s used to her attempts to try to get him to care and assumes that she will coming running back to him.
Yet, when he sees that she is happily moving on without him and he is feeling lonely without her, he will be the one who comes running back to her. He will realize that he had a great woman who loved him and cared about him and he was simply taking her love, respect and attraction for him for granted.
He might then beg and plead for another chance, buy her gifts and try to get her to see that he is serious about her and wants her back.
Yet, the more desperate he becomes, the less attracted to him she feels and the whole situation spirals out of control.
Obviously, to avoid that happening in the first place, a man needs to love and respect his woman and make sure that she loves and respect him back. It has to be a two-way thing.
What can a guy do if he’s already made that mistake?
Simple: He needs to meet up with her in person, apologize for his mistakes and then get right on with making her feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for him.
He has to put all the previous drama behind them and focus on making her feel enough respect and attraction for him to justify giving the relationship another chance and leaving the new guy, if she has one already.
2. Giving her too much power in the relationship
In a relationship between a man and a woman, the needs to make sure that the woman knows her place.
If a woman puts a woman into the position of having more power over him and being able to control him and push him around, she loses respect for him. After a while, she stops feeling attracted to him and then begins to fall out of love with him.
Putting a woman doesn’t mean being disrespectful towards her, putting her down, making her feel stupid or ordering her around like some sort of slave housewife from the 1940s.
What putting a woman in her place means is that she understands who the man is and who the woman is in your relationship.
You are the man, the more dominant and you are responsible for taking the lead to guide both you and her into deeper feelings of love, respect and attraction for each other over time.
You are also responsible for making sure that you and her are always heading towards a better life and future together, rather than hoping that she takes on the lead and guides you.
She is the woman and is not more dominant than you. However, she should also have equal say and can contribute as much as she wants to guiding both of you into deeper feelings of love, respect and attraction and also guiding both of you to a better life in future.
A lot of guys who get dumped by a woman, have made the mistake of giving her way too much power in the relationship in the hope that it keeps her happy.
Initially, some women will enjoy having a lot of power over a guy and being able to order him around and control him. Yet, that is not what makes a woman feel deeper respect, love and attraction for a guy over time.
The more he allows her to push him around, the less respect she has for him. Instinctively, she knows that if he can’t even stand up to her, he’s not going to be very good at standing up for himself at work in or life at general and will likely get pushed around or taken advantage of by mean, selfish people.
Women are naturally attracted to men with alpha male characteristics and one of those characteristics is that you can stand up for yourself when interacting with her and in your day to day life.
This type of alpha male characteristic helps ensure that a guy is more successful in life. It doesn’t guarantee it, but it’s a signal to a woman that this man is strong and capable of facing the challenges of life and being able to achieve success no matter what.
3. Being insecure or emotionally sensitive
Women are naturally attracted to the emotional strength in men and turned off by the weakness.
When a guy initially gets into a relationship with a woman, he will usually find it easy to feel confident and emotionally secure because she’s showing him a lot of interest and affection.
However, all women naturally test their man’s emotional strength at random times in a relationship. One of the most common tests is where the woman will pull back her attention, interest and affection to see how the guy reacts.
If he reacts by becoming insecure, jealous, controlling or angry with her, she knows that he lacks emotional strength. However, if he remains confident in his attractiveness to her and continues on as per normal, her respect and attraction for him will deepen.
Women instinctively know that they are most-likely going to live a better, safer, happier life with a guy who is emotionally strong with or without a woman.
So, when a guy becomes insecure and emotionally sensitive when in a relationship with a woman, she feels turned off by him and pulls back her affection and interest even more.
When he notices that she is losing more interest, he will usually become even more insecure and emotionally sensitive, which will cause her to lose more respect and attraction for him. At that point, the relationship will begin spiralling out of control and heading for a break up.
Making Her Want You Back
Some ex’s automatically want to give you another chance because they miss you, are attracted to you and are still in love with you.
However, if your ex isn’t desperately trying to meet up with you to rekindle the relationship, then you need to make something happen.
You need to actively begin triggering her feelings of respect and attraction for you. When you make her feel that way, she will naturally begin to reconnect with her feelings of love for you and will begin to want you back.
So, rather than wondering, “How do I know if my ex wants me back?” I recommend that you start asking yourself, “How can I make my ex want me back?”
If you want to follow an easy, step-by-step system to get your ex back, I recommend that you watch my program, Get Your Ex Back: Super System