5 possible reasons why you can’t let go of your ex are:

1. You know that she’s the one for you

One of the most common reasons why a guy will find it difficult to let go of his ex woman, is that he realizes that she really is the one for him.

Naturally, this realization may cause him to feel both guilty for messing things up with her and panic at the thought of having lost her (possibly forever).

As a result, he’s becomes frozen in limbo where he doesn’t know what to do to get her back, but he also can’t let go of her and move on with a new woman.

Don’t let that happen to you.

If you know for sure that your ex is the one for you, then you need to understand that you don’t actually have to let her go just because the relationship ended in a break up.

If you interact with her via text, social media, a phone call and especially in person and reactivate some of her feelings of respect and attraction (e.g. by making her smile, laugh and feel good to be in contact with you again), getting her back becomes possible.

Suddenly, she stops thinking about you in a completely negative way and opens herself up to the idea of giving the relationship another chance, or at least catching up with you and possibly hooking up with you to see how she feels.

Be warned though…

If you try to get her to commit to the idea of having a relationship before re-sparking her feelings for you, then she’s probably going to keep pushing you away and saying things like, “Sorry, but it’s over between us. You need to accept that and let me go. I’ve moved on and you need to as well. Goodbye.”

So, make sure that if you’re going to get in contact with her, you are ready to seduce her back into a relationship with you.

Another possible reason why you can’t let go of your ex, is…

2. She dumped you and it really hurt. Now, you want her back so you can feel good about yourself again, rather than continuing to feel rejected

You want her back to make yourself feel better

Getting broken up with can leave a guy feeling rejected, left out, lonely and even as though he’s just not good enough for women anymore.

He might start to think, “I’m such a failure as a man. I was so lucky to have a beautiful, amazing woman like her and then I went and ruined it all. It’s all my fault that our relationship is over. I always do this. I always stuff things up in life and make people change the way they feel about me. No wonder I can’t let her go. I know that I will never find a woman like her again. She was one in a million…one in a billion and I messed it up. I’m on my own now. All on my own…this sucks!”

So, to get rid of the pain, a man might focus all of his energy on getting her back.

Yet, the problem for him is that women are very good at picking up when a guy is feeling desperate.

Women don’t like desperation and don’t want to reward it with sex, love and devotion.

If his ex gets the sense that he needs her back to feel better about himself because he’s in pain without her, she will feel turned off by his desperation.

Of course, some guys are better at hiding it than others and many guys can get their woman back when secretly feeling desperate.

Guys like that are good at attracting and seducing women…

Another possible reason why you can’t let go of your ex is…

3. You have found it difficult to attract other beautiful women of your choosing since the break up

After a break up, a guy might initially try to get over his ex by hooking up with new women.

For example: He might go out with his single friends to clubs or bars where there are many single attractive women, or accept invitations to singles parties to try his luck.

Some guys might even go on Tinder, or online dating sites to hopefully score some dates that lead to sex.

That can work to make a guy feel better about himself, but if a guy doesn’t get anything or only gets unattractive women, he is naturally going to start missing his ex.

He then might begin to think that it’s just too hard to attract quality women these days and he’s better off with his ex.

As a result, he can’t let go of her.

She is always in the back of his mind and he always wishes that he could somehow make her want to be with him again.

If he is smart like you, then he will find my site, follow the steps to get her back and enjoy a new relationship with her.

However, if he’s the sort of guy who goes around in circles saying, “Why me? Why is my life so hard?” rather than focusing on a solution to get her back, then he’s going to end up feeling depressed as he misses her for the next few months, years or even decades of his life.

I’ve heard from guys who have missed their ex for decades and haven’t ever dared to take any action to get her back.

Crazy, right?

If you want your ex back, don’t be like those guys.

Be one of the smart men who focuses on a solution to get her back and then get her back!

You really can do it.

Another possible reason why you can’t let go of your ex is…

4. You know that you could do better this time around if you got her back

You know that you could do better this time around if you got her back

Every man makes mistakes at some point in his life.

The greatest men in the world are those who learn from their mistakes and come back better and stronger than before.

So, if you have changed and improved since the break up with your ex (e.g. you’ve become more focused in your life, have more confidence in yourself, are more ballsy and you no longer allow her or other people to push you around), you have become a better man already and you should give yourself some credit for that.

You’re not like other guys who remain stuck at one level of life for decades.

You are one of the rare men who level up.

That is a good thing and something you should be proud of.

Now that you’ve changed and improved, you know that you could do a much better job of the relationship this time around, right?

You would be able to give her the kind of attraction experience she always wanted with you (e.g. you’re so much more confident now and won’t be insecure like you were before, or you’re so much more loving and kind now and won’t be the asshole you eventually became in the relationship).

As a result of knowing that you really could do better, you can’t let go of your ex.

You want one more shot at a relationship with her.

If that’s how you feel, then don’t sit around feeling sorry for yourself anymore.

Take action.

Call her on the phone and re-spark some of her feelings of respect and attraction for you (e.g. by making her laugh, smile and feel good to be talking to you again, making her feel feminine and girly in contrast to your emotional masculinity) and get her meet up with you in person, where she can fully experience the new and improved you.

Another possible reason why you can’t let go of your ex is…

5. The connection you shared with her was perfect for you

The connection you shared was perfect for you

If you and her had an amazing connection (e.g. you liked the same things, you and her had the same plans for the future, you shared the same values and ideals, the sex was great, you loved hanging out together), it’s only natural that you’d be struggling to let her go.

You may even be thinking things like, “There’s no other woman out there who I could share that connection with. It was unique to us. What we had was one of a kind. She’s my soul mate. I know it.”

Yet, here’s the thing…
Even though you and her shared a really special connection, it doesn’t actually mean that she’s your one and only soul mate.

In life, a person has many possible soul mates.

You could literally match up with millions of different women from across the world and hundreds of thousands in your country.

Of course, you probably don’t want to hear that, right?

I know.

I get it.

You just want her back.

I am helping you do that and I will ensure that you do get her back, but just be clear about something first…

For relationship between a man and a woman to last for life, the feelings have to be mutual.

Were the feelings mutual, or did it end up being a very one sided relationship? Did you end up loving her a lot more than she loved you?

Were the feelings mutual, or did it end up being a very one sided relationship? Did you end up loving her a lot more than she loved you?

Even though you might firmly believe that both you and her shared a special connection, for her to break up with you, it means that she didn’t feel the same way in the end.

She might have felt that way at the start, but the start means nothing if the relationship gradually falls apart and becomes one-sided.

So, if you want to get her back, you have to start the process by bringing her feelings up to a level that is at least close to mutual (i.e. make her respect and feel attracted to the new and improved you).

When you do that, she will then see that there is still something between you and her.

It’s not over.

So, make sure you reawaken her feelings first, before trying to get to any talks about having a relationship.

Ideally, it’s best to get to a hug, then kiss and sex and then talk about having a relationship.

That approach works best and avoids her having to say things like, “I’m not sure. We haven’t been together for a while and you suddenly reappear in my life and want a relationship. You’re moving too fast.”

So, just get to a hug, kiss and sex and she will then naturally want to talk about having a relationship.

3 Mistakes Guys Make When They Can’t Let Go of Their Ex

Many guys find themselves in your situation.

The difference is that some guys take action and get her back, while others make one or more of the following mistakes…

1. Not even knowing that it’s possible to re-attract her and get her back

If a woman is saying things like, “It’s over. I don’t have feelings for you anymore and nothing you say or do will make me change my mind. Please accept that and let me go,” a guy might simply give up hope of ever getting her back.

He may start thinking things like, “It’s hopeless. She doesn’t want me. It’s over. I’ve lost her.”

Yet, that’s not how feelings work.

Just because your ex doesn’t have feelings for you right now, it doesn’t mean she will feel that way a week from now when you are face to face with her, having a laugh and getting to a hug and then kiss.

You really can change how she feels and get her back, if you want to.

So, don’t sit around thinking, “Why can’t I let go of my ex?” and doing nothing about it.

Make a decision today that you are going to actively change how she feels about you, by interacting with her and making her feel good to be around you again.

When you do that, you go from being an almost forgotten ex, to someone that is pulling at her heart strings.

If you don’t hook up with her sexually the first time you meet up, but do get to a hug, she will be thinking about afterwards…especially if you had been flirting with her and building up sexual tension during the interaction.

She will then be open to texting back and forth with you, getting on a call and meeting up again.

When you meet up again, you will almost certainly get her back, or at least hook up again sexually and see how you both feel afterwards.

Another mistake that other guys make when in a situation like yours, is…

2. Hoping that she will come back one day, even though he hasn’t done anything to re-attract

If she hasn’t come back on her own already, she’s not going to.

Many guys make this mistake.

They give their ex woman space in the hope that she misses him, gets in contact and asks for another chance.

It rarely happens.

Rather than running back to a guy that she is no longer attracted to, she simply opens herself up to meeting new guys who do make her feel attracted.

Then, by the time her ex builds up the courage to contact her, rather than hear her say something along the lines of, “I’m so glad you called! I’ve missed you so much. Want to meet up?” it’s more likely that, after a bit of small talk, she will say, “I’ve met someone else and we’re in love. How about you? Have you met someone yet?”

He is then heartbroken and suddenly realizes that giving her that much space was a big mistake.

Don’t let that happen to you.

Interact with her over the phone or in person, so you can instantly begin reawakening her feelings of sexual and romantic attraction for you.

If you don’t interact with her and she’s over you at the moment, she’s almost certainly just going to keep moving on without you.

Another mistake that other guys make when in a situation like yours, is…

3. Allowing the break up make him feel unworthy of her and other quality women

It sucks to be broken up.

It hurts initially and then, that feeling of hurt, turns into sadness and possibly even feelings of loneliness and abandonment.

It’s not a nice set of feelings to go through regarding the woman you love.

Unfortunately for some guys, they allow the pain of the break up to destroy their confidence with women.

As a result, he ends up feeling unworthy of his ex and of other quality women.

What he may not realize is that feeling unworthy only makes him seem less attractive to her and other women.


A woman likes the idea of being with a confident, emotionally strong man who believes that he is more than good enough for her, while also treating her well and making her feel wanted and appreciated.

So, when a guy is being insecure and doesn’t believe in his value to his ex, it does nothing to spark her feelings for him if they happen to interact.

She feels turned off by his lack of belief in himself, doesn’t feel drawn to him and feels good about her decision to have been broken up with him all this time.

So, if you want your ex back, you have to absolutely believe that you are good enough for her and then take action to re-attract her and get her back.

On the other hand, if you don’t believe in yourself, she will pick up on that and feel turned off and then, getting her back will become very difficult.

Believe in yourself.

You can do it.

You ARE good enough for her.

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