Here are 5 reasons why a guy might ruin a perfectly good relationship with his ideal woman:
1. He Takes Her Love For Granted
Most guys in this world are good guys and they wouldn’t intentionally go out of their way to be hurtful towards their woman by taking her for granted.
Yet, taking a woman’s love for granted is one of the most common reasons why couples break up.
A lot of guys fall into the trap of believing that the love between a man and a woman will take care of itself once they are in a committed relationship with each other.
For example: A guy might stop telling his woman how beautiful she is once they have been in a relationship for a while.
To her, this is a clear sign that he doesn’t appreciate her any more and this will cause her to feel unloved.
On the other hand, the guy is usually thinking, “She should know how beautiful she is to me by now. I’ve told her plenty of times in the past. I shouldn’t have to keep telling her now. Besides, that’s the great thing about being in a long term relationship; the love is there. You don’t have to keep saying the same things to over and over again to try and convince your woman how you feel about her. She just knows how you feel without you having to tell her. If she wants me to keep reminding her of my love for her that’s her problem. She should stop being so needy.”
Yet, that’s now how to keep a relationship together with a woman.
Men and women are different.
A man’s role in a relationship versus a woman’s role is completely different.
You can’t expect your woman to think, feel, behave and act like a man (i.e. not care so much about emotional things).
You have to let her be a woman.
When you do that, the love, respect and attraction that you feel for each other grows and becomes stronger on a daily basis.
Watch this video to understand more…
As you will discover from the video above, getting a woman into a relationship is different to keeping her in one.
You’ve got to deepen the way that you and her feel about each other, rather than take it all for granted.
If a guy assumes that saying “I love you” or “You’re so beautiful,” at the beginning of the relationship should be enough to sustain his woman’s feelings in the long term, he will be taught a harsh lesson by her later on as she falls out of love with him and then breaks up with him.
For a relationship to last a lifetime, it’s the man’s responsibility to guide both himself and his woman into deeper feelings of love, respect and attraction over time, rather than assuming that the love will take care of itself.
Human love needs to be nurtured and a woman needs to feel that her man will respect her, love her and appreciate her whether they are together for one day, or for 10, 20, 30 or even 50 years.
Sure, there are some women who will accept being taken for granted (e.g. if she has a really cool boyfriend or husband and she is unattractive, if he is very rich and she’s just staying with him for the money and lifestyle), but most women won’t.
Unlike in the past where a woman was forced to stay in an unhappy relationship, in today’s world a woman doesn’t have to stay with a guy if he doesn’t make her feel the way she wants to feel.
She can leave.
Another reason why a guy will ruin a great relationship with a woman is that…
2. He Becomes Influenced By His Single Male Friends
Strangely enough, not all friendships are created equal and sometimes, a guy’s friends can cost him his relationship with his ideal woman.
According to a new study conducted on 2000 women, it seems that when a guy gets together with his single male friends, he does things that he wouldn’t ordinarily do.
For example: Some of the ways that a guy might change when hanging out with his friends:
- Drinking too much or too often.
- Ignoring his woman (e.g. not replying to her texts or answering her calls).
- Showing off.
- Swearing more.
- Staying out late.
- Acting like teenager who has no responsibilities, while she wants him to grow up and start taking life seriously.
- Playing computer games for hours on end.
- Talking badly about women.
- Talk about women that he wants to have sex with.
- Flirt with other women and trying to hook up with them.
- Acting like a completely different person than he is around her.
- Driving faster or less responsibly.
Generally speaking, if a woman loves a guy, adores him and respects him as her man, she will be happy that he has friends and interests that are separate from his relationship with her.
Yet, if every time he goes out with his friends he comes home drunk, changes his personality (e.g. does bad things), or risks getting himself killed by being irresponsible behind the wheel, it’s only natural that she won’t feel very happy about it.
The thing is…
You don’t have to give up your friends to keep a relationship together for life.
However, if your friends have been partially responsible for ruining a perfectly good relationship with your ideal woman, then you need to ask yourself who is more important to you.
If you decide that you want her back more than you want to be hanging out with your single buddies, then you’ll probably have to make some serious decisions about who you hang out with in the future.
3. He Begins to Experience FOMO (Fear of Missing Out)
Sometimes, when a guy finds himself in a relationship with a wonderful woman and they begin discussing being together for the long term (e.g. by moving in together, getting married, having a baby) he might suddenly begin to panic.
He may say to himself, “Should I commit? I mean, there are so many beautiful women out there in the world, so why should I have to settle for just one? Sure, my relationship right now is great, but what if I meet a woman who is even better than her someday? I’ll never get to experience sex and love with her if I settle down now. Besides, it would feel so good to get love, affection and pleasure from many different women. Why get stuck in a monogamous relationship right now? What if we end up like one of those couples who don’t have sex anymore? I don’t want that. I should probably start getting some action on the side and then decide whether or not I want to stay with her.”
He may then start pushing his woman away (e.g. by shutting himself off from her emotionally, treating her badly, becoming unreliable) in the hopes that she will break up with him first.
Yet, if she finally gets fed up with him and leaves, he may find himself thinking, “Damnit! Why did I do that? Why did I ruin a perfectly good relationship with my ideal woman for the superficial thrill of having sex with other women that don’t even matter to me? I love her. I know that now.”
If your woman has broken up with you, you’ve probably realized how special she really is now, right?
You and her had some real.
Here’s the thing…
When you develop an amazing love and connection with a woman, it’s not something that should be thrown away.
You should just enjoy it, rather than getting sucked in by FOMO (the Fear of Missing Out) and thinking that you need bang 100s of other women to feel satisfied.
If you want to occasionally jerk off to some other women that you see in porn, go ahead and do that instead.
Don’t ruin a perfectly good relationship by hooking up with other women for real though.
Really, there’s nothing to it.
It’s just some more sex and you will forget about it one day.
If you find true love and have an amazing women, stick with her.
Sure, there are many beautiful women out there that you will feel attracted to for the rest of your life, but when the love between you and your woman just keeps getting better and better over time, those women just won’t matter to you.
You will appreciate the love you have with her and your perspective about missing out will change, because you will feel just as excited about being in a committed relationship as you would dating and having sex with many different women.
By the way…
I know this because I slept with a lot of women before I settled down into a relationship and then marriage with my wife.
Watch this video to learn why I decided to accept her marriage proposal and settle down…
When you find true love, the fear of missing out goes away.
You’ve got your ideal woman, the sex is amazing, the love is amazing and your relationship is always getting better and better.
So, there’s no need to leave her.
Another reason why a guy will ruin a perfectly good relationship with a woman is that…
4. He Doesn’t See Her as the Most Important Person in His Life
Generally speaking, a woman loves it when her guy has much more to his life than just her.
For example: He is striving to reach his true potential as a man and is working hard on his purpose in life or his career, while at the same time maintaining good relationships with his friends and family.
However, when a man makes everyone else in his life his main priority over her, it’s only natural that she will feel neglected.
For example: Some of the ways that a guy might make his woman feel neglected and unimportant to him are:
- He always seems to discuss important events in his life with his family or friends before he tells her (e.g. he got a promotion, he passed his exams, he bought a new car).
- He breaks his promises to her for his family or friends (e.g. he doesn’t go with her to her sister’s birthday party because he’s taking his mother shopping instead. He stands her up on a date because he’s going out with his friends instead).
- He disregards her feelings in favor of other people (e.g. he invites people over for dinner even if she is feeling tired or ill. He goes out with his friends when she wants him to stay at home with her).
A man needs to make his purpose (i.e. his big long term goals and dreams) the most important thing in his life, but his woman should be the most important person.
You don’t need to tell a woman that.
Instead, just be like that and she will respect you, feel attracted to and love you for life.
However, if your woman feels like she’s always playing second fiddle to everyone else in your life, she will eventually begin to ask herself, “Is this how I want to spend the rest of my life? Am I always going to get second place in his life because everyone else is more important than me? I don’t deserve this. I deserve to be a man’s number one girl.”
She might put up with it for a while, but she will eventually leave and look to find herself a man who can put her first.
5. He Becomes Emotionally Weak and She Then Loses Faith in Him as Her Man
The opposite of a guy who is always putting his woman in second place in his life, is a guy who becomes so emotionally weak that he needs his woman to support him so that he can cope.
For example: A guy like that might give up all his friends, interests and hobbies and focus all of his attention on his woman.
As a result, he becomes clingy, needy and insecure about losing her.
He might say to her, “I just love you so much that I wouldn’t be able to go on with my life if you ever left me. You still love me don’t you? I need you so much. Please don’t ever break my heart. I couldn’t stand the thought of you being with someone else. We are meant to be together. Please promise me that you will never do something stupid like cheat on me.”
Yet, what he doesn’t realize is that rather than make her think, “I feel so lucky to have a guy who loves and needs me so much,” a woman think, “He’s smothering me. Doesn’t he realize that the more he clings to me, the less attractive he becomes? I just can’t look up to him and respect him as a man when he’s being so needy and insecure like that. I feel so disgusted by who he has become. He’s not a man…he’s like a boy. I hate it.”
Alternatively, some guys make the mistake of thinking that because a woman enjoys talking about her feelings all the time, it’s okay that he does it too.
No, no, no.
Remember: Men and women are different.
We are not the same as women!
A man’s role in a relationship with a woman is DIFFERENT to her role in the relationship.
You have to be a man and let her be the woman.
Some guys don’t know that or can’t stop themselves from acting like a woman though.
For example: A woman might come home from a bad day at work and say something like, “I hate my job. My boss is always on my case. I just feel so depressed being in that office. I don’t know what to do…”
In most cases, the woman just wants to let off some steam and have her guy listen to her while she vents her feelings.
What she doesn’t want though, is for her guy to copy her, get emotional and react like one of her girlfriends by unloading his complaints about his job too.
For a woman to maintain sexual attraction for her man, she has to feel as though he is the emotionally dominant one in the relationship.
She has to see that he is in control of his emotions and life, rather than being like a woman who is always talking about her emotions and being dramatic, but never really looking for solutions like a man would.
If a woman has to keep propping her guy up emotionally (e.g. by listening to him whine about his feelings, constantly reaffirm her love for him) she will begin to think, “He’s behaving like a little boy. He’s always whining and complaining and being emotional about every little thing. I just can’t rely on him to be the man anymore. I don’t like who he has become. He feels almost feminine to me now. I always have to take care of him and comfort him emotionally. I don’t want to be his mother, I want to be his woman.”
Here’s the thing…
Women hate it when they have to take on the role of being a guy’s mother in life.
A woman might put up with it for a little while because she’s secretly hoping that he will change, but when she realizes that he isn’t changing, she will get sick and tired of it and want to get out of the relationship.
She will realize that she wants a guy who is already a man, so she can just relax and be his woman.
When she gets to that point, she will usually cheat on him or break up with him and try to move on.
If You Ruined Your Relationship With Your Ideal Woman Already, Don’t Make This Additional Mistake…
When a woman breaks up with a guy, he will often go into desperation mode when he realizes his mistake.
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For example: A guy might…
- Beg and plead and say things like, “Please give me another chance. I will do whatever you say. Just tell me what you want me to do to make you happy again and I will do it.”
- Try to change her feelings for him by saying things like, “How can you give up so easily on the love we had together?” or “We were so good together once. If you give us the chance we can try and get that back. Please don’t do this to us. You mean everything to me. I know we can make it work.”
- Try to convince her to change her mind by being extra nice to her and buying her expensive gifts/paying for some of her bills/being available to her every beck and call.
- Promise to do whatever she wants.
Yet, that only turns her off more.
What You Need to Do is This…
Even though you may have ruined a perfectly good relationship with your ideal woman, it doesn’t mean that it has to stay that way.
When you make her feel the way she wants to feel from now on (when interacting with her on a phone call or in person), she will naturally drop her guard and open herself up to the idea of getting back together again.
However, you first need to show her that you’ve truly understood why she broke up with you and that you’re not that man anymore.
You can do that by taking the following steps…
- If you haven’t already done so, apologize to her for your mistakes. Don’t keep apologizing if you’ve already done it. Follow through on the other steps.
- Show her via the way you think, act, behave, interact with her and respond to what she says and does, that you’ve changed the things about yourself that caused her to break up with you (e.g. if you were self-doubting and insecure, you are now confident and you believe in yourself. If she felt more emotionally dominant than you, you now stand up to her in a loving way and are emotionally strong).
- Focus on using every interaction you have with her (e.g. on a phone call, or in person) as a way of re-sparking her feelings of respect, attraction and love for you (e.g. by making her smile and laugh, making her feel feminine and girly in your presence, flirting).
- Guide her back into a relationship with you.
When she sees that you’re not thinking, behaving or acting in the ways she expects you to (e.g. being insecure, not being ballsy enough, sucking up to her), it becomes a lot more difficult to hold on to her negative perspective of you.
Think of it this way…
If she’s your ideal woman, chances are you are her ideal man.
However, right now, she’s likely convinced herself that it won’t work between you and her because she doesn’t believe you can change and give her what she really wants.
You are already changing and improving simply by reading this article and watching the videos I included.
When she experiences the new you for herself, she will be unable to stop herself from falling head-over-heels back in love with you again.
That’s a fact.
She may not know it now because she’s turned off by how you acted when she broke up with you and since then, but you are different now, right?
You are ready to re-attract her and get her back for real.
She is yours and is waiting for you to make the reconciliation happen.