Relationships can last a lifetime, but if the love, respect and attraction is taken care of, they usually don’t.
In the past, a woman had to stay with one man for life, so if you’re saying, “My girlfriend left me,” you might have suddenly realized that her commitment to you isn’t guaranteed.
These days, a woman can break up with a guy if she isn’t happy and then move on. The people around her and society in general will encourage her to do what is best for her, whereas in the past, women were practically forced by society and the people around them to stick by their man for life.
The good news is that you can actually get your girlfriend to come back. She may have left you, but that doesn’t mean you can’t change the way she feels.
Watch this video to understand how to get her to come back to you and give the relationship another chance…
Where Did Things Go Wrong Between You?
There are many reasons why a girlfriend will leave her boyfriend, but here are some of the most common ones.
See if you answer, “Yes” to any of these questions….
1. Did You Become Too Clingy, Possessive or Jealous?
One of the most common relationship mistakes guys make is becoming too clingy, possessive or jealous in their relationship.
When a guy gets to the point where he is wanting to spend every available moment with his girlfriend and then gets jealous of her friends if she wants to do something with them that doesn’t include him, his actions can be a real turn-off.
He mistakenly think that being “joined at the hip” makes them more together as a couple, but that sort of clingy, overly-possessive behaviour is much more likely to drive a wedge between them than bring them closer together. Clinginess is a sign of insecurity, and an insecure man is not an attractive man in a woman’s eyes.
2. Did You Take Her For Granted?
Taking your girlfriend for granted is essentially the opposite of the above.
A guy who slips into changing plans at the last minute or letting his girlfriend down on a regular basis because “something important” came up, is a guy she can no longer rely on. She’s going to question his commitment to her and their relationship and begin to wonder if he is the one or just another guy she will forget when she meets the one.
A guy might think that going out for an impromptu after-work drink with some office colleagues is no big deal because he was only going to have a quiet night in watching a movie together with his girlfriend anyway, but it is a big deal to her because his ability to “drop” her when something else comes up gives her reason to question his emotional involvement.
Does he actually see her as his lifetime woman? Does he respect her? Is he at all concerned with her level of happiness, her experience of love in the relationship and her sense of belonging?
If your girlfriend feels that she’s expected to hang around for you and to be available whenever it suits you – irrespective of how often you change plans – she may begin to look around for someone who appreciates her more than you do.
3. Did She Lose Respect For You?
Being too clingy and taking her for granted are opposites in terms of behavior, but they will both have the same negative effect on a relationship.
Behaving in a jealous and insecure way will cause her to lose respect for you, and taking her for granted will do the same. When respect is lost, sexual attraction is also lost as a consequence and when this happens, the relationship will begin to drift and inevitably fall apart.
Watch this video to understand how that process works…
Women are attracted to confident men who know who they are, know what they stand for in life and know what they’ve got to offer in a relationship as a result. Genuine confidence and true masculinity make a guy someone who naturally earns the respect of other men, and this in turn, makes him irresistibly attractive to women.
Any pattern of behaviour that demonstrates a lack of confidence or a lack of strength in character (i.e. crying in front of her, being nervous around confident guys, not following through on your biggest ambitions in life, etc) will lead to a woman losing respect for her man.
Essentially, a woman wants to be able to look up to you and respect you, while also feeling as though you respect her as well. It’s not about being 50/50 equals where neither of you are the man or the woman, but where you are clearly the man and you also respect your woman.
These days, a lot of guys get caught up in the false beliefs banded about by the media, especially the commonly given advice that women want men share every aspect of a relationship equally…right down to sharing every household chore. Yet, this is not what modern women want at all.
In terms of housework for example, women may say that they want a guy to do all or most of the housework, but real life studies have found that divorce is 50% higher among couples who share household duties, compared to couples where the traditional masculine and feminine roles are maintained.
So, don’t fall into the trap of thinking that you need to kiss up to your girlfriend by promising to do more around the house or something lame like that. What really matters is how you make her feel when you interact with her.
You are either making her feel girly in response to your masculinity, or you’re not. When you talk to her, you are either triggering her feelings of respect and attraction for you, or you’re not. It’s as simple as that.
Can You Get Her Back?
Yes, you can get her back if you’re prepared to learn from the mistakes you made and become a better man as a result. If you’re saying, “My girlfriend left me,” and you’re also asking, “How can I get her back?” you need to focus on being the type of man that she would naturally want to get back with.
Getting her back is making real improvements to the way that your conversation style, body language, vibe and behavior makes her feel. Hounding her with text messages or pleading with her via phone, email or any other method of communication to be given a second chance is not going to change how she’s feeling about you.
Actions really do speak louder than words and when you show her that you’ve learned from the experience and become a more attractive, well-rounded man as a result, she’s going to rethink her decision to leave.