Losing the woman you love is a painful experience to go through, but if your ex has already moved on, it can make the experience even worse.
Even though she once really loved you, none of that seems to matter to her now. She has opened herself up sexually and emotionally with another guy.
…and you’re on your own.
Not anymore.
I’m here to help you. So, if you are serious about learning how to get your ex back when she has moved on, today is going to be a VERY good day for you. You will remember this day forever because this is the day when everything will begin to change.
Why Did She Break Up With You?
The first thing I want to share with you is a lesson about the process she went through before breaking up with you.
Watch the video below to discover some of the possible reasons why she broke up with you, to begin understanding what you might need to improve before attempting to get her back…
Make Her Reconsider Her Decision
There’s no getting away from the fact that your ex is your ex for a reason.
Something happened to cause your relationship to break down and, assuming it was her decision to end the relationship, you may or may not have been given a straight answer to the question of why she broke up with you.
Women quite often give vague reasons for wanting to make the split, such as, “It’s not you, it’s me,” or “I just need some space.”
This can make it difficult to know for sure what made her feelings for you change, but when you become the type of man that women describe as a “real man,” it won’t matter what reason she thought she had for dumping you, because the new you will become enough of a reason for her to reconsider her decision.
Getting her to reconsider her decision involves two important elements. You need to:
- Improve yourself and become more attractive to her than you were before.
- Get her on the phone and get her to forgive you and want to see you again.
Watch this video for more info…
You can make your ex feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for you.
At the moment, she might feel like it’s not worth getting back with you, but that’s based on her current feelings.
You can change how she feels by actively making her feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for you. Other guys have done it and you can do it too.
Statistically Speaking, She Will Dump Her New Guy Pretty Soon
Most rebound relationships fail (at least 65% within a few months) because the woman usually accepts a guy who is not her ideal man, but just who happens to fill the gaps that existed in her previous relationship.
Although your ex has moved on, she may only have moved on with a guy who fills the gaps she felt you left open in her relationship with you, not a guy who actually offers her everything she’s looking for in a man.
For example: If you were needy, insecure and lacked confidence in the last half of your relationship with her, she will go for a guy who is very confident to make up for that. If you were careless, took her for granted and were selfish, she will often go for a nice guy who treats her like a princess.
Most of the guys who attract rebound women are usually just “getting lucky” with a woman who is looking for a quick replacement, so they are often the type of guy who makes loads of relationship mistakes that quickly ruins they attraction she felt towards him or eventually tears the relationship apart.
Make Her See You as More Attractive Than Her New Guy
We men are lucky because women are able to feel sexually attracted to us for MANY different reasons.
Without changing ANYTHING about your physical appearance, you begin attracting your ex in more than 100 different ways. Here are two of those ways…
1. Confidence
Women are naturally attracted to confident guys.
The more that your ex feels that you are confident and emotionally secure without her, the more attracted she will be. If she has already moved on, you need to be able to display that confidence via social media, by calling her up on the phone and by meeting her in person.
If her current perception of you is that you’re not feeling very confident in yourself without her, she will naturally feel turned off by you.
2. Masculinity
When helping guys to get their ex back, I often have to look through a client’s Facebook profile to see what sort of image he is projecting to his ex.
Almost every time, a guy is making the classic mistake of posting selfies where he is trying to look good physically.
He’s hoping that if he just looks good enough, his ex will think, “Oooh, he looks good…maybe another girl will like him soon if I don’t get back with him!” Yet, that’s not how a woman’s attraction for a man works.
When a woman sees that a guy is posting up lonely selfies, or has been getting a friend to take photos of him on his own where he’s trying to look physically appealing, she knows that he lacks masculinity.
How so? Real men know that women are more attracted to a guy’s masculine vibe, thinking, behavior and actions than anything else. Real men also know that they can look shabby and not have even “done their hair” and women will feel a primal attraction to their masculinity.
A masculine man knows that the human mating dance doesn’t involve a man trying to look all pretty for a woman.
In the peacock bird species, the female is plain looking and the male is colorful and vibrant. The more colorful and pretty his plumage is, the more attractive he will be to the female.
Yet, that’s not how it works with humans.
Human women feel attracted to a man’s masculinity, which is more about his vibe, thinking, behavior and actions.
How can you get your ex to see that when she has moved on? Once again, it’s about showing that via social media, letting her feel it come through on a phone call and then letting her experience when you meet up with her in person.
Actions Speak Louder Than Words
Whatever it was that caused your ex to become your ex, she will begin to reconsider her decision when you begin triggering her feelings of sexual attraction for you.
Are you ready to do what it takes to get her back?
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Hey Dan I need some help I think I screwed up my chances. My ex and I have been separated for a month now and throughout that time I’ve made the stupid mistakes that most men make. I’ve tried to convince her that her decision wasn’t good, somewhat begged in a way and had a few arguments with her because I found it hard for me to follow through with giving her space. She would tell me she wanted me to get my shit together and give her space but after the argument I had with her this Saturday about confronting her about her comparing me to her ex. I told her that I couldn’t be just a friend with her but I would back off and just let her be but this Saturday my feelings got alittle carried away and at the end she kicked me out of her house and we haven’t spoken since then. I’m missing her like crazy but at they same time I’ve been trying to keep myself busy. I want to know if there is even a remote chance I can get her back in my life.
Hey Carlos
Thanks for your comment.
Of course there is a chance! People get back together ALL the time all over the world. Your situation is much more common and easily fixed than you might think. I understand that with the emotions you’re feeling right now and how she has been responding to you, that it might seem unlikely to get another. However, humans don’t push away love when it is really there. I will teach you how to make her love you again. However, before you get to that, you have get her respect and attraction back. All of that is taught in the program.
Cheers
Dan
Her sister spoke to me and told me that she was over me and i feel like she really is. Ive been what i think i only know and that is disappear for now. Mainly the reason why we broke up in the first place was because when we were arguing she felt like i took her back to how her ex was treating so ever since shes been treating me as such i want to buy your program and ive watched all your videos but its just im too hurt that i wasnt given a fair shot and to top it off ive screwed it up……
Hey Carlos
Of course she’s going to be over you! Pretty much every guy who’s looking to get his ex back is dealing with a woman who no longer feels the same way. If she did, she would be contacting you.
If you want to change that, you have to change how she FEELS and that is what my system will show you how to do. I hope you do give yourself another chance with her mate. Guys learn a lot about themselves and relationships when they get a broken relationship back together. It’s a very enlightening and empowering experience.
Cheers
Dan
Hay Dan, been reading your articles for a while now and I find it very interesting. is it okay I get your mobile number I will love to talk to you on phone. Thanks
Gray
Hi Gray
Thanks for your question.
Mate, I’d love to be able to talk to everyone on the phone and help out for free, but it’s physically impossible. So, I offer phone coaching: http://www.themodernman.com/phone_coaching.html
Cheers
Dan
Hey Dan, here is harder question…
What if you broke up with the girl, did the common thing most men do which is beg/nag and be desperate…then not talk for a year…send a few sms and one she didn’t like…and then another year passed. And as far as I know she is still single since we broke up.
Do you think it is STILL possible to get her back?
Cheers
Hey AG
Thanks for your question.
🙂 It’s not a harder question mate, just a different one. I’ve helped plenty of guys in your situation. The approach is the same though. You need to make her feel certain emotions and say certain things to her, all of which my program will teach you.
Cheers
Dan
Hey Dan, well what if shes moved on actually. Not a rebound relationship but someone she actually loves and cares for. Actually talking about getting married, does the same concept apply?
Hey Jonah
Thanks for your question.
Yes, of course. Refer to the two steps outlined in this article. That is what you need to do if you want to get her back, regardless of whether she feels as though she is happier now. Feelings change and the initial love buzz dies away in most relationships, because one or both of the people ruin it. Or, it falls apart for one of the 70 reasons I outline in this program: http://store.themodernman.com/in/23b8291
Cheers
Dan
Hey man, so it turns out I’m the rebound guy. She broke up with me because she doesn’t know what she wants. She doesn’t know if she likes my anymore and has been hanging out a lot again with her ex. We work together so she will see me at least twice a week at work. At the beginning of our relationship I was really confident and masculine but I started to get needy trying to make sure she was over her ex, she broke up with him for me, and I got really insecure. I want her back, and I know that st the beginning of our relationship she was happy. She told my friends she has never been so happy. But there was a lot of drama and I got needy and she pushed me away and broke up with me because she needed space. And I tried to convince her to give us a chance multiple times. Can I get her back? Well this system teach me how to get her back? How can I make her fall in love with me and come to the conclusion that she wants me?
Hi Jason
Thanks for your question.
Yes, you need to do Step 3 of the system the most and you also need to have the “conversation” with her that I explain in the program. She will then give the relationship another chance.
Cheers
Dan
Dan,
So I talked to my ex-girlfriend tonight. She is trying to decide between me and her other ex-boyfriend. She told me that she is not in love with him, and that whenever she is with him her relationship with her mom is bad. And that while they were not together (after she broke up with him), he has no motivation to go to college without her in his life, he got drunk for 63 days straight, he doesn’t pay his bills, and he goes over to her best friends house every night to make her jealous.
And she told me that she doesn’t want to keep me around right now because she feels like it would be too much for her while she is “figuring it out” with her other ex. That the feelings with me will always be there, so maybe one day. But that she would keep me updated. I told her I accept that, but if we don’t get back together before I go to college in a month, that if I go down there without a girlfriend, that we are never going to get back together – I’m going to move on. I accepted it with strength. I didn’t beg or plead for her to keep me in her life while she is deciding if she wants to be with him.
He is a weak little boy who is trying to hide from the world behind her. Whereas, I am a real man (a GGWE), I am an alpha male. I am a man with or without her.
I have already won. I texted her like 30 minutes later and said, “I accept your decision, don’t worry about keeping me updated, it’s not a big deal. I’m going to do me, so don’t worry about it. See you around!”
The thing is, as long as I am being the confident, masculine man that I am, she isn’t going to be able to lose me. She isn’t going to be able to let me go off to college without getting back together with me. This system works like magic. It isn’t over yet, but I am in a good state emotionally.
I think that I have already won. I might be wrong, what do you think? Comments? Feedback?
Hi Jason
Thanks for your question.
In your case, what you need to do is laugh at her and then tell her that you wish her good luck. Why? Instead of being with you, she is choosing a guy who gets drunk 63 days in a row and goes to her friend’s house every night to make her jealous.
It’s hilarious and you really should laugh at her, say your bit and then hang up. A woman like that wouldn’t get one more second of my time until she came crawling back.
Cheers
Dan
Hey Dan
Me and my ex girlfriend had been together for 11 years and she broke up with me. I think at some point we got stuck. And after 6 months of the break up she started dating someone else. And i think soon they’ll get engaged.
i have no idea what to do. I still love her.
Cheers
Hey Chris
Thanks for your comment.
What do you mean you have no idea what to do? This is the step-by-step system to get her back: http://store.themodernman.com/get_your_ex_back_super_system.html
A guy in your situation (i.e. dumped out of an 11-year relationship that seems to have gone stale) needs proper help, not a quick reply to a vague comment. You need in-depth solutions, training and insights that you will only get if you are serious about learning what you need to learn, changing what you need to change and going through the process of getting her back.
All I’ve got from your comment is that you and her got “stuck.” How am I supposed to help you with that? 🙂 What does “stuck” mean to you? I need more info than that to be able to give you some tailored advice in a comment reply.
The best I can do at this point is recommend that you watch this:
http://www.themodernman.com/blog/get-your-ex-back-the-3-stages-she-went-through-before-breaking-up-with-you.html
Cheers
Dan
Hello dan, me and my ex have been split for a few weeks. We’ve gone through many stages. Hot and cold, I love you and thinking about us, we’re not getting back together. She broke it off with me. Friday night she went to a Christmas party with her friends. A lad who she has had previous history with was there. They were both singe and ended up kissing and she got a hickey from him. Earlier in the week she was saying she was thinking about getting back together. She told me that the kiss felt right and doesn’t think that we should try again. Now here’s the thing. This isn’t the first time she has done this. The first time we broke up, she kissed another lad and said the same thing. A couple days later when I next saw her we got back together. I may be seeing her in a few days time. I’m not speaking to her at the moment. It’s currently Saturday night and supposed to be seeing her on Monday. Do you think she could make the same decision as last time? The guy she got with on Friday is a massive player and sleeps around. What should I do? Should I keep trying or move on? Thanks
Hi Jonny
Thanks for your question.
It sounds like she has always has “one foot out the door” with you and your relationship. I’m wondering what your life balance is like. For example: If you don’t really care about your career (or study) and don’t have much purpose in life other than her, it’s very easy to make the classic mistake of becoming insecure, needy and desperate as she pulls away.
It’s hard to give advice without knowing that about you, but what I can say is that you will definitely find all of the answers in my program: http://store.themodernman.com/get_your_ex_back_super_system.html I identify all the possible reasons she could be breaking up with you and how to quickly fix it.
Cheers
Dan
Hey Dan,
My ex broke up with me a week and a half ago. We have been together on and off over the past two years, but in general she would get upset by references or jokes I would make. I was insecure at the beginning but she was very much in love with me even though I didn’t see the hints at the time. As time progressed and due to separation by distance she felt that I didn’t understand her or that I was too fragile to ever do so. She wants me to be able to see her and know exactly what she wants. During the last few months we became distant and she would talk less due to her feelings that I simply didn’t get who she was. I understand that things had been rough because she is still in college and I was working on my license and I understand mistakes I made including being emotional or over spending on her, but when she split she said she wanted space, that she didn’t see a romantic future with us, and that I didn’t make her feel like a woman. I hadn’t fully done NC before but I figured in this case it was appropriate and just wait until I can drive in a couple months, but do you think it’s plausible to get back together, if waiting until I can see her in person is a good idea and any advice to seem more masculine?
Hey James
Thanks for your question.
When she says that you don’t make her feel like a woman, it means that you really have to get clear on how to be a man. Based on what you’ve mentioned in your comment, it seems pretty clear that the masculinity you are missing is in your emotional strength, purpose in life and ability to make a woman feel girly in your presence.
If you need to learn those sorts of things, all of my structured advice is in my programs. You asked, “…any advice to seem more masculine?”, which kind of sounds like you want some surface level techniques to use. I teach both the deeper mindsets and the surface level techniques. However, if you’re just looking to quickly put on a bit of an act to “seem masculine” she is going to see through it. How? She will test you.
Women are always instinctively testing men to see how masculine they really are. In the case of an ex, she might show some interest and then pull it back to see how you react.
It sounds like you need to invest in yourself here and actually learn this stuff. I’ve spent years developing my advice by helping guys like you. In your case, you don’t have to spend years trying to work this out on your own. You can learn it all in a matter of hours and then get on with saying and doing the right things around her.
Watch this program:
http://store.themodernman.com/get_your_ex_back_super_system.html
Cheers
Dan
A few months ago(like-4mnths) my ex girlfriend broke up with me cos she said she cheated ofcos she seemed remorseful,At 1st I said it couldn’t work again but cos of the love I have for her I decided to try & get her back but she said NO cos she has moved on still tried after den for a while but she didn’t budge and anytime I call she acts distant and cold..I know I wasn’t d perfect boyfriend but if given a second chance can try to do beta
Pls need your advice or help tanx
Hey Kim
Thanks for your comment.
You will need to show her that you’ve changed before she will become open to meeting up with you and giving the relationship another chance. When you meet up with her, you need to be able to make her feel respect and attraction for you again.
If you want to learn how to do that, this is the program for you: http://store.themodernman.com/get_your_ex_back_super_system.html
Cheers
Dan
Dan She left me. Blamed me for everything. Said I was too cautious. Sent mixed messages. Come to find out she was dating this douche bag the whole time. I still want her back, what do I do?
Hi Jimmy
Thanks for your question.
Thankfully most rebound relationships don’t last. According to most statistics, a rebound relationship has a 65% chance of failing: http://www.themodernman.com/relationship/why-do-most-rebound-relationships-fail.html
What you need to do is fix any emotional issues you have that lead to you being too closed up and then arrange to meet up with her. All of that training is provided in my program, including what to say to get her to meet up with you “one last time” (don’t worry, it won’t be the last).
http://store.themodernman.com/get_your_ex_back_super_system.html
Cheers
Dan