If your ex girlfriend is in a relationship with the first guy she hooked up with after breaking up with you, it means that she is probably in what is commonly referred to as a “rebound relationship.”
According to most studies, anywhere from 60-90% of rebound relationships will fail within the first year, so if you love your ex girlfriend, but she has a boyfriend, it doesn’t mean that it’s the end of the road for you and her.
The question that you need to ask yourself is: What do you want to do about it? Do you want to get her back or are you going to focus on getting yourself a new girlfriend, or at least sleeping with some new women to help yourself get over your ex girlfriend.
The choice is yours and luckily, you are living in the age of the Internet where experts like me are ready to help you get your ex back or show you how attract and have sex or a relationship with new women.
Decide What You Really Want
Before you can do anything, you have to know what it is that you really want and then do what is required to make that happen. If you want your ex girlfriend to dump her new boyfriend and come back to you, then you will need to:
- Change the things that caused her to break up with you in the first place (e.g. neediness, insecurity, lack of commitment, being unable to make her feel like a real woman, etc).
- Become the kind of man that she really wishes you could have been all along.
- Show her that you’re a better man and that no other guy (not even her new boyfriend) can make her feel the way that you can.
Are you willing to do that? If yes, then you are ready to begin the exciting, life-changing process of getting an ex girlfriend. It really is possible to get an ex girlfriend back, even if she has moved on. Going through the process of getting her back turns you into an even greater guy than you already are right now.
There are many things that you can do immediately to get her to feel differently and there are also many things that you can do, which take a bit more effort. However, one thing is clear: You CAN make your ex feel differently about you. When you make her feel differently about you and get her to see you in a new light, she automatically begins to reconsider being with you.
Some of things that you need to do to get your ex back are easy some require a bit of effort, but the reward of getting her back is more than worth it. It really is possible to get another chance with your ex girlfriend. Watch the video below to understand how and why you can get another chance with her…
Common Mistakes to Avoid When Trying to Get Her to Leave Her Boyfriend For You
It sucks to be in the position you are in. You love your ex girlfriend, but she has a boyfriend and you may feel like you have to sit around on the sidelines waiting and hoping for another chance with her.
The good news is that getting her to leave him and come back to you is not as impossible as it may seem to you right now – IF you do the right things. So, if you want to successfully get your ex back, the first step is to avoid making any of these mistakes:
1. Don’t compete with her new boyfriend.
He’s in; you’re out (for the time being). Don’t badmouth him. Don’t try to beat him on the football field. Don’t hang out where he does if it’s not your scene. Trying to convince your ex girlfriend that he’s not as good looking/rich/smart/nice/athletic or popular as you is only going to make you look desperate, childish and immature; qualities that women find UN-attractive in a man and you’ll only convince her that she made the right decision by breaking up with you.
You must develop the mindset and belief that you ARE better than him. See him as NOTHING compared to you, but don’t try to convince her of it. Just let her sense it in the way that you talk, behave, use your body language, etc. Let her see that you are NOT threatened by him, but don’t say it to her. Let her sense it.
Women are very good at reading a guy’s body language to determine whether or not he feels insecure. Your ex probably knows you better than any other woman in your life, so she will be especially good at reading your body language, listening to how you use your tonality when you speak and assessing your vibe and behavior.
If you have the belief that you really are better than him, then you will have NOTHING to worry about because he is nothing compared to you. He doesn’t even come close to how great of a guy you are. Believe it.
If you think that he is better than you, it will come across in your body language, conversation, vibe, etc and your ex girlfriend will pick up on it. She will then feel more attracted to him. Why? Women are attracted to guys who believe in themselves and don’t see other guys as being more attractive than them.
2. Don’t lie about being with other women if you haven’t been.
What guys often do is try to make their ex jealous by pretending to be dating or having sex with other women. In reality, if you’re not really dating or having sex with other women, don’t lie about it to your ex girlfriend. If she finds out that it’s all a lie, she will be convinced that she made the right decision by breaking up with you.
If you are actually dating and having sex with other women, then tell her that if she asks you, but don’t proactively say it. Only tell her if she asks. You don’t need to brag or try to make her jealous because you know that you are ALREADY good enough and you are a much better guy than her current boyfriend.
3. Don’t try to get her back without changing anything about yourself.
Probably the worst mistake guys make who want to get their ex back when she has a boyfriend, is to assume that if they say, “I’m so sorry baby. Please give me another chance and I promise that I’ll change” then she will dump her new guy and come running back. Fact: If you want your ex girlfriend to take you seriously and come back to you, then you are going to have to take the things that caused her to break up with you seriously and show her that she matters enough for you to change.
If you aren’t willing to fix any emotional issues that you have and improve the things that caused her to break up with you in the first place, then she will feel as though you are disrespecting her and the relationship. Show her that you not only respect yourself, but you respect her and the relationship.
How to Make Your Ex Girlfriend Dump Her New Boyfriend and Come Back to You
When in a relationship with a guy, a woman wants to feel:
- Loved.
- Valued.
- Appreciated.
- Attractive to you.
- Taken care of.
- Like she’s with a man who knows what he wants in life and goes after it.
- Proud of you because you are such a great guy.
If a woman doesn’t feel much or any of that in a relationship, she will become unhappy and will start looking for another guy who can give her that kind of emotional experience.
To get your ex girlfriend to dump her new boyfriend and come back to you, it’s very important that you make her feel the emotions that she wanted to feel with you when you were in a relationship.
Everything that you and your ex ever fought about is a direct clue about what you need to change and improve to make her feel what she really wanted to feel with you all along.
For example:
If she ever said to you, “You never notice anything that I do for you,” she was telling you that she was feeling unloved and unappreciated. If she said, “You spend more time with your friends than with me,” she was telling you that she was feeling under-valued.
If she ever said, “You’re so lazy; you’ll never get anywhere in life” she was telling you she didn’t feel taken care of or like you had a plan for your future together. She wanted you to become a bigger and better man, instead of hiding from your true potential as a man behind her and the relationship.
What you need to do is begin making serious changes and then let her see that. If she has currently blocked you out of her life, I provide tested examples of what to say via text, phone or Facebook to get her on a phone call with you and then get her to agree to meet up with you in person, in my program Get Your Ex Back: Super System.
How can you show you that you’ve changed? If she believed that you had no plans for your life, then make plans. Big plans. Find something you feel passionate about and begin to pursue it. You don’t have to achieve anything big or do something amazing right now, but you need to get started on the path.
Instead of hanging around your house moping and saying “I love my ex girlfriend, but she has a boyfriend…my life is ruined…” start setting serious goals for yourself and then go out and BEGIN to make them real. Nothing is more attractive to a woman than a man who knows what he wants from life and actually goes out and gets it.
If she sees you in person or speaks to you on the telephone, instead of looking or sounding sad and telling her how terrible your life has been without her, tell her how her dumping you helped you to see your life in a better light and how you’re now pursuing your goals. Thank her for breaking up with you and say it was one of the best wake up calls you’ve ever had in life.
This will get her attention and may cause her want to see if you’ve really changed or if you’re just putting on a act to impress her. If you can show her that the changes are real she will become more interested in finding out what else you’ve changed.
Getting What You Really Want
Even though your ex girlfriend has a boyfriend, a new boyfriend still needs to “prove” himself to her. On the other hand she already knows what she likes about you. She knows all of your good points. Yes, she also knows the bad points, but she can and will begin to feel differently about you when show her that the things that caused her to break up with you have now dramatically changed.
You can do this.
Stop saying, “I love my ex girlfriend but she has a boyfriend” and start sating, “I love my ex girlfriend and I am going to get her back this month.” You can get her back into your life if you really want to and I know this because I’ve heard back from so many guys who have used my system to get an ex girlfriend, fiancé or wife back.
Don’t spend another minute blaming yourself for what happened in the past, or comparing yourself to another guy. If you want to get your ex girlfriend back, I welcome you to watch my video program called, Get Your Ex Back: Super System and put it into action today.
You can make her see you in a new light. You can make her begin to see her current boyfriend as less attractive and appealing compared to you. Are you willing to give it a shot? If so, try my system today.
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Dan, I’m in stuck with trying to figure out what I should do to get on the phone with my ex. She recently got into a new relationship only 2 months after we split. We were together for a good 3 years. I know the things I did that caused the relationship to end and I am improving myself constantly, but I just don’t know what to say to her or how, to get her on the phone so I can show my confidence. Any advice you can offer? I feel her current relationship is a rebound, but they have only been together for about a week so far.
Hey Jesse
Thanks for your question.
All of that advice is provided in my program. There are too many variables to try to help you in a comment reply. In my program, I explain:
– What to text her if she isn’t answering the phone that will ensure she gets on a phone call with you.
– What to say on the phone to ensure that she agrees to meet up with you “one last time” (don’t worry, it won’t be the last because you will re-attract her at the meet up).
– What to say and do at the meet up to get her to feel attraction and respect for you and open her heart back up to loving you.
I mean, I could sit here and type it all out in a comment, but really – that is what my structured program is for. I spent a year and a half of my life helping phone coaching clients to get their ex back so I could develop this system. It’s all ready and packaged up for you to learn from right now. All the text message and phone call examples have been thoroughly tested and are proven to work.
I welcome you to try my program. Use the examples provided and she will get on a phone call with you. If she refuses to meet up, I provide examples of what to say on the next phone call to ensure she at least meets up for a quick chat.
Check it out here:
http://store.themodernman.com/get_your_ex_back_super_system.html
Cheers
Dan
What’s going on Dan? I need your advice. Well me and ex been on and off for 5 years. We been through a lot in them years and I’m only 23 she says she can’t trust me because of me talking to other girls in the past and I didn’t give her time and at night she felt lonely at times.
Well I can admit we would go some days with out talking well today we went out to eat and she wanted to talk. On the way home she told me she thought about giving another guy a chance and I got a little angry for the fact all we been through even though I can admit I was wrong on my part in the past leading girls on and talkig to them while we was together I didn’t care about any of the other girls but i know i can change.
I told her I don’t care about it or her and that I wouldn’t call or text her phone. Which she texted me saying I love you but its been feeling like we free apart. And I told her basically all I wanted was to her and to make it work but obviously if she telling me she is thinking about giving a chance she likes him so I told her F*** her and I don’t care about her anymore. She replied saying I’m rude and she love me and didn’t want to end it on bad terms.
I’d say about ten mins later she called me twice and I didn’t pick up. I know I’m not ready to talk to her yet because it will turn into a argument.
I would like your advice Dan. I’m thinking sending her a apology text for me acting out like that and that Iearned a lot from our previous relationship. I need your help she is really my first love since high school.
Hi Brandon
Thanks for your question.
I’m just catching up on all the comment across the site now (438 waiting). I see that you’ve purchased my Get Your Ex Back: Super System program in the meantime, which is good to see because now you will have a plan to follow.
Some additional advice for you: Don’t worry about any small mistakes you make along the way. While it wasn’t the perfect thing to do to send her that text, it doesn’t mean that you’ve ruined everything for life. From now on, just focus on using the techniques and methods from my system to make her feel respect, attraction and desire for you again.
If she is going to hook up with that ex from her past, I would recommend that you immediately put Step 3 of the system into action. You will need to do that for your own emotional protection if she does hook up with him and as a way to get her to want to meet up with you in person.
Cheers
Dan