If you want your girlfriend back, you first need to get her respect back.
When she feels a renewed sense of respect for you as a man, she will then open herself back up to feeling attracted to you. Then, when she begins feeling attracted to you again, she will open herself to loving you.
Here’s how it works…
Do You Want Her Back or Need Her Back?
If you’re thinking to yourself, “I want my girlfriend back,” the first thing you need to ask yourself is whether you want her back or whether you need her back. There’s a huge difference between those two emotional states.
Wanting her back suggests that you are prepared to do whatever it takes to become the type of guy that she would want back. However, if you are in a state of needing her back because you feel lost or unhappy without her, then your girlfriend isn’t going to feel very excited by the idea of coming back to you.
If you feel like you need her back, it usually means that whatever caused the break up (e.g. you being insecure, being needy, not having much purpose in life without her, not truly loving her, etc) is likely still there.
You might have tried to meet other women, but they just aren’t making you feel the same way as she does, so you feel like you need her back.
Yet, she doesn’t care if you need her back. The only way to make her care is to get her respect back and then make her feel attracted to you again. When that happens, she will naturally open herself back up the idea of loving you and being with you.
Make Her Need You Back
Sitting around and hoping that your girlfriend will magically change her mind and want you back is obviously a big mistake. The more you focus on how much you miss her and need her in your life, the more you behave like the type of guy she doesn’t want back.
Your girlfriend will feel attracted to you when she sees that you’re confident and happy without her. This applies when you see her in person, talk to her on the phone and when she analyses you via social media.
A classic mistake that some guys make is posting up lonely photos of themselves, where they try to look “handsome” in the pic. They hope that if they just look good enough, their girl will think that she is looking a great guy and will contact him.
Yet, that’s not how a woman’s attraction for a man really works. Women are mostly attracted to what a guy says and does when he INTERACTS with her in person or on the phone.
Watch this video to understand how a woman’s attraction for a man works and how you can use it to get your girlfriend back…
Why Did Your Relationship End?
If you’ve been thinking to yourself, “I want my girlfriend back” one of the most important things that you need to do is determine exactly why your relationship ended…
Did you become clingy or possessive?
One of the main reasons a woman will break up with a man is that he has become too clingy, possessive or insecure.
Some guys rely on their girlfriend to feel emotionally secure, confident and happy. If she doesn’t show enough affection or goes a bit cold all of sudden, the guy may become suspicious, protective and possessive of her. He might worry that she’s losing interest in him and starting to feel the desire to be with other guys.
When he starts thinking like that, he will begin to behave in a way that is unattractive to women. Women are attracted to the confidence of men and turned off by any insecurities, so the more insecurity he shows, the more she loses interest.
Did you take her for granted?
Not paying a woman enough attention and making her feel unappreciated in a relationship is just as bad as being clingy.
While a woman doesn’t want a guy who throws himself at her feet and threatens to kill himself every time she happens to glance in the direction of another man, she also doesn’t want a guy who neglects to notice the effort that she puts into make herself look attractive for him.
To keep a woman happy in a relationship, you have to build on her love, respect and attraction for you over time. You can’t expect that she will stick by you just because things felt good at the start.
In the past, a man could take a woman for granted because women had to stay with a man for life. It was shameful to divorce, so if a woman was unhappy, she still had to stick by her man or suffer the shame of being a divorcee.
In 1900 for example, the divorce rate was less than 10% in the developed world, whereas it’s now an approximate average of about 50%.
In today’s world, a man needs to be able to build on a woman’s love, respect and attraction for him over time. He can’t just take her for granted and expect that she will stick around even she is unhappy.
Today’s women can earn their own money and have the freedom to break up with a guy whenever they feel like it.
It’s no longer seen as shameful for a woman to have sex or relationships with plenty of guys before settling down. She doesn’t even have to settle down if she doesn’t want to! It’s a completely different world now and if you want a relationship to stay together for life, you have to deepen her feelings for you over time, rather than taking her for granted.
Did you miss the warning signs?
Break ups rarely happen “out of the blue” for no reason at all.
Your girlfriend would have given you plenty of warning signs to let you know how she was feeling. If you missed those signs or chose to ignore them, she would have felt as though you weren’t emotionally intelligent enough to make a relationship work with her.
If she felts as though you didn’t understand where you were going wrong with her, it would have been a serious emotional and intellectual disconnection. She felt disconnect emotionally because you didn’t understand how to make her feel happy and intellectually because she probably felt smarter than you when it came to love and relationships.
Getting Her Back
To get your girlfriend back, you will need to stop saying and doing the types of things that turn her off and start say and doing the types of things that will attract her to you.
Anything other than that is a waste of time. If you want her back for real, you have to be prepared to do this properly. Are you prepared to do what it takes to get her back?