Texting is a great way to make contact with a woman once you have gotten her phone number.
However, make sure that you don’t waste time hiding behind texts. Although it might seem like a woman doesn’t want to get on a phone call because she enjoys texting, the fastest way to get her out on a date is to call her, make her feel attracted on the phone and then arrange a date.
If you hide behind texts and are too afraid to get on a phone call, a woman can easily lose interest and decide to hook up with another guy who has the confidence to call her up and arrange to see her in person.
What to Text a Woman After Getting Her Number in Person
After getting a woman’s number for the first time in person (e.g. at a bar, party, during the day, etc) you can send her any one of these type of texts:
Hey – Dan here. Good to meet you. Chat to you sometime soon.
Hey – it’s Dan here. The handsome guy from the bar.
Hey Michelle – Dan here. Talk to you soon.
Sending her a text like that ensures that she has your number and knows that you’re interested. If you were successful in making her feel a lot of attraction for you when you first met her, it’s important that she also knows that you are interested in her and aren’t just getting her number for fun.
Many guys get phone numbers from women and never follow up on them or arrange a date. As a result, many women feel like a guy isn’t a real dating option until she has actually met up with him for a first date, kissed him (or had sex with him) and wanted more.
Getting a woman’s number and texting her doesn’t mean anything. You’re only really dating when you’ve had sex or at least kissed. Anything prior to that is simply a maybe.
What to Text Next
After texting her the initial message, my advice is that you call her rather than continuing to text her. Get her on a phone call, have a laugh together and then arrange to meet up in person. That way, you can get to kissing and sex and a real relationship can begin.
However, if you really want to send a couple of texts beforehand, at least make sure that they trigger her feelings of attraction for you.
For example: One of the ways to attract women is to use humor. So, say for example that on the night you met her, she was wearing a red dress and was looking sexy. During the conversation, you jokingly referred to her as the “lady in red.”
You could then trigger her feelings of attraction by using a bit of humor:
The lady in red. You looked good in that dress the other night. I looked good too, but you looked better. How are you today?
She will have a little laugh and feel attracted to the fact that you’re not only being confident and funny, but you’re also giving her a compliment. All of that combined adds up to her seeing you as a charming guy.
You can also just keep it simple and say:
Hey…the lady in red. How are you today?
She will have a little laugh and remember that she felt good talking to you when you referred to her as the lady in red.
In a situation like that, you shouldn’t spend a lot of time texting back and forth. After her initial reply, just call her. If she doesn’t answer, it may be that she is busy or at work at that moment, so don’t worry.
She will either text you again, call you or go silent. Whatever happens, don’t lose confidence in yourself. Keep pushing forward until you actually meet her in person because without a date in person and then kissing and sex, you are just another guy texting her.
Texting Mistakes to Avoid
After doing all the hard work to get a woman’s phone number, some guys screw up their chances with her by making one or all of the following mistakes:
There’s nothing with texting a woman, but if you text her too much and don’t ever get her on a call and arrange a date, she can easily lose interest in you.
Why? 93% of the communication between two human beings is non-verbal (e.g. tonality, body language, vibe, etc).
When a guy is texting a woman, she is only getting 7% of his actual communication, so she has to fill in the remaining 93% by imagining what he would look like, sound like and be behaving like if he said that (what he sent via text) to her in person.
If you over-text a woman, she may begin to think of you in a negative light (e.g. assume that you’re too afraid to call her and risk rejection if you suggest a date). If she begins to feel that way, she won’t be as impressed or amused by anything you say via text.
It will become of a nuisance than anything and she will keep herself open to meeting a guy who will actually meet up with her, kiss her and have sex with her, rather than just text the crap out of her.
2. Taking too long to contact her after getting her number
Some guys lack so much confidence in their attractiveness to women that they chicken out when it comes time to text or call her.
I used to make this mistake myself when I first started getting numbers. I’d get a few numbers during the night and then be worried about getting rejected if I called. I’d be thinking, “Maybe I didn’t attract her enough” or “Maybe she didn’t even like me much and just gave me her number to get me to leave her alone” or “Maybe…”
I would come up with reasons not to call and then think, “I’ll go get some more numbers next weekend, attract the women better and then call.” Yet, it just kept happening.
Eventually, I got the point where I started to force myself to call by telling myself, “If she gave you her number, she felt attracted to you and is open to meeting up with you and potentially having sex with you. So call.”
To my surprise, when I started following through on numbers, I started getting laid every week and soon had a few women on the go at once.
So, if you get a girl’s number, don’t sit around worrying about whether or not she likes you. Additionaly, don’t play games with her and think that if you text her too soon, it will make you look desperate.
You’re not desperate for texting or calling a girl and then arranging a date. You’re simply a cool, confident guy who is going after what he wants. Women are impressed by that, so don’t hide behind endless text messages. Just call her, arrange a date and then have sex with her.
BTW: A recent survey revealed that 55% of couples had sex on their first date and 70% of women admitted to having experienced a one night stand. So, don’t think that sex doesn’t happen easily and often.
These days, most women will have sex with you (or at least kiss you) on the first night or the first date. So, don’t hide behind texts, don’t wait a long time to call – just keep moving forward and make things happen.
If you want to be successful with women, you’ve got to believe in yourself and push forward to the next level. Hanging around in the “Maybe I like you, maybe I don’t” text zone is for sissies.
Just get her on the phone, meet up with her, kiss her and have sex with her.
Until you get to that point, her interest in you is just a maybe and you can instantly be replaced by a guy who kisses her or has sex with her, rather than texting her.
3. Texting like a woman
If you feel like you must absolutely text a woman, just make sure that you are not texting like a young boy or a woman.
Some text message examples of a guy writing like a woman would:
hi how r u?
wat u doin?
i lyke u.
u wanna hook up?
i miss u…hvnt seen u in ages
Just because girls text that way, it doesn’t mean that you should too. If you want to be attractive to women, you should focus on being more mature and masculine, rather than childish or feminine.
4. Being too cute
It’s okay to send cute messages if you’re a very masculine guy and are just doing that to add in a bit of sweetness at times, or to joke around with her by pretending to be a sissy. However, if you’re a fairly normal, neutral type of guy in terms of masculinity, being very cute with a woman via text is actually going to turn her off.
She will imagine what your facial expression and thought process might be when you send her the cute message and if she pictures you looking cute like a girl, she isn’t going to feel attracted. Instead, she will begin to lose attraction because you lack the all important masculinity that women seek in men.
Here are some super lame text messages just as an example. Ready to vomit?
“Do you have a plaster? Why? cause i cut myself fallin 4 u!”
Why is this a turn off? It is childish and something that kids in school do. If you send that to her as a joke (and she knows that you’re joking) it will be funny, but if you’re serious she will of course think that you’re a weirdo.
“Hey snuggle bear” (or any other cutsie name)
Again, this is fine if you’re a masculine guy, have already had sex with her or are just joking around. However, being cute via text messages is not attractive to women in pretty much all other circumstances.
“If you were mauled by a lion with chainsaws for hands, i hope it wouldnt get your face cuz its cute :)”
I don’t know how you feel after reading those cutsie messages, but I’m feeling a bit nauseous after having to write them up as examples. Sickening stuff. Lol…
5. Being too pushy or needy
Some guys get a little bit too excited when they get a woman’s number.
He will text her to say good morning, text her to tell her that he’s on his way to work, when he’s stuck in a traffic jam (e.g. “OMG…traffic jam. Gunna be late for work! Eeek!”) and text her to tell her what he just ate for lunch.
Truth be told, I feel sorry for guys like that. It’s not his fault that he wants to be in love, have a girlfriend and get some affection from women. It’s just natural to want that.
However, women don’t want to be bombarded with messages from desperate guys. It just isn’t exciting, unless of course she is unattractive and desperate for some male attention.
Some needy text message examples:
r u getting my messages?
what r u doing? Why don’t you answer me?
It has been a week and I haven’t heard from you. Are you bored of me already?
i miss you…do you miss me?
6. Asking her out via a text message
This is the number one classic mistake that guys make when texting girls. Instead of growing a pair of balls and getting on a phone call (where the girl can feel attracted to his confidence), he will hide behind a text message because it won’t feel as bad if she says no.
Some guys will use the excuse that she doesn’t like talking on the phone and she would feel awkward if he called. However, if she meets a confident guy, he is going to call her up, meet her in person and then bang her.
The insecure guy who was hiding behind text will then be forgotten and she will get on with having a relationship with the confident guy who had the balls to follow through with a call, date and then sex.
Asking a woman on a date via text increases the chances of her saying no. When she gets a text, it gives her time to think about whether or not she wants to play hard to get. It’s not the same as hearing your confident voice over the phone and feeling attracted to it.
The text you send her is just words on a screen. If she wants to test your interest in her or your confidence level by playing hard to get, saying no to a date request via text is easy. However, saying no to you on the phone when she is feeling attracted to you just doesn’t make much sense, so she is more likely to say yes.
Do you know how to make women feel a lot of attraction for you when you interact with them on the phone or in person? Watch this video to find out…