If you recently met a girl who was all over you initially, but isn’t replying to your texts anymore, the reason is simple.
You haven’t taken things to the next level.
You’re constantly texting her and expecting that something will happen by itself (e.g. she will suggest meeting up), but it is YOU who must make the next move.
You have to call her up, attract her on the phone (e.g. with your confidence, charm, humor, etc) and then arrange a time to meet her in person. You then have to kiss, have sex with her and take it from there.
Texts Get Boring Very Quickly For a Woman
If a woman likes you, she will be excited to get your first few texts. She will wonder what is going to happen between you and her. Will you have sex soon? Will you start a relationship and fall in love? Could you be the one?
Yet, if you all you do is text, she will either get bored or begin playing hard to get. For example:
If stops texting you all of a sudden because she is bored, it means that she’s not getting enough stimulation out of seeing words on the screen of her phone with smiley faces and LOLs. She wants to see YOU in person and feel you, touch you and take it from there.
If she is playing hard to get by taking a long time to respond to texts, it means that she’s either testing your confidence (e.g. will you panic and think that you’ve lost her interest?) or she is trying to see how much you like her (e.g. are you texting her like you text all other girls, or do you actually want to bang her soon?)
What a lot of guys don’t realize is that most women are open to having sex with a guy pretty quickly these days. You don’t have to spend a lot of time trying to get to know a girl via text before you can meet up with her and have sex with her.
A recent study in America for example, discovered that 55% of couples had sex on their first date. Another study in Europe found that 70% of women admitted to having experience a one night stand.
Sex happens all the times these days and it usually happens very quickly. So, don’t waste time hiding behind texts and hoping that she asks you out, calls you up or says that she really like syou. Simply make her feel attracted to you and then get her on a phone call, meet up with her and start a sexual relationship with her.
Good Texts vs. Bad Texts
Instead of giving you a massive list of bad text messages that guys send to women, I’m going to explain where guys go wrong when texting and why it turns women off.
To simply create a list of bad texts for you would not be accurate because what may be a bad text from ONE GUY, will actually be a funny and exciting text from ANOTHER GUY. It’s just like how, in person, a joke from one guy doesn’t sound funny, but when another guy says it, people find it hilarious, charming and cool and they crack up laughing.
With the image above that shows the “right” and “wrong” text message example, it would only be “wrong” if it was sent from a guy who is normally nervous, shy or insecure around women. However, if it was sent as a joke from a confident guy who has his choice with women, it would be funny and would make the woman laugh.
So, any website that gives you a “Top 10 List” of “good” or “bad” texts is simply providing you with amateur advice. Don’t be fooled into thinking that being a cool, confident and charming guy is as simple as reading a “top 10” list from ANY website.
Most women don’t like it when guys try to set up a first date with them via text.
Sure, some girls like it because they are too shy to talk to the guy, but most women, especially beautiful women, get annoyed by guys who try to organize everything via text.
When texting becomes a man’s primary form of communication with a woman, it can make her feel that she isn’t important enough for him to call her or she will assume that he’s too nervous to call her.
Women want to experience the real you, not just text on a screen. When you call her on the phone, she can easily feel attracted and turned on by hearing your masculine voice and picking up on the fact that you are confident when talking to her.
Avoid Using a Childish Writing Style
Recently, a 25 year old guy contacted me via The Modern Man and asked for dating advice like this, “hey dan…i nid u 2 tel me wat u do to gt such hot chiqs.” I replied and told him that I could only help him if he wrote to me properly, instead of writing like a little boy/girl.
I also let him know that women do NOT find that style of texting impressive or attractive…at all. It’s not cool or sexy. It is immature and it is a trend that was started by little girls when they first got phones and computers and were able to phone text or chat online.
If you want to attract women, don’t text like a girl.
I realize that some guys reading along now might be a bit confused because they may know of some guy who write like that and still get laid. Why is that? It is NOT because they write like a little girl when they text. It is because they know how to attract women in person, so women are happy to put up with a few minor mistakes like that.
However, if you don’t know how to attract women in person and then you also write like a little boy (or girl), women will not give you a “free pass” by letting your mistake slide.
To be clear here…
It’s okay to use slang and abbreviations when texting women, but if you go overboard with that stuff it will make some women assume that you lack maturity. These days, a lot of guys make the mistake of using a more girly and childish style of writing texts because they think that’s how women want to communicate with guys via text.
Women are attracted to masculine guys, not feminine guys who act girly via text. Some examples of the girly, feminine style that some guys make the mistake of using when texting women:
“What r u doin? Idk wat 2 do”
“LOL….sorrrreeee!!! I m late c u in 20.”
“c u l8r”
“OMG….thats soooo baaaaad :O are you okay???”
Presumably, you wouldn’t send a text like that to an important client or your boss at work, would you? When texting your boss or an important client, you’d want to show your maturity, right?
When texting a woman, you should always aim to be the more mature one. It doesn’t matter if the girl you like is 15, 25, 35 or 45 – she doesn’t want you to text like a little boy via text. Whatever age you are, always try to present yourself in a mature, masculine way while also being playful and joking around with the woman.
It is fine for a girl (or even a grown woman) to write like a girl, but it is not fine for a guy of any age. Simply write back to her in a more mature, masculine way no matter how girly she gets with you.
Do reply to her like this:
Girl: hey…wat u doin? i wana c u…do u lyke me 2?
Man: Yeah, you’re alright 😉 I’ll let you see me soon
Don’t reply to her like this:
Girl: hey…wat u doin? i wana c u…do u lyke me 2?
Man (boy?): i lyke u 2. im doin nothin…i wana cu 2
The second example above looks like two girls texting each other. Don’t ever reply to a woman’s SMS and write like she does. Write like a man and she will feel attracted to your masculinity. For example:
Girl: hahahaha….ur so funny…u crack me up! 😛
Man: Your face is funnier.
Girl: ? 🙁
Man: Whoops! Damn autocorrect. I meant to say your face is beautiful.
Girl: 🙂 tanx
Man: Whoops! Damn autocorrect again. I meant to say that your face is funny, but also beautiful.
At that point of a text exchange, I would either call the girl or tell her to call me. Why? I’ve already attracted her with some confident humor and now it is time to take the exchange to the next level (i.e. catch up in person, kiss and have sex).
If you’re texting a woman that you like, make sure that you give her a chance to miss you. Don’t always reply to every text she sends right away and if you’re communicating with her via Facebook, make sure that you don’t become annoying by sending too many messages.
There’s nothing wrong with replying right away to a woman’s message, but don’t always do it and don’t over-message her.
The most important thing is how you make her feel when she interacts with you on a phone call and in person. Messages don’t have the same effect as a phone call or in person conversation.
If the woman that you like is attractive, she will usually have a lot of different guys messaging her online and to her phone. The guy who ends up having sex with her or being in a relationship with her is the guy who gets her on a phone call, meets up with her in person and then kisses her and has sex with her.
If you are just another guy messaging her, it doesn’t matter how “cool” your messages are. All it will take for you to be forgotten or pushed aside is for a guy to kiss her in person.
Additionally, by constantly texting or messaging a girl, you become the opposite of what women refer to as a challenge. Most women won’t admit that they like a guy who is a challenge, but if you pay attention to female pop singers, you will notice that most of their songs (which they love singing) are about guys who are challenge.
“Why Doesn’t She Answer Me?!”
Often, the same types of guys who send women text after text will expect her to reply to the messages immediately. If she doesn’t answer or respond in some way within minutes (much less hours or days), he will go into panic mode and start wondering what might be wrong.
He may think, “Shit! She doesn’t like me anymore! Maybe she likes someone else!” He might then increase the frequency of his texts to make sure he is constantly on her radar.
He might even feel compelled to send a desperate message like, “Hey, I sent you a message yesterday. Why haven’t you replied?” not realizing that some people have a life and don’t have time to be messing around with text messages every day.
Guys like this will spend most of their time worrying why the woman isn’t responding, not realizing that women hate guys who doubt themselves and worry if a girl doesn’t message back immediately. He might even send a text asking if he has done something to upset her or if she is seeing someone else.
If she doesn’t reply and he keeps trying to reach out to her, her attraction and respect for him will dwindle away with each additional text.
Tacky Sext Messages
Some men don’t realize that almost all women don’t watch porn and of those women who do, they almost all don’t watch it for the same reasons as men.
Women are more turned on by a man’s behavior and personality traits than his physical parts, whereas men can be turned on simply by looking at a woman’s tits, pussy and ass…or even just her face.
Sending a photo of your dick will have little or no effect on a woman. To most women, it’s just as sexually arousing as looking at a foot or an ear. In other words, it doesn’t turn her on and it doesn’t make her want to have sex with you.
Most women are more turned on by how a man’s personality and behavior makes them feel. Women can feel attracted to a man’s physical appearance or parts (e.g. penis), but they are much more attracted to what you say and do when you interact with them.
For example: Does your conversation style and vibe turn her on, or do you turn her off and make her feel awkward or tense when you talk to her? Do you trigger her feelings of sexual attraction when you interact with her, or does she see you as more of a friendly, nice guy that she has no sexual interest in?
We men get turned on by a woman’s physical appearance, which is why porn is so appealing to us men and why the porn industry has always been aimed at providing images and videos of sexy women for men to jerk off too.
If a woman sends you a naked photo of herself, it is appealing because you’re a guy and you instantly get turned on by a woman’s physical appearance. However, if you send a woman a sext with a photo of your dick or abs, she will not find it arousing unless you have already attracted her in person with your behavior and personality.
Here are some basic texting guidelines that I recommend guys follow if they want to avoid messing up opportunities with women so they can get to dates, kissing, sex and relationships:
1. After getting her phone number for the first time: Send her a quick message like, “Hey – good to meet you. Will give you a call to say hi sometime.”
2. If you call to set up a date and she doesn’t answer: Just send a quick text to let her know that it was you and what your basic intentions were, “Hey – it’s Dan. Just calling up to say hi. Chat to you another time.”
3. When you begin dating: Only use text to flirt with her a little. For example: “Hey sexy…” and then take it from there. The aim will be to get her on a phone call, or if you’re already comfortable with each other, text to arrange a second or third date.
4. After you’ve begun having sex: At this point, it’s fine to only use text to communicate with her and then only call when it’s absolutely necessary.
5. Deep into a relationship: It doesn’t matter. Call, text or leave messages anytime you want, but of course – don’t over-text or over-message. Give her a chance to miss you and be the one who texts, calls or messages first.