These days, dating multiple people at once is something that both men and women do to enjoy a fun and exciting lifestyle full of sex, love and rollercoaster emotions.
Some people want to settle down and get married right now, some want to start a family as soon as possible and others just want enjoy sex and good times for a while.
How about you?
If you are a man who is interested in dating multiple women at once, you may:
- Have just come out of a long-term relationship and are now looking to have some fun, before committing yourself to another serious relationship.
- Be too busy at the moment (i.e. with work or study) to devote yourself to a committed relationship.
- Enjoy having new women in your life all the time.
- Get bored after having sex with a woman for a few months.
- Have not found the right girl yet who makes you feel like you want to commit for real.
- Have recently been dumped or cheated on by a woman you really loved and now want to get some revenge by having sex with many women and breaking hearts along the way.
- Enjoy pulling one night stands from bars and nightclubs and then dating women for a while before replacing them with new girls.
- Be sick and tired of jerking off to porn every week and now want to have sex with hot women in real life.
- Be with a woman who doesn’t want a fully committed relationship right now. She just wants to enjoy sex and good times for a while and see where it goes.
The Most Important Skill That You Need if You Are Going to Date Multiple Women at Once
If a guy doesn’t know how to make a woman feel a lot of attraction for him, he won’t be able to pull off the lifestyle of dating multiple women at once.
Women have to feel a LOT of attraction for you based on what you say and do when interacting with them. You can’t just make a woman feel an average or low amount of attraction for you and then expect that she will put up with you wanting to sleep with other women.
If a woman can tell that other women aren’t very interested in you, she will find it easy to gain control over you. For example: If you’re trying to pick her up and she isn’t contributing much to the conversation, she will be able to see that you’re worried about losing her.
She will sense that you need her way more than she needs you. She will pick up on the fact that you don’t really have many or any options with women.
You can still pick women up if you don’t have any other options, but you won’t be able to date multiple women at once because all a woman will have to do is stop calling you or pull back her interest and you will naturally begin to chase her…because she is all you have.
To get to a point where you can successfully date multiple women at once, you have to know how to make women feel INTENSE attraction for you. When you can do that, you will see that most of the women you meet feel attracted to you.
From there, you will develop a type of confidence in yourself that only a small percentage of guys have. This type of confidence is something that women notice in men and it attracts them like a magnet.
My Dating, Sex and Relationship History
Personally speaking, I had sex with more than 250 women before settling down with my perfect girl two years ago and then recently getting married after a short engagement.
As you will see if you watch the video below, I had an amazing time having sex and enjoying fun times with many women and I’m now enjoying deep love and commitment with my perfect woman, which is just as, if not more amazing than dating multiple women at once.
If didn’t have sex with so many women before settling down, I don’t think I would have felt satisfied enough to settle down. I always held the view that there were way too many sexy women in the world to just have one of them. Yet, by the time I met my girlfriend, I had enjoyed more than enough women to satisfy my insatiable appetite.
How Many Women Did I Date at Once?
There were times when I had five or six women on rotation, who were all actively pursuing me and coming around to my place for sex.
Most of the time though, I just kept to three women at once because any more than that and it began to cause more problems than it was worth (e.g. It became difficult to remember who you took where, what you talked about, what movies you saw, their personal interests and so forth).
Seeing more than three women at once also eats up too much of your time, which then takes you away from achieving your life purpose or career goals, so I recommend that you limit the number of woman you are seeing to two or three at once.
When you’re dating multiple women at once, they won’t all be in your life full time all the time. Sometimes, you will have women who come in and out of your life every few months just to see you a few times and then they leave again because they know they can’t get you to commit.
I always had those girls in the background and when they were bored or feeling lonely or were sick of meeting guys who didn’t make them feel the type of attraction they were really looking for, they’d text or Facebook message me and we’d catch up at my place for sex.
Some of them wanted to be “wined and dined” before the sex because they didn’t want to make themselves look cheap, which was fine by me because I love women and enjoy spending time with them. It was always a good break away from the endless hours of work that I put into The Modern Man.
With those women, I would go out to dinner or a movie, go for a drive down to the beach or go out clubbing with them and then go back to my place for sex.
That went on for many years and I never, ever got bored of it.
When I met my girlfriend (who recently became my wife), we immediately fell in love with each other.
It was weird because even though I had other women in my life when I met her, she instantly became my number one girl. Both her and I couldn’t eat or sleep properly after meeting each other because we knew that this was it.
She moved in with me almost immediately (she stayed over after the first two days of knowing each other and then packed up from where she was living to come and be with me) and we’ve been inseparable ever since.
I sent text messages to four different women to let them know that they wouldn’t be able to come around to my place for sex anymore. Two women called me up crying, another one called up and told me that should would wait until I dumped my girlfriend and the other said that I was an asshole.
Two months later, the girl who said I was an asshole sent me a Facebook message saying that she missed me and hope that we might be able to be together again one day. I wasn’t surprised.
6 DOs and DON’Ts of Dating Multiple Women at Once
1. Don’t Call, Text or Message Her Once You’ve Begun Having Sex
The golden rule of dating multiple women at once is to never call them after you’ve had sex.
Get to sex and then don’t call. The point of this is to let her understand that you’re not chasing a relationship with her and will only catch up with her when she reaches out to see you.
Dating multiple women is different to dating one woman and courting her into a committed relationship. If you are courting a woman, you might proactively text her, talk to her on the phone or see her in person a few times a week.
Yet, if you’re dating multiple women, you should stop calling or texting after you’ve had sex with the woman for the first time. It’s fine to make a comment on her Facebook status update, click “like” on a photo, etc, but avoid proactively chatting with her online, on the phone or via text.
If you don’t want to fall into the trap of seeing her as your girlfriend or potential wife for life, never, ever initiate a call or text with her. Always be the one who is replying. Just wait and let her be the one who calls, texts and sends Facebook messages to you.
When she does reach out to you, only answer your phone calls from her sometimes and then take your time to reply to texts and Facebook messages; sometimes immediately, sometimes an hour or two later and sometimes the next day.
If you are the one who is always calling her and texting her, she will assume you want to be her committed boyfriend, so just let her do all the chasing after sex has happened between you.
When you answer your phone (you should only answer it sometimes), keep the conversation brief and positive, but try to get her to get to the point of the call instead of wasting your time chatting about random stuff.
If she asks to see you or go out on a date again, but you’re going to be busy on the day she wants to meet, just set up another time to meet her. If you are free to meet her, it’s fine to go ahead with that, but just make sure that you avoid seeing her too often.
If you want to date multiple women, you’ve actually got to spend time with multiple women. Don’t spend too much time with one girl.
Seeing her once a week is perfect. Twice a week and it starts getting too much like a boyfriend/girlfriend situation and three times a week means you’re pretty much committing yourself to one girl.
If you are actually dating multiple women and have a life purpose that you are following through on, you simply won’t have the time to see her more than once a week.
If you don’t maintain a balance of seeing her once a week (or less), as well as having a life purpose that you’re actively pursuing, then it will be difficult for you to control your emotions (e.g. eagerness to see her, feeling lonely and bored, etc) and successfully date multiple women at once.
Bonus tip: Having a life purpose that is more important to you than just a woman is an important part of being what women refer to as a real man. They won’t go around admitting it in public, but the majority of women want a man who doesn’t base his life on a woman.
Women want a man to love them, want them, appreciate and respect them, but they also want that man to have more to his life than just her.
Think of the men that you respect and look up to most in this world and you will realize that they are men who are on purpose. They have a big goal, mission or purpose and they are going after it with unrelenting determination.
When a guy lacks purpose in life, he is more likely to become needy, clingy and insecure when in a relationship with a woman. When that happens, the woman loses respect and attraction for him and the relationship begins to fall apart.
2. Do Be Honest When She Asks You, “Are You Seeing Anyone Else?”
Once you’ve had sex with her a few times, but are not behaving as though you want a committed relationship, a woman will usually ask if you’re seeing any other women or where you think your relationship with her is headed.
The best approach is to be honest with her.
- Her: Are you seeing anyone else?
- You: Yes, I’m seeing other women as well because I don’t want a fully committed relationship right now. I like you the most though.
- Her: Where is this going? Are we going to have a committed relationship or do you just want me for sex?
- You: All I know is that I really like you, that you’re sexy and that you’re a great woman. Right now, I just don’t want a committed relationship though. If you can’t handle that, then we won’t see each other anymore, but if you can, then we can keep seeing each other like this and see where it goes.
To lessen the blow and not bruise her ego too much, you can also reply with a bit of humor instead of immediately giving her a serious response.
For example: If she asks you whether or not you are dating multiple women, you can smile and look around the room and say, “Hmmm, let me see. Nope. It looks like you’re the only one I’m with. Only you baby…” and then change the subject. Some women will laugh and then read between the lines to determine that you’re only having sex with her and are not in courting mode.
It’s important to point out here that many women actually want you to avoid answering the question because they just want to have casual sex with you for a while. Not all women are looking for a committed relationship.
Sometimes, it’s best to turn the question back on the woman by saying in an easy-going, kind, but also assertive way, “Why are you worrying about that? I’m here with you, we’re having a great time…there’s no need to worry about that stuff…I like you…don’t worry so much about those things.”
You can then add in that since you’re not in a committed relationship with her right now, you wouldn’t think of asking her if she’s dating other men at the same time. That will make some women feel a guilty for bringing up the subject or hesitant to ask you about it again in future.
After telling a woman not to worry so much about whether or not you and her are in a committed relationship, expect her to try all sorts of things to get you to commit (e.g. saying she doesn’t want to see you anymore, not calling for a week, crying about you not committing to her, calling you an asshole, etc).
Personally speaking, most of my women knew that I was dating other women without me even having to say it. How? They noticed how intensely attracted they felt only after a few minutes of interaction and many would say, “Hmmm…you’re trouble.”
Taylor Swift sings about that sort of thing in a couple of her songs. The lyric in one of her songs that goes, “I knew you were trouble when you walked in” is about her knowing that the guy just wanted sex, but she went for it anyway.
In another of Swift’s songs, she openly admits to loving guys who are players, “Cause you know I love the players…and you love the game.”
Yet, in real life, Swift wouldn’t go around admitting that on camera because people would think she was slutty. Instead, she puts on her happy, innocent face that people like her for and then gets on with her real life behind the scenes.
Anyway, back to my story…
After I would have sex with a woman and she got to experience my raw, masculine confidence in the bedroom, she would know for sure that other girls would gladly come around to my apartment just for sex even if they didn’t get be my exclusive girlfriend or not.
It was obvious by the way I spoke to her, looked at her, touched her and behaved around her that I found her incredibly sexy and really enjoyed the sex, but I didn’t need her in my life.
Sometimes, women would say, “You’re baaaad…” or they would flat out ask me, “How many other girls are you sleeping with?” and I would just laugh.
If they persisted and kept asking me about other women, I would just say something like, “Yes, I’m seeing other girls, but I like you and when I’m with you, I only think about you. Don’t worry about the other girls…we always feel good when we’re together, right?”
The woman would then either answer, “Yes” or try to make me feel guilty by saying, “No, you’re the only guy who makes me cry. You treat me so badly. I don’t know why I continue seeing you.”
I wouldn’t ever get sucked in by a woman’s attempt to control me with guilt because I know that women love being with a guy who can make them feel so much love and yearning that they cry about not being able to get him to fully commit.
In fact, when my now wife started trying to control me in other ways in the early part of our relationship, she ended up balling her eyes out on several occasions because I would just tell her to leave. In the end, she was so happy that I never crumbled and always retained the position of power.
Why did my wife like that I was a challenge (and still am) and why do other attractive women like it?
Back to my story about dating multiple women…
After confirming to a woman that I was indeed seeing other women, I would then usually draw her into me, hug her, start kissing her neck and grabbing her butt at the same time (in other words, begin to lovingly devour her), firmly caressing her all over her body and then have sex with her.
Instead of me being pulled into drama and useless conversation about committing, I would use my masculinity to lead her and I out of that conversation and into a more enjoyable emotional state of being. I would turn her on and love her in the way that she really wanted in that moment.
She would look at me with excitement, hoping that somewhere deep in my mind, I was beginning to change and would only want to be with her. She would hope that if she gave me enough sexual pleasure, I would realize that she was the girl for me.
During those moments, a woman often try her very best to please you during sex in the hope that you will possibly change your mind and commit to her…even if she has done that 10 times over the past few months.
It’s similar to “make up sex” after a break up, but more erotic because she also feels like she is being used for sex…and loves it at the same time.
3. Do Let Her Be Your Time to Unwind, Not Your Girlfriend
If you’re constantly taking a girl out to expensive restaurants and trying to organize additional dates, then it means that you’re most-likely trying to be her boyfriend. You are putting a lot of active time and energy into wanting to be with her, rather than just seeing her whenever she wants to see you.
If you want to date multiple women at once, you need to have a more balanced approach to how you invest your time and energy.
By going after your life purpose with unrelenting determination, you won’t always have a lot of time for her. If you are man who is rising through the levels of life, you will be under a lot of pressure to continue succeeding at whatever you do.
I’m not talking about working your normal hours at a job or spending a lot of time lifting weights up and down in a gym. I’m about talking about you having huge life goals that stretch out as far as you can envision into the future and then going after that with unrelenting determination.
That is one the main things that ensures a man does not incorrectly prioritize a woman in his mind. For example: Even though I am now married and see my wife as the most important person in my life who I love one million percent, my main focus is still my mission with The Modern Man.
When I was dating multiple women at once, they had to fit into my lifestyle or they didn’t get to be with me. Simple as that.
When I did have time to “hang out” with one of my girls, I’d just get her to come over to my place and then take it from there. My girls knew the deal and were fully aware that they were coming over for sex, but I still needed to be respectful and sometimes take the girl out to do something instead of just having sex with her and then watching TV.
Since I was working so hard on The Modern Man, I really enjoyed the quality time that I spent with my girls because it helped me take my mind off my work.
Seeing my girls was my time to unwind and breathe in some feminine energy after being so masculine all day long while I worked on my purpose (The Modern Man).
When I would see my women, I would enjoy doing things like going for a walk down by the river (Southbank in Melbourne), going for coffee, watching a movie at the cinema, grabbing a bite to eat somewhere, chilling out at the beach around sunset or even going out to party with her and our friends.
The same now applies with my wife; I work my ass off all day long for The Modern Man and then at night, I spend time with her. Some nights, we hang out with my friends together and other nights she will catch up with her friends and I will catch up with mine.
Maintaining a balanced life like that is important and is one part of what it takes to keep the passion alive in a relationship.
4. Don’t Get Too Close With Her Family
When couples transition from casual dating to building a serious relationship, they will usually then formally introduce each other to their family.
When dating multiple women at once, you will want to completely avoid meeting her parents if possible. If she invites you to a family get together, you can go to it as long as she is already aware that you are dating other women and are not exclusive with her.
She has to know that you’re not looking for a relationship. If she’s cool with that, then meeting her parents isn’t a big deal to her.
However, if you’ve been lying to a woman and pretending that you are committed to her, then she will likely be mighty disappointed and hurt when you eventually break up with her or tell her the truth.
5. Don’t Give Up Seeing Other Women, Unless You Want to
Some women won’t like that you’re seeing several women at once because that’s just not how they roll.
They will demand that you only see them and will not be willing to share you with other women. If you want to have multiple women in your life at once, you have to be willing to risk losing some of them along the way. If you aren’t willing to risk losing a woman, you aren’t ready to begin dating multiple women at once.
When one of your women demands that you stop seeing other women and only see her, you should only accept that if you want to truly commit to her.
If you know that you just want to have sex with her for a while, then simply laugh at her and the situation and let her know that you will think about it.
Why not tell her “No” directly? Many women (in fact, most women) only demand that you stop seeing other women so you can say, “Okay, I will only see you” and then they feel better about themselves. However, she knows very well that you will continue seeing other women and she will just have to try harder to get you to commit to her.
When I met my wife, we knew right away that we weren’t going to be having an open relationship. It was serious and both of us knew that right away.
When she said to me, “I don’t want you seeing other women, okay? It’s just us, right?” I paused to think about it for a few seconds and then said, “Yes, just you and me” and then I stuck to that promise. I was willing to stop seeing other women because she was and still is more than enough for me.
6. Do Try to Look After Her Feelings
It’s impossible not to break the heart of some women when you’re dating multiple women at once.
It is just part and parcel of having many women in your life and whether most women admit it or not, most women love being with guys who make them feel intense emotions. That said, when dating multiple women, you shouldn’t intentionally try to hurt a woman’s feelings and you should always try to look out for her feelings as much as possible.
For example: Many women will ask you things like, “Am I not good enough for you?” to which some guys will just be an asshole and say, “I don’t know…” and leave her to think that maybe that means she isn’t good enough.
My response to that type of question is, “I think you’re sexy, beautiful and I really like you, but I’m not looking for anything serious right now. If you don’t want to see me anymore and have fun like we do, then I encourage you to go and find another man. Go for it.”
Some women took me up on that offer and would call me up or text me from a bar/nightclub to say that they were out partying with their girlfriends.
I would always reply with something short like, “Have fun!” and then think nothing of it. Why? I had other women in my life and if I wanted to commit to her, I would have already done so. The truth is, the women that I didn’t commit to weren’t good enough for me, but that doesn’t mean I should have hurt them by saying it directly.
Some people may say that I should have just said to each woman, “No, you’re not good enough…I will never commit to you because you have the following flaws…”, but that’s not how dating works and most women don’t actually want to be told those things anyway.
Additionally, women who are in demand (i.e. women who date multiple guys at once) do the same thing to men. They dump men, lead men on and they often say all sorts of hurtful things to men who really love them.
Before I worked out the attraction secrets that I now teach here at The Modern Man (and that I’ve been using more about 12 years now), I used to get rejected and overlooked by women all the time.
I couldn’t even get one girlfriend, let alone date multiple women. Women would reject me, overlook me and basically look at me like I was nothing. When I did manage to get a girl on a date, she would dump me and leave me feeling worse off than I was before meeting her.
I turned my life around by learning how to attract women. I worked out how to make women feel so much attraction, love and respect for me that they were willing to put up with me having sex with other women, just so they could get a chance to be with me.
Yes, I broke some hearts along the way, but women who are in demand also break the hearts of many guys in their life.
Ready to Get Started?
Would you like to enjoy your choice of beautiful women until you are ready to settle down into a relationship with your perfect woman?
Can you imagine what life would be like if most of the women you met from now on really liked you and wanted to get you to commit to them? Can you imagine having multiple women come over to your place every week for sex?