Sometimes a wife will be interested in reconciling with her ex husband, but at the same time, she might not want to come across as too easy in case he rejects her.
So, it’s unlikely that a wife will come out and directly say, “I’m interested in getting our marriage back together. Let’s do this!”
Instead, she will usually give some signs that she hopes her husband will pick up and then act on.
Here are 3 signs that your wife might want to reconcile with you…
1. She is Happy to Communicate With You
When a woman separates from her husband, she will often be feeling a lot of negative emotions (e.g. anger, resentment, disappointment) and will want to avoid interacting with him as much as possible to get him out of her mind and start to move on.
The husband may try to contact her via text, e-mail, social media, or by calling her on the phone, but she will ignore him, block his number on her phone and even “unfriend” him on social media.
However, when a wife wants to reconcile with her husband, I’ve found that she will be more open to communicating with him.
For example: She will respond to his texts or e-mails, click “like” on his social media pages and answer his calls.
If he suggests a meet up, she will respond by saying something like, “Sure. When would you like to catch up?”
Alternatively, if she doesn’t want to come across as being too eager, she might say, “I’m not sure. Let me think about it and get back to you,” or “I don’t have time this week. How about next week?” or “Okay. Maybe I can spare 10 minutes during my lunch break.”
Each woman will be different, so don’t worry if your wife hasn’t been that nice and accommodating when you have contacted her.
Regardless of whether your wife sounds excited by the idea of seeing you again, or if she’s simply playing it cool and a little hard to get, it’s up to you to take the lead and make things happen between you and her.
Be the more emotionally courageous one of the two of you by remaining emotionally strong as you guide her back into a relationship, even if she is acting disinterested at times.
After helping 100s of men get their wife back, I’ve found that an ex wife will rarely make the reconciliation feel super easy, even if she’s really interested in getting back together again.
So, instead of wasting time waiting for her to give you 100% clear signs that she wants to reconcile, simply pick up the phone and get her to a meet up with you.
Then, when you meet up with her in person, reactivate her feelings of respect and attraction for you.
Show her that you are a different man now from the one that she remembers and you are no longer making the same old mistakes.
For example: If a wife left her husband because he lacked purpose and direction in his life and was hiding behind her from his true potential, she’s not going to be enthusiastic about getting the marriage back together if he is still stuck at that level as a man.
To convince her that he’s moved beyond that level, he needs to show her that he has set some big, long term goals for himself and is actively working towards achieving them.
He doesn’t have to achieve everything, but he does need to be making some progress towards those goals (e.g. the first few steps towards making it happen).
Another example is if a wife left her husband because he was too jealous and controlling in the relationship.
To regain her respect and attraction for him, he needs to show her that he has become an emotionally strong, emotionally independent and emotionally masculine man now.
He’s no longer the emotionally sensitive, insecure guy that turned her off for so long.
He really has improved and she can see it how he thinks, talks, feels, behaves and acts now.
When she notices those changes, it makes it a lot easier for her to look up to him, respect him and feel proud to say to her friends and family, “He is my husband. I love him. Things are different now. We are going to give it another try.”
2. She Contacts You First to Say Hello
In most ex back cases where a woman doesn’t want anything to do with her man anymore, she will wait for him to make the first move and contact her if he wants her back.
However, sometimes she will take the initiative to contact him and get the ball rolling.
For example: A woman might text her husband and say something like, “Hi. I just wanted to see how you’re doing,” or “I was just thinking about you. I hope you’re doing okay.”
Essentially, she’s giving him an excuse to call her up and invite her to meet up with him.
He just needs to have the confidence to read between the lines like that and make it happen.
If he doesn’t get the hint and then sits around asking, “What does it mean when a wife calls you up to say hello? Is it a sign that she wants to reconcile, or is she just being friendly?” or “What if I call her up and she rejects me? What if she doesn’t really want to get back together again and I make a fool of myself? What if she is just leading me on? What if she has met another man and just wants me to call so she can tell me that?” precious time is going to be wasted and she will begin to wonder whether they are meant to be together or not.
As you would know, it’s unlikely that a woman will wait around forever in the hopes that her man will man up and be courageous enough to get the relationship back together, even if she is being wishy washy about it.
So, if you want to reconcile with your wife, don’t wait around for her to make all the moves.
It’s up to you to be emotionally courageous enough to contact her and begin the ex back process, regardless of whether she’s giving you clear signs that she’s interested, or if she’s playing hard to get.
Remember: A woman is naturally attracted to fundamental qualities in a man such as confidence, determination to success and an ability to overcome obstacles in life no matter how tough they are.
The more that you display these qualities to your wife, the more respect she will feel for you and the more attracted she will feel.
When that happens, she then reconnects with her feelings of love for you and getting back together again starts to seem like a sensible idea and the right thing to do.
3. She Brings Up Good Memories That You and Her Shared Together Over the Years
Another sign that your wife wants to reconcile is when she brings up the good times that you and her have shared over the years.
For example: She might say, “Remember our honeymoon? We had such a great time snorkeling and taking those long walks on the beach. We were so in love then, weren’t we?” or “I was driving to a meeting yesterday and I happened to pass that little Italian restaurant where you proposed to me. Do you remember how everyone started clapping for us and the owners gave us with free deserts? We ate so much that we were sick the next day.”
That’s a pretty damn obvious signal that she wants to reconcile and I’m sure that you would probably agree.
Here’s the thing…
If a woman doesn’t have any feelings for a man and is trying to move on, she will avoid talking about good times that they shared because she doesn’t want to give him the wrong idea.
Instead, she will push all the good memories to the back of her mind and keep reminding herself how much he hurt her or disappointed her over the years.
So, if your wife brings up some of the good times that you’ve shared, it’s more than likely that she’s open to reconciliation and is hoping that you man up and make it happen.
What Are You Waiting For?
Where some men go wrong is that they wait way too long to get a clear sign from their wife that she wants to reconcile.
A man will sometimes waste weeks, or even months waiting for a sign from his ex, and then possibly say to himself, “I need to make sure that she wants to get back together again. If I make a move and she’s not interested, not only will I make a fool of myself, I might also end up pushing her away even more. I have to wait for a clear sign from her. I don’t want to seem like I am pressuring her into anything. I treated her badly when we separated because I was clinging onto her for dear life and it really annoyed her. I want to show her that I’m not desperate anymore, so I’m just going to keep ignoring her and hope that she comes back to me.”
Ignoring a woman who doesn’t want to be with you isn’t the way to get her back.
Men who stop contacting their wife (or trying to get her back) and wait for crystal clear signals that she is ready to reconcile, often end up losing her to another man.
Don’t be afraid to make a move to get your own wife back.
Yes, you stuffed up and she left you, but you’re a better man now, right?
Then, get her back!
Based on the 100s of marriage ex cases that I’ve worked on, it is very rare that the woman will suddenly send a text or call and say, “I miss you. Can we get together sometime and try work things out?” if the husband has just been sitting around and waiting for her.
Most women wait for their husband to man up and get the relationship back together and if he doesn’t, she usually just moves on.
Right now, the most important thing you need to understand is that it doesn’t matter if your wife is giving you loud, obvious signs that she wants to reconcile, or she’s ignoring you and pretending she’s not interested.
What matters is whether or not you are actively making her have feelings for you again when you interact with her.
The question you need to ask yourself is: “What am I doing to get my wife back?”
- Have you been calling her on the phone and re-attracting her and flirting with her, or have you been hiding behind text/SMS messages because it feels easier to communicate with her in that way?
- Have you been using every interaction you have with her as an opportunity to gain back her trust and spark her feelings of respect and attraction for you, or are you saying and doing some of the things that turn women off (e.g. crying, begging, pleading, promising to change)?
- Have you been making her feel a renewed sense of sexual attraction and respect for you, or have you turned into a really nice, polite, caring ex husband who just wants to be her friend?
- Have you changed the things about you that were turning her off, or are you still pretty much the same guy that she walked out on?
As you can see, getting your wife back involves some action on your part.
So, don’t waste another minute waiting for a sign from her.
Instead, call her up right away and focus on making her feel renewed surges of respect and sexual attraction for you and then confidently guide her back into a new, happy marriage with you.
Take the Lead and Guide Her Back into a New, Happy Marriage With You
In most cases, a wife is bored of how she felt in the relationship and won’t give obvious signs that she wants to get back together.
So, what you need to do is be the more emotionally courageous one who makes it happen, even if she isn’t showing very clear signs that she wants to get back together.
To get her back, you need to reactivate her feelings and bring back the love that was there at the start, by reawakening her positive feelings for you (e.g. trust, respect, sexual desire).
Look at it this way…
Women are instinctively more attracted to certain qualities in a man than others.
For example: A woman is more likely going to choose a confident, charismatic, emotionally strong man over an insecure, self-doubting, emotionally weak man.
It’s just how her instincts work.
So, when she sees that you are now so much more confident, charismatic, emotionally strong and you can also get her laughing and feeling good around you again, it’s only natural that she will become open to giving you another chance.
However, if you try to get her back just by being a nice, friendly, caring ex husband, she’s just not going to feel motivated enough to want to be with you again.
She will be saying things like, “Look, I appreciate all that you’ve been doing for me. You’ve been really nice lately, but I don’t think we can make it work. I’m just not feeling interested anymore, I don’t know why.”
So if you want to get your wife back, start the process by getting her to respect you again while also re-sparking her sexual attraction and desire for you.
When you do that, her walls will come down and the love in her heart will come rushing back.