For a highly intelligent man, most things in life are pretty straightforward.
The man is able to look at the situation, understand what is going on and then apply a solution.
However, when it comes to women, dating and relationships, a lot of highly intelligent men end up feeling very confused and can’t work out what women really want and what they should be doing to get the results that they want with women.
So, in this video, I’m going to explain 4 dating struggles of highly intelligent men and explain where men go wrong and what they should be doing instead to enjoy easy success with women.
Let’s start with number 1. The first dating struggle of a highly intelligent man is that…
1. He’s so used to being right about everything in life that he can’t see how it could be possible for him to be wrong about women in any way
His intelligent mind gives him an advantage over others in life.
The advantage is that he’s usually right about pretty much everything.
As a result, he naturally sees himself as smarter than the average guy.
He knows that he is a little bit different than other guys and in most cases, he felt that way back in school and even to this day.
In fact, now that he’s grown up, he knows for sure that he really does see things differently than other people.
He knows so many things that other people just don’t understand, or can’t understand because they’re not as intelligent or as aware as he is.
Yet, when it comes to women he keeps failing and he doesn’t know why.
For example: He has tried being nice to women, but that didn’t work for him.
Women just saw him as a nice friendly guy and had no sexual interest in him.
He then tried being very nice, but that resulted in women seeing him as being desperate and too keen and making the woman feel as though she is probably better than him.
Even though she wasn’t better than him, he made her feel that way by being extra nice to her.
He then tried being neutral around women.
So, not being nice, too nice or anything unusual.
Instead, just being a normal, straightforward guy.
Yet, when he did that, there was no spark between him and women.
So, he then started to think, “Okay, maybe I’ll try being rude to women. I’ve heard that women like bad boys so maybe if I’m rude and show women that I don’t care about them, they’ll like me for that.”
Yet, women just ended up seeing him as an arrogant jerk and they weren’t interested in him.
He then thought, “Okay, I’m going to be aloof and uninterested. I’m not going to show any interest in women and I’m just going to do my own thing.”
Yet, when he got on with his life and did his own thing, months and years passed and women weren’t chasing him.
He then thought, “Okay, maybe women like guys who are very positive and happy.”
So, he tried to be in a positive and happy mood and that resulted in women enjoying being around him and having a good time talking to him, but there was still no sexual spark.
He then thought, “Okay, I’ll just try to be friendly and try to get along with a woman and hope that something develops,” but there was still no spark between him and the kinds of women that he actually wanted.
As a result, an intelligent guy might then come to the conclusion that women must be crazy.
Either that or it must be impossible to attract women these days because they’re way too choosy.
Alternatively, an intelligent man might think, “Well, since I haven’t yet been able to crack the code and understand what women want, it must mean that it’s an uncrackable code and there’s no hope for me. I’m just going to have to accept that I’m never going to have my choice with women and that women are always going to be a complete mystery to me.”
So, what’s the verdict on that?
Is the intelligent man right or wrong?
Well, in this case, he is partially right, in that some women are crazy.
We all know that.
However, the majority of women are not crazy, just like the majority of men are not crazy.
Most women are good women and most guys are good guys.
The reason why the intelligent man is failing with women isn’t because women are all crazy.
In terms of women being too choosy these days, the reality is that some women are choosy, but the majority of women have what I call an Open Type.
That means that they’re open to being with all different types of guys, as long as they meet a guy who can make them feel attracted, connect with them and get to a phone number, kiss, sex and into a relationship.
Finally, in terms of women being an uncrackable code the intelligent man, in this case, is wrong because the code has been cracked.
I cracked the code a long, long time ago and I’ve been teaching men ever since.
The fact is that most women, including beautiful and pretty women, are way easier to attract and pickup than they make themselves out to be.
It’s actually a very simple straightforward thing to do.
So, if you are one of the highly intelligent men who are struggling to get results with women, what I recommend that you do is use your intelligence to quickly learn the skills that are required to succeed with women.
What you’ll find when you use some of the techniques that I teach (and I’m going to give you some examples now) is that it’s actually very easy.
Additionally, for you, it should actually be easier than it is for the average guy because you are more intelligent than the average guy.
So, the example that I want to give you now is where a guy is talking to a woman and asking her straightforward questions such as, “What do you do for a living? Where are you from? Do you have any brothers and sisters? What did you study?” if she went to university and so on.
There’s nothing wrong with asking a woman those questions.
However, when a man asks those questions to a woman and has a logical conversation about it, it doesn’t make her feel sexually attracted and turned on.
It just makes her feel neutral.
So, what you need to understand, is that when you ask a woman straightforward questions like that, you have an opportunity to make her feel sexually and romantically attracted to you, based on either how you ask the question or how you respond and react to her answers.
If you ask a woman what she does for a living and she says, “A receptionist,” a neutral way to respond that isn’t going to make her feel attracted is to say something like, “Oh, how long you been doing that?” or “What company do you work for?” and then have a logical conversation about it.
On the other hand, if you respond by playfully making fun of her answers or playfully messing with her, then you’re going to make her feel attracted.
Why? You’re going to be displaying confidence, social intelligence, the ability to make her laugh and masculinity. You’re going to be making her feel feminine in comparison to how masculine you are being in the interaction.
So, if you ask her what she does for a living and she says that she works as a receptionist, you can look at her and then say something like, “You look like you’d be a mean receptionist” and have a laugh with her about that.
In most cases, a woman is naturally then going to ask you why?
You can then say, “Well, before I came over and talked to you, I noticed you from across the bar (or from across the party) and you had a bit of a scowl on your face. You have a really mean look about you.”
Of course, you’re only saying that to mess with her.
You’re only playfully messing with her.
What you’ll find is that pretty much every woman that you say that to has an insecurity about that and doesn’t actually want to come across as being unapproachable or unfriendly.
You can then put her mind at ease by saying something like, “Just kidding, you look like a friendly, nice receptionist. So, how long you been working as a receptionist?” and then she’ll tell you how long she’s been working.
You can then have a conversation with her about that and transition into talking about other things.
Now, if you don’t understand why that would have attracted a woman, then you’re going to need to watch the rest of this video as I give more examples and explain in more detail how a woman’s attraction works.
Before I explain more about how attraction works, I’ll give you another example…
Say, for example you are talking to a woman and she mentions that she goes to university, or said that she did go to university.
A natural question that you might want to ask is, “So, what did you study?”
Now, what you need to be aware of is that when she answers that question, you have an opportunity to say something that is going to make her feel attracted to you.
So, if you ask a woman, “What did you study?” and she says, “Medicine,” and you then say, “Oh, wow, that’s really difficult. How long did you do that for? Are you working as a doctor now?” then you’re going to be having a neutral, logical conversation with her nothing about it is going to be making her feel sexually attracted to you.
However, if you ask a woman “What did you study?” and she then says, “Medicine,” and then you say something like, “Medicine, ah, that’s easy. Anyone can pass that,” she is then going to be able to feel attracted to you because you are being confident and are making her laugh.
You’re turning an otherwise boring, logical, straightforward conversation that she’s probably had with many, many people before into something that’s enjoyable; into something that’s making her feel excited and happy and awake in the moment.
Unfortunately, a lot of highly intelligent men either aren’t aware of how easy it is to attract a woman during a conversation and that’s why they don’t do it, or the man is unwilling to do anything other than have a nice logical straightforward conversation with a woman.
One of the reasons why is that many highly intelligent men just want to stick to what is comfortable for them.
They are comfortable with logical, straightforward, serious, intellectual and possibly philosophical conversations.
They don’t want to get into conversations that aren’t straightforward, serious, sensible and rational.
Yet, the thing is, attracting a woman during a conversation really is an easy straightforward thing to do.
Once you understand how it works, start doing it and see that it works, you then continue doing it because it’s fun for you, it’s fun for the woman and it ends up with you kissing her, having sex with her and having a relationship with her.
The second dating struggle of a highly intelligent man is that…
2. He usually takes what women say literally when it comes to the subject of attraction
An intelligent man is used to things making sense in this world.
2 + 2 = 4.
Gravity ensures that if you throw a ball up into the air, it’s going to come down.
If you eat too much food all the time, you’re going to gain weight.
If you don’t eat enough food, you’re going to be skinny.
Many things in life makes sense and if a man accepts what he has been taught at school and then gets on with life, he’s usually not going to experience many problems as a result of that.
Yet, here’s where the problem is…
When an intelligent man accepts what women say about attraction, he runs into a lot of problems.
If he accepts what women say verbatim and doesn’t actually question what is going on, he will run into problems.
For example: Some intelligent men will think “If a woman says that she wants a nice guy, then she will like me if I am nice and will really like me if I’m really, really nice to her.”
He might also think something like, “If a woman says that she wants to get to know a guy before kissing him or having sex with him, then I need to take things very slow and show her that I’m only interested in getting to know her.”
Yet, what a lot of intelligent men don’t realize is that straightforward logic doesn’t work if you base it off what women SAY, because what women SAY and what they DO when it comes to men are usually two completely different things altogether.
One of the reasons why is that women can’t tell guys what they really find attractive in a guy, because if they do, many guys will offer an exaggerated version of that.
For example: When a woman says that she likes a nice guy, many guys end up being really, really nice to her and hoping to get a chance with her.
If a woman were to admit what she likes a guy who is a challenge, a guy who playfully messes with her and teases her in a playful way, puts her back in her place in a dominant, but loving way, doesn’t take her tantrums seriously and makes her feel like she needs to impress him to get a chance with him, then you can imagine the exaggerated versions of that that guys will begin to offer her.
Additionally, if a woman were to admit that she likes guys who treat her in that way, many people are going to look down on her such as co-workers, friends, family and so on.
So, what women do is that they just go for guys who understand how to attract them properly.
This often leaves very highly intelligent men, good-looking men, successful men, men with a great gym body and so on on the sidelines.
They see guys who aren’t as intelligent as them, aren’t as good-looking as them, aren’t as successful as them, aren’t as built as them with a beautiful woman and they wonder, “What the heck is going on?”
It’s very simple.
When you know how to attract a woman during a conversation, you are actually a very rare guy.
Most guys who an attractive woman meets are either going to be too nice to her or too neutral.
The guy is going to be sucking up to her, or he’s just going to be talking to her in a straightforward manner.
There’s nothing there for her to feel sexually attracted to and turned on by.
So, when she meets a guy who does know how to push her buttons and make her feel sexually attracted and turned on during a conversation, she is locked on.
He can then connect with her, get to a phone number, get to a kiss or get to sex that night or get her phone number, set up a date and get into a relationship with her.
So, if you are a highly intelligent man, one of the things that you need to do is to understand that there is a difference between what women say they want in a guy and what they actually feel attracted to.
Many women will go around SAYING that they just want a nice guy who is patient, takes time to get to know them, takes them out on lots of dates, is very intelligent and can show them that, has a good career and so on.
Yet, what actually happens in real life, is that if a woman meets a guy who makes her feel sexually attracted and turned on during an interaction, that guy can pick her up, even if he doesn’t have all the things that she was SAYING are essential for attracting or dating her.
Based on the attraction he is making her feel as he talks to her, that guy can get to a phone number, kiss, sex, date and into a relationship.
So, if you have been taking what women say too literally when it comes to men, one of the things you need to do is use your superior intelligence to understand that there is a difference between what women say they want in a guy and what they actually react to with feelings of attraction.
The third dating struggle of a highly intelligent man is that…
3. He often thinks that small talk is for stupid people
An intelligent man has so many brilliant ideas and perspectives about life and wants to be able to talk about those things rather than wasting time with small talk.
What he doesn’t realize though is that there is a time and place for everything.
For example: After a woman feels attracted to a man, she’ll then become interested in how intelligent he is.
After she has kissed him, her interest will rise even further and after having sex with him, she’ll be open to hearing about his ideas about life and plans for his future.
Yet, prior to then, she just wants to make sure that she feels attracted to him because a woman’s attraction for a man works differently to a man’s attraction for a woman.
To help you understand that, I’ll reference the movie A Beautiful Mind starring Russell Crowe.
Russell Crowe plays a mathematical genius who is highly intelligent in many areas of life.
He’s at a bar and sees a woman that he finds attractive.
He walks over to her, sits there and doesn’t say anything.
The woman is feeling uncomfortable.
It’s an awkward situation and she eventually says something like, “Well, maybe you should buy me a drink,” to hopefully help him along and get him started with talking to her and making something happen.
Yet, he doesn’t want to engage in any small talk.
He then says, “I don’t know what I am required to say in order for you to have intercourse with me, but could we assume that I said all that. Essentially we’re talking about fluid exchange right? So, could we just go straight to the sex?”
She then rejects him because he didn’t do anything to attract her.
In the awkward example of Russell Crowe sitting there, not saying anything and then her saying, “Well, maybe you should buy me a drink,” he could have actually used that, her comment there, to make her feel attracted.
For example: If he was sitting there, not saying anything and just looking at her and she eventually felt so uncomfortable that she had to say, “Well, maybe you should buy me a drink,” he could have then smiled and playfully said, “No, that’s what I was waiting for you to do actually. I was sitting here waiting for you to buy me a drink. I’ve come over to talk to you. Where are your manners? Buy me a drink girl.”
Of course, he’d only be joking and she will be able to tell that.
He can then be charming and say, “Just kidding, I’ll get the first round and you get the second. How about that?”
When a woman feels attracted to a man, she will pretty much always agree to do that, where the man buys the first round of drinks and she buys the second round.
Now, many guys don’t feel comfortable saying things like that because they fear that it might make the woman angry, or they fear that it might make them look rude or not as intelligent and straightforward as they usually are.
However, if you say something like that to a woman, what happens is that she feels attracted to your confidence, to your ability to make her laugh, to your social intelligence for being able to pull off a moment like that and to your masculinity for making her feel feminine in comparison to how masculine you are being.
What you need to understand is that you don’t need to say those type of things to a woman all the time.
You just need to add it into conversations and you’ll find that sparks fly between you and a woman.
What a woman is essentially waiting to experience is whether or not your personality and behavior sparks feelings of sexual and romantic attraction inside of her.
Additionally, what you’ll find is that it’s very easy and straightforward to do if you have the courage to playfully mess with a woman in a confident way, to playfully tease her and to not take everything so seriously all the time.
When you do, you will realize that there is a logical purpose to small talk and flirtatious banter between men and women.
The purpose is for a woman to be able to feel attracted to your personality traits and behaviors because a woman’s attraction for a man does work differently to a man’s attraction for a woman.
The reality is that most men experience what I call Insta Attraction.
They instantly feel attracted to a woman if she looks good, is healthy and of breeding age.
Additionally, if a woman is friendly, easygoing, down to Earth and intelligent, then most men are actually going to have a relationship interest in her, not just a sexual interest.
However, when it comes to a woman’s attraction for a man, things do work differently.
You have to interact with her and make her feel attracted.
You have to create a spark between you and her by displaying personality traits and behaviors that are naturally attractive to women such as confidence, charisma, charm, the ability to make her laugh and social intelligence.
These are personality traits and behaviors that you can display during small talk and flirtatious banter.
You don’t always have to engage in small talk and flirtatious banter, but you need to be able to have that skill so you can create a spark between you and a woman.
If you just talk to a woman in a logical straightforward manner, then it’s going to be neutral.
There’s going to be no spark there.
The thing is, you might actually be perfect for the next attractive woman you meet.
If you create a spark with her, you and her could have sex, get into a relationship and happily stay together for life.
However, if you don’t know how to make her feel a spark for you when you’re talking to her, then she’s not going to be interested, even though you could have been perfect for her.
What happens for most women is that they struggle to find a guy who can create a spark with them because most guys are just too nice or too neutral, or they’re too keen and desperate and they turn the woman off.
Most women are just looking for a good guy who can be normal around them and can create a spark and then get to a phone number, kiss, sex and into a relationship.
Finally, the fourth dating struggle of a highly intelligent man is that…
4. He usually doesn’t like to be seen as a beginner at anything
An intelligent man usually has a self-image of being smarter than pretty much everyone else around him and he’s usually right.
He usually is smarter than pretty much everyone else around him.
The self-image that he has feels good to him.
He likes being smarter than other people.
He likes being seen as the smart guy.
He likes how people look at him and think of him as being intelligent.
Yet, maintaining a self-image of being smarter than everyone else and having it all figured out can actually turn out to be a disadvantage to him, especially when it comes to women.
So, if you are a highly intelligent man who is pretty much right about everything in life, but you’re struggling with women, what you need to understand is that it’s okay to be a beginner at something.
You also need to understand that your above average intelligence will allow you to learn and then succeed quicker than a guy who isn’t as smart as you.
What you’ll find is that most things about attracting women make logical sense once you understand them.
For example: when you understand that you can create a spark with a woman, then you’ll also be able to piece two and two together and understand that a woman doesn’t have to already feel attracted to you for you to have a chance with her.
Instead, you can make her feel attracted.
You can create the attraction based on how are you talking to her.
So, using the examples I talked about earlier about the woman being a receptionist or having studied medicine, you can say other things as well.
If you ask her what she does for a living and she says that she works as a receptionist, you can playfully mess with her about that by saying something like, “No, you’re not a receptionist. You’re too nerdy looking to be a receptionist. Come on, what do you really do for a living?” and then have a laugh with her about that.
She is almost certainly then going to laugh and say that she does work as a receptionist.
You can then tell her that you’re just kidding, ask her how long she’s been doing that for and also ask her if she accidentally hangs up on rude customers sometimes.
Alternatively, if you asked her what she studied at university, or if she’s currently studying, what she is studying and she said that she’s studying medicine, you can then playfully say, “Ohhh, you’d be a mean doctor. I wouldn’t want to get you as a doctor,” and have a laugh with her about that.
So, as an intelligent man, you can understand that when you talk to a woman in a particular way, it displays certain personality traits and behaviors that naturally trigger her feelings of attraction.
She feels attracted to the fact that you’re being confident, that you can make her laugh, that you’re being masculine and making her feel feminine in comparison to you and that you have the social intelligence to pull off a moment like that, or to create a joke like that on the fly.
It makes a woman feel attracted.
Some guys don’t understand why a woman would find that attractive because they mistakenly assume that a woman’s attraction for a man works the same as a man’s attraction for a woman (i.e. it’s all based on looks initially and if you’re not good looking enough, you don’t stand a chance).
What you need to understand and accept as a man is that a woman’s attraction for a man works differently than a man’s attraction for a woman.
Women can feel attracted to a man’s looks and if a man is really good-looking, a woman can say, “I like him. I want to have sex with him. He’s sexy.”
However, in pretty much every situation where a man meets a woman, he has to CREATE a spark of attraction to make her feel sexually and romantically interested in him.
Creating a spark of attraction is something that you can do.
You can literally create a spark between you and a woman based on how you’re talking to her and behaving during the interaction.
Additionally, what you’ll find when you start doing it, is that most guys don’t understand how it works.
Most guys are trying to get lucky with a woman, or trying to grow on a woman or hoping that they get a chance with a woman by being nice or being neutral, seeming very intelligent, bragging about their career, bragging about their achievements or what they want to achieve and so on.
Yet, the guys that experience easy, simple, straightforward and consistent success with women are the ones who know how to create a spark during an interaction with a woman.
It’s actually a very easy thing to do.
Once you start doing it, you will realize that many of the women who weren’t interested in you in the past would have been interested in you, if you just created a spark with them and didn’t approach the conversation in such a neutral way.
The thing is, there’s nothing wrong with having a neutral conversation with a woman or talking about things that are intellectual, logical or straightforward.
There’s nothing wrong with that and you can do it.
You can have a normal conversation with a woman.
However, if you want to create a spark and make her want you in a sexual and romantic way, you have to add some other things in.
It can’t just be about being neutral, straightforward, logical and intellectual all the time.
When you add in displays of personality traits and behaviors that naturally make a woman feel attracted, it creates a spark between you and her.
She feels attracted to you and you can then connect with her and get to a phone number, kiss, sex and into a relationship.
Okay, I hope you enjoyed this video and learned something from it.
When you read The Flow or listen to the audiobook version, you will learn exactly what to say and do to make a woman feel sexually attracted to you and romantically interested in you.
One of the things that I do in the book, is detail the 8 personality traits and behaviors that are the most naturally attractive to women and what to say and do to display those personality traits and behaviors during interactions.
I also explain exactly what to say and do to get to a phone number, kiss, sex, date and into a relationship.
Get the Girl and Be Highly Intelligent at the Same Time
One final point that I want to make for you in this video, is that you can be a highly intelligent man and also experience extraordinary success with women.
You don’t have to change who you are and stop being so intelligent, intellectual, philosophical, analytical and so on.
You can still be the intelligent man that you are.
However, the secret is to understand that when you’re talking to a woman that you want to get into a sexual relationship with, you need to create a spark because her attraction works differently to yours.
At times during the interaction, you need to talk to her in a way that will create an emotional reaction inside of her rather than a logical reaction.
Rather than always talking in a logical, sensible, straightforward manner, you need to add in things that are going to make her feel attracted to you such as being confident, making her laugh, making her feel girly and feminine in comparison to your masculinity and making her feel charmed and attracted to your charisma and social intelligence.
These are things that you can easily add into a conversation with a woman and when you do it, you will realize that many of the guys who are watching your interaction or are around in the group and so on won’t understand what is going on between you and her.
They will see that there is a spark between you and the woman that you like, but they won’t understand what is happening.
For most guys looking on, they will look at you and her interacting and see sparks flying and assume that’s because you and her have a natural chemistry.
They will assume that she is right for you and you are right for her and they don’t have a chance.
What you’ll find is that other guys don’t understand that you are creating the spark between you and her.
You are making it happen.
As a result, you can attract her, pick her up and get into a relationship with her or attract her, have sex with her for a while and continue to enjoy your choice of women.