Here are 4 examples of how a guy got his girlfriend back after a break up…
1. He changed, let her experience the new and improved version of him in person and she then gave him another chance.
For example: She broke up with him because he was insecure and was too needy of her attention. He quickly transformed to become emotionally independent and confident and she felt a renewed sense of respect and attraction for him and then gave him another chance.
2. He accepted the break up and then made her jealous by quickly dating a new woman. She then wanted him back.
For example: She saw photos of him and the new woman on social media and it made her miss him and realize that she was losing a guy that was attractive and appealing to other women.
She sent him a text and he then got her on a phone call, had a chat, met up in person and got back with her.
Note: Hooking up with new women to make your ex jealous doesn’t always work and is risky.
For example: If a woman has lost respect and attraction for her ex, then him dating another woman won’t really bother her that much at all.
She usually won’t care that he’s moved on and will likely even think to herself, “Awesome! I’m glad that he’s found someone else. Now I can move on with my life without worrying about him trying to get me back.”
Another reason why trying to make a woman jealous is risky, is because if she finds out that the guy is only using it as a ploy to get her back, she will lose even more respect and attraction for him.
Then getting her back becomes even more difficult because she wants to get revenge to make him feel the way she did.
The best approach is to get an ex back in almost all situations, is by meeting up with her and making her feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for you again.
When you do that, her guard comes down, she stops focusing so much on the negatives of your previous relationship together and she starts to look at you in a more positive light.
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3. He gave her a week of space, contacted her to meet up, re-attracted her at the meet up and then agreed to take things slow.
In most cases, you don’t have to give your ex any more than 3-7 days of space before you contact her to arrange a meet up.
When you meet up with her in person, you need to quickly apologize for you mistakes and then begin reactivating her feelings for you.
Some women are a lot easier to get back with right away than others, so if your ex is a more difficult woman to get back, make sure that you don’t try to get her to commit to a relationship right away.
Instead, just tell her that you don’t expect her to want a relationship with you and if she only wants to be friends, you are fine with that.
Of course, you’re not just going to be her friend.
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Don’t just be a friend to her. Be attractive to her. Reactivate her feelings whenever you and her communicate or interact.
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4. He met up with her, got her to forgive him, reactivated her feelings, hooked up with her sexually and then agreed to see each other again in a couple of days.
Not all ex back situations require you to hook up with the woman at the meet up.
Having sex usually applies to more younger relationships or relationships that didn’t last very long.
However, if the couple is a bit more mature or had been engaged or married, a hook up doesn’t have to happen at the first meet up.
Whatever applies to your case, you should at least try to get a goodbye hug and kiss when you end the meet up.
Having a hug and kiss breaks the physical barrier between you and her again and brings you back to how you used to behave around each other.
It feels good for both you and her, so don’t hesitate to make that happen for the both of you.
Lead the way and guide her back into a relationship with you.
7 Mistakes That Reduce a Guy’s Chances of Getting His Ex Back Quickly
Some guys don’t realize that the quickest and easiest way to get a girlfriend back is by actively making her have feelings for him again in person or at least on a phone call.
Not knowing what else to do, some guys make the following mistakes, which slows down the ex back process and may even cause the woman to completely lose interest…
1. Trying to teach her a lesson by not contacting her.
Some guys feel like they need to teach their ex a lesson by not contacting her for a few weeks, or even a few months.
A guy like this is secretly hoping that she really miss him and when she finally gets to hear from him, she will be excited and eager to get back together again.
Yet, here’s the thing…
If a woman doesn’t have feelings for her ex, she’s not going to feel like it’s a big loss to her that he’s ignoring her, and she will usually just shrug it off and get on with dating other guys and having fun.
Ignoring an ex usually only works on women who are still in love with the guy or who can’t find a decent replacement to move on with.
Yet, a lot of guys don’t know that and because they also want to teach their woman a lesson for dumping them, they cut off all communication and hope that it makes her come crawling back
Then, after ignoring her for 30 or even 60 days, he calls her up, tries to get her to meet up with him and she says, “Sorry, I have a new boyfriend now. I ask you to respect that and not interfere. You and I had our chance and now we’re finished.”
She might even add in, “Besides, you didn’t even contact me. So, why are you so interested now? Can’t find a new girlfriend? Well, that’s your bad luck. I’m happy now, so leave me alone.”
Based on all my experience helping guys to actually get a woman back after a serious break up, I’ve found that ignoring a woman only works if she is still in love with you, is having a hard time getting past the pain of the break up, or she’s struggling to find a replacement guy.
If your ex is going to be fine without you, don’t waste time ignoring her in the hopes that it teaches her a lesson and makes her come crawling back.
If you want to give her some space, 3 to 7 days is more than enough.
If you give her any more time than that, you’re just increasing the chances that she will completely get over you and move on.
So, just wait 3 to 7 days and then contact her so you can reactivate her feelings (e.g. respect, attraction and love) over the phone and in person.
When you reactivate her feelings, she then starts to wonder, “What’s going on here? Why am I suddenly thinking about my ex all the time? Why does the idea of getting back together again sound good to me all of a sudden? Maybe I should meet up with him. I miss him, so maybe this is a sign that we’re meant to be together.”
In most cases, actively making her having feelings for you again works faster than ignoring her and hoping that she misses you.
2. Making her feel guilty for dumping him.
Sometimes, a guy might feel so hurt, betrayed and rejected after being dumped that tries to make his ex feel guilty for making him feel that way.
He might say something like, “How could you do this to me? Are you happy with what you’ve done to me? I gave you everything I had and you just chewed me up and spat me out like I was nothing to you. How can you be so cold towards me after everything we had together? What we had was special and you’re just throwing it away…and that kills me. I haven’t been able to eat or sleep properly since we broke up and I’m stuffing up at work now as well because I can’t concentrate.”
Although he is being honest about his feelings, trying to make her feel guilty for breaking up with him will rarely work to get her back for real.
It might make her feel some pity for him and communicate with him a little more, but his display of emotional weakness under pressure will make her lose even more respect and attraction for him.
If she does give him another chance because she is feeling guilty or selfish for dumping him, that feeling won’t make her stay for long.
When she realizes that nothing about him has changed and he’s only putting her on a guilt trip to keep her trapped in an unhappy relationship, she will simply dump him again.
Happy and long-lasting relationships are built on positive emotions such as respect, love, and attraction, which cause the couple to sincerely want to be together.
On the other hand, unhappy, short relationships are built on negative emotions such as guilt, pity and revenge.
So, if you really want to get your girlfriend back and build a happy, loving relationship with her, focus on making her feel happy and excited to be interacting with you again, rather than trying to make her feel guilty for making you feel so bad after the break up.
When you approach the ex back process in that way, getting your girlfriend back will not only be a lot easier, but you will also be giving both her and you an unforgettable gift, by creating a new, happier relationship that has been built on a solid foundation of respect, attraction and love.
3. Acting like he no longer cares about her.
Sometimes, the thought of being without his girlfriend can be so painful for a guy that he might try to hide his feelings by pretending not to care about her anymore.
For example: If he interacts with his ex and she says something like, “Sorry, I don’t want to get back together again. I just don’t feel the same way any more,” he might then react by pretending not to care about her or the relationship.
He might say, “Well, that’s fine by me…I don’t love you any more either,” or “What makes you think I want to get back with you? I’m so over you now. My life is better without you in it” or “I’ve already moved on with my life, so why would you think I want you back? Don’t flatter yourself, I don’t care about you anymore” or “What gives you the impression that I want you back? I’m doing fine without you. I have plenty of options with other women now, so don’t worry about it.”
In his mind, he is hoping that by rejecting her it will trigger her fears of losing him, and she will then realize that she still loves him and come running back to him.
However, this tactic rarely (if ever) works.
If the woman is still in love with the guy, she will fear losing him and will want to get back together with him if she notices that he doesn’t care about losing her.
However, if a woman doesn’t have feelings for her ex, she won’t care that he doesn’t care about her or the relationship any more.
Her ego might feel a bit bruised at the idea that he has moved on from her, but if another guy comes along and triggers her feelings of attraction, she will soon forget all about her ex.
If her ex contacts her, she will then want to get revenge on him for making her feel unwanted and will say something like, “Why are you calling me? I have a boyfriend now. You need to respect that. Stop contacting me.”
Creating that resentment, anger and motive for revenge isn’t necessary when getting an ex back.
If you want to get your girlfriend (fiancé or wife back) you simply have to reactivate her feelings for you by behaving in ways that are attractive to her (e.g. being confident, charismatic, making her laugh) rather than trying to trick her into wanting you back temporarily by pretending that you don’t care about her or the relationship any more.
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4. Crying, begging or pleading for another chance.
Some guys can’t handle the thought of being without their girlfriend, so they react by crying, begging and pleading with her to change her mind.
For example: A guy might plead with his ex by saying things like, “You can’t let what we had together just die like this. I love you! Don’t you get that? You mean everything to me. I’m nothing without you in my life! Please baby, I beg you! Don’t do this to us. I’m so sorry for hurting you. Please give me another chance. I need you!”
Yet, here’s the thing…
When a woman has already lost respect for a guy, seeing him cry, plead, beg and be emotionally weak in front of her only makes her look down on him even more.
Women are instinctively attracted to the emotional strength in men (e.g. confidence, self-belief, high self-esteem, the ability to cope with difficulties in his life), and turned off by the emotional weakness (e.g. lack of confidence, self-doubt, putting himself down, neediness, insecurity, an inability to handle difficult situations).
So, when a guy is crying, begging and pleading around a woman, rather than change her mind about getting back together with him, she will usually pull away even more from what she perceives to be an emotionally weak guy who still hasn’t worked out what it means to be a man.
By the way…
If you’ve already tried begging and pleading with you ex, don’t worry about it.
As long as you learn from the experience and focus on letting her see the emotional strength in you from this point onwards, she will be able to forgive your slip up.
Just focus on being an emotionally strong guy from now on whenever you interact with her.
Let her see that you are no longer the begging, pleading, crying guy that lost control of his emotions in a moment or immaturity.
5. Helping her financially.
Real love can’t be bought.
Of course, some women will go out with a guy (or even marry him) for his money, but the majority of women are more attracted to a man’s inner qualities than anything else he can offer.
For this reason, trying to get an ex girlfriend back by buying her gifts, or helping her financially (e.g. paying her rent, giving her money for groceries) is usually a bad idea.
Although she might smile and accept these tokens of love from her ex, a woman won’t necessarily change her mind about being broken up just because he’s being generous with her.
Initially, she might even think to herself, “Well, why shouldn’t he help me financially? After all, we used to split the bills 50/50 when we were together,” or “He knows he messed up badly, so why not let him pay for a few things for a while to make up for his bad behavior?”
Yet, making her think and feel that way only causes her to lose more respect and attraction for him, which makes her not want to get back with him.
So, rather than trying to help your ex financially in the hopes that it makes her see how much you care, simply focus on making her experience the types of feelings that will regain her respect and attraction for you as a man.
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6. Asking her to help him change.
Asking an ex woman to help you change usually doesn’t work to get her back, because a woman doesn’t want to be a guy’s teacher in life about how to be a man.
When a guy says things like, “Please help me understand where I went wrong so that I can change exactly what you want. I can’t give you what you want if I don’t know what I’m doing wrong. Just tell me what you want me to change and I will do it. I promise. I will do anything you want, so just tell me what it is that you need me to change,” he is effectively telling the woman that he has absolutely no idea how to be the man she needs and he will need her to teach him to grow up and become that man.
That’s not what a woman wants.
If a woman has to teach her ex guy how to be the man that she needs, she fears that she will end up taking on the role of the man in the relationship (i.e. the dominant role) and he will then take on the role of the woman (i.e. the submissive role).
When the roles in a relationship get switched like that, the woman automatically stops feeling feminine and girly around her man, and she subsequently loses respect and her feelings of sexual attraction for him.
A woman doesn’t want to dominate her man, and she doesn’t want to feel like she has to take care of him because he can’t figure things out by himself.
She wants him to figure out how to be the man that she needs, without her having to help him or guide him.
7. Over-contacting her to the point where he seems desperate.
After a break up, contact with an ex girlfriend can be very limited because she may be feeling angry towards the guy and will be avoiding his phone calls, or avoiding seeing him in person.
This is the main reason why a lot of guys panic about the possibility of losing her forever during this phase of the ex back process.
For example: A guy might begin thinking, “I know what they say about ‘Out of sight, out of mind.’ What if she forgets all about me while I give her space? What if she meets another guy, has sex with him, falls in love with him and then I lose my chance to get her back?”
Feeling panicked, he might then begin to repeatedly text her, send her messages on social media or e-mail her as a way to staying on her mind and hopefully stopping her from moving on.
Yet, here’s the thing…
Via text, a woman cannot see a man’s body language or hear the tone of his voice, so she has to guess at what his state of mind of mind and behavior might be if he were talking to her in person at that moment.
If she is already feeling negatively towards her ex (e.g. because he was insecure, needy or desperate during the break up), how do you think she will react when he continually bombards her with texts, e-mails or messages?
Will she be thinking, “Aww, wow…how sweet! My ex obviously still cares about me. Maybe I’m being too hard on him. I think I’ll give him a call now, say hi and suggest that we meet up…because he obviously still cares about me. What a sweetie!” or might she be thinking, “Why is he being so needy and desperate like this? He contacts me multiple times a day…what is his problem? Doesn’t he realize that we aren’t together any more? I didn’t know that he was going to be like this. Maybe I need to block him.”
She then blocks him on her phone and social media and hopes that he gets the message.
He then panics and might even decide to turn up at her front door or workplace unannounced, in the hope that he can convince her to unblock him and give him another chance.
Yet, his neediness just turns her off even more because he clearly has feelings for her and he hasn’t been doing ANYTHING to reactivate her feelings for him.
He’s just bombarding her with messages because he doesn’t know what else to do.
Of course, there’s nothing wrong with texting, e-mailing or contacting your ex girlfriend via social media or text, as long as it’s a quick message to get her on a phone call with you.
On the phone call, you need to actively make her feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for you and then arrange an in person meet up.
At the meet up, you can continue building on her feelings and then confidently guide her back into a relationship with you.
Getting Her Back Will Be Easier Than You Might Think
These days, most guys can get another chance with their woman within a few days to a few weeks, but they need to make sure that they approach the ex back process correctly.
Regardless of what you decide to do to get your ex back from this moment onwards, the most important thing to remember is that you need to ACTIVELY make her have feelings for you.
Don’t expect her to come crawling back to you on her own because that approach only works if she still has a lot of feelings for you, can’t find a replacement guy or can’t deal with the pain of the break up.
The best way to get an ex back is to be active.
Actively make her have feelings for you when you interact with her and then confidently guide her back into a relationship with you.
Without reactivating her feelings first, a woman will usually just say, “Look, I just don’t have feelings for you anymore,” or “Please just accept that it’s over between us,” or “I don’t feel the same way as you do” because you’re not saying and doing the type of things that are making her old feelings of respect, attraction and love come back.
Remember: When you reactivate her feelings for you, her defenses come down and being back in you arms begins to sound like a really good idea to her.