Is there a best day of the week to get your ex back?
We have heard most success stories from guys based on meeting up with their ex woman on a Sunday.
Other days are fine, but Sundays are usually the day when a woman has the most free time and can meet up with her ex in person, or at least chat on the phone.
Of course, that depends on your woman and her specific schedule.
For instance, if your woman works throughout the weekend, but has a free day every Monday, then she will likely be more open to meeting up with you on that day, rather than when she is the busiest.
The second most popular day that I’ve heard of guys getting their woman back is on a Thursday.
Friday’s tend to be a bad day because the woman doesn’t want to seem too available on a day that most single friends catch up to go out and party, or to have a coffee or bite to eat together.
Reactivating Her Feelings is More Important Than Anything Else
The day of the week that you attempt to get your ex back isn’t the most important piece of the puzzle.
What matters most is that you use every interaction that you have with her as an opportunity to reactivate her feelings of respect, attraction and love for you.
Once you have reactivated some of her feelings for you, her guard will come down and she will be more open to meeting up with you, regardless of the day of the week.
For example: A guy can actively reactivate some of his ex’s feelings via e-mail, text message, social media or on the phone, by making her smile, laugh and feel happy to be interacting with him again.
Then, when he suggests a meet up, she will likely be a lot more open to seeing him again, because he has been making her feel good every time he has been in contact with her, rather than being one of those annoying ex’s who always wants to discuss the relationship or who is continually seeking pity from her based on how bad he’s been feeling since she dumped him.
It’s very important that you focus on making her feel good when she interacts with you, so the idea of meeting up with you doesn’t feel like it would be stressful or annoying.
If you approach the ex back process in that way, your ex will be less guarded and will be more open to hearing what you have to say and willing to meet up with you.
For example: If a guy invites his ex girlfriend (fiancé or wife) to meet up with him for a quick coffee and it turns out that she’s not available on the day he suggests, she will usually say something like, “That sounds nice, I would like that, but I can’t make it on that day. I’m free on (whatever day she is free) if you want to meet up then.”
Most guys don’t approach the ex back process in that way though and instead bombard their ex with texts, beg and plead for another chance or constantly ask her to explain her reasons why she broke up with him.
Then, when he asks for a meet up, she will usually make up an excuse like, “I don’t think it’s a good idea. Maybe we should just stay away from each other for now because I don’t feel ready to see you again.”
In other words, she is saying, “You have feelings for me, but I don’t have any feelings for you, so I want to move on” because he hasn’t first actively made her have any feelings for him yet.
He’s just begging, pleading and trying to convince her to change her mind, which doesn’t work on most women.
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If you truly want to get your ex back, you must focus on reactivating some of her positive feelings for you (e.g. respect, attraction and love) first, before you try to get her to reconsider her decision about the relationship.
Are You Letting Any of the Following Mistakes Stop You From Getting Her Back?
Although getting an ex back can actually be a quick and easy for most guys, it gets a lot more difficult if a guy makes any of the following mistakes…
1. Only texting her and not getting on a phone call to arrange an in person meet up.
Many guys who come to me for help to get a woman back will say things like, “I’ve tried everything to get my ex back, but she’s being stubborn and won’t give me another chance.”
When I ask some initial questions, I almost always find that he has only been texting his ex because he’s too afraid of coming across as being pushy by calling her on the phone and asking her for a meet up.
He has been hoping that by staying on her mind via text, she won’t move on and will eventually contact him and let him know that she wants to meet up.
Yet, in most ex back cases, a woman doesn’t text her ex and say, “I miss you. Call me. I want to meet up” because she doesn’t want to make it easy for him.
As a man, you need to take responsibility for guiding both you and her back into a relationship.
Don’t hide behind texts and hope that she makes all the moves.
Just because a woman replies to a text message, and may even sound sweet and friendly, it doesn’t mean that she’s not sitting at her desk/on her couch/in her car, rolling her eyes and thinking, “How annoying…he keeps texting me. What does he want? Why does he keep sending me these pointless text messages? I wish he would just get to the point and realize that I’m not interested.”
Here’s the thing…
When a guy is not doing anything to reactivate her feelings for him, she’s just going to be thinking about him based on how she felt when they broke up.
For example: If a guy was insecure, clingy or needy in his relationship with her, these are the exact things about him that she’s going to remember and think about when he texts her.
So, if you truly want to get your ex back, don’t waste a lot of time texting back and forth.
Simply pick up the phone and focus on reactivating her feelings of respect and attraction for you.
If she’s not currently answering your calls (this is common for most ex back situations), just try to call and if she doesn’t answer, text her this:
“Hey…I accept that we’ve broken up, but I just wanted to ask you something quick over the phone. Don’t worry, it’s not serious. I’ll call you in 5 minutes.”
Then, try to call her 5 minutes later.
If she doesn’t answer, leave it for a day or two and then try to call her again.
If she doesn’t answer, text her this:
If your ex is currently not answering your calls, here is an example of what you can text her to get her to talk to you on the phone.
You can say, “Hey Michelle – I tried calling you yesterday to ask you something quick, but I assume that you must have been busy. No problem. I might try to get hold of you some other time so I can ask you this question.”
She might text you back asking, “What do you want to ask me?”
Then, just pick up the phone and call her. Don’t text her, just call.
In most cases, a woman will be curious about what you wanted to ask her.
Of course, what you want to ask her is to meet up with you in person, but don’t get straight into that.
Start off by using some humor to get her smiling and laughing and enjoying talking to you, so her guard comes down.
For example: “Oh, you finally answered. Nice! Getting through to you is harder than getting through to the president” and have a laugh with her about that.
From there, get her to meet up with you in person and reactivate her feelings of respect and attraction for you at the meet up, by showing her that you are now at a different level from where you were at when she broke up with you.
Whatever you do though, don’t try to achieve all that via text!
Text does not work to get an ex back unless she has strong feelings for you and still respects you.
If your ex has been turned off by you and doesn’t have enough or any feelings for you, then getting texts from you is going to feel very annoying to her and will turn her off even more.
Talking to her on the phone or in person is infinitely more effective than hiding behind texts or trying to show her that you’ve changed via text.
When she can hear the confidence and sincerity in your voice, her guard will come down and she will then become open to meeting up with you in person again.
The next mistake that guys make is…
2. Thinking that if she doesn’t want to meet up on a day that he suggests, it means that she doesn’t want to meet up at all.
Imagine that a guy is texting his ex for the first time.
He might be feeling a bit anxious and may be wondering, “What if she just ignores me?” or “What if she tells me to get lost and leave her alone?”
Then, something amazing happens…
She texts him back.
So, he sends her another text and she responds again.
By this stage he is likely feeling a lot more confident about interacting with her, so calls her up and asks, “So, how about getting together for a cup of coffee sometime? How does Sunday afternoon sound to you?”
She might then say, “I’m sorry, but I’m really busy on Sunday. I just don’t have time to catch up.”
Yet, rather than him saying something like, “Okay, no problem. I’m going to be busy on Monday and Tuesday, but I have Wednesday and Thursday free at the moment. Which of those days would suit you better?” he takes it as a sign that she doesn’t want to meet up at all and quickly gives up.
He then goes back to texting her and hoping that she gives him a clear sign that she wants to meet up.
Yet, here’s what he fails to realize: There are many reasons why a woman may say that she’s not available on a specific day.
- She could be testing him to see how much he wants to see her. Will he give up at the first sign of resistance?
- She could be testing him to see if he will get angry at her. Will he get angry and accuse her of betraying him, treating him badly or sleeping with other guys and then begin to call her names over the phone? Does she have anything to fear by meet up with him?
- She could genuinely be busy and doesn’t have the time for a meet up.
- She could be playing hard to get so she doesn’t come across as being too desperate to see him again.
- He might not have sparked her feelings enough during their first conversation, so she’s not interested in meeting up with him yet.
- She is going out with her single friends on that day and doesn’t want to cancel the outing.
- She’s not confident about how she looks lately and doesn’t want to arrive at a meet up not looking her best.
Regardless of her reasons for not wanting to meet up with her ex on a particular day, a guy must remember to be flexible on when to meet.
It’s not needy or desperate to make himself available at a time that she is, if he can make himself available at that time.
Being needy means that you would say, “Please meet up with me! I can’t deal with life now that you’re not a part of it for me. I need you. Please say yes and meet up with me. I need to see you.”
As long as you’re being confident and self-assured when you talk to your ex, being a little bit flexible doesn’t have to mean that you’re desperate or needy.
For example: When you call up your ex to ask her to meet up with you for a cup of coffee, and she says something like, “I don’t know, I’m really busy at the moment,” you can say, “No problem, we both have busy days every week and that’s fine. I’m going to be busy on Friday and Saturday, but I have Monday and Tuesday open at the moment. Which of those days would suit you better?”
She might then suggest another day, and if you’re not doing anything important on that day, it’s not desperate to say, “Sure that day suits me as well. I can meet up with you at 7pm. How does that sound?”
Where many guys go wrong is by saying something like, “No problem. I have a job interview on that day, but I’ll skip it so I can see you.”
A guy like that might be thinking, “I’d better take whatever chance I have with her now, or she might change her mind about meeting up with me and then I won’t be able to get her back because I wasn’t available to see her when she asked. Also, when she sees that I’m even willing to cancel my important plans for her, she’ll realize how much I really love her and then hopefully she’ll be more willing to get back together again.”
Women do want to feel appreciated, wanted and loved, but they don’t want a guy to destroy his life just to see her once.
So, if a guy is letting his ex woman push him around and make him cancel plans to see her, she’s usually not going to be thinking, “How sweet! He must really love me if he’s so willing to cancel his important plans for me. Maybe I should give him another chance because he obviously cares for me.”
Instead, she will begin remembering all the other times that he behaved in a desperate way in the hopes of impressing her.
Then, rather than reactivate her feelings of respect and attraction for him, his desperation for her turns her off even more.
Here’s the thing…
A woman needs to know that the guy she is with is someone she can look up to and respect now and in the long run.
Even though some manipulative women enjoy making insecure guys jump through hoops to see them, it doesn’t actually make the woman feel respect and attraction for him.
She just uses his desperation as a way of making herself feel more valuable, so she is then more confident when she interacts with confident guys.
If she strings the insecure guy along, she will only do that until the moment she attracts a more confident guy.
She might be saying to the insecure ex, “Yes, I want to meet up with you, but not now. Give me a bit more time” and he might be thinking that he has a chance, but she will usually be actively trying to find a more confident guy to replace him with.
This is why you need to be persistent to get your ex to meet up with you in person (regardless of the day of the week), so you can actively make her have feelings for you again.
When her feelings for you are reactivated, she then loses interest in chasing other guys and wants to see you instead.
3. Thinking he needs to act like he is busy, or play hard to get when she contacts him or wants to meet up.
Sometimes a woman will be ready to meet up with her ex because he has either reactivated her feelings, or she is missing him and wants to see him.
Yet, rather than just meet up with her, spark her feelings of respect and attraction for him some more and then guide her back into a relationship with him, he decides instead to play a bit hard to get.
A guy might do that for two reasons:
- He wants to punish her a little bit for breaking up with him in the first place, so he re-attracts her and then plays hard to get when she wants to see him.
- He wants to make himself appear valuable in her eyes so that she will feel very lucky to be getting him back.
However, that approach almost always backfires and he completely misses out on the opportunity to meet up with her and reactivate her feelings.
When a woman opens herself up to meeting her ex again because he’s created some feelings of respect and attraction inside her on a phone call, she’s basically giving him a chance to show her that he’s moved past the level that he was at when she broke up with him.
If he suddenly begins to play hard to get, she might think, “If he thinks that he can mess me around just because I agreed to see him one more time, he can think again. It’s now really over between us. He’s just blown any chance he might have had with me” or, “Oh, really? You want to play hard to get do you? Two can play at that game. I will show him that I don’t need him by going out with my single girlfriends tonight and posting pics all over social media.”
So, if you truly want to get your ex back and have a happy, loving relationship with her, don’t waste time playing games.
Instead, focus on reactivating her feelings of respect and attraction for you on a phone call or in person.
When you approach the ex back process in that way, things tend to flow more smoothly because she is feeling open to you and attracted to you now regardless of what day of the week it is.
If you want to play it safe, meet up with her on a Sunday or Thursday, when most women are more open to meeting up.
However, if you think that your ex would be cool to meet up on any day, go ahead and make that happen now.