Here are 4 things that you can do right away, within days or within a week to persuade your ex to get back with you:

1. Make her realize that the breakup was a mistake 

Most guys will automatically think that making a woman realize that the breakup was a mistake is by getting into a long conversation with her and saying things like, “Look, I know I stuffed up, but I really am sorry and I promise I will improve. Please don’t walk away from what we had. I know we can make it work if we both try. I truly believe that this breakup is a mistake and we will end up regretting it if we don’t at least give our relationship one more try. Please give us one more chance.”

Yet, that’s almost certainly not going to work.

You can’t make a woman want you back by explaining to her that it was a mistake. 

However, it can be done very easily and naturally by re-attracting her, but not trying to get a relationship.

Here’s the thing…

When a woman breaks up with a guy, it’s almost always because she has lost touch with her feelings of respect, attraction and love for him.

As a result, anything he has to say about how much he still loves her, how he wants her back or how the breakup was a mistake from his point of view doesn’t matter to her.

She doesn’t feel that way about him, so she doesn’t care.

All she cares about are her feelings and what she wants. 

In some cases, a woman might even feel resentful towards her ex for implying that she made a mistake by breaking up with him (i.e. because from her point of view he’s saying she’s wrong and that her feelings don’t count).

This is why, it’s very important that you focus on reactivating your ex’s sexual and romantic feelings for you during interactions with her, so she begins to feel that she made a mistake by her own free will.

You’re not forcing her into it or trying to talk her into believing it.

Instead, you’re making her feel it.

For example: Some of the ways you can do that are by…

  • Making her laugh, smile and feel good to be in your company again, or to be talking to you over the phone.
  • Being confident and self-assured when interacting with her regardless of how she’s behaving (e.g. she pretends not to be interested in you anymore and tries to make you feel nervous or insecure about your chances of persuading her to get back with you).
  • Being friendly towards her, but also flirting with her to create some sexual tension between you, rather than just being nice, sweet and neutral around her.
  • Letting her see that you are now even more masculine in the way you think, talk, behave and react when interacting with her, rather than giving her too much power over you and doing everything she tells you to do in the hope that this will convince her to give you another chance. 
  • Being more of a challenge to her than you were before (e.g. not always being available to her, standing up to her when she is out of line) so she feels like she has to work hard to impress you, rather than being too predictable and making her feel that you’ll put up with anything from her as long as she gives you another chance.

The more attracted she feels to you again, the more she will start to wonder if she truly wants to stick to her decision to be broken up and risk regretting it later on.

When you approach it that way, you don’t have to try to argue and debate your way back into her heart.

Instead, you allow her to fall in love with you again because it feels right to her to do that.

Another thing you can do to persuade an ex to get back with you is…

2. Get her to agree to just be friends, but don’t act like a friend around her

Staying friends with an ex is a great way of being able to call her or meet up with her regularly, without her putting up resistance.

Of course, being friends with an ex is not about being nice, sweet and neutral around her so that she puts you in the “Friend Zone” and begins to treat you like one of her girlfriends.

If you let that happen to you, you might be shocked to find out that she’s seeing other guys and working on getting over you so that she can move on.

Then, at some point, you might call to say “Hi” as friends, only for her to say something along the lines of, “Hey, guess what? I’ve met someone and I think he’s the one! I’m so in love! Aren’t you happy for me? I hope you’ll find a new woman soon too and then we can double date. It will be fun.”

Don’t let that happen to you.

If you want to get your ex back, then make sure that even though you stay friends with her, you don’t pretend that you’re not interested in her in a sexual and romantic way anymore.

In other words, interact with her as though she’s a woman that you’re seducing into a sexual relationship by flirting and building up sexual tension. 

When you build the sexual tension between you and her so much, she can’t stop herself from wanting to release that tension with hugging, kissing and sex.

Of course, once she has sex with you again, it becomes a lot more difficult for her to forget about you and move on.

So, make sure that every time you interact with her from now on, you’re flirting with her and making her feel sexually attracted to you again.

Some examples of how you can do that are… 

Imagine that you and your ex are at a coffee shop together and are catching up as friends.

Basically, you’re just meeting up to say “Hello” in person and catch up on each other’s news.

Of course, you’re being nice and friendly to her and you’re using humor to make her feel relaxed and happy with her decision to meet up with you.

Then, when she seems to be at ease and enjoying herself, you can say something along the lines of, “By the way… did I mention how sexy you look wearing that dress/shirt/skirt/pair of pants?”

She might respond with something like, “What?” or “No, you didn’t,” and you can then add, “Mmmm…”

Another example is if during the middle of a normal conversation.

You lean over to her and put your nose close to her neck and say something along the lines of, “Mmmm… you smell so sexy.”

Another example is saying something like, “Is that a new lipstick you’re wearing? It looks very kissable.”

Then, just relax and switch back into an ordinary conversation as if nothing happened.

Continue doing this (i.e. flirting with her in between stages of normal conversation) several times throughout the meetup, to build up the sexual tension between you and her.

She will be feeling attracted to you, even if she tries to deny it or hide it from you.

As a result, she drops her guard and opens back up to the idea of being seduced into a relationship again.

Another thing you can do to persuade an ex to get back with you is…

3. Apologize for your mistakes and tell her that you accept that she doesn’t want to be with you ever again as a girlfriend or lover 

For example: You might say something along the lines of, “I just want to say that I know I made some mistakes and as a result, hurt you along the way. Of course, that was never my intention and for that, I am deeply sorry. Unfortunately, things didn’t go the way we had hoped, but for the record, I want you to know that I completely accept the breakup. Of course, I’m not saying I wouldn’t want to work things out with you, but I accept that you don’t feel the same way about me. However, I promise I’m not going to act like a desperate, crazy ex and stalk you to try and get you back. Instead, we can both move on and be happy, without any hard feelings, okay?”

By the way…

Before you ask something along the lines of, “If I say that to her, won’t I be pushing her away by telling her that I’m okay with us not getting back together again?” be rest assured that the answer is “No.”

Surprisingly, pushing an ex woman away after she experiences a renewed sense of respect and attraction for you, actually makes her want you more, compared to if you tried to pull her towards you. 


Firstly, in most cases, a woman expects to have to deal with her ex begging, pleading and doing all sorts of desperate things to persuade her to give him another chance. 

So, when you don’t do that and instead respond in an emotionally strong and mature way, she feels relieved.

She also feels surges of respect for you for not being needy and desperate.

When she starts to respect you again, she also starts to feel attracted.

With those two emotions back in place, getting her to drop her guard and open back up to the idea of giving you another chance becomes possible.

Secondly, by saying that to her, you’re letting her know that even though you do care for her, miss her and want her back, you don’t need her back to feel good about yourself and to have a good life.

This automatically makes her feel respect and attraction for you again, for being an emotionally strong and emotionally independent man.

The thing is, a woman doesn’t want to feel like being with a guy is a favor to him, because he can’t cope without her.

Instead, she wants to be with a man who is happy and fulfilled in his life without needing her to make him feel that way.

In other words, women are attracted to self-confidence rather than dependent confidence because it makes them feel safe that the man can handle himself in the world. 

So, when your ex sees that even though you still care for her and want her back, you are happy, confident and pursuing your own important, long term dreams and goals in life with or without her, she will instinctively feel drawn to you again.

She realizes that you’re being the kind of guy she always wanted you to be and if she chooses to get back together with you, she will be winning.

As a result, her defenses come down and she opens back up to at least spending more time with you to see how things go.

Another thing you can do to persuade an ex to get back with you is…

4. Let her see that you are now more confident and emotionally masculine than ever before

To do that, you will have to prepare to pass her confidence tests.

For example: One of the first things an ex woman will do to test her ex’s confidence is to pretend that she doesn’t have feelings for him anymore.

In some cases, she might even say things like, “I hate you now,” or “There’s nothing you can say or do that will make me change my mind and get back with you.”

Naturally, when hearing that, a guy who isn’t very confident in himself might begin thinking things like, “It’s hopeless. She just won’t open up to me. I don’t stand a chance with her. I should just give up.”

He will then either walk away and lose any chance he might have had of getting his ex back.

Alternatively, he might stick around for a bit longer and act like he doesn’t believe he has a chance with her (e.g. by being nervous and uncertain of himself around her, talking negatively about himself to her, displaying signs of being defeated via his body language and attitude).

As a result, she feels even more turned off by him and his doubts become a reality when she in fact does reject him.

This is why, one of the most important things is for you to maintain your confidence around your ex regardless of what she says or does to make you feel insecure around her.

The more she notices that nothing makes you feel unsure of yourself around her, the more respect she will start to feel for you again.

That then gives you the opening you need to fully reactivate her feelings for you and get her back.

Another test a woman will put you through, is to see if she can have power over you.

For example: A woman might act cold and bitchy towards her ex guy to see if he will be manly enough to stand up to her, or if he will back off and let her get away with bad behavior in the hope that she will then give him another chance.

Depending on his response, she will either feel a surge of respect and attraction for him for being emotionally masculine enough to take the lead in the ex back process and not bow down to her will just to get her back.

Alternatively, she will feel turned off by him for being too submissive and wimpy and afraid to assert his will with her in case she rejects him.

So, if you want to persuade your ex to get back with you, you need to make sure that you don’t allow her to call the shots when it comes to getting her back.

Instead, just maintain your confidence with her and focus on re-sparking her sexual and romantic feelings for you every chance you get.

The more respect and sexual attraction she feels for the new confident, emotionally masculine version of you, the less she will be able to hold on to her decision to be broken up.

Her defenses will begin to erode and then the process of getting her back becomes easier because she is feeling open to you.

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