Here are 4 ways to make your ex want you bad…
1. Interact With Her and Make Her Feel Attracted to the New You
To make your ex want you again badly, you have to be active about it, rather than being inactive.
Essentially what this means, is that you’re actively interacting with her every chance you get (e.g. via text, on social media, over the phone, or meeting up with her in person) and making her feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for you, rather than waiting around hoping she’ll contact you and say, “I miss you! Let’s get back together again.”
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By interacting with her, making her feel attracted and then stopping, she then starts to really miss you and want you bad.
Sometimes, a guy might think, “I want to make my ex want me bad. I want her to regret breaking up and come running back to me. Maybe the best thing to do is to ignore her for a few weeks, or even months, until she realizes how much she misses me. Then, when she’s lonely and doesn’t have my attention, she will realize the mistake she has made. She will also start worrying about losing me to some other woman and she’ll want to get back together again.”
He may then spend a lot of time ignoring her, until one day he realizes that she’s just not coming back.
When that happens, a guy might feel hurt and confused and even say, “She’s supposed to be calling me up and telling me how badly she wants me back. Why isn’t she doing that? Why isn’t she calling me? How can I make her want me as badly as I want her??”
Here’s what he doesn’t realize…
When a woman has lost respect and attraction for a guy, then not hearing from him for weeks or even months doesn’t really matter to her, and she will likely use that time to move on.
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If you want to make your ex want you bad, the fastest way to do it is by interacting with her (rather than ignoring her) to reawaken her feelings of respect and attraction for you again.
One of the best ways to do that is by making her laugh, smile and feel happy when she’s interacting with you.
For example: Imagine that you’re talking to your ex on the phone and she says something like, “Look, you need to accept that it’s over between us. I just don’t want you anymore.”
If you just accept that and say something like, “I get it. You’re mad at me right now. What do I have to do to convince you that I’m sorry? What will it take to make you forgive me and give me another chance?” she will likely just keep pushing you away and nothing will change.
Yet, if you use her negativity towards you as a way of making her smile and laugh, she will likely begin to see you in a different, more positive light.
So, when she says, “Look, you need to accept that it’s over between us. I just don’t want you anymore,” you can respond by saying something like, “That’s great! I don’t want you anymore either. Let’s be anti boyfriend and girlfriend from now on. We can go around hating each other, and I will send you a poison ivy plant on Valentines Day and buy you broccoli for your birthday.”
Alternatively, you can jokingly say something like, “Same here. I don’t want you anymore either. I was so sick of your cooking. I eat well now” and then laugh.
By responding in that way and being light-hearted about things, you’re getting rid of the seriousness of what she’s saying.
At the same time, you’re also showing her that you’re an emotionally strong, confident and mature man who remains confident regardless of what she’s saying or how she’s behaving.
That is actually attractive to her.
Women can’t help but feel attracted to confidence, even if they pretend that it doesn’t make them feel attracted.
A man’s confidence makes women feel attracted just like a woman’s cleavage makes us feel attracted.
We can’t help but feel attracted and pay attention to it and the same goes for women with our confidence.
Men might pretend that they haven’t noticed a woman’s cleavage, but they do and women might pretend that they aren’t attracted to a guy’s confidence, but they are.
So, when you attract your ex by making her smile or laugh when she is being cold and bitchy towards you, she begins to wonder about the changes in you.
She drops her guard and catches herself thinking, “Hmmm…it’s actually quite fun talking with him now. He’s really changed. Why do I care about losing him all of a sudden? Why do I want him back in some way? What is happening to me?”
She’s feeling respect and attraction because he’s not being a wimp just because she has broken up with him.
He’s being confident, joking around and making her laugh.
By the way…
Do not try to make her feel attracted to with confidence via text. Text is the weakest, least effective way to make a woman feel attracted…especially an ex.
You have to let her experience your confident attitude on a phone call or in person.
Do not try to get your ex back via text.
Almost every guy that I have ever coached to get an ex back has made the mistake of trying to text his ex back.
The woman doesn’t end up wanting him badly because of some amazing text.
Instead, she gets annoyed that he’s trying to act confident, cool, mature or whatever via text.
She wants to experience that on a phone call or in person, otherwise she just doesn’t believe that he is really like that now.
If you’re going to text her, just do so with the aim of getting her on a phone call, so you can properly attract her.
2. Make Her Feel Feminine and Girly in Your Presence
Making your ex feel like a real woman (i.e. feminine, girly, free to be emotional) when she interacts with you is one of the best ways to make her want you again.
If you want to make her feel that way, make sure that there is a clear difference between how you talk, think, feel, behave and act in comparison to her.
In other words, let her talk, think, feel, behave and act like a woman and you do the complete opposite and be the man.
Women love that and it makes them want a man bad because it’s so rare to find a man who doesn’t become feminine or neutral around her.
2 common mistakes that guys make, which ruin the opportunity for her to feel like a real woman are:
- He only focuses on making her feel neutral, friendly feelings for him.
Sometimes, a guy might think, “If I pretend that I want to friends with my ex, I’ll have a good excuse to be around her all the time. Then when she sees that I’m the guy who is always there for her through the good times and the bad times, she’ll realize how much she still loves me and then she’ll want me back. Yeah, I’ll just be a nice friend to her. That should work!”
Here’s the thing though…
Staying friends with an ex is an excellent way of getting an ex back if you are actively re-sparking her feelings of respect, attraction and love for you.
If you’re just being a nice, neutral friend though, she’s going to going to get those feelings.
For example: A guy might make himself available to his ex 24/7, help her out with errands or homework and be her shoulder to cry on when she’s having a bad day.
However, instead of using every interaction with her as an opportunity to re-spark her feelings of sexual attraction by making her feel girly, flirting with her and making her smile and laugh, he remains on his best “friend” behavior by being nice, sweet, innocent and non-flirtatious around her.
Yet, hanging out with a nice, platonic friend isn’t what makes a woman feel feminine and girly or turned on and aroused.
It doesn’t make her think, “My ex is amazing! He makes me feel so turned on when I’m around him. I want him so bad! I’ve got to have sex with him again! Wow! He’s so nice, neutral and non-sexual! This is what I want!!!”
Instead, it just makes her want to hook up with a confident, masculine guy even more than ever so she can get to feel like a real woman.
- He allows her to dominate him.
If a woman feels more dominant than a guy, it becomes very difficult for her to respect him.
If she can’t respect him, she also can’t feel real attraction for him.
So, you always must ensure that you maintain the respect of your woman at all costs.
Yet, what often happens after a break up is that a guy feels so bad about losing her and desperately wants to get back with her, that he allows her to walk all over him.
He essentially hands over all his power to her and hopes that if he just shows her how willing he is to submit to everything she wants, she will be amazed and give him another chance.
For example: A guy might allow his ex woman to keep bringing up all of his past mistakes and saying things to him like, “You stuffed up! You were such a terrible boyfriend (fiancé or husband). Remember all those times you cancelled our plans for your job or friends? What about those jealous fits you had when we went out and some guy showed me some interest or even just looked at me? You can be so childish and immature sometimes. I can’t believe I stuck around with you for as long as I did. You’re such a jerk!”
Of course, it’s totally fine for a woman to bring up some of the things that caused her to break up with her man, but it’s not okay for him to allow her to keep bringing it up over and over again to put him down.
When a woman is able to dominate her guy in that way, she can’t look up to him, respect him and feel attracted to him.
Rather than feel like a sexy, feminine, girly woman in his presence, she starts to feel like a teacher or mother who is always scolding a little boy.
The fact is, a woman doesn’t want to be with a guy she can dominate, even if she seems like she enjoys doing it.
She wants to be with a guy who knows how to confidently lead the way, takes charge and allows her to relax into feeling totally feminine and girly around him.
3. Let Her See That You Want Her, But No Longer Need Her
There’s a big difference between wanting to get back with your ex and needing her back.
Essentially, wanting her back means that you still love her and would like to experience the true power of love in a relationship with her again.
On the other hand, needing her implies that you’re unable to cope with the emotional pain of being without her and you can’t move forward with your life because you’re lost, confused and lonely without her.
Here’s the thing though…
Neediness is a huge turn off for most women because they don’t want to have to support a guy emotionally and make him feel worthy, happy and full of self-esteem.
If a woman has to do that, she feels like his mother or big sister. Yet, she wants to feel like his girl.
So, when a guy is calling up his ex and saying things like, “I need you! Can’t you see how lost I am without you? Please give me another chance. I can’t bear the thought of living without you in my life,” rather than make her think, “My ex is really in pain without me. It must mean that our love is true and he is the one,” she’s more-likely thinking, “Oh boy! What a wimp! Doesn’t he realize that he’s acting like a child? I don’t want to get back with a guy who needs me to take care of him like I’m his mother. I want a man I can look up to, respect and feel sexually attracted to. I need a man who will take care of me and make me feel like a real woman.”
The more he begs, pleads or tries to convince her to think about his “feelings,” the less respect, attraction and love that she feels for him.
Eventually, the very thought of him makes her feel sick, resentful and regretful that she ever let him be with her.
So, if you want to make your ex want you bad, focus on getting to the point where you truly believe that you don’t need her to be happy again.
You can’t pretend that you’re happy though.
You have to genuinely feel happy, content and emotionally fulfilled without her.
If you try to fake it, she will sense it via your body language, or by what you say and she will keep rejecting you.
On the other hand, if you focus on getting on with other important things in your life, going out with friends, having a good time without her and enjoying the things you’ve been putting off (e.g. traveling, taking up a new hobby like martial arts, hanging out with new friends), she will sense it and will feel attracted to your confidence and your ability to cope with being broken up with.
She won’t be able to stop herself from looking at you with a new, more positive way, because you are now behaving like the kind of confident, forward moving man that she can look up to and respect.
By the way…
Getting on with your life doesn’t mean you have to rub it in your ex’s face.
For example: Sometimes, a guy will go overboard by posting endless photo’s of himself with other women on his social media pages and updating his status with all the things he’s busy doing.
Although there’s nothing wrong with posting photo’s of yourself with other women on social media, just make sure that if your ex asks you about it, you don’t try to make her feel bad.
Just say, “Oh, they are just friends” and then talk about other things, rather than telling her that you’re hooking up with lots of women and don’t need her.
Note: You don’t have to post up photos with you and other women to make your ex want you bad.
It is an approach that works, but so does posting up photos with you and new friends having a great time.
I know that most guys who want to get their woman back are not interested in being with other women and just want her back.
So, once again: You don’t have to post up photos of you with other women, but it is an approach that works to make a woman feel sad, worried, jealous and regretful about losing you, which then makes her want you back.
Of course, many women will get angry and send a text, e-mail or make a phone call to express their anger or disappointment in their ex boyfriend or husband.
Yet, that’s just her trying to control him and stop him from making her want him as badly as she does now.
So, if your ex does get mad if she sees that you’re moving on, just be easy-going about it and say, “Hey, you and I are broken up. You know that I wanted to get back with you, but I’ve accepted your decision.”
She will then want you bad and will begin texting you and wanting to see you.
4. Be Happier Than She is, But Try to Make Her Happy When You Interact With Her
Most guys lose a lot of confidence after being dumped, so it can feel difficult to be happy, confident and moving forward without her.
Yet, you need to do it if you want to make your ex want you bad.
How will being happier than your ex make her want you?
Women are naturally attracted to the type of men who have the emotional strength to be happy, confident and forward moving regardless of what life throws at them.
On the other hand, women are turned off by men who crumble when things get difficult and need a woman by their side to support them.
So, the next time that you talk to your ex, you must ensure that she senses your confidence and emotional independence.
If you can’t do that, then making your ex want to get back together with you will be difficult, because she will pick up on your neediness and insecurity and feel turned off by you.
A woman doesn’t want to feel like she’s doing a guy favor by being with him.
She wants to feel like the guy she is with could easily have other women if he wanted to (because he’s so confident and she knows that women find that attractive), but he is choosing her.
That makes her feel lucky and special because she is being chosen by a guy who could easily choose to be with other women.
Yet, being this doesn’t mean you should try to make her feel horrible about herself now that you and her are no longer together.
Instead, let her see, hear, feel and notice that you are happy without her, but also have the emotional maturity and love to actively make her feel good about herself when she’s talking to you.
If you do that, she will realize that you are a rare catch of a man who is not only confident and masculine, but is also loving and compassionate.
That’s like winning the “Man Lottery” for women.
Getting her to think of you in that way will make her want you badly.
So, the question now is: What have you done so far to get yourself to a point where you are truly happy, confident and forward moving without her?
For example: Have you been doing any of these things since the break up?
- Working towards achieving your big dreams, goals and ambitions in life.
- Pursuing a new hobby of interest that you have been putting off (e.g. hiking, running, sky-diving, martial arts).
- Doing something new that will make you an even better and more successful man than you already are (e.g. taking on a promotion, going back to school to get a better qualification, learning new skills that will get you promoted soon).
- Learning new things that will enhance your life experience (e.g. how to cook).
By focusing on improving yourself and your life, not only do you become a better man and have a happier and more successful life, but you also become more attractive to your ex and to other women.
When you interact with your ex, she will see that you haven’t been a lonely, sad and depressed guy who sat around crying over losing her.
As a result, she will naturally begin to feel some respect and attraction for you again.
Then, when you also make her smile, laugh and feel good when she’s interacting with you, she will start asking herself, “How could I let him go? I must have been blind not to see what a catch he really is.”
She will be the one who wants to be back in your arms.
She will want you bad and you will then give her and the relationship another chance.