Most women don’t make it obvious if they are open to getting back with an ex.
So don’t worry if your ex hasn’t shown you any of the following signs.
You can still get her back by contacting her, re-attracting her and guiding her through the ex back process.
That said, if you’re one of the lucky men who has an ex showing any of the following signs, then it’s pretty clear that she wants to come back to you:
1. She says that she sometimes misses you, or misses what you and her had
This can result in her bringing up good memories, asking if you remember certain things that happened during the relationship, or talking about how she simply misses having you around.
It’s a pretty obvious sign.
On the other hand, if a woman doesn’t have feelings for her ex and is trying to move on, she usually won’t talk about the good times they shared because she doesn’t want to give him the wrong idea.
Instead, she will either avoid contact with him, or if they do interact, she will focus on the negatives about him to remind herself why she ended the relationship.
Women do that to prevent themselves from being seduced back into a relationship, because they know that it’s usually very easy for a guy to get them back that way.
So, if your ex actually says that she misses you, or talks about what you and her had in a positive way, it’s a clear sign that she is open to coming back to you.
That said, in most cases, you still need to be the one who has the courage to suggest catching up in person, or the one who moves in for a hug or kiss, to break down the physical barrier between you and her.
If you don’t, then a woman will often feel afraid of being rejected by you if she shows too much interest.
Alternatively, a woman won’t show too much interest because she wants to see if you care enough to make a move, or if you have the confidence or courage to do it now that she has dumped you.
2. She compliments you on things that you’ve changed or improved since the breakup
In most ex back cases, all a woman really wants to see is that her ex has understood some of her secret reasons for ending the relationship and has already taken action to change or improve those things about himself (e.g. he’s now more emotionally independent, rather than needy. He’s now more ballsy and courageous when interacting with her, rather than being too reserved, timid or hesitant. He now treats her like a sexy, desirable woman, rather than treating her like a buddy or friend. He is now able to remain confident and control of his emotions when she’s being moody, rather than losing confidence, being emotionally sensitive or getting dragged into unnecessary drama or arguments with her).
If a guy does that, a woman automatically feels a renewed sense of respect for him, which then drops her guard and makes her open up to the idea of giving him another chance.
So, if your ex has already given you compliments on what you’ve changed or improved since the breakup, it’s highly likely that she has felt a strong, renewed sense of respect and attraction for you.
As a result, she will come back to you if you now have the courage to guide her through the rest of the ex back process and secure a relationship.
3. She suddenly tries to build more of a friendship with your family or friends
Some women prefer to be indirect, or subtle about their interest in an ex guy to avoid being rejected by him if he is no longer truly interested now, due to her dumping him.
One of the ways that a woman will show subtle, or indirect interest is by being a lot more friendly with your family, or friends.
If your ex has been doing that, what you are going to do about it?
Will you wait and hope for more obvious signs that she will come back to you, or will you be brave enough to take the lead and make it happen?
If you want her back now, I recommend that you get her on a call (audio or video) and make her smile, laugh and feel happy that you’ve contacted her.
For example: You might say, in a cheerful, easygoing tone of voice, “So, I hear that you’ve been talking to my family and friends and getting along well” and let her respond.
Then, add in, “Cool. Well, maybe I can send you in place of me when I don’t want to go to a certain family birthday, anniversary or get together. You can be my stunt double” and have a laugh with her.
Once you’ve gotten her to smile, laugh and feel good to be talking to you, continue to connect with her a little more and then suggest catching up to say hi in person.
When you meet up in person, make sure that you focus on being attractive (e.g. confident, assertive in a loving way, flirtatious, manly in your behavior and conversation style) and then move in for a hug, or kiss when the time is right.
4. She says that she’s still not interested in dating anyone because she needs time to heal
Sometimes a woman will lie about that and actually be dating other guys behind her ex’s back.
She’ll say something like, “I’m not interested in dating at the moment. I just want to be alone. I need time to heal and be by myself for a while” to make her ex think that she’s struggling to get over him and will remain single.
She might also give him a sense that if he just gives her space and waits long enough, she might eventually come back to him.
Yet, in the meantime, she will secretly date new guys, sleep with one or some and if she finds a good enough replacement guy, she will then say something like, “I have something to tell you. Please don’t get angry or upset.”
She’ll then explain how she randomly met a guy, even though she wasn’t planning on dating and is now in a relationship with him.
That way, her ex usually won’t move on before she does and therefore, she doesn’t have to end up feeling left behind, or rejected as a result.
Of course, not all women are that nasty, selfish or cruel.
In many cases, if a woman says that she’s not interested in dating because she needs time to heal, it can actually mean that she is struggling to deal with the breakup and will remain single for a while.
She won’t remain single for long, but she will for a while.
So, if your ex has said something like that to you, don’t just sit around waiting for her to come back to you.
Even if what she is saying is true today, her feelings could change tomorrow or next week and she will then suddenly become interested in dating again.
Alternatively, she might honestly miss you and be struggling to get over the breakup, but then randomly meet a guy who makes her feel more attracted than you ever did.
If that happens, she will almost certainly stop focusing on you and open herself up to dating him.
Don’t let that happen to you.
Instead, if your ex is saying that she needs time to heal, then agree to be friends with her for now.
Then, use the ‘friendship’ to interact with her in ways that attract her (e.g. use playfully challenging humor, flirt with her, make her feel girly in comparison to your manly approach to interactions), so she naturally wants to come back to you now, rather than later, or never.
Important: Don’t make the mistake of pretending that you only want to be her nice, neutral friend and aren’t sexually interested in her anymore.
If you do that, she can take it as a sign that you don’t see her in that way anymore, or that you and her simply don’t have a sexual spark anymore and therefore, a relationship wouldn’t work, or wouldn’t be enjoyable.
If she thinks that, she will feel compelled to date new men to move on without you.
5. You broke up for a silly reason and she knows it
Many couples break up over something silly (e.g. an argument or misunderstanding) that gets blown way out of proportion.
Then, days or weeks later, they can’t stand being apart and naturally get back together.
Yet, sometimes a woman will be afraid to make all the moves to get her ex guy back in case he rejects her, or assumes that he doesn’t need to improve anything about himself to get her back, or keep her in a relationship.
As a result, she will wait for him to make a move and let her see that he is interested, forgives her for breaking up with him and doesn’t hold any grudges against her.
She won’t wait forever though.
If he doesn’t contact her (e.g. for weeks, or for 30 to 60 days because he’s using the no contact rule), a woman will usually force herself to disconnect from her feelings for him and move on.
This is why, if you want your ex back, you shouldn’t wait around for her to come back to you.
Instead, as a man, you need to be bold enough to get her back by taking the lead in the ex back process.
6. You are able to make her feel attracted in new and interesting ways
A woman almost always leaves a man because his approach to her doesn’t create enough attraction to warrant staying in a relationship anymore.
This can happen if a guy is too nice, neutral, too insecure, isn’t manly enough in his behavior, takes her for granted, or is too generous and kind to the point of seeming desperate.
On the other hand, a woman almost always get back with a guy if he is able to her feel attracted in new and interesting ways (e.g. he’s more of a challenge now, rather than just being a neutral, predictable guy. He flirts with her to create sexual tension now, rather than hoping that she’ll find him attractive based on the clothes he’s wearing, or how nice he’s being to her).
How about you?
If you were to interact with your ex today, would you be ready to attract her in new ways?
If you are prepared and ready to do that, then she will almost certainly come back to you and want to stay with you.
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