The best advice to to get your ex back is to focus on triggering her feelings of respect and attraction for you again.
When that happens, she will naturally begin to reconnect with her old feelings of love for you. I’ve already helped hundreds of guys to successfully get an ex-girlfriend, fiance or wife back and I am ready to help you right now.
Watch this video to understand where guys go wrong when trying to get an ex back and what you can do instead to be successful…
As you will discover from the video above, your ex is really only going to take you seriously when you are able to make her feel the type of respect and attraction for you that she feels will justify giving you another chance.
For example: If a woman broke up with a guy because he wasn’t enough of a man for her (e.g. he was insecure, needy, lacked purpose in life, etc), she’s going to need to feel as though that has now changed.
She will pick up on how much he has changed by listening to what he says, how he says it and how he responds to what she says and does.
Respect, Attraction and Then Love
To get your ex back, you need to go through a process with her of rebuilding her respect, attraction and love for you.
Using my techniques, you can get respect back on a phone call and then get her respect and attraction back when you meet up with her.
When she experiences those renewed feelings of respect and attraction for you, she will then open herself up to loving you fully again. When that happens, it’s pretty much guaranteed that you will get back together.
Watch this video to understand how it works…
One of the best pieces of advice to get your ex back is to not waste time with the No Contact Rule. If you look around online, most people will tell you to ignore her and move on and then hope that she comes running back.
However, that only works for about 10% of cases. 90% of guys need to get in contact with their ex and make her feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction over the phone, rather than waiting around and hoping that she doesn’t move on.
Why Did She Break Up With You?
Something about your behavior, attitude, way of thinking or actions must have changed to cause your ex to fall out of love with you.
Relationships end for many different reasons (I explain the 70 reasons in my program Get Your Ex Back: Super System), but a woman falls out of love with a guy after she loses respect for him and then loses her feelings of sexual attraction for him.
It’s a standard process that happens, no matter what the very specific cause is for the break up.
So, the question is: What did you do to make her lose respect and attraction for you?
1. Did You Become Needy or Clingy?
When a guy becomes insecure and behaves in a needy, jealous or overly possessive way around his girlfriend, his insecurity and clingy behavior becomes a complete turn off. Why? Women are sexually attracted and turned on by the emotional strength in men and turned off by the weakness.
If you make your girlfriend the center of your world and abandon your own dreams and ambitions as a result, you become less sexually attractive to her because she senses that you’re hiding from your true potential as a man.
When she notices that other men are pushing forward in life and making their woman proud, she will look at you and wonder why you are still in pretty much the same position in life as when she met you. She may not know why she is feeling turned off, but she will feel turned off.
Instinctively, a woman know that she should be with a guy who loves her, respects her and wants her in his life, but doesn’t NEED her.
If a woman gets the sense that a guy needs her for his emotional security and sense of identity, she begins to feel like more of a mother figure to him, which is a sexual turn off.
A woman wants to be able to feel as though she is with a man that she can look up to and respect, not look down on with pity or disgust because of how emotionally weak he is.
Did you Take Her For Granted?
At the opposite end of the scale, it’s not unusual for guys to slip into taking their girlfriend for granted in a relationship.
This might mean slipping into patterns of behavior that lead to her feeling that her contribution to the relationship isn’t valued.
For example: Making a habit of changing plans at the last minute or adopting an attitude of, “We can do that some other time.”
If you the plans she makes with you aren’t important to you, it makes her feel as though you’re expecting her to just hang around until it’s convenient for you to fit her in. A woman doesn’t want you to devote 100% of your time to her, but she also doesn’t want to feel as though you don’t like spending time with her at all.
Taking her for granted can also include:
- Putting her down (e.g. constantly teasing her about her weight) or picking on her and then expecting her to just put up with that bad treatment.
- No longer looking at her as being your sexy girlfriend and spending more time masturbating to porn, rather that saving up your sexual energy for her.
- Thinking that she will stick by you for life just because things felt good at the start between you.
- Expecting her to cook, clean and take care of you, even though you don’t give her much love, attention and respect.
Did You Put Her in Charge?
A woman still wants to have her say and to be heard, but she wants her man to lead the way to a better life for the both of them.
She wants you to make her feel safe and protected by having a plan for your life and then following through on it with unrelenting determination.
She wants to be able to see that no matter how challenging life gets or how hard it is to achieve your ambitions and goals, you keep pushing forward as the strong one in the relationship.
This allows her to relax into being your woman, instead of being your “partner” who has to behave like a half-man, half-woman around you.
On TV, you will often see people referring to their spouse as their “partner” and if you hear that term often enough, you will think that it’s the right way to talk about a woman that you’re in a relationship with.
She’s not your “partner,” she’s your woman.
To maintain the sexual attraction in a relationship between a man and a woman, you have to be masculine and allow her to be feminine.
If you get her to behave like one of your male buddies, to think like a man and essentially hang out with you in a neutral way like a “partner” in life, then the sexual attraction between you and her will be cancelled out.
It’s just how nature works.
Just like there needs to be a positive and negative for magnets to be attracted to each other, there has to be a masculine and feminine for humans to be attracted to each other.
If you want to keep a relationship together with a woman, you have to be a masculine man and allow her to be a feminine woman (e.g. girly, free to be emotional and irrational at times, etc).
You can’t expect to be half a man and for her to remain excited and happy to be with you as your friendly “partner” in life. In the past, a woman would put up with an unhappy relationship for life because divorce and breakups were seen as shameful, but not in today’s world.
Regardless of the BS that random people say on TV, the truth is that a woman wants to feel like her man is the one in charge.
That does not mean you need to boss her around, decide on everything and do all the work.
It’s easier than that.
All you’ve got to do is be the one who is responsible for the direction you and her are heading and the one who protects her when life gets challenging. If you do that for a woman, she will be 100% more loving, affection and devoted to you than if you forced her to be half a man for you instead.
Getting Her Back For Real
If you’re looking for the best advice on how to get your ex back, I am ready to guide you through the process right now.
If you learn from me, I will guide you through my 7 step system for getting an ex back. By the 7th step, you and her will be back in a loving relationship and she will feel more respect and attraction for you than she ever has before.
You are about to learn how to make your ex feel respect and attraction for you in new and exciting ways. The process that you’re about to go through will transform you as a man and make you more confident, happy and emotionally strong than you ever been before.
I guarantee it.
Are you ready to begin the exciting process of getting your ex back?