Yes, you should reply to an ex girlfriend that has initiated contact with you after two weeks.
Here are 5 reasons why:
1. You don’t have to follow the 30 day No Contact Rule to get your ex back
You can get her back now, without having to wait any longer.
Sometimes a guy assumes that he has to ignore his ex girl for 30 days (i.e. follow the No Contact Rule) even if she contacts him during that time.
Here’s the thing though…
Having to ignore a woman for exactly 30 days after a break up is a common ex back myth that usually results in her getting annoyed and moving on without you instead.
See myth #1 in this video for more information on that…
So, if you’ve been using the No Contact Rule to get you ex back and she has initiated contact with you, then it has worked for you.
In that case, it means that she is most-likely missing you and wants you back, or at least wants to find out how the heck you managed to go two weeks without contacting her, especially when you were trying to talk her out of breaking up with you before.
So, in your case, the NC rule has worked for now, which as you might know, is actually quite rare because most women just move on when their ex guy (that they’re no longer attracted to) doesn’t contact them.
Her contacting you can mean different things, but at least she has initiated contact and is opening the communication between you and her again.
So, yes, you should now reply to her.
When she replies to your reply message and seems interested in talking to you, just get her a phone call with you.
Don’t ask for permission to call her.
On a phone call, make her feel attracted to you by being confident and getting her smiling, laughing and feeling good.
Then, get her to meet up with you in person where you can let her feel attracted to the new and improved version of you (e.g. by maintaining your confidence with her when she pretends that she’s not interested in you anymore, using humor to diffuse the tension between you and her, showing her via your body language that you don’t feel intimidated by her when she tries to create drama or blames you for the break up, making her feel girly in comparison to your masculine approach to the interaction).
The more you attract her in ways that she wasn’t expecting from you, the less she will be able to stop herself from feeling a renewed sense of respect and attraction for you.
When that happens, her guard will come down and she will open herself to exploring her new, fascinating feelings for you.
Another reason why you should reply to an ex girlfriend that has initiated contact is…
2. If you don’t reply, she might seek revenge
You might not realize it, but your ex girlfriend probably took a big risk when she initiated contact with you.
She might have even be thinking things like, “Will I make a fool of myself by contacting him first? What if he ignores me? What if he just tells me to get lost, or that he’s met someone else. I’ll feel so embarrassed. I’ll end up being the one who has gotten dumped because he will have left me behind. Should I do it? Should I text him? If I want him back, maybe I just have to risk it.”
She then took the emotional risk to contact you and hoped that you would then take the lead and get her back.
So, if you don’t reply to her, chances are high that she’s not going to take it very well.
She may assume you are quietly laughing at her for contacting you first and are maybe even thinking things like, “Haha, she still wants me! Why would I even bother replying to her when she means nothing to me anymore? No thanks. See ya!”
Of course, that’s probably not what you were thinking, but if she is feeling insecure about her chances with you, she might imagine that you were thinking that way.
So, if she feels as though you are snubbing her because you no longer have an interest in her, she will almost certainly try to hook up with a new guy ASAP to save face, avoid feeling rejected and avoid contacting you again and potentially feeling humiliated.
If you want her back, don’t let her go through that process out of insecurity or fear.
She took a chance by initiating contact with you, so now it’s up to you to be the man and lead the way to a phone call, meet up, hug, kiss, sex and back into a relationship.
Another reason why you should reply to an ex girlfriend who initiated contact with you is…
3. If you don’t reply, she probably won’t reply to you when you reach out next time
Have you ever heard of the expression, “tit for tat,” or, “an eye for an eye”?
It’s essentially about getting revenge by doing exactly what a person did to hurt you, rather than letting them get away with it.
In the same way, if you don’t reply to your ex girlfriend now, chances are high that she’s going to give you the same treatment when you finally decide to contact her.
So, rather than wasting time playing silly games with her (and possibly pushing her away even further), just use the opening she has given to start the ex back process and guide you and her back into a sexual, loving relationship.
Be the man and make it happen.
Another reason why you should reply to an ex girlfriend that initiated contact with you is…
4. You can get her back by re-attracting her on a phone call and in person
Most guys don’t hear from their ex woman after she breaks up with them because she just moves on.
So, a guy usually ends up wondering things like, “Should I text her or call her?” or, “What if I call her and she refuses to answer?”
He might then send her a feeler text in the hope that she will reply to him, but in most cases, she will won’t reply and he won’t know what else to do.
In your case though, you don’t have to worry about things like that.
Since your ex girlfriend has initiated contacted, you can now text her and get to a phone call without worrying if she is going to reply or tell you to go away.
Don’t get stuck texting back and forth with her though.
On a phone call and in person is where the ex back process really speeds up.
You can quickly and easily re-attract her on a call and in person, but via text, she can easily play hard to get, ignore texts, give one word answers and make the process of getting her back very difficult.
So, don’t waste the opportunity that she’s handed to you.
Text her initially if you want to, but then get to a phone call or in person meet up ASAP.
Another reason why you should reply to an ex girlfriend that initiated contact with you is…
5. She may be signaling to you that she is open to you guiding her back into a relationship
When a woman breaks up with a man, she usually won’t have strong enough feelings for him to initiate contact, or simply won’t want to get rejected if she contacts him first and he isn’t interested.
However, if she really wants him back, a woman will sometimes take the risk of initiating contact with her ex, to hopefully send him a signal that she’s now open to interacting with him again.
Of course, that doesn’t mean she’s going to make it completely obvious that she’s open to the idea of getting back into a relationship.
Instead, after making the first move, she will most-likely act casual about the whole thing and just pretend that she is only interested in texting back and forth in a friendly.
By doing that, she can test to see if he is confident enough in himself and in his value to her to do what needs to be done to get her back, or if he will hesitate due to feeling uncertain about what to do next (e.g. Should he reply to her, or wait for another sign before he makes a move? Is she only texting him to mess with his head? Has she met another guy and just wants to text him for a bit and then reveal that to him? If she only checking to see if he misses her? Is she only texting because she is bored, but doesn’t want to get back with him?).
If her ex doesn’t take the lead and get her back, she may assume that he really isn’t the kind of man that she wants him to be (e.g. confident, emotionally strong, assertive, fearless).
As a result, she may then begin to open herself up to other guys to see what it feels like to be with them instead.
If she meets a new guy who is more confident and emotionally strong than her ex, she will naturally feel more attracted to him and begin to forget about her ex.
Alternatively, in some cases, a woman will see that her ex isn’t replying and then block his number, to avoid herself contacting him or him contacting her and making her feel more emotional pain as she tries to move on without him.
3 Mistakes That Some Guys Make When an Ex Girlfriend Initiates Contact With Them
Since she has contacted you, it should be fairly easy to get her back.
However, to ensure things go smoothly, be sure to avoid making one or all of the following mistakes…
1. Thinking that ignoring her will make her want you more and chase even harder
When a guy’s ex girlfriend contacts him after a couple of weeks, he might think “Cool…she still has feelings for me. She broke my heart, so I’m not going to make it easy for her to get me back. I’m going to ignore her and let her suffer. This way, I will build up her desire for me and cause her to desperately chase after me. Then, I will be able to easily get her back into a relationship.”
Of course, that does happen in some cases (e.g. if a woman is really in love with a guy and is afraid of losing him, she has little or no relationship experience, she fears that she won’t be able to find a replacement guy), but in most cases, a woman will have too much self-pride to chase an ex guy that she dumped.
What you have to realize is that some cases, even though a woman has initiated contact after a break up, it doesn’t mean that she wants to get back into a relationship.
Sometimes, she is just curious to see what will happen if you and her start talking again.
Will a spark develop?
Will she feel drawn to you as you text her and talk to her on a phone call?
Will you and her meet up and then have amazing make up sex?
Sometimes a woman just wants to explore that to get the answers to those questions, so if you don’t reply, she may then decide that nothing is going to happen between you and her and she needs to find another guy to satisfy her sexual and romantic needs.
Additionally, sometimes a woman is only kind of interested in talking to her ex again and feels a bit guilty for how she dumped him.
So, she decides to open herself up to the possibility of him seducing her back into a relationship by contacting him and seeing what happens.
Then, when he ignores her, she feels angry and thinks something like, “Who does he think he is?! Does he think I want him that much? He’s kidding himself. I was nice enough to contact him to say hi, even though he’s the one who stuffed up and now he ignores me? Well, I’m not going to stand for that kind of treatment. He can now forget about ever hearing from me again, and if he ever tries to contact me, I won’t want anything to do with him. From this moment onwards, I’m moving on. He is history! It’s now totally and completely over between us. He can try to contact me, but I’m not going to give him anything. He missed his chance with me. I’ll get my revenge on him. He’ll see how badly I can hurt him.”
So, if you want your ex girlfriend back, don’t ignore her in the hope that it will make her desparely chase you.
Sometimes that approach does work, but in most ex back cases, especially those where the woman doesn’t feel much attraction for her ex anymore, it backfires and she moves on.
She has already given you an opening by initiating contact, so use it to get her back.
Another mistake to avoid is…
2. Getting into a long, text conversation with her, rather than getting to a phone call or in person meet up
Although it’s perfectly fine to reply to your ex girlfriend via text once or twice, getting caught up in a long text conversation with her will usually end up being a huge waste of time and energy.
Text on a little screen doesn’t have the same impact as words spoken over the phone, or words said to her in person where she can see your body language and evaluate how you’re feeling (e.g. Are you confident and relaxed or are you tense and nervous? Do you believe in your attractiveness to her, or do you feel like she’s too good for you?).
Attracting her on a call and in person is a much easier, quicker and more effective way than trying to deal with all of her games via text and then attract her at the same time.
Texts can be so easily misinterpreted (e.g. She thinks you’re being needy and desperate, when you’re feeling confident and emotionally independent. She thinks you’re being aggressive, when you’re just joking around with her. She thinks you’re being too nice, when you’re just trying to keep the texts light and easy-going).
No matter what you say via text, it will rarely be as effective at attracting her compared to what you say on a call or in person.
In most ex cases, a woman will respond back and forth a few times via text and when she realizes that her ex doesn’t have the balls to call her or meet up with her in person, she will lose interest and may stop replying completely.
So, while it’s fine to text your ex, don’t get stuck at that level of communication.
In most cases, sticking to text ensures she will continue to be your ex.
If you want her back, make a move.
On that note, another mistake to avoid is…
3. Thinking that you need to get crystal clear signals from her that she wants a relationship before you can meet up with her in person
There’s no way to know what she was thinking when she initiated contact after two weeks.
You can wait around hoping to get clearer signals from her that she wants a relationship, but that probably won’t happen.
In most cases, rather than contact her ex again and make her feelings for him clear, a woman usually just assume that he isn’t interested and she will then try to move on without him.
So, if you want to get your ex back, don’t waste time waiting for a clear signal from her that she wants a relationship.
Instead, be emotionally courageous enough to take the lead in the ex back process and get her back.
Get her on a call, or meet up with her in person and show her that she didn’t make a mistake when she initiated contact with you.