Here are 3 tips to help you make your ex feel attracted and want you back when you see her in person…
1. Feel worthy of her, so you naturally project the right type of confidence when you interact with her
If you don’t feel good enough for your ex, it will come across in your body language, behavior, conversation style and vibe when you interact with her and it will turn her off.
Women are naturally attracted to men who believe in themselves and their value no matter what anyone says or does, or no matter what challenging situation they are going through in life.
Having this type of confidence is important when meeting new women, going on a date, being in a relationship and is even more important when it comes to getting an ex back.
It’s not about being pushy and demanding that she give you another chance because you deserve it.
Instead, it’s about being relaxed and having confidence in yourself no matter what challenges she throws your way as you are getting her back (e.g. you’re talking to her on the phone and she is being cold or distant, you’re talking to her in person and she is acting like she feels absolutely nothing for you anymore).
When she can see that you are in control of your emotions and haven’t lost confidence in yourself as a result of the break up, she will naturally and automatically feel respect and attraction for you, even if she doesn’t openly admit it.
Re-attracting her by being confident isn’t the only thing required to get an ex back, but it creates the right foundation on which to fully re-attract her and seduce her back into a relationship with you.
By the way…
It’s very important that your feeling of worthiness is genuine.
If you try to pretend that you feel worthy, she can easily test your confidence and find out that you’re just faking it (e.g. by pretending to be interested in getting back with you and then changing her mind, by saying that she feels nothing for you anymore, by saying that she’s met someone else who is better than you).
If she does something like that, she will pay close attention to how you behave afterwards and if she realizes that you’re just pretending to feel worthy of her, she will lose interest in getting back together.
All over the world, women are naturally attracted and drawn to men who can be confident in themselves and their value, no matter what anyone says or does, or no matter what challenging situation they are going through in life.
If you can display that type of confidence, she will naturally feel respect and attraction for you.
If you can’t, her guard will remain up and she won’t want to get back with you unless you can attract her in other important ways (e.g. flirting, making her feel girly in comparison to your masculine vibe and approach to the interaction, building up sexual tension, being charismatic).
If you are able to attract her in other important ways, you might then get a chance with her.
However, it’s always best to build off a foundation of complete confidence in yourself and an absolute feeling of worthiness for the woman you are interacting with.
Women love it when guys have that kind of confidence and when you do, it makes everything else that you do so much more attractive and appealing to her.
Another tip on how to act when you see your ex is to…
2. Be confident, but also make her feel good about herself
Being confident is an important part to re-attracting your ex, but you have to make sure that you also make her feel good about herself as she interacts with you.
For example: Some guys try to act overly confident to the point where they become heartless or cruel towards their ex woman, which doesn’t work.
As he sits and talks to his ex for the first time after a break up, he might say, “I bet you thought I’d crumble when you broke up with me, but the joke is on you. I’m doing perfectly fine without you. I bet you can’t even find yourself a date yet? I’m right, aren’t I? You regret breaking up with me. Well, I don’t care. It’s over.”
Essentially, he’s hoping that if he makes her feel bad enough about herself, she will begin to believe that no other guy will ever want her and that she is so lucky that he is still willing to give her a chance.
Yet, making your ex feel bad about herself so you can seem more confident than her, is not the way to go about getting her back.
When a guy uses that approach on an ex, she will usually assume that the only way he can feel good about himself is by putting her down, which will make her look at him as being an insecure guy.
Of course, not all women think like that.
Some women actually do feel bad when their ex puts them down and as a result, the woman ends up feeling hurt, betrayed and angry at her ex for treating her like that.
Then, rather than want to get back together, she simply feels more determined to get over him because he’s being a heartless jerk to her.
So, if your goal is to get your ex back, make sure that you make her feel good about herself when she’s interacting with you, rather than trying to put her down in anyway to hopefully make her worry that she won’t be able to find anyone else who will accept it.
The truth is that the more you make your ex smile and laugh in your presence, the more she will like you and the more confident she will perceive you to be.
She is then free to think things like, “I just wasn’t sure how he would act when we saw each other again, but I’m definitely surprised. Not only is he more confident and emotionally strong, he’s also being so mature about the whole situation. It actually feels really nice to be interacting with him again. I feel good being around him. I don’t feel like we have to be distant with each other. I actually kind of want to see him again. Maybe we can get back together, or at least hook up again sexually to see how we feel afterwards. If I don’t and he then moves on, I’ll probably regret it. So, I’d better show him that I’m interested.”
She then drops her defenses and becomes more open to interacting with you and even meeting up with you again to see what happens from there.
The next tip is to…
3. Create a sexual vibe between you based on how you talk to her and use your body language
When you meet your ex, you can either act like a nice, neutral friend and pretend that you’re not interested in getting her back, or you can create some sexual tension between you and her, so she naturally wants to kiss you, hug you, have sex with you and see what happens after that.
It’s completely fine to be friendly towards her, but don’t avoid the all-important feelings that come with the build up of sexual tension between you and her.
So, how can you build up some sexual tension?
One way to do it is by flirting with her in a relaxed manner, without giving off serious relationship vibes.
Flirt (verb): Behave as though attracted to or trying to attract someone, but for amusement rather than with serious intentions.
When it comes to getting an ex back, flirting is one of the best ways to break down the walls between you and her and get the sexual juices flowing once again.
It allows your ex to feel attracted to you, without worrying that it means she is agreeing to give the relationship another chance.
It also ensures that you don’t end up placing yourself in the dreaded friend zone when you meet up with her…
So, go ahead and flirt with her and when the moment is right, go ahead and hug her, kiss her and then move towards hooking up sexually and getting the relationship back together.
6 Mistakes to Avoid When You See Your Ex
To ensure that you get her back when you next see her, try to avoid making one or more of the following mistakes…
1. Spending a lot of time discussing the relationship problems you had, rather than focusing on making her smile, laugh and feel good around you
Some guys assume that the best approach to a meet up with an ex is to focus in on all the issues and problems in the relationship.
In cases like that, a guy might repeatedly apologize and go on and on about what he did wrong, in the hopes that she will want him back based on how sincere and determined he is to fix the problems between them.
Yet, rather than making her think, “He really seems to be sorry for messing up our relationship, so I suppose it wouldn’t hurt to give him another chance. After all, it’s rare to find a guy who is so open and willing to discuss relationship problems and work on them,” it will usually just turn her off the idea of getting back into a relationship that seems to need a lot of work.
She may think, “Yeah…he’s right…he did stuff up. In fact, I’d forgotten about some of those things, but now that he’s reminded me, I don’t know if I can forgive him. I think we’re just better off going our separate ways. Maybe it would be easier to just start afresh with a new guy and hope that he is better than my ex.”
She then closes up, wants to leave the meet up and her ex is left thinking, “What just happened? What did I do? I was trying to work things out and she just walked away. What is her problem?”
Her problem is that he wasn’t making her feel attracted and happy to be interacting with her again and was simply stressing her out by focusing on all the problems they’d experienced as a couple.
Of course, there’s nothing wrong with talking about a problem or two if it comes up in conversation, but you shouldn’t dwell on the problem and turn it into something that pushes you and her further apart.
Instead, just cover it briefly and then get back onto making her smile, laugh and feel good to be interacting with you again.
Another mistake to avoid is…
2. Acting as though you don’t care about her or the relationship, when you really do
A guy might sometimes try to hide his feelings from his ex by acting like he’s completely over her, even though he secretly wants to get her back.
So, when he sees his ex woman and she asks how he’s been, he might say something like, “Oh, I’m doing really well. The break up wasn’t fun, but I’m completely over you now. I’ve moved on and I feel great about my life. How about you? Have you moved on?”
Secretly, he’s hoping that his words will shock her into saying, “What? How can you be over me? I still love you and I want us to get back together again!”
Yet, here’s the thing…
A woman can easily see through an act like that by observing her ex’s body language and analyzing his tone of voice, vibe and behavior as she interacts with him.
She will pick up on the subtleties of his behavior and realize that he is simply trying to make her feel like she has lost him, so she will then chase after him or at least show more interest in him.
Yet, when she knows that he’s just faking it, it will just turn her off even more.
So, if your real goal is to get your ex back, don’t act like you’re over her.
Be calm, confident and in control as you get her back, but don’t pretend that you don’t care about her anymore.
Some women might fall for that, but most will simply seek to get revenge by hooking up with another guy and then moving on.
Another mistake to avoid is…
3. Being neutral and friendly, rather than making her feel sparks of sexual and romantic attraction
Sometimes a guy will see his ex and pretend that he’s only interested in being her friend now (e.g. he’s nice and polite towards her, doesn’t flirt to create sexual tension, doesn’t use ballsy humor to make her feel attracted).
Unfortunately, using a ‘friends only’ approach doesn’t work if the woman isn’t attracted to him anymore.
If he wants to get her back, he has to actively spark her feelings of sexual and romantic attraction for him, not pretend that he just wants to be her friend.
So, if he uses the ‘friends only’ approach and then suggests that they get back together (e.g. asks her out on a date), or tries to kiss her, she will reject him because he hasn’t created feelings of sexual attraction inside of her.
He will most-likely then feel rejected, dejected and possibly even give up on the idea of getting her back.
Yet, here’s the thing…
If your goal is to get your ex back, don’t pretend you want to be her friend.
Of course, it’s totally fine to be friendly with her, but just make sure you’re not pretending to be an innocent friend who isn’t interested in her in a sexual or romantic way.
Important: That doesn’t mean you should tell her that you want a relationship.
Don’t do that.
Instead, focus on making her feel sexually attracted and turned on during the conversation and she will naturally begin to want that.
The way to get an ex woman back is to make her want you back, not to pour your heart out and tell her how much you want her back.
Make her want you and when you do, things will begin to unfold more naturally and easily.
Before you know it, you and her will be kissing again, having sex and getting back into a relationship.
Another mistake to avoid is…
4. Hoping that she will be the one to risk the feeling of rejection by saying that she wants to get back with him
Even if a woman still has feelings for her ex and wants to get back with him, she will rarely open herself up to him (and risk being rejected by him) by telling him how she feels.
Instead, she will wait to see if he’s got the confidence and the courage to go through the ex back processes and get her back.
If she notices that he’s too insecure and self-doubting to make a move (even though she wants him to), she will eventually decide to cut her losses and focus on getting over him by hooking up with new guys.
So, if you want your ex back, don’t make the mistake of waiting for her to make the first move when you see her because chances are she won’t.
Instead, be courageous enough to take the lead in the ex back process.
If you do, she will be able to respect you again.
When she respects you, she will naturally start to feel sexually attracted to you again and from there, it’s only a matter of time before she will allow herself to let down her guard and be your woman again.
Another mistake to avoid is…
5. Appearing desperate to get another chance at a relationship with her
When a guy sees his ex, he might make the mistake of going overboard with his attempt to convince her to get back into a relationship with him.
For example: He might…
- Promise that he is willing to do whatever she wants if she gives him another chance.
- Be extra nice and sweet towards her, even if she’s being rude, unfriendly or bitchy towards him.
- Agree with everything she has to say, even if he doesn’t agree.
- Ask her if she is attracted to him now that he has changed.
- Ask what it would take to get her to agree to a relationship again.
- Appear nervous around her.
- Try really hard to impress her.
In some cases, a guy hopes that when she sees how willing he is to do anything to please her, she will feel flattered and then give him another chance.
Yet, rather than think, “Wow, he’s so sweet. I love that he’s so desperate to get me back! I want a desperate boyfriend!” a woman will usually just feel turned off by the desperation and want to remain broken up.
The next mistake is to avoid is…
6. Displaying signs of self doubt or insecurity
What a lot of guys don’t know about women, is that almost every woman (including an ex woman), responds positively to a man’s confidence.
So, when a guy is being insecure and self-doubting when he sees his ex, rather than think, “He is very confident, but is just feeling a bit anxious now because we’ve broken up and he really wants me back,” she instead feels turned off by his lack of belief in his own self-worth.
A woman’s attraction for a man works instinctively.
If you display traits that a woman feels attracted to (e.g. confidence, charisma, emotional masculinity), she will automatically feel attracted.
Likewise, if you display traits that a woman feels turned off by (e.g. insecurity, nervousness, emotional neediness), she will automatically feel turned off.
So, when a guy is being insecure and self-doubting around his ex woman, her instincts will cause her to automatically feel turned off, even if she was hoping that they’d get back together.
She will then try to close herself off and move on without her ex.
So, make sure that you come across as a man who believes in himself and his value to her when you see her.
When you can remain confident, relaxed and emotionally strong, regardless of what she says or does, she will automatically start to feel some respect and attraction for you.
When that happens, her walls will come down and you can then confidently guide her back into a relationship with you.
On the other hand, if you doubt yourself around her, she will pick up on your insecurity and remain closed off.